Start here
Where are you in your journey?
Choose the path that fits today. We’ll take you to the most useful discussions.
- GLP-1 medication Zepbound, Wegovy, access, side effects, progress, and support.
- Before surgery Compare procedures, plan ahead, and get honest pre-op answers.
- Post-op Recovery, food stages, symptoms, and support.
- Long-term Regain, labs, habits, and life after the honeymoon.
- Revision Explore revision options, complications, and next steps.
-
who supports right to choose
Rape is a crime. A feloney by law. Abortion is a choice, there is no law that prohibits it. So, in answer to youir question: I would call the police and intervene.
-
who supports right to choose
I totally agree with you.
-
who supports right to choose
No I would not. But with women I know who have had an abortion,now I'm sure this is not true of all women, but from conversations I have had with women I know it goes like this Person-Damn, I just found out I'm pregnant. What am I gonna do, I can't have this baby. I don't even want a baby. Me- Why? person- because there is no way I can have a baby, I can't even take care of myself me- well, why don't you consider adoption? person- noway, I'm not carrying it for 9 months and go through labor pains just to give it away. me-Why not person-because I don't want to. no. me- But there's alot of people who can't have kids that would love to have a baby and would take good care of it. person-Oh well, too bad. they are not getting mine. I told you I am not giving it away,and I don't want one. I wanna do what I want. I don't wanna be tied down with a baby.I like going out to clubs and having fun. me- Why didn't you use birth control if you didn't want to risk getting pregnant? person- I know. I should have but i didn't. But, I'm definetley going to next time.I ain't taking anymore risks. It might not even be my boyfriends. I'm not even telling him I'm pregnant. I'm just gonna make an appointment and get it taken care of. me- You know, pregnancey is not the only risk you take when you are not using condoms to protect yourself. person- I know ,but ??? is clean. He don't have nothing. me- Well,your actions are affecting you and other people and could have negative consequences for everyone involved, so you should start being careful because one day you will end up crying. person- I know, I know And a year later, 9 out of 10 times later. That person is back in the same situation seeking the same solution. Now, I'm not saying that this is true of all women, because I know that some women do use birth control and are careful not to get pregnant.But clearly, there are women who use abortion as a form of birth control. If you could convince a woman who does not want a baby because she doesn't want to be tied down, to have that baby, now remember, she will not send it for adoption because she "cannot carry it for 9 months and then give it away," how do you think it will be raised. It will probrably grow up knowing it is nothing but an inconvenience and be reminded of the life its mother had to give up because of him or her. Emotional and psychological problems? Most likely. And he might one day end up being that rapist behind those shudders. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but it is true.
-
POLL Should I have them redone to make them perfect... Breast pictures
I think they look great and wished mine looked as great, but it is not what I think that matters. You paid money to have them look the way you want them to and you didn't achieve the results you were looking for. After paying 8k for the surgery, you should walk out a very satisfied customer. You should not have to feel self conscious about your breasts. Isn't that why you had them done in the first place? So you would feel more confident about the way your breasts looked? If you are not 100% satisfied, make an appointment with your doctor and let him know how you feel. If it really bothers you, let him know.Don't tell him that they are alright and you wished they were a little more symetrical. Tell him that it really bothers you and you don't feel any better about them than you did before the surgery. Of course if it really doesn't bother you and it is something you can live with and feel good about, then leave it alone and embrace those beautoful boobies lol.
-
Do you take off your shoes?
I am an American, and when I lived at home with my family I never took my shoes off, but when I was a teenager and started dating an Asian guy I had to take my shoes off in the Asian peoples home. When we moved in together we just always took off our shoes, so for 20 years I have taken my shoes off automatically when I enter someones home,even if they are American and do not require it. I have never asked anyone to remove their shoes in my home because I don't want to make my guests feel uncomfortable. As for my carpet? I have a nice little mat near the door to wipe the bottom of their shoes on should they need to be. I have never had a guest that was rude enough to come trotting through my home with their shoes full of mud. I guess it's just a cultural thing.
