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Good on you for looking inside, and holding on to your needs, wants, desires. Families are complex places for us to live! Each member is acting on their own fears, insecurities, thinking - as well as yours too, but it is complicated. My view (I am a psychologist, by the way) is hold on to your dreams, hopes. Search for support amongst friends, people who can put your needs first just this time, not battle their own needs. Focus on your needs, but also just accept your family for who they are - if you can pull that off, you will be happy for it! All the best. Like you I was so much happier at about 170lbs, and can’t wait to be back!

My sleeve was a same-day surgery...I was operated on at 9:00 in the morning and discharged to home that same night. It's a 30-minute, relatively minor surgery. You'll take pain medications at home. You'll sip on water at home. There's really no reason to spend multiple nights at the hospital unless you're having complications such as uncontrolled nausea or severe pain. They'll keep you overnight if you insist, but other than unforeseen complications, you'll go home the same day you were sleeved if it's an outpatient procedure. Good luck to you.

New here. Been reading these boards for the last few weeks, my first time posting. I am scheduled for surgery at 8:30 am tomorrow morning, 12/27. Getting nervous! Excited for what this means for my life, mostly nervous about having actual surgery and complications. But it’s taken me two years to get to this point and there is no turning back now. Sit have to have faith that everything is going to be fine.

I am sorry to hear you are having to explore other options. I considered it as well. I chose not to tell anyone other than my mom and my husband. It was incredibly scary to think about going through it alone. This may be a great opportunity to explore feelings with your spouse. My husband was supportive but scared. He does not struggle with weight, but loves me for me. Unfortunately, I have been over weight lost of our relationship. It is scary to support someone you love unconditionally to "change". My husband was also worried that I would have complications or worse die. The surgery and the process impacts all that you come in contact with...friends and family. Grace is a wonderful gift and can be given both directions. Best of luck. We are here for you!

I hope you made it home for Christmas and are starting to feel better. So sorry you started with complications and hope everything is easy from here on out. HW 270 CW 231.5 SW 242.8 GW 135 DS Surgery date -12-8-17 I’m 42 and 5’2”

I've found that Barrett's is extremely common in Lap-Band patients! I'm personally very worried about it myself. I've had a few esophagrams over the years and some have shown very low dysplasia. It concerns me greatly! I used to have major acid reflux and had to remove a lot of fluid from my band until I figured out my sweet spot. Everything has been really good for the last year or so. I went off all my reflux meds. In the future, if I have further complications with my Lap-band, I think I'm going to revise to a Mini Gastric Bypass. My suggestion is to definitely follow your gastro's advice. I would highly consider revising to another procedure if you're worried about your weight regain.

Thank you so much. I’m just praying for no complications. I want gas to be the worst of my problems lol

Can share my experience, even though I didn't have sleeve and gallbladder at the same time. I had my sleeve over a year ago (Nov 2016), and at the time, I weighed 312 lbs. I was 45 years old. It was a very easy surgery for me, not much pain at all and easy recovery, no complications. Easy peasy. Then Tuesday morning of this week, I had gallbladder surgery. My gb surgery wasn't open, it was laparoscopic, however, my surgeon had to go in a little different way than traditional lap gb surgery to avoid mesh implant from a previous hernia surgery. So he had to cut muscle and then stitch it back up. Today was day 4 post gb surgery, and I am in a lot of pain. I still cannot get to a sitting position from laying or stand up without my husband pulling me up with his hands. I can barely walk without sudden sharp needle-like spasms shooting through the area either where the gb was , or maybe it is coming from the cut muscle, not certain. Anyway, it hurts like hell and I have a high pain threshold. I was just telling my husband earlier today that I don't see how people can do the sleeve and gb at the same time. Especially people that are very very overweight.

