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I may have to try that! We are on the Do-not-call-list, and that has helped, but charities are of course exempt. We used to be fine, I didn't answer calls that were marked "Unknown" on the caller ID. Well, we've had 3 now that were marked "Private" which before was always my mom. They are getting sneaky.

More then once, I've said that I'm glad that I don't have a genetic relationship to my family. Usually as a joke when they are being weird, but also seriously as there are some serious health issues there on both sides. Granted, I don't know what I did inheirate(sp?) but I know what I missed. Have you read Augusten Burrough's books? In one, he talks about visiting the Vandervilt(I think) home, and deciding that he was their son, and lived there until his parents kidknapped him.

Yeah, why is it that so many sit-coms needed to have a "Was I adopted and how horrible that would be" story line at one point or another!? My purely gut-level, emotional reaction to open adoptions is negative. Maybe because mine wasn't. I see too many chances for issues to come up, but then closed adoptions have their own issues. I would wonder about confusion about why my birth mother gave me up, but still wanted to be in touch. And I would worry as the adoptive parent that she might want too much influence in the kids life. But then, I also believe that there isn't such a thing as too many loving people in a kid's life. So, like so many other things, for me this comes down to the individuals involved. Good - I agree, we miss so much in just having the words on a screen, ok and a smilie or too!:cursing:

I am VERY sorry, I honestly didn't mean any sort of attack at all. I don't remember now why I put that in quotes, but it wasn't meant in any way shape or form to be any sort of attack. I am honestly curious about how other adoptees feel, I am very aware there is a huge range of emotions. My brother, also adopted from different birth parents then mine, doesn't talk about it, doesn't like to discuss it. I find it so interesting that for some of us, this matters very much, for me it just doesn't. Shows what a great variety of people we all are. I have talked to people who found their birth families, and for some it wasn't a good experience. They didn't like the families they came from, so perhaps that's part of it for me. I don't want to risk being dissapointed, if that makes sense. Again, I didn't mean to make light. But yes, I believe I am as well-adjusted as anyone I know. I feel like my family was pretty much normal, not perfect, not horrible. Much like the families of my friends who weren't adopted. One thing that I think helped is that I always knew I was adopted. I don't remember any one time being told, it's just what I grew up knowing. There was no sense of shame or that it was some big secret. I even had a cousin tell me in a fight, "well, you're just adopted". My response "My parents picked me, yours had to take what they got". :smile:

What kind of scars do you "feel"? I ask because I was adopted as an infant 44 years ago, and I honestly don't feel like I have any scars or anything. The only thing I'd like to know that I don't know is more about family medical history then I do. But otherwise, I don't think much about it, and have no desire to meet my birth parents. I'm gratefull they made the choice they did, but other then that I don't feel a connection to them at all. My DH had a son before we started dating that they gave up for adoption, I'm fully in support of him looking for DH someday as I realize some people want that connection. Forgive me if you've covered this, I came back to this thread late and have skimmed some. What rights would you as an adoptee like to have? As I said, I'd like more complete medical history, and one site where both adoptee and birth parent can register so that if, and only if, both want to they can meet. Thanks!

That was one of the best Survivor moments ever! And then JFP had to whine about how mean that was. Give me a break. I'm glad he's gone. I wasn't looking foward to watching him at all and his silly games.

Ok, I have to confess I like Wal-mart, for clothes now when my size is changing(or I hope it changes). And for a few other things. But I do have admit some of my fellow shoppers are surprising, I don't see people like them in other stores in the area. It's entertaining at least...

Well, yes I suppose some people can just eat smaller portions, but I realized that after 30 some years of battling to do just that, I realized I'm not one of them. :regular_smile: There are very real physical things a band does for/to your body. It does make you feel fuller/satisfied on smaller portions, which for me is key. I needed that in order to eat less and stay on track. I find it dims my appetite and while I still struggle with making good choices, it's doable more often with the band then not. Does that answer your question?

I heard a rumor/spoiler for tonight's ep. Highlight: Johnny Fairplay is the first person voted off. No idea if it's true or not, but I would be thrilled!

I can't do beer, and I do miss it. I've tried twice now(slow learner I guess) and both times a few sips caused me to feel really uncomfortable. But, overall I'll trade beer for the jeans I'm wearing today fitting!

I was told to expect an average of 1-2 pounds a week. If I understand, you've been banded about 11 weeks? And you've lost 28 pounds? It sounds to me like you are doing better then my doctor would expect. I know it's frustrating, but this does take some time.

On the eating part, look for things that are no-cal. For me, that is usually a cup of herbal tea. There are some great flavors out there, and it seems to satisfiy the "I'm bored and want flavor" urge. Have you tried any hobbies? Not only to fill time, but to keep you hands busy?

My all-time favorite is the "herding cats" one, I think it was for EDS? I work in IT, I have been the herder and the herdee at various times.