-
who supports right to choose
396,I am a Christian and I would never impose my beliefs or views on anyone else.God gave us the freedom to make our own decisions whether they are right or wrong. He is the only one who can judge us accordingly.He is the only one who knows why someone does something and what they were feeling when they did it. So, instead of going around protesting everything that people do and focussing all of your attention on everyone elses sins, take a moment to reflect on your own actions throughout your life, and see what you can do to make yourself worthy of the pearly gates
-
Would you date a Single Father?
Absolutely! Why wouldn't I?My husband had a young daughter when I met him, ( I also had 4 kids of my own living at home with me). I had a very sweet polite 14 yr. old girl, A grouchy, argumentive, depressed 12 yr. old girl. A lovable 3 yr. old daughter, and a hyperactive 2 yr. old son.My husband must have seen something in me that not many others had for him to keep persuing me with the load I had on board. My ex couldn't handle the stress of living where children dwell and one day he up and left me for a childless woman. He doesn't mind helping to financially support them, so long as he doesn't have to have much direct contact with them.(What a LOSER!) Anyways, I met a wonderful man with a precious daughter. Her mother had all of her 8 children (with 6 different men) taken away by the state a year after we moved in together, so his daughter came to live with us.The road has had some hills and bumps, sometimes even a pothole appears, but for the most part its been pretty muched paved along the way. That seems so long ago, but I'm so glad we took that journey, because we love all of our children and eachother with all of our hearts. There is definetley enough love and patience in our home for everybody.
-
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgendered Bandsters
Hi all, I'm a str8 girl, but I'm supportive of everyone. The only thing I hate is IGNORANCE! I hope u all do well with this band. I've had it for 1 year and I love it. I'm -78 lbs. down to 168 lbs. This was the best decision I have ever made. The same people who put me down about my weight, are the same people who tried to scare me and talk me out of the band. I am soooo soooo glad I didn't listen to them. I guess some people don't want to see us to succeed because they're so insecure that they are afraid that we'll look better than them. (OK, that was off topic lol) But anyways, Good Luck everyone
-
WHAT FOODS GETS STUCK or give you problems?
OMG! Nearly everything gets stuck and gives me pain. I can't eat any solids in the morning at all. The worst offenders are as follows any bread, dough, anything made with flour really sux for me chicken breast pork chops steak ( except for an expensive cut like a filet) mashed potatoes(even with gravy) boiled eggs. The whites are the worst. Hamburg (even the tiniest well chewed bite) Pasta usually gets stuck, but sometimes works for me if cooked to mush, but then why bother when it's that mushy eewwwwee! sushi rice sux, I'm in agony until I finally get it up (YUCK)! As you can see, the holidays are pretty much of nothing for me. Things that I can eat the chickens dark meat spare ribs if not dry Soups crackers yogurt lowfat tortilla chips with salsa steamed rice almost all veggies if cooked crunchy things go down good most of the time no sugar added fudge pops 45 calories, and a great treat when i'm craving chocolate. Homemade baked hotwings sausage(although I hardly ever eat it because it is fattening) kielbasa(same as sausage though) cooked cabbage I don't know, I don't have a wide range of solids that I can eat, so I still drink my Protein shakes everyday and take my Calcium chews and Vitamins to make sure I'm getting what I need. It seems that I'm a sucker for punishment though, because every now and again I try to eat the repeat offenders, and am always wishing I hadn't. When will I ever learn? I'm getting a little better though, I wait at least a month before I try it again LOL! Well there you have it folks, the long list of delicious foods I have to plan my meals with (NOT)! lol
-
Letter to all....from LOTSOFKIDS
Oh Dianne, I'm am so happy to hear you are doing much better. I had tears in my eyes as I read what was going on with you. How frightening that must have been. But GOD is good. He has walked with you through this and brought you out whole. You truly are blessed. And don't you frett about your 25 lb. weight loss, That is darn good considering all you have been through. You are on your road to a full recovery and with your fills, your weight will just start to melt off. God bless you honey, and please keep us posted. =)
-
congrats to july 2006' bandsters!
