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Sometimes I still miss her though GOOD LORD LIZ - YOU OPENED A BIG OL CAN OF WORMS FOR ME HAHAHAHA

For the record... I would also like to say that my Ex-best friend is still single and never responded to any of my b-day cards or xmas cards - told everybody that she hates my husband and as long as I'm still married to him she won't be my friend! JEALOUSY REARS IT'S UGLY HEAD!

Guess it's time to put my two cents worth in here... First off I want to start by saying That I really like you BOTH! and that I want you BOTH to remain in this group! That being said.. Since you both ARE in this group maybe the issues between you two should stay between you two simply because I don't want it to get weird on here - and it is an uncomfortable situation since we know and care about you both. I, for one, don't want to hear anything negative about either of you from either of you! (love you guys!) As adults there is no reason why you two can't co-exist on here. Besides, true friends should be able to endure anything (short of an affair with the other's spouse!LOL) My best friend in high school and the maid of honor in my wedding hasn't spoken to me in 15 years! simply because I got married and felt that my husband and home should come first - before the bars & clubs and hangin with the homies - guess she didn't love me as much as I loved her - She couldn't understand why she wasn't the center of my attention anymore and didn't love me enough to set me free to be happy - She wanted 100% of my time and basically it was all or nothing and all I asked of her was a little time to get my new marriage and home running smoothly - And her response to that was that I was no longer a part of her family because I didn't have enough time for her! RAMBLING... My point being is that I believe you two are better than that and will overcome this issue - pure hearts! Hope I didn't offend either of you but, again, I have to agree that this thread isn't the place for you two to do your back & forth - I say give it some time, a break from each other (not from us!) for a minute and revisit the situation in a week or two - together! Talk - IN PRIVATE! And Liz, and none of us expect you or want you to lie to us - we are all here to SUPPORT one another!

LESSON LEARNED: Way too hard to stick to the diet without my big ass jug of water! I didn't have it yesterday and so I kept reaching for almonds (sorry Tam I sorta went off program) Didn't over do it - an almond here, and almond there but up 2lbs from that in just one day - my body sucks! Jes - lemme know when and where and I'm there - seems like the only time I get out to walk is when you call so hit me up! Donna - don't really know why I'm so cranky but I can just assume it's lack of money - I'm officially poor! I got Suave shampoo & St Ives face wash - WOW! Heather - can you sneak me into your luggage - I don't even care if I get lost and wind up someplace other than Hawaii - just want ANY type of vacation LOL Tina - I'm thinking about cancelling my appt with Doc Fisher on the 15th - I'm up 1lb since I last saw him and I already know that I won't get a fill so It will be a waste of time. Pammie & Riley - I have seriously left 10 messages with the psych dept in Vallejo - NOT ONE CALL BACK! How the heck do I get into these emotional eating classes - my PCP just says to keep trying! GGGRRRRRRRRRRR! John - good to hear from you - glad you had a nice vacation - don't worry about the weight gain - perfectly acceptable on vacation as you don't get to go often. Now your back and now it's time for the 1200 cal diet again! I sure wish that dang diet worked for me! I LOVE MY CARBS!! PAT - CONGRATU -FRIGGIN-LATIONS! Now THAT'S how you start out a new year! Still cranky ladies & gent but workin on it :w00t:

Pammie - do you ever get stuck on popcorn? Richmond said NO popcorn because you could get stuck - unfortunately, that hasn't happened to me yet! FYI LADIES: very cranky today :tongue2: Ahhhh - but not going to let it control what I eat!

Hi Ladies, LaChica - hula sounds like fun. If the girls don't meet up on the 12th I'll come watch. I get what you are saying about all the hectic stuff going on but there will ALWAYS be hectic stuff going. We have to learn to get past using that as an excuse to overindulge!! You don't have to do the Fat Fast at all - that is just for fast tracking the weight loss! But try cutting out the carbs if you can't follow the 1200 cal diet right now. It's really easy to eat out without carbs - steak, green salad (no crutons! & SF dressings) omelets (no hash browns) etc. Just try it and see how it goes! Don't let the hectic crap win!

Slider Food? Instant Flax Meal Peanut Butter Cereal Recipe - Hot Flax Meal Cereal You Make In Your Bowl I really miss my Oatmeal in the am but it's all Carbs and I know it can't eat it - If you guys don't think this will work - any suggestions? Of course I'd cut it in half!