First off, so sorry for the loss of your mother in law, that has to be very painful. It's understandable that your husband is scared since the news is still so new. I think what will help both of you is understanding your mother in law's cause of death. What happened? Was her health in jeopardy before the surgery? Was her weight responsible for comorbidities that caused complications? Or was it a freak issue like a blood clot? I wouldn't argue with your husbands wishes right now...I'd simply ask to table the conversation for a couple of weeks when maybe you'll have more answers about what happened and have some emotional distance and perspective. Right now, the best thing to do is to concentrate on helping him with his grief and paying tribute to his mom. Later, in a few weeks.....have a talk about the risks vs benefits. Talk about how you and your MIL differ healthwise. Talk about tests you can do and preventative measures you can take to ensure the same issues don't occur. Again, so sorry about your loss. My advice. Don't cancel yet. And don't make a decision yet. Just take some time and help your husband. Particularly given this happening at the holidays, that's enough to deal with for now. Wishing you both healing.

I've been looking through this forum for a long time now since before surgery. I was sleeved 10/26 zero complications. I am approx 58 days out and was cleared for my forever diet. My concern is I've had a few stalls. Nothing major I was at 235 for 2 weeks plus. Then slowly made it to 225. It seems each food phase came with a darn stall. Is this common? How many of you had the same thing happen? **Although cleared for my forever diet I'm still weary. My treat was baked buffalo wings lightly sauced and only about 4 or 5 no skin I just missed the flavor.. I'm also still doing shakes. I stay at 400-550 calories and under 25 carbs daily. I feel like if I do more ill stop losing. Am I alone here? HW 279 SW 271 CW 222 GW Healthy Sleeved 10/26/17

I’m scheduled for the 26th. I’m pretty new to this forum but would like to follow those who have a similar surgery date to mine. How do I do that?? I’m terrified right now. On the preop diet my BMI has dropped to 32.7. I feel really strange about having this surgery, but then again, I know that if I cancel, my BMI will go right back up again. But still, it feels strange and I’m really scared I’ll have complications.

Support: When I first started my weight loss journey my wife was against it. She feared that I would have complications during the surgery. I told her that I was going to get the surgery with or without her support. Furthermore, if she was going to be a negative influence I would exclude her from the process. She came around and gave me her full support. As for others I only told my brother, sister and a close friend. To this day everyone thinks that I have a bet with four other friends ($1,000 each ) to see who can lose the most weight by new years. I tell everyone I'm a distant second. Four months after my surgery people still cheer me on and hope that I can win the "bet". Cost: My insurance company paid for it. Complications: I had none and the people in my monthly support group haven't reported complications either. Addicted to Food: I've written that my relationship with food has changed dramatically. Me and food were the best of friends . Today instead of living to eat I eat to live. Food is just nutrition to me. I don't like going out to restaurants like I once did. When I go out I usually order a side dish like vegetables and mash potatoes.( I make sure I have my 80 grams of protein in before I go out) My days are all planned out so that I can get my 80 grams of protein and 64 ounces of fluids. Scarring and loose skin: I was at 211lbs on the day of my surgery so I don't really have too much loose skin. Why did I do it? I'm 60 years old with diabetes, high blood pressure, a heart condition, gerd, gout and high cholesterol. I took 4 meds for diabetes, 2 for BP, 1 for gerd, 2 for cholesterol and 1 for gout. I knew it was only a matter of time when my liver and kidneys would fail me due to the amount of meds I was taking. Today I only take one med for cholesterol and a baby aspirin. I also started taking a multi vitamin, caclcuim supplement and b12 supplement daily. I dropped 40 lbs in 4 months, my A1c is down, BP is good, Cholesterol much better(still needs improvement) gerd gone as well as the gout. I am able to get to the gym 4-5 days a week.The minor downside is having to spend all day planning my proteins and fluids. Not wanting to eat is a very very strange feeling but one that is becoming my new norm as the days pass. I realize that I'm still in the losing stage and the tough work is when I get to the maintenance stage. I try to prepare myself everyday for as I have met people who have gone off the program and regained the weight and then some. I treat this as my golden ticket and I only get one. I am inspired by the veterans on these forums who have lost the weight and maintained the weight loss. I try to read their comments and glean whatever advice they give for my long term success. Good luck on your decision and eventual journey.

