Melolo

I guess this is a no brainer because once again I agree with you LuLuc. You know I had to do some growing up after I got married because in a ideal world for me (and maybe some other women) but I'm talking about me... I felt my husband should just have eyes for me. I also felt this way when it came to my exes I thought they were being so disrespectful when they looked at other women. I just learned that most men are visual by nature and sight is the first and most used sense out of all the senses for some men. I had to learn that just because a man may glance at another woman doesn't mean he wants to sleep with her and even if the fantasy does run across his mind doesn't mean he's going to act on it, and even if he tries doesn't mean he has a snowball chance in hell that it will happen.:thumbup: I also had to learn that just because he look at other women... that didn't take away from me being the Fabulous Woman that I am. So we keep growing and learning.

Smartiegirl are you trying to make me cry? Because that was so beautiful. Ok! So it sounds like you have a healthy and loving relationship and maybe you just had a moment and he slipped. Maybe you should suggest the next time he gets the urge for some spiciness that he gives you a hint...like for example leaving you a note or whispering in your ear what he wants to see you wearing. After I get rid of this weight I not only promised my husband some wild stuff but myself as well. FUN! FUN! FUN! So girlfriend I hope you both can agree upon a fun alternative to replace the magazine. YAHOOOO!:thumbup:

Well... Let the disagreeing begin. I love Lulac's responses to most of the posting I've visited they seem so reasonable. I'm taking it back to earlier postings. It would have been a lot more mature to discuss what had happen and come to a mutual understanding. The reason why I say this is because you stated that you felt like you are the mother of a teenage boy...Well I'm sure he felt the same way when he discovered his property gone and destroyed. Some men react in different ways. I know how my husband would've reacted, and I know how I would've reacted too if the tables were turned and in both situations it wouldn't have been nice. Even if you destroyed that batch of magazines what is there to stop him from purchasing more or going to a strip joint behind your back. That's why in my earlier post I stated that you probably would have done better to discuss how you felt about him having the magazines. You also could have asked him why does he need the magazines and how can you come to some kind of resolution in regards to the magazines. Now as far as the possibility of your child seeing the magazines... All I can say is he needs to be more careful with putting up anything that he dosen't want your child to get into. But in his defense it was in his car and in a bag. :thumbup: And that's my two cents now back to your regular program.

Then lets go back to what I mentioned in my post. Sometimes a woman has to throw something new in the mix. My husband and the men in my past has always treated me like a lady and respected me as well because that's how I carry myself. But behind closed bedroom doors...Well lets just say it's time to explore. Honey, don't wait for him to start the role playing...you may want to take the initiative and be the director and star of the seduction production I kind of since that in your first post because you mention him treating you like a princess in a negative overtone. What's so funny when it comes to me...my partner gets so excited because I have this young, angelic, innocent looking face. Sometimes when were in public we just laugh because of my other secret personality that exist behind closed bedroom doors. Like I said before you need to tell him to save the money that he use to buy those magazines and the both of you need to take a trip to Priscilla's or Victoria's Secret or Fredricks of Hollywood or whatever fun shop you have in your town. Have you ever watch the old tv series "Dharma and Greg," I don't know if I spelled it right but if you're not bringing it...then step up your game. I'm not saying this would solve the ponography issue but I'm responding to the Princess issue. I tell you what if you do it right he'll be distracted. Trust!

Wow!? I kind of understand where you're coming from but than I don't and I'll give you several reason why. First of all you didn't talk to him about what you found. You didn't talk to him about why he has the magazines. I know some people think "Well that's obvious," but maybe not. I would have asked him if there is something lacking in the intimacy department. You stated that he like's to treat you like a princess, but than he looks at dirty raunchy sluts. I'm not trying to tell you how to handle you're business...but have you ever heard of the saying, "Be a Lady in the streets, but be a Freak in the sheets. Maybe he treats you like a princess out of respect among other things, but sometimes you got to show him a little sumthin sumthin. Then you stated that you feel more like the mother of a teenage boy... but didn't you just treat him like a boy by destroying his personal property without having a mature discussion. I know I would want to find out why he thinks he needs to waste money buying those kinds of magazines. What is there to prevent him from purchasing more magazines. I'm not saying that he's right to be sneaking around... He's wrong for not addressing any issues that he may have, but then he could simply enjoy looking at the magazines. But if it was me I would give those magazines a run for his money... Shoot! He would be spending the money he use to buy those magazines on some purchases from Priscilla's so we could have some real fun:wub: HOLLA!!!

I love cottage cheese with tomatoes and advocado seasoned with garlic powder, salt , and pepper. YUMMY!:thumbup:

Well we're just going to have to show them how it's done. Just because people disagree doesn't mean they're attacking you personally. In most cases.

You're right this is a post to share your opinion. I didn't think it was fair for someone to attack your christianty. No one has the right to judge you especially when it comes to how much of a christian you may be. That is between you and your GOD. I do hope you keep posting. I'm not mad and I don't believe The Watcher is mad. But of course I can't speak for him. But I hope you don't stop posting because of something I said.:thumbs_up: You deserve to be heard too.

