thinblueline

Thank you for the advice i will definitely talk with her next week !?

I liked your analogy about am i being reckless through food that is something i never thought about, good point. I have never talked to my therapist about food but i will now that you have planted the seed , BIG GOAL and reason for this SX is i have a really bad back and by having this SX it will take a lot of weight off my back(lower back), not to drastically change the topic but you are very , anyhow i'm from Massachusetts where are you from i swear the older i gert the more i hate the cold in the snow and not in that order LOL. I seriously do not think i am reckless i am not saying i could not become as such but i think i am pretty honest , i have a great life and i love it and i am real excited about my being in the procces of waiting for the SX my wife as a matter of fact had gastric bypass a long time ago (95) she tries to tell me some info but it was so long ago that she doesn't want to mislead me and i can't you know what i mean. Coop

Yes i have been in counseling for almost 9 yrs

I just can't relate to anyone on here because i have not had my SX yet i know i chat with others and ask them what their experience(s) were and strike up a conversation after all we're all in this together right. I would like to talk about self-esteem after all it effects all of us the reason i bring this up because isn't it vicious cycle that we (i know i do ) tend to blame ourselves for the situation we are in ,for example i blamed myself for my bi-lateral hip replacement when i was alone at home when i was discharged from the hospital i never felt so alone in alone in all my life i bring this up because my self-esteem was shot and i was loaded with guilt and i blamed myself for the SX and i could have made my situations different ( i worked construction)all my life)but i refused to. anyway, i hope this makes sense because it all ties in together from the construction to the eating to much working to much the list goes on, i hope all of you have a great day and be gentle with yourselves because no else will.?

Grider it sounds like you have had it rough. i too hope you get your life back it stinks to go through pain , i wish you well mam.☺️

Am i wrong for eating a half of a peanut butter sandwich( i try to stay clear of bread) and a whole muffin last night because i feel guilty like i did something wrong, when i am looking for something sweet i eat a keto bar and it does the trick and tonight for dinner my wife and i are getting a pizza and we never get a pizza , am i acting out through food am i being reckless , i don't know i just i have to buckle down and get serious with this program otherwise i could possibly get denied ( am i making any sense) i really believe i am thinking way to much my PCP just put in my consult for gastric bypass and i have my first virtual appt April 1st i guess i am a ways away from my surgery i am a very thorough guy and i like to have things in order beforehand so there are no screw ups when the time comes ,anyway ,i have to be honest when i write a post i am never sure what to say or if i will even get a response , i guess i just need to relax and hopefully i can make some friends in the process.

Thank you very much i finally found it , you're the best? Coop

First of all you are NOT a failure you are doing what makes you happy and getting healthy if they cant see that then its on them the name calling and making you feel like you have nothing to offer they are dead wrong i'm proud of you and you should be proud you losing weight is not at all easy so try and be gentle with you and do your best to ignore them and if they have nothing nice to say to you then just walk away tune them out and act as though they dont exist, take are of yourself and remember you're worth it plus they sound jealous because of all the hard work you know they see you're doing, keep in touch if you want , it would be nice to make friends and chat with, plus i am brand new on here, take care...?

How do i fill out the info on the left hand side of this page regarding my weight , my location etc its the info us users fill out use to let you in on mour personal lives.

Where it says "my surgery" i want to fill that in , all the questions i cant find the button to fill it out any help to show me how to do this would be great,?

I thought joining this site would be easy in that i just ask the questions and take it from there i guess i was wrong its always been tough for me to ask for help from others because i didnt want to get hurt but i know by joining this wealth of information from this site i cant lose i guess what i am trying to say is i need some help if i am going to have this surgery , right, i know by qwhat my wife tellls me i will never eat the same way again ( she had the SX) is this true , nor will i look at food the same way again , does anyone have any have any suggestions and/or advice because this is real difficult for me....never mind.?

Someone asked me in this post what surgery will i be getting and honestly i have no idea as i mentioned my PCP put in the consult a few days ago thats about all i know at this point , i have a virtual interview April 1st. My wife as a matter of fact had gastric bypass 17 years ago and she tries to help me with what i could possibly be up against but it has been so long she does not want to mislead me or give me wrong information , anyway i am pretty scared because even though i have had both my hips replaced about 10 years ago i was told this surgery is more invasive i honestly do not know who to believe , i just know that i am uncomfortable in my clothes and if they fit they are extremely tight ( by the way i am 284 lbs and i am 5'7 } i am so obsessed with losing weight that i take all the weight loss pills and they do not work , i go on the cleanse juices, they do not work, i can not work out because i have a bad back, i am at my wits end it is so frustrating being heavy i am so self conscious of my weight i try on my clothes all the time, i apologize for rambling i am so tired of living like this , can anyone relate , thank you for listening , it helps. Coop

I am brand new here and i would like to do as im told ,my PCP put in a consult for me on wednesday , i went through pre screening procces and passed , is there anything you can reccomendwhile i go through this long proccesi would truly appreciate it