APJPollett

Hey ladies!!!
So my update, I have lost 52lbs! None of my clothes fit and yes I have noticed a belly hang.
Trying to find my new sizes through online shopping due to the pandemic (everything’s still closed here in Ontario) has been a nightmare!!!
All my new pants were showing this weird pudgy lump that I was feeling really self conscious about. So went on to look for spanks.
Never wore spanks before... They suck, massively. Not sure but I got three different sizes and all of them suck. They constantly roll and shift. Waste of my money.
For those of you ladies who feel the same way a friend of mine introduced me to Zyia. They are a bit too pricey for my liking, but they are compressive leggings that don’t show my naughty bits when I bend over! They also don’t roll down so I’m not constantly trying to pull them up. They are super stretchy too, so I won’t have to continuously buy new pants during my journey. They are considers active wear but they have styles that look like regular leggings that I can wear them to work. I’ve invested in 5 pairs already!
You do have to find a rep to buy them, but my friend said they have reps in the states. Try googling “Zyia Active” For the ladies that are in Canada here is a link to the rep I buy from. She has events that you can buy from and get entered into a draw for 50%off an item! I’ve won! They ship all over Canada.
mycanadazyia.com/zyia-kw-Kitchener
I just wanted to share, because these bad boys actually made me feel sexy in my body!! I know that can be an issues for some of us who were worried about the weight loss. My bulge is sucked right in and I looking fine AF.
Anyways, how are you ladies doing? I’m in that weird sizing where not really plus size but not really normal sizes... anyone got tips on tops and bras? I work in an office so def in need of professional looking tops.

This is probably the weirdest post given we all have a goal. To lose weight.
I am post gastric sleeve. I have proudly lost 25lbs (and counting) in three weeks. I am doing this for my family and for my health. I was having a lot of health issues due to being obese, and I wanted to enjoy life again.
That said, I didn't have body issues prior to the gastric sleeve. I had a "Don't like it don't look" attitude. Proud of my bought and paid for body. 6 years of infertility medications, PCOS, hormonal issues, two pregnancies, the first being with twins. My body was almost like a medal.
Now, I'm finding I'm fixated on what will I look like when I reach my goal weight. I'm waking up from 'nightmares' that I will look like a melted barbie. Even my waking hours are spent worrying.
"Will I be able to look at my naked body without regrets?"
"Will I be able to feel sexy again? Even if my boobs hang to my belly button?"
"Will spanks help? Or will it just make me look lumpy?"
"Was this a mistake?"
"Will my partner still find me sexy?" (Please note, my husband is very supportive and assures me daily that I have nothing to worry about, but the voice in my head has a hard time believing this. How can someone really know for sure until the finished product is in front of you?)
After spending so much out of pocket for the procedure, I can't see being able to afford cosmetic surgery once I've reached my goal weight. That scares me. Even if I can save up the money... Can I justify spending more on myself instead of my family? Frankly, I'd be scared of surgery and what the recovery would be like.

Has anyone else felt like this? I'm determined to lose the weight. I want to run around the park with my kids, walk my dogs, go on hikes again. Just need to know that I'm not alone. Maybe make a friend whose on the same journey that I can talk to.
Regardless, thanks for reading. Kinda helped just typing out all my fears.

This is probably the weirdest post given we all have a goal. To lose weight.
I am post gastric sleeve. I have proudly lost 25lbs (and counting) in three weeks. I am doing this for my family and for my health. I was having a lot of health issues due to being obese, and I wanted to enjoy life again.
That said, I didn't have body issues prior to the gastric sleeve. I had a "Don't like it don't look" attitude. Proud of my bought and paid for body. 6 years of infertility medications, PCOS, hormonal issues, two pregnancies, the first being with twins. My body was almost like a medal.
Now, I'm finding I'm fixated on what will I look like when I reach my goal weight. I'm waking up from 'nightmares' that I will look like a melted barbie. Even my waking hours are spent worrying.
"Will I be able to look at my naked body without regrets?"
"Will I be able to feel sexy again? Even if my boobs hang to my belly button?"
"Will spanks help? Or will it just make me look lumpy?"
"Was this a mistake?"
"Will my partner still find me sexy?" (Please note, my husband is very supportive and assures me daily that I have nothing to worry about, but the voice in my head has a hard time believing this. How can someone really know for sure until the finished product is in front of you?)
After spending so much out of pocket for the procedure, I can't see being able to afford cosmetic surgery once I've reached my goal weight. That scares me. Even if I can save up the money... Can I justify spending more on myself instead of my family? Frankly, I'd be scared of surgery and what the recovery would be like.

