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So I am 5 years 4 months post op and I got down to my goal weight and then about 2 years ago I started getting my cravings back and started giving into them and started putting the weight back on, I have since gained about 55 lbs back and I am very discouraged, and feel awful. I had a great surgeon that did my surgery, and since my surgery he has left and moved across the country and I trusted him and felt good with him, so after he left I started seeing another doctor in the practice he was in and do not like him, don't feel comfortable with him and so since about a year after my surgery I haven't been back? He didn't seem interested in knowing how I was doing or my progress so I didn't go back, and just kept doing it on my own, but now I am this far and gained weight and I am not happy with myself and I am back to where I was prior to surgery, except I can't eat as much, and as many things. I have made steps in seeing another doctor that a friend of mine referred me to, she goes to this other doctor and she loves her, and so I am going to meet with her and see how I feel. I am nervous that I have stretched out my stomach and I don't know what they can do for that? I am so disappointed in myself, cause I did so good for 3 years and kept it off, and I felt so good, and now these past 2 have just been down hill? Does anyone know if you stretch out your pouch do they do or will they do a revision? Also does that help with the cravings?

Oh, I meant like Xbox and ping pong in my playroom.

LMAO, I am sure you did, that is mean a playroom full of Games not fun!!!

@@My Bariatric Life LMFAO, My husband went too and he didn't like the movie either, but he totally would be having blue prints made if I said I want a playroom!!! I definitely have always wanted one too, with all the sex furniture and swings and all that fun stuff, it just makes everything more interesting!!! You only have one life why not have fun in it too!!!

@@My Bariatric Life I also heard that Jamie Dorian was not going to do the sequels... Hmmmm. I am not sure if there is any truth to that, but I really didn't buy him as Christian. That's just me. I really liked the idea of Ian Sommerholder (sp) as Christian, and I can't get over the fact that he isn't him... KWIM?

I didn't like the actor for christian and I also heard that he wasn't going to be in the sequels that his wife wasn't happy with him doing this movie, and so he won't be doing the sequels, but as for the actors that they were considering I though Charlie Hunnam (Jax Teller from Sons Of Anarchy) He was my first choice to play christian, now HE is HOT!!!! Jamie not so much to me!!!

@@pupichupi how deep do they get into BDSM in the books? Because if it got too much like the real thing, at least what I know the real thing to be, that would be a turn off for me. If you read my article True Love on BariatricPal then you know I like to be dominated in the bedroom, LOL, but not degraded or treated like a slave or have a ball stuck in my mouth and my arms hoisted up behind my back and hog tied...

LMAO, they get into it but they don't get into it, like he asks her what she will and won't do and gives her a list of the things that he likes and she says no to about half of the crazy stuff, and won't be gagged but she says yes to the stuff I would find normal. I haven't read your post True Love? but I think if you like some of this stuff you would like the books!!! They have a story behind it and it's not all about BDSM, there is more to it than just that.

@@lexiemustang, you really should read the books, they are so much better!!! The movie totally did not compare at all!!!

@@drmeow, thanks you have made some very good points, as I know how you feel about your food cop situation cause my father was that to me, as my mom was also overweight like I was all my life, except my mom didn't get overweight till after she had my sister who is 3 years younger than me, and so she was a bean pole all her childhood life, and although she didn't monitor really anything we ate as children she also didn't nag at us till we got older, me mostly. My brother is a heavy guy but he is also 6'3"? So a lot of his weight is in his height too? So I have really been the overweight person all my life in my family and my father used to nag about food, and tell me I have to loose weight. I hated it, so I don't nag at my son or tell him he can't eat things except soda, cause I really never allowed them soda since they were little cause I didn't want it to rot their teeth? His birthday is coming up and I have actually been thinking about buying him a weight bench for his birthday cause I know he likes doing weights and stuff like that, so that is probably what it will come to. Usually in the nicer months he does go outside all day running, playing, riding his bike, his uncle is going to take him rollerblading. we have a local park that has a skate park and he already knows how to roller blade and so to do that he will enjoy that, and then in August he starts his football season again, and that runs from August to the end of October and he has practice 4-5 days a week and then games on the weekends? So he will get plenty of working out in then too. I will be talking to his doctor at his next appt. and seeing if I am over reacting, cause I don't want him to develop the habits I have in my life. I love my kids way too much to put them through what I went through. Thanks