Day 2 of the fat fast - was so much easier when I did it the first time - this time I just want to eat, eat & eat - watching the clock for my next meal time. I think it was easier last time cuz I was so pumped to get banded! I'M HUNGRY :tongue2: but I dare myself not to eat! sippin herbal tea and thinking seriously about going to sleep at 8:30pm LMAO. I did go to see "The Fantastic Mr. Fox" today and the hubby got popcorn and i did NOT have one piece! I smuggled in a venti decaf americano - nice & hot - and sipped on that instead! Really wanted the popcorm but had Heather and Riley in my head saying "I DARE YOU" - It works Happy B day Tamra - NO CAKE OR ALCOHOL this year! Plenty of time for that the rest of your banded life! You're doing good - go girl! Just let the daily weight loss on that scale keep you motivated!

one questions: How is the band a tool if you can't get a fill to feel any restriction?

Go Heather! I would call now to schedule the appt for two weeks - if there is nothing available, you can have my 12/15 appt! I doubt I'll get a fill anyway LOL. I'm not worthy right now hahahah. but seriously, get back on that 1200 cal diet asap and keep a journal of it all and get your ass in there WOO HOO - lemme know if you find an appt because it would really make me happy to give you mine if you can't find another one! Tina - Ditto! Very well put!!!!!

Pammie - so sorry bout your hampster - I had many hampsters & rats and I just can't do it anymore because, like Jane said, they die too soon. My last rat I had to put to sleep because he was bleeding internally - I cried so so so much and we aren't talking 20 years ago either - it was like 7 years ago - I was early 30's - I'm a cry baby and a sucker for my animals - Sorry for your kids! Hey Jes - good to hear from you! I can't wait to hear how it goes with Robin - keep me posted. believe me when I tell you I feel the same way - as I did before the band!

Riley - I feel smart now that YOU agree with me Tamra - how does the Turkey salad look gross - Looks just like Tuna. You aren't pureeing it are you? Just pull it apart like shredding it and mix in a little mayo - I like to put a tad of dijon mustard in it for a little kick

Oh, Tina - my metabolism double - I will gear up to talk to Robin! I started the Fat Fast with Tamra today - so far so good but like you, Sweet T - I only have roughly 2.3 to 3 cc so to say that I get full or even satisfied on 1/2 c is rediculous. Anyway, it's the fat in the fat fast that keeps you cool. I am eating 5 1/4c (200 cal ea) meals and that gets me thru - 9am, 11:30, 2pm, 4:30 & 7pm. drinking lots a Water in between - when I do this I lose about 1lb per day. Maybe you should try it cuz without the restriction, you are not getting a "full" signal to the brain and your body may not be getting enough cals thruout the day with only 1/4c x 3 to keep the metabolism up. I think the "full" signal with the restriction is was keeps the metabolism going and not shutting down in starvation mode (JUST A STUPID THEORY OF MINE AN PROBABLY WAY OFF BASE) but seriously, when I was doing what Robin said to do I completely STALLED! and that was 3oz Protein 3x per day only. If I do it 5x per day it works! Oh, and lotsa water in between! Liz - yo mama is just gonna hafta get over it.

Riley - so full of info and insight! Maybe you should lead a group! You & Tina. Maybe I should meet with Robin and just explain to her right off that I have no reason to lie to her - that I'm in this program to succeed. I mean really, if I lie to her it's not hurting her it's hindering my success! I understand her rules and consistency but I just feel like she doesn't understand my body - she didn't really want to look at any other option other than the 1200 cal diet for me even though it wasn't working for me. Seems like she was willing to work with you all after you spoke your mind

Well Said Pammie!

That's good Tamra - the key is to stay around 1,000 cal and 60% of that should come from Fat. Bacon is a good choice but try to stay with Nitrate free or soak it overnight. This fat fast is time consuming - 9 am breakfast (coffee) then drink water - 11:30 2nd meal - wait an hour - 12:30 drink as much water as possible in the next 1.5hrs till the next meal - 2:00 meal - wait an hour - 1:00 drink as much water for the next 1.5 hrs - etc..... Need to put a timer in front of me LOL

I feel your pain - I have the popcorn issue with my husband and when I first started out I quit Diet Coke cold turkey and he kept bringing them to me - I just kept yelling at him to stop but I probably coulda just asked him nicely LOL How did your mom take it?

Ok, so my new way of thinking is: Tomorrow is not a brand new day, it's a continuation of today so my new motto is: "WHY PUT OFF TILL TOMORROW WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY!" On track with no exceptions!!!!!! Want to lose 10lbs by the time I see Doc Fisher on the 15th!