Teach on it!:frown: I was going to come to your rescue but I see you don't need the help:rolleyes2: I thought it was unfair for her to refer to you as sour. I was also going to write about the fact that she brought up the state of your finances and the future of your finances. She can never tell we could be conversating with a future millionare. Another thing I wanted to address is the fact that just because we have the lap band it may had been a struggle for some to pay the premium which was the case for me. I had to find a way for my health sake. Watcher I think you handle yourself beautifully. :cool2:

Now I do agree with you on going into debt to pay for surgeries... I'm a hard worker but I'm also a twice cancer survivor. And if it wasn't for the support of family and my now husband I probably would have lost my house. I found out I had cancer for the second time three weeks after moving into my house. GOD is truly good. I was one of the fortunate people to be able to work while going through chemo treatments bald and all. It was tough and of course I wasn't prepared financially. I didn't receive any financial aid either. Rich and poor abuse the system and I hope that President elect Obama can find away to stop such abuse.

AMEN! TEACH ON IT!!!

Thanks luluc for sharing that with us...I do appreciate where you're coming from. Growing up hearing stories about how life was for the elders in my family and other African Americans brought out a lot of emotions in me as well. To think some of us never thought this day would ever come. So when you see some African Americans getting emotional...It's not because were thinking "Na Na Nana Boo Boo we have a black president." It's because some of us has either lived or heard the stories of how it was for African Americans not so long ago in this United States. I too can turn to my 12 year old son and say "No limits to what you can be." Another thing is...please don't believe that every African America voted based on race along. We to have gone through the same economic crisis that every tax paying citizen has experienced. We to felt the crunch when we had to put gas in our cars. And we've lost our love ones to this war and every war that was fought in this country. Some of us lost our homes too. So when I went to the polls and voted believe me it just wasn't about race along. And yes seriously I feel the same way, "I'm finally proud to be an American for the first time!!!":crying: For those of you that can't relate to people saying or feeling this for the first time...that's ok. It's all good:thumbup:

Please...LOL :smile2: or is that wink indicating something else. By the way... that wink makes me laugh because it makes me think about Sarah Palin :wink5: I need to stop watching Saturday Night Live. LOL

Hi, I just wanted to put my 2 cents in and say that both Obama and McCain conducted themselves with much dignity and grace when giving their speech. Not only was last night a proud moment for me as a African-American but also as an American. Now today is a new day and of course there are some haters but I called them necessary haters. The reason why I referred to them as necessary haters is because they keep us motivated and keep us looking and reaching for bigger and better goals. I keep hearing "Well I hope Obama does what he promised to do." Yeah! Well I hoped the same thing from the presidents that I voted for in the past. All I have to say is give President Obama the same respect, patience, and consideration that was given to the past 43 presidents especially that 43rd president. I think America was very patient with him. Oh another thing! If I hear another person or hater ask "When is he going to start cleaning up the economy" I'm going to scream :biggrin:. Obama didn't put us in this mess so the question should be "When are we as Americans going to work towards getting ourselves out of this mess." This has been my 2 cent commentary...Now we will return you to your regular program. Thank You:rolleyes2:

Hey! Cheer up, I guess you've already read that most of us banders have been a part of that club. Most of us had a waiting period. My was 3 months and a couple of weeks as well. I pray that you won't have to wait much longer:rolleyes2:

Hey Tapshoes, I don't know exactly how they fried it all I know is the fish was light and yummy. It was orange roughy. I know I was born and raise in barbeque city. I love Gates barbeque. But yes I need restriction like yesterday. I hope you're doing fine.

Hey yaw! I stayed away from Wally World this weekend. But I did eat out a lot this passed weekend. I had a piece of fried fish on Friday. Some Barbeque on Saturday ( what can I say I'm from Kansas City) and I had a Quiznos flatbread salad. Boy do I need restriction.

Boy! You and I can hang together. I love meat too and a nice well done T-bone sounds good right now. Roast beef is one of my favorites too. What I do is try different things. Just last week I brought some deli turkey and turkey pastrami and I brought some big fresh Romain Lettuce and rolled the meat, pepper jack cheese, and tomato in the leaf. Everybody was eyeing my lunch that day. It was very yummy. :biggrin:

That's what stopped me from getting tatoos. When I was younger I said I would at least get one, but the older I got and started noticing the changes in my body I would think about being old with these tatoos on my body. I started seeing young ladies with tatoos on their breast and I thought to myself...Do you really want to be 80 (GOD willing) with strawberries on your chest, or a butterfly tatoo on the small of your back near the crack of your ass like the one my sister had done. Those thoughts along keeps me from getting a tatoo. But I do believe to each his own. So if its for you than do your thing. Please be careful of getting names especially of your significant other tatoo on your body. My sister has her soon to be ex-husband's name tatoo on her arm as big as day. I can't imagine how that makes her new man feel everytime he looks at that...just thought I throw that out at you. :smile:

Wow! I bet that made you both feel good to actually say I need a size smaller instead of bigger. I can't wait to experience that... I'm happy for both of you. :smile:

NO WALLY WORLD! NO WALLY WORLD! KEEP MY MONEY IN MY POCKET! I CAN DO THIS! I CAN DO THIS! I CAN DO THIS!

No, I don't get stuck. I have yet to get stuck on any bread but the breads I do get are multi-grain. I don't know if it would make a difference for some...but for me it goes down better. Like the other night I had a yummy pizza with whole wheat crust from Minsky's. It was good I still don't have good restriction. Damn where is that restriction :rolleyes2:

Congrats! :wink2: It wasn't so bad after all.

Lol -Tapshoes, I will savor the last one today. I gave away some of them. I will drown them. Ladies do pray that I find comfort in a healthier snack and that I stay away from Wally World. Damn that Wally World!

America's Next Top! You look good girl!