So I have read the books more than once, and I will say if you haven't read the book you might like the movies, but if you have read the books then the movie is definitely not going to live up to the books, the books are so much better. They didn't follow the timeline of the book and they changed things around from the book to the movie, and I was very disappointed in the movie, also the actor that played christian gray, he just didn't live up to the hotness description from the book. That being said I probably will still go see the movie of the rest of the books, but I would totally prefer to read the books again than watch the movie. You said that some of the sex scenes in the trailer are arousing, then you should really read the book, it is 100 times more arousing!!!

@@Debbie Jean, Thanks for all you have said, and I do love my kids to pieces and I just want both my kids to live long healthy lives. I plan on talking to his doctor when we go for his appt. next month about all that has been talked about here. I just want to clarify one thing and that is I didn't put him on a diet per say, I just removed all the junk from the house and stocked it with healthier options and the weighing himself, that is his choice, he wants to do it, I don't make him. He doesn't even see me weighing myself cause I do it in my bedroom on Monday mornings before he is even awake? I know he has seen me have problems with my weight, but now he sees me healthy and happier than I have been in a really long time, so I think he wants to follow my example of being healthy.

He has had his thyroid checked as I have a low thyroid so that was my first concern, but his was ok! He has Lost 4 lbs since I have started his diet and I am very happy for him! He also does have a doc appt. in April so when we go to that I am going to talk to his doctor about his weight!

Thanks I really think your right, I have gotten him so far to loose 4 lbs in 2 weeks since we started to implement the new healthier eating and working out!!! I am very proud of him!!!

@@InspirationMySon, I was thinking that maybe it could be that he is going to enter puberty too, and he does have his 10 year appt. coming up and so I plan to talk to his doctor about it then too. I am just very worried for him and growing up the way I did. I don't want that for him, he is heavier than I was at his age, and I know how it was for me. So as for going outside and playing in the snow, he loves to do that, I don't particularly like it so I don't do much of it, but he loves it. I am just trying very hard to keep him from eating unhealthy and junky. The exercise part being in the winter just is very hard for all of us, but I am looking into alternative options. So we will see what we can get him doing. Thanks!!!

I don't allow my kids soda except on special occasions. I never have it in the house, and they aren't allowed soda when we go to a store or anything. The only time they get it is mostly at parties? Even then they don't always get it, my kids are big Water drinkers, so it's definitely not soda issues, and I don't have unhealthy Snacks in the house, I keep as much healthy stuff in the house as possible.

I also had a band in 2010, and in 2011 had to have mine removed due to the same problems, but at the time I was too scared to have the revision to anything else, and just had the band removed. I am now 10 months post bypass surgery and I am down 105 lbs from 300 to 195 and I couldn't be happier. I wish in 2011 that I had gone forward with the revision instead of wasting 3 years of my life still being unhealthy, but I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and I just wasn't ready back then. I hope that you don't have any problems with having the revision and I wish you good luck you are making the best choice for you!!! Good luck!!!

He drinks mostly Water, and usually a glass of milk for dinner. As for the snacking and having to do with stress from school or friends, I don't think so he is a very happy kid and always smiling and just a happy kid. I think he just likes to eat, if I were to remove the Snacks I would have to remove everything and lock it up in my room, Cereal, bread, cause what he will do is make himself a Peanut Butter sandwich for a snack, or he will have a bowl of Cereal, and I don't buy the sugar cereals it's just he is eating more than he should be. I don't buy potato chips or crackers, or stuff that I know are no good, so he just picks up stuff that can be ok in moderation and will eat it to excess? As for the exercise stuff, yes he could do free swim and basketball at the Y I just want to teach him to be healthy he also needs to keep moving. I have a thyroid issue and I had him checked for that and he doesn't have that issue, I am just scared for him. I don't want him to develop diabetes or heart issues?

