NMSunshine

If it is possible for you to afford it, going to a therapist and working on weight issues can be very important. I work with a therapist and have learned that because of PTSD and abusive relationships in the past, my weight (my fat) feels like a protective barrier. Without it I feel vulnerable and not as able to protect myself. Also because my stepfather was a pediphil, I am extremely uncomfortable with my sexuality. The fat makes me look not sexual and that is psychologically comforting. I cannot help but feel that many of us sabatage ourselves because the fat gives us a feeling of safety and protection. Also we can protect ourselves with our weight but without it we are much less able to protect ourselves. It's so very sad but, so many of us have a ton of really difficult issues to work through before we can let go of our protective fat.

Perhaps you need to have your ears checked out. Ear stuff can cause weird problems. But if you have a fever, then you probably have an infectiona nd need to get that taken care of immediately.

I have had trouble with losing. I've been banded for 2 years and lost only 10pds the first year. The first part of 2nd year lost nothing. Then I decided that I was getting too many calories from wine. I drink 3 sometimes 4 glasses of wine almost every nite. I quit and lost 23 pounds over 6 months. Started back a few months ago and gained 3 pounds. Now I am going to quit for good. I think liquid calories are the weight killer. Liquids like alcohol and pop just go down the band so easy. Also try to remember when eating it's protein first.