Has anyone else felt like this? I'm determined to lose the weight. I want to run around the park with my kids, walk my dogs, go on hikes again. Just need to know that I'm not alone. Maybe make a friend whose on the same journey that I can talk to.
Regardless, thanks for reading. Kinda helped just typing out all my fears.

MSW
Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to know that I am/wasn’t alone. I am trying to come to terms on a healthy way.

UPDATE: I purchased the revolution nutrition fruity Protein powder and I HIGHLY recommend them if you’re struggling with the milky Protein Shakes. This powder tastes like candy and juice!

I can identify with how you perceive your body. Vanity has kept me gorgeous from size 18/20 to size 2/4. However, post op I began experience insane body dysmorphia. I felt obese a few pounds above my ideal weight after a lifetime of not feeling fat despite my obesity.

Weight loss can alter one's self image and spark un anticipated behavioral changes. Therapy was not in my post op budget so I'm continuously working on my self image. Reality vs my perception is a long term struggle.

You are not the first to experience this particular flavor of crazy . For some of us it's a normal part of adjusting to our new reality. Therapist define these experiences as "Adjustment Disorders".

Step one to resolving your issues is awareness. You've begun the introspective work. That's a good start for reconciling your perceptions with reality.

Best wishes!

MSW

I am planning a similar weekend trip with my family, I don't have many ideas, so interested in what others might come up with.

My list consists of:
Canned tuna
Vienna sausages
Canned soups
Apple sauces
Jello
Soft Protein Bars

Thank you, catwoman7.
That helped. You looked great, and your right you can't tell that you had any loose skin.
Kind of eases my mind a little.

This is probably the weirdest post given we all have a goal. To lose weight.
I am post gastric sleeve. I have proudly lost 25lbs (and counting) in three weeks. I am doing this for my family and for my health. I was having a lot of health issues due to being obese, and I wanted to enjoy life again.
That said, I didn't have body issues prior to the gastric sleeve. I had a "Don't like it don't look" attitude. Proud of my bought and paid for body. 6 years of infertility medications, PCOS, hormonal issues, two pregnancies, the first being with twins. My body was almost like a medal.
Now, I'm finding I'm fixated on what will I look like when I reach my goal weight. I'm waking up from 'nightmares' that I will look like a melted barbie. Even my waking hours are spent worrying.
"Will I be able to look at my naked body without regrets?"
"Will I be able to feel sexy again? Even if my boobs hang to my belly button?"
"Will spanks help? Or will it just make me look lumpy?"
"Was this a mistake?"
"Will my partner still find me sexy?" (Please note, my husband is very supportive and assures me daily that I have nothing to worry about, but the voice in my head has a hard time believing this. How can someone really know for sure until the finished product is in front of you?)
After spending so much out of pocket for the procedure, I can't see being able to afford cosmetic surgery once I've reached my goal weight. That scares me. Even if I can save up the money... Can I justify spending more on myself instead of my family? Frankly, I'd be scared of surgery and what the recovery would be like.

Has anyone else felt like this? I'm determined to lose the weight. I want to run around the park with my kids, walk my dogs, go on hikes again. Just need to know that I'm not alone. Maybe make a friend whose on the same journey that I can talk to.
Regardless, thanks for reading. Kinda helped just typing out all my fears.

Thank you, catwoman7.
That helped. You looked great, and your right you can't tell that you had any loose skin.
Kind of eases my mind a little.

I guess I didn't really care - I just knew I didn't want to be fat anymore.
I lost over 200 lbs, and this is what I looked like (I have since had plastic surgery - but this picture was taken BEFORE plastic surgery). For me (and many of us), the excess skin was easy to hide. I just wore 3/4 length (or longer) sleeves and slightly oversized, long-ish tops. Ta da! No more loose skin. Although you're right - you and your husband will know it's there, even if no one else does. I didn't like my loose skin, but on the other hand, I would have taken it any day of the week over being morbidly obese again. I don't know how old you are, how overweight you are, or how long you've been overweight, because all those play a role in how much loose skin you'll end up with. Some people really don't have all that much. I'm probably worst case scenario.