Ok, so I have a son that is 9 almost 10 year old son who currently weigh's 145 lbs, and I am very worried for his health. I have removed most of the junk food that is in my house, I keep fruits and vegetables and other healthy Snacks that I can eat in the house for my kids to eat. I worry for my son because he is so over weight at a young age and I don't want him to grow up and have issues like I did with my weight. I want to help him now and that was one of the reasons I myself got healthy with my weight loss surgery. My son is a sports child, loves to play sports and his biggest sport is football which he plays from Aug. 1st through late November 4 - 5 days a week for 2 hour practice and then weekend games. While playing this sport he did loose the weight and has since gained it back, and now he is wrestling but it is only 1 day a week practice as he does it with our local boys and girls club. I need to help him now, and need all of your help to help me to help him. I am the only person in our house that works at the moment so money is in short supply, and I have looked into gyms and stuff like that where he could use equipment to help him with getting fit, and none of the local gyms will allow him to use any equipment even with a parent with him due to his age. I have checked the YMCA and they also won't allow him to use equipment with a parent. We also have a very small apartment with very little space to do exercising to videos (which I am working on moving rooms around to change this). We also live in New England and it is very cold here so to go for long walks at this time is very difficult with the weather. Most days we don't see temp's above 20 right now and so that is very hard to get motivated to go out and get exercise. I know my son likes Snacks and he even will eat dinner and shortly after dinner he is hungry again. He will sneak food, and eat late at night when I tell him no more. I am looking for some ideas of ways to help him and snack ideas of ways to help him at this point. If anyone has any ideas to help me help my son, I would love to hear any and all suggestions! Thank you!!!

NO!!! I know how it feels to be overweight and in a relationship that some of this stuff happens, it didn't go to this extreme, but it did get to the point of him cheating on me, which is also my kids father who had done this to me, to whom I also have 2 children with. I left him finally after my son was born. My son was only 5 months old when I just had enough, and my son is now going to be 10 in a little over a month. It was the best decision I had ever made for myself to leave him when I did. I didn't need the abuse I got from him about my weight and emotional abuse I got from him with him cheating on me, so I finally just had enough. I kicked him out and that was that, I think alot of heavier women have that same feeling that if they have children with a man that they need to stay with them, but it's not true. I realize that now. I was scared beyond belief when I left, I didn't want to be my mom a single mom, alone for the rest of my life? I met a man almost 3 years ago, and we are getting married now in 5 months. He met me when I was at my biggest and loved me then and loves me now too. This man that you were with does not deserve you, you deserve way better!!! He does the things he does to you because there is something in himself he isn't happy with. Just stay positive and you can do this.

@@bellabloom, All I can say is WOW, I have to say I sort of know how you feel, cause it may not have been my partner who used to say these things to me but my father used to say things about my weight and stuff like that to me, he started talking to my mom like that first, then as I grew older, and started putting on the weight too he would do it to me. I haven't been under 200 lbs since I was in 8th grade, and I have always played sports and worked out, and ate healthy, but I have a very under-active thyroid which made it very hard for me to loose weight like people with normal thyroids. It saddens me that people can be so hypocritical about this surgery, because it is the exact opposite to the easy way out. You have to give up so much more than just food when you decide to do this. Not only do you have to stop eating most of the foods you are so accustomed to but you have to learn a whole new way of eating and making sure you get in the right amounts of Vitamins and everything. I am very proud of you for finally putting your foot down for yourself and not letting him bring you down anymore. He doesn't deserve you, as you deserve someone who is going to be there for you and be strong for you through all that you are and will go through with this surgery. I feel sorry for him and who he is. As you said too he is overweight himself, so he should be put in front of a mirror and someone should tell him not to throw stones. That is just disgusting. I am sorry you went through that in your life, but It sounds like it has made you a stronger person, and a better person for it. Good luck and be happy!!!