Well done ! That's great. The liver shrinking diet is so hard. I really struggled. I was sleeved Dec 11. I am so glad I stuck it out because it made my surgery smoother and I had no complications. You got this ! Nearly there ! Im cheering for you

I'm about four months out and I have an occasional drink. It's tricky, though. Liquor burns, most mixers are pure sugar, and I've been told in no uncertain terms that we have no business putting anything carbonated into a stomach that's the size of a banana, as that is practically begging for complications. So beer, champagne, and soda/tonic mixers are out. But wine has been fine. Less acidic white wines, like Chardonnay agree with me, and I have a few glasses a week. There's a cheap-ish no oak chard from Smoking Loon that doesn't upset my stomach and goes down easy. I make sure to save calories for it, as those calories count too. I didn't start adding the occasional glass of wine until I was healed and had dropped off of omeprazole. I just didn't want to push my luck while it was still healing.

Hey All, This is my first post so please go easy on me. In short - I'm a 26 y old girl who has had a VERY unhealthy relationship with food my entire life (since we're all on this forum, don't we all!) My highest weight was 255lbs (5'7) last summer. With MAJOR diet restriction and exercising 4-5 times a week I was able to lose roughly 35lbs over the course of 3-4 months. It is absolutely like pulling teeth to lose a pound for me - My lowest I was able to get down to 216lbs. Since then, I've fallen off the wagon, gotten back on, back off, and so forth countless times (Currently 230lbs). I feel the idea of diet and exercise has consumed such a large part of my life and I'm sick of it! I never considered WLS surgery until I saw a few friends of mine get the sleeve done. Since then, I then started following a few people on Instagram that have had incredible results from the surgery. And to be honest, I'm jealous of that, and I want that change for myself. So here I am. A very confused girl who is looking for change but I am constantly contemplating for/against the surgery. There are of course so many PRO's - but for sake of making a decision I've made a list of my CON's - I'd love to all of your input and/or advice. CONS: - I don't think my family and friends will be supportive - COST: To be able to get a good insurance that will cover this type of surgery where I wont go into debt, I'd have to pay $428/month - Both of my friends had complications and that scares the crap out of me! - I'm clearly addicted to food right now and love going out to eat - will this ruin my social life with food? - Scarring & loose skin Again, I'd love to hear your input. The good, the bad, and the ugly. -ConfusedGirl91

the only thing on that list that isn't really preventable are obstructions, but those are pretty rare. The rest of the stuff is also rare *as long as you follow the rules*, e.g., avoid NSAIDs, smoking, and keeping on top of your vitamins. People that have these kinds of complications usually aren't very diligent about taking their vitamins, etc. Complications for both types of surgeries, when they occur, are usually minor. Again, as long as you follow the rules.

Those instances with eating issues years out are very rare, some people have underlying conditions that they either didn't know about (gastroparesis) or had complications (which are less than 1%), or unresolved eating disorders.

Hi ! Anyone getting surgery done in Ontario? Or had surgery done at the Humber River Hospital? I'm scheduled at the Humber River Hospital and was wondering if anyone else is. Was looking for feedback on the doctors, procedures , complications ect . I'm really nervous and was looking to find someone who has had surgery here or is going to. Thanks! Sent from my LG-H915 using BariatricPal mobile app

Was it planned that you'd be in the hospital that long? Or did you travel for surgery? Hopefully you didn't have any complications!

Oh, I'm so sorry that this has been so hard. I hope that being home will bring some comfort even if it is still a struggle. I'm 4 months out of RNY and though I didn't have any complications, I woke up every day for the first couple of months saying: WTF did I do!!! A friend once responded saying: You made the choice to live a better life. Unfortunately, it can take a long time until the better life part happens and the only path you have is your own. Hang in there and try binge-watching some mindless tv!

