WanderingHeart

Comfy loose pants to walk around with, phone charger, dry mouth spray. They provided me with a toothbrush so I didn’t bring mine because I wanted to minimize how much I brought.

Goals shouldn’t be based on pounds lost bc our bodies are unpredictable. Goals should be activity-based. Also, your doctor sounds abusive and I think you know that. No one is going to make you see him and he cannot reverse your operation as punishment. Find a new doctor but in the meantime, drop this guy.

So I’m 3 days post op on full liquid diet. Nausea and gas pains are mostly gone and I am able to drink a good amount of water. I find myself hungry and full at the same time. It makes sense - my body is experiencing fullness in my stomach and hunger because I’m consuming less than 500 cals a day. my question is - do those feelings sync up? Or will I always be plagued by hunger while my stomach tells me no?

I lost 10 pounds in 10 days on my pre-op diet. Calories were 800ish.

There are some bad dieticians out there. You should not ever feel guilty for listening to what your body needs!

How are you feeling?

homeopathic remedies and/or chiropractic care could help. But you might need to investigate the root of the problem - Dehydration or leaky gut syndrome is tied to chronic migraines, stress will amplify that.

I’m out and it all went well. No issues getting up to pee. Mild pain

My surgery is at 730 am- I’m due in at 5:30. You can talk to me about things message me! I’m glad to be going in the morning, best time of day for surgery. It’s going to be hard falling asleep tonight. i miss food so much - I keep dreaming of the fattiest things like cheese fondue, pizza, fajitas! But I know that’s my body in starvation mode trying to convince me to eat for survival. looking forward to the next steps!!

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I’m only pre-op but when I’m struggling and craving real food, I try to re-frame my thoughts. Focusing on “I can’t have xyz” makes me crazy and pissed off! So i re-framed as “every second I make choices. No one is making me do anything. I am choosing to be safe and eat what will prepare me for surgery.” In your case, you’re choosing what will help your heal safely. Give yourself props for the fact that every second for the last week plus, you have chosen healing.

Wow! Only 1 week liquids post op? Then purées? How long do they estimate until you can eat non-soft foods?

Ok back to OP, I just want to reiterate that you cannot control your feelings, and that whatever you feel is totally okay. You don’t need me or anyone else on this board to validate your experience. It’s yours. You have the agency to decide how to respond. Based on my experience, i try to address the underlying issue from a place of “me and you vs. the problem” or “me vs. you” Again, I highly recommend Kasia Urbaniak. Her work is life changing and she offers online classes. Plus it’s fun!! She just published a book. She teaches “power” but it’s not power over someone, it’s transformational magical collaborative power!

Feelings need to be felt and they are never wrong. Feelings just exist to tell us something. This is telling you that you might need some reassurance from your husband. I think rather than dwelling on the specific incident, think about what you want and need from him. Ask for it. Kasia Urbaniak is an incredible teacher on asking for what you want. on another note, I absolutely dread comments about my weight even if they're “compliments.” I am especially Apprehensive on what message my kids will get on weight and the value of certain bodies. I’m not sure what the answer is.

My nutritionist has no respect for the fact that I want to eat Whole Foods, not food with additives. She just recommends her crystal light and reduced fat ingredients and moves on with her day. She told me no more smoothies made with greens, yogurt, chia/hemp seeds and berries. I honestly just nodded along by the end. I will follow the rules for safety reasons for pre-op and post-op, but I find the focus to be lacking health and nutrition in those sessions. There are hundreds of “diets” and some focus on losing weight and some on overall health and well-being, some on both. I think the key is finding what’s right for your body and eating what is in your value system, ie whether you’re vegan or whether you want to eat sustainable or whether you want convenience and affordability.

@jmaroe26. It did get better! I’m on day 6

I increased my salt intake (broth and pickles) and that helped get me through the flu feelings

So I’ve anticipated getting sick of the liquid diet and I also want to get more veggies in so I bought a juicer! I made celery juice to try it today and it wasn’t too bad. It might be something to look into - celery juice is super healing and something different. My primary care doc highly recommended celery and cucumber juices. I’m going to add unflavored protein powder (collagen peptides from orgain)

4/6 here. Doing pre op diet now

Headache is also just a normal side effect of the diet - I had a persistent one for 3 days and I’m not a caffeine drinker. It went away yesterday, day 4, and I had a lot more energy

@mindy81 that is so hard! I’ve seen so many different pre-op diets - ranging from a day to 5-6 weeks. It’s wild!

Rachel Goodman is an awesome dietician who offers online classes and support - she’s not specifically for bariatric patients though. But she does talk about the biology of dieting /starvation mode.

First is best! According to my surgical tech partner

@Blueslily 3 protein drinks plus small quantities of lean protein plus veg = 800 calories per day. Also apparently the “keto flu” is a normal thing - once your body starts burning fat over glucose, it’s common that people feel flu-like symptoms. I’m also not doing any sugar free or fat free stuff, only whole food so it limits my options. also yes they want me to clean with hibiclens but my partner and I are hippies and avoid chemicals. When I had to have a c section for my breech twins (we planned on a home birth), my midwife got me lye soap to use instead of the hibiclens. Also my partner is a surgical tech (responsible for sterility of OR and tools), and he was totally on board with lye. I’m doing it again this time.

@Blueslily I am scheduled for April 6. Doing pre-op diet and it’s been rough. I’m on liquids, protein drinks, 2 lean proteins, and non-starchy veggies. I’m hungry, cranky, nauseous, and I have a constant headache! And today, I took magnesium thinking it would help and I learned all about the phrase people use here “never trust a fart.” It was completely embarrassing to run up the stairs past my partner and kids with my pants in my hand, half naked. My partner, luckily, is amazing and supportive and playful. He told me he **** his pants lots of times in the army bc of the diet and regimen. And he keeps making fart sounds to make me laugh. That’s all we can do !