@@Susan33, I wish I could say you won't loose your boobs, but it all depends on the person? How people loose weight. I know in my past I had never lost weight in my boobs before and so when I had my surgery I was hoping the same thing, and I lost my boobs, like I really didn't have big ones to start with, but I feel like I have none now? So just know boobs can be replaced if you really want, but losing the weight is so much better? lol, I am so happy that I have now lost 100 lbs and I am almost to my goal weight and I am so happy to be here. I wouldn't change anything about my journey, but I would change somethings about my body now that I have lost all this weight and that is something that can be dealt with when I get to my goal weight!!! Good luck!!!

Do you live in a area where there is no sun most days and it's cold from the weather and snow and stuff? I get like that in the winter all the time? Winter Blues? This holiday time doesn't help either. I have been feeling the same way, you have to find new ways of picking yourself up and moving forward. It's not easy but you just have to keep moving. Good Luck!!!

@@green*eyed*girl I totally agree, I feel like when I was 100 lbs heavier I was much stronger and I could do a whole lot more lifting than I can now. but that also comes with weight training, you can get that back you have to work out with the free weights and use those muscles. It's going to be hard at first, but you will get it, and soon you will be just as strong as before if not stronger cause the weight you lost will help you move better and lift more. I am not saying lift to become some super steroid body builder but you need those muscles to keep your body strong, so use what you got and strengthen as much as you can!!! Good luck!!!

@Gingerisgreat...AMEN!!! I have a wonderful husband that sounds just like yours and he feels the same way as what you just described. He loved me before and loves me just the same now. He is my biggest supporter!!! I agree with you I am the exact same person I was a year ago before I had the surgery. I got my surgery done in March of 2014 and so I haven't quite hit my year yet, but it's coming up quick and I know that, but I don't even care I am happy with how I am loosing and how I am doing in my progress, and I did the same as you not tell a whole lot of people before because I didn't want the stories but I also didn't want people trying to talk me out of it too. Like I knew this is what I needed to do to make me a healthier person. I was also pre-diabetic and I had gestational diabetes when I was pregnant with my 2nd child and even had to take insulin, and diabetes does run in my family so that was always a big scare of mine, and I didn't want to sink that low, and so I did this for me. I did this for my health not to change how I looked cause to me I still look the same, Just a little smaller, but the biggest difference is my health now is so much better, I had many more health issues other than the diabetes and that was what led me to finally just take the jump to doing this and I do not regret one minute of getting this surgery. I have had plenty of obstacles and hurdles to get over post surgery even pre surgery that it's made me appreciate all the weight I have lost to get my health back. So I wouldn't change it for the world. Thanks for the talk and It really helps talking to people that know exactly or very similar to what I am going through. Well have a great holiday and new year!!!

@@Gingerisgreat, the drinking and getting satisfied thing will work itself out, but as for the stares and the omg you look so good kind of things that are happening, I know exactly how you feel. I have the same thing happen to me but I am now down 100 lbs and I have seen people for the first time recently and their mouth falls to the floor? lol, it's does make me feel weird, but I have gotten over all that, and as for the questions when people ask, just tell them the truth? I do it all the time, I was very nervous about telling people the truth at first too, but now if someone says how did you do it how did you loose all this weight, I just tell them cause I am proud of what I have accomplished and proud of myself for going through all that I had to go through to do this for me, and I don't care what they all think if they think I took the easy route to loose the weight or what, I do not care anymore cause this was definitely not the easy route, this is just as hard if not harder than doing it naturally. Be proud of you and what your accomplishing in your life the rest will work its way through!!!

I know how you feel, I am lucky that I have a very supportive family and in-law family but it's not the same as knowing someone in my area that had this surgery too, to just go for a coffee or dinner and be able to talk about what is going on with me. I really haven't lost many friends from the surgery, cause I don't have many friends to begin with, I just don't have time for dramatic people that I want to deal with crap that can't be controlled? I work all day and go home to take care of my kids and family. I don't have a lot of time for anyone else's issues, and I like it that way? I have always been a friend to all but a loner to myself type of person. It works for me.

LMAO @@kikicoates78 I feel you on both of your issues, I lost my boobs too and my butt is saggy and flappy??? LOL I want to do the same buy some boobs and have a butt job!!!