Good luck to you! I’m down a bunch since surgery and developed gastroparesis, a super rare complication, but don’t regret a thing. Good luck in January! I’ll be scheduling a hernia repair. Surgery is the best decision you could make!!

The bypass is the "better" operation But it also carries more risk With the sleeve 10,15, 20 years down the road you don't need to worry about problems arising. With the bypass you'll always have that shadow looming over you, worrying about internal hernias obstructions ulcers malnutrition anemia etc etc. If I was severely obese, had severe GERD, or poorly controlled diabetes I would lean towards the bypass. If I was younger, healthier, and on the lower end of obese I think the sleeve is the more conservative option. Is (potentially) having a slightly lower bmi down the road worth worrying about more complications for tbe rest of your life?

This is one rule that I did not follow. I drank coffee the first day home from the hospital. 2 days after surgery. My doc allowed decaf after 2 weeks, but I couldnt wait. It agreed with me fine, but that doesnt mean it will for anyone else. I also had 0 complications and had no problem getting 2 protein shales down within 2 days after surgery. Sent from my SM-N920V using BariatricPal mobile app

I am not a doctor and I had a different weight loss surgery than lap-band. So take anything I say with a grain of salt. The fact that you are vomiting blood and when you drink water you vomit bile seems very abnormal and these problems must be driven to ground. Many years ago, one of my daughters woke up after vomiting a lot of blood. We rushed her to the emergency ward of the hospital. They said the cause was a nose bleed. When the air becomes extremely dry such as during the wintertime, the fine blood vessels in the nose can break producing a nose bleed. When she was sleeping the blood pooled in her stomach. When she woke up, she coughed blood and quite a bit of blood to clean her lungs. The solution in her case was to use vaseline and put a small coat inside her nose to coat the area with the fine blood vessels. In her case this worked quite well. My mother became anemic due to loss of blood which appeared in her stool. We took her to the hospital and they gave her a transfusion. In her case she used Excedrin as a pain reliever and would pop several pills a day for years. Excedrin contains aspirin and she was taking about 10 times the aspirin recommended. We took her off the over the counter medicine and her blood loss cleared up. According to the internet: Green or yellow vomit, also known as bile, is produced by the liver and stored in the gallbladder. The release of bile occurs when an individual is vomiting on an empty stomach or is suffering from bile reflux. Bile reflux may be caused by: Surgery complications. Gastric surgery, including total removal of the stomach (gastrectomy) and gastric bypass surgery for weight loss, is responsible for most bile reflux. Peptic ulcers. A peptic ulcer can block the pyloric valve so that it doesn't open enough to allow the stomach to empty as quickly as it should. Stagnant food in the stomach can lead to increased gastric pressure and allow bile and stomach acid to back up into the esophagus. Gallbladder surgery (cholecystectomy). People who have had their gallbladders removed have significantly more bile reflux than do people who haven't had this surgery. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bile-reflux/symptoms-causes/syc-20370115 Here are some other threads that might be of help. https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/112336-bile-reflux-or-too-tight-of-restriction/ https://www.obesitycoverage.com/weight-loss-surgeries/lap-bands/lap-band-complications One other thought that crossed my mind is Helicobacter pylori infection. Many people have this infection and do not even know it. This infection can produce bile reflux. So if you haven't already been tested for this condition, it is probably worth doing. According to http://www.naturallivingcenter.net/ns/DisplayMonograph.asp?StoreID=B571DEWXVCS92JJ200AKHMCCQA7W8V75&DocID=condition-bilereflux Helicobacter pylori infection of the stomach: It has been reported that patients with esophageal bile reflux had a higher likelihood of also having Helicobacter pylori infection of the stomach than patients without bile reflux.