Gorda123

wow...i get those moods. I am a mother of 3, stay at home mom..work 16 hours on weekends and it seems like the work never stops. All my good friends are out of state and family is far too. I rely on my husband alot... I think you should let your husband know what is going on inside you. It seems to be eating you up and the guilt of not wanting to do what you "think you should " be doing is making it worse. I also have times when i open my eyes in t he morning and just want to stay in bed and let my responsabilities fly away. BUt we know it can ot be done. I have 3 little ones that depend on me...i joke to my husband that i want a "day off..or a vacation"...and by thid i mean with no kids no husband. It has not happend yet, but i do get out of the house once ia week for a 3-4 hours and just do nothing. Its a beggining. I suggest you get help... Talk to your Dr? talk to your husband?.. just get it out.

that is a lot on your plate!!! You seem very determined and that i believe is what will get you to your Goal! My mom and are very close, i know she want me to get to a healthy weight so that i can be around for my 3 kids...she is a huge support and i cannot imagine loosing her. BEst of LUCK!!!!!!

wow..i kinda have the same problem.... i can basically eat anything. But it depends if i am stressed or something. One day i can eat rice,chicken, ham.... the next it will get me stuck for about 20- 30 min and then comes the spitting up. One thing i am sure of is that i cannot sit to eat with my kids..i guess they stress me out with all the mess. I try hard not to vomit, i focus on my breathing and visualize what is going on in side me and "tell my band to open up"...lol i know it sound crazy! Unfortunally i have figured out how to sabotage my self with eating small snacks between meals...that is why the scale has not moves down since NOv. I have had over 6 fills...and jsut now i can feel some restriction I told myself i will not go back for a fill till i get myself unde control and on track. Good luck!!

Funny..i was thinking also of joining WW in Jan but thought about it and what i REALLY need to do is stop eating so much.... it seems every time my boys ask for a snack or a drink i nend up having a snack with them ( boys are 4yrs and have bottomless appetite). I step on the scale on Tues mornings and post on my kitchen cabinet..that way i can see it everytime i open it for a snack YOu are doing great... My ultimalte goal is to be under 200lbs...even if it 198lbs. Or fit into a size 14 jeans. Right now i am 253 , i go to the gym 2-3 time a week and i have had over 5 fills and have a little restriction. What is my Problem?? I sabotage myself with snack during the day.. you are doing great!!!

Dito!!! this Sept it will be 2 years and i have managed to loose 50lbs...but int he last 5-6 months i have been basically maintaining the weight. This is not where i want to be. BUT i do have to say that after 6-8 fills (lost count) i can still eat. I get stuck if i dont watch it. My ULTIMATE goal is to loose a total of 100lbs OR fit comfortably in a size 14 jean..which ever comes first. This may take more time than the averege lapbander, but i have to keep telling myself "it took me 10 years to put on 100 lbs...so what if it takes 3-5 years to take it off"" I also have to confess that there i days when i sabotage myself...as everyone knows if you graise on small snacks doing the day the Band will take it in... so even if i am working out at the YMCA 2-3 times a week and keeping busy with my 3 small kids I am taking in well over the calories i need. I have big plans for the spring...to get back on track and to trick my body into loosing inches. I plan to do cardio but also weights and switch it up alot. Good luck in yout journey...just remember that one pond gone is a blessing!!

hi everyone, i live in Haverhill MA and i have been band since Sept 2009. It has been a struggle but so far have lost 50lbs...still have 50 more to go!!!

get off the SCALE!! get it out of your sight.... I have been banded for 17 months and have lost 50lbs... most of it int he first 11 months. I have had 7 fills and just know i am feeling restriction. It comes and goes so i have to be carefull. i KNOW i still eat to much.... not when i sit down at a meal but during the day when my kids are constantly askinf for snacks..i have them too. I do not blame the Band for the lack of weight loss since Oct 2010. I have not worked out as much as i should and i have chosen food that will pass easily. I weigh myslef once a week (tues) and then i put it away...I also guide myself more with how my clothes fit me. My goal is to be a comfortable size 14... I am now a tight size 18. I am realistic about my body. it did take me 10 years to gain 100 lbs, why should i expect to loose it in less that 2-3 years! Good luck and just take it easy..we will all get there!!

this makes me sad... but it is also so familiar.. " you care the weight well" and my daughter putting her hand on my belly and asking " if i am going to have twins again??" OUCH!! Chin up..you are here now doing something about it!!! I have been fortunate to have the support of my family and specially my Husband that always tells me i am beautifull and sexy to him. I have been banded since sept 2009 and have only lost 50 lbs from the 100 lbs i need to loose. I cannot blame it on the band failing...it more like me failing myself by slaking off on the work out and eating here and there. Anywyas, I wish you luck and i hope you get what you want.

i know what you mean... it has been 16 months witht he band andi have lost about 50lbs... but in the last 4 months the scale has not gone down. I have had 7 fill and i have 9CC in a 12CC band and i dont really have much restriction. Ofcourse unless i eat a big piece of meat, or get to hungry and take a huge bite. Anyways, dont get down on yourself. This is what i tell myself " it took me 10 years to gain 100 lbs, it is OK if it takes me 2-3 years to loose it"" I do know my family and friends were expecting a new me by now...but none of them have been obese...so they "dont know" My new goal for this year is to loose 20- 30lbs by sept...but first i know i have to get back to the gym and stop gracing food all day. Best of luck!!!

great to hear your are fighting for it!!!

i have moments like that too... but i go to bed and tell myself tomorrow i start fresh!! I have not lost the weight i thought i would by now. It has been over 1 year and i had planned to surprise my extended family by loosing over 100 lbs...well so far i have lost 50lbs and the scale has not moved for over 2 months... Fustrating-- YES...is it going to break me--- NO!!! Do what you do for yourself!!..family will never understand how hard it is, and yeah people will come and tell us how great you look..bla bla bla. I just say thatnk you and its a work in progress. Night night