Tina - when I last saw The Doc he said he was going to schedule my 12 week appt but I kept looking on line for like two weeks and it never showed so i called in and the gal was scheduling my appt for me and I ask her if I HAD to see Robin and she said NOPE so I opted not to and she just said to tell The Doc why I don't want to see her. and didn't schedule me for her. Just made my appt with Doc Fisher so we shall see what he says - seriously I am up 2lbs since I saw him last so I don't think I'll get a fill but if we are gaining and/or not losing doesn't it seem as if we would need the fill? Tamra - Like I text you earlier... I will do the fat fast with you! Startin the the am! Monique - I already posted a couple months back why Robin rubbed me the wrong way so I will give you a short recap - I gained 4lbs in 2 weeks on the 1200 cal diet and she basically didn't believe me that I was sticking to the diet - Doc Fisher had me cut the carbs and boom! the weight came off - he said that he wished they'd change that diet cuz it is way too many carbs and he completely believed me! Also, when I was in the waiting room one day she came in bad mouthing a patient - didn't believe her that she was sticking to the diet and Robin said "she just needs to put the spoon down". just talkin crap to one of her co-workers but very discouraging - we are all here because we obviously have issues and can't do it on our own - if she can't empathize with that then she souldn't be in the department. It appears to me that she is "one size fits all" and we are not all the same! She is not a doctor, can't help with the head hunger - we all know what she WANTS us to eat already so, for me personally, I don't think she can help me. Have left 3 messages for the therapy dept but no response - will go by there tomorrow and see what's up - I really want to get to the root of my overeating issues once and for all - I do great during the day but in the evenings when there is nothing better to do, I want to eat! Pammie - glad you updated your pic - LOVE the short hair cut. how was the game? Heather - yes, please, pass me the motivation!

Pammie - what a great NSV - fitting in the seat so comfy cozy LOL Tina - My hair is just up -not shorter - the gal on the far right is Bobbie - she's Angel's Aunt. So what was this you were saying about Robin deciding when you get a fill? Is this something new? I hope not because I opted out on the Robin Visits - I was told that I don't HAVE to see her so I chose not to. Maybe I should make the appt after all.

Pammie - I'm jealous - The Kings game sounds like so much fun - oh wait - that would be outside in the freezing cold - bundle up!

Welcome home Tina - missed you today. I use to have the firm work out video - cardio sculp - no longer have a vcr LOL glad you mentioned it - I should see if i can get the DVD - it was a good one. Riley - can't wait to be a 12! Like Tina - still a 14/16. Also can't wait to want to exercise LOL. Had so much fun today ladies - wish it wasn't so cold & windy out!!

Happy day ladies! Today i am thankful for my band! I think I've gained so much weght that it is actually tight. I was seriously trying to feast today but couldn't even get close - Had a small bowl with turkey & some cauliflower mash & greenbeans - ate that but didn't have any stuffing or cranberry sauce so i put a little in my small bowl and was only able to have a few bites. I truly was unable to eat more than 1C of food! Best part is that today... I'm not mad about it - just happy my band finally showed up!! Jane - you go girl~! can't wiat to see how this new man works out. You have a bomb ass personality and it's so rare for a man to see personality before beauty that it amazes me - because this guy is so smart, now he got both! Heather, don't worry about the weight - I think that when we worry and stress on it is when we do our worst. I stopped stressing and finally lost a pound. So for certain I found it today but... not gonna stress because I know i'll lose it tomorrow! Still struggling with exercise~ Hey Tina - 20,000 steps is awsome!!

Jes - ill miss you Saturday! dying to see what you did to your hair - down 20!! go girl - i'm not even close to that - I'm only down 9 but hopefully i got myself back on track and will get the other 11 off by the 15th when I go back to see The Doc - I'm such a slow burner Tamra - it's the body Magic by Ardyss international - look it up on line~! I really wanted the red one but can't afford another one right no - it is a promotional thing that ends tomorrow - grr! I emailed you! Nicollie - will you be there Saturday? Captain Mo... When, if ever, are we gonna actually meet! UGH!!! Heather - glad you're feeling better - i got another dress for you - kinda wild pattern! Got it at Target and while I wasn't thrilled with it it was one of the few that fit me back when I got it - anyway.... I got so very many compliments on it I was shocked! I'll bring it saturday. Pammie - so glad you'll be there! Donna - did you say you'd be there? PLEASE!!!

Riley - I LOVE THAT YOU (POST OP PRO) STAY HERE WITH US! I truly wouldn't have made it this far or even had the surgery if it wasn't for all the help I got on here. I would have chickened out if it wasn't for all the great things I learned here and the reassurance that it would all be ok.