Lahela

Volunteered to be my 12yr olds rec softball coach and can actually stand for the entire practoce and game not to mention can roll model running for the girls.

Last night we did a drill inwhich the team had to field line drives and make the play to home plate to get the third base runner out. I was the runner, when they made it I did 10 junping jacks when they missed they did 10 jumping jacks. It was amazing!

Never in my wildest imagination did I think I would play any sport ever, let alone run drills with the team or COACH! 2 years in and its a new life completely !

This is so true, I remember reading everyone's successes and for soooo long I just wouldn't reach those goals. It took me much longer than everyone else to hit my losing stride and it worried me to compare my path with everyone else and not see it match. It's been a year and 6 months and I have lost 184 lbs. I still have 52 lbs to lose to hit my goal, the skin has been a new thing to be worried about but I have reached soo many goals Its mind blowing how different I am. Not just physically but as a whole person. Everyone needs to realize your goals and how you reach them is going to be specific to you. It's an amazing journey, strap in, commit and enjoy every phase.

Hubby picked me up yesterday without any trouble and then proceeded to tell me that I need to be more careful not to be obducted. 😅😄😄😄 He is legit scared someone is going to just pick me up and steal me. I was shocked because truthfully I have never been concerned someone would steal me, ever. But now the hubby is seriously worried about it, guess it's time for a self defense class 🤣. His worry melts my heart and makes me smile lol.

My husband and kids can close their arms around me, this is thenfirst time in my childrens lives they have ever been able to do that. I can run. I can cross my legs! I find myself doing this even in the car! 😂

My recently I bought 2 pairs of leggings at target from the womens department... NOT the plus size wall, the actual Womens section. Yes they are a 2x from the womens department But they arent a 2xl from the plus size section which is bigger. I felt so proud 👏 🥲 🥰.

3 hours ago, eholmes89 said:

Amazing! You look amazing!
Totally agree … the mental impact it has seeing yourself so differently. I wasn’t ready for the emotion I felt when I really looked back at hold photos.

your hubby sounds perfect! The same as mine, i couldn’t have done this without him