Well, we made it to our one year mark. I was banded on 7-17-06 and I have lost a total of 78 lbs. I'm very pleased with that. I am now down to 168 lbs. I have another 43 lbs to go to reach my goal weight. I am confident that I will reach it. This band has changed my life in so many ways. I finally have the self confidence that I had lost down the road to self destruction with food. I would love to hear how the rest of you july 2006 bandsters are doing, and how much you have lost so far.I hope you are all very happy with your new hot bods.:car:
-
food addiction + band = ????
I too was addicted to food. I ate all the time, and when I was eating I would be thinking about what I would have next. I hated it. I tried all sorts of diets, but the cravings were still there. I thought being banded would be the hardest in not being able to eat all of my favorite carbs. I was wrong. I was banded 7/17/06 and it has been incredible. I no longer crave all the foods I once loved. Probrably because you begin to associate those foods with pain. Eating too much of something, or something that easily gets stuck will undoubtly result in excruciating pain.I drink my protien shakes and drink my water, and I eat a little food here and there and I am satisfied. I no longer dwell on food for once in my life. If I'm out with a friend and she wants to stop somewhere for lunch and asks me where I want to go, I always say "I don't care you pick", and You know what? I really don't care. Nothing seems to appetize me anymore. I eat only because I know I have to. The band has given me freedom. I am not in bondage to food anymore. I now realized that I have many different interests and none of them pertain to food.For the first time in my life I can plan my day on things I enjoy doing, not thinking what I'm going to eat, or planning on what I feel like eating for dinner when it's only 8:00 a.m. I have such a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I must admit that the loss of weight is very nice and that is why I was banded in the first place, but the band has provided so much more for me. It has severed the anchor that was chained to me and allowed me to rise above the surface. It has given me back to me, and for that I am truly grateful.
-
Help! Dr. C
Thank You for your quick response. I believe you are right. If I'm not feeling better by monday, I'm going to try to get a slight unfill. Again, thank you.
-
Help! Dr. C
I have been banded sine 07/17/06, and have had no real problems. I've had a few fills, and last week I just had another one. Now, tonight, all of the sudden, for no reason at all, i feel like I have a lump in my throat, like my throat is swollen down near the windpipe. I also have to clear my throat every few minutes because of phlegm, but it does not relieve this awful feeling of a lump in my throat. I have to wait until monday to call my dr.'s office. Could this be due to the fill even though the fill was last week and I haven't had this feeling until now. Also, I don't have any burning related to acid reflux, so I don't think it is that, but your input would be very appreciated. Thank you.
-
I lost 52 lbs, but now
Hi, I was banded july 17,2006. I lost 52 pounds and I am real happy about that, but tonight I found a lump in my right breast. I wouldn't be so worried, but I had cervical cancer 9 years ago, so I'm more than a little nervous.I don't want to go through this again. Not to mention, breast cancer runs in my family on my mothers side. As far as i can tell, no body in my family has ever had it as young as I am though, It just figures, something good in my life happens like losing weight, and now I'm struck with this.I really don't know what to think. I have four children. My 2 oldest are 18, and 19 but I have 2 little ones. Somehow my weight doesn't seem to be all that important anymore.It wasn't suppose to happen like this. I'm only 35 years old. I'm almost finished nursing school. i'm supposed to help sick people, not be one before I get a chance to help them. I thought this was behind me. It just goes to show, that you never know. I'm calling my doctor when the office opens in the morning, and i'll pray for a positive outcome, but I'm still sad about it right now. I don't know if I can get any sleep, Ive been up all night worrying myself sick. i'm sorry for venting this, but I really didn't have anyone else to tell. I don't want to upset my family until I get some results from my doctor. i'll keep you all posted, and thanks for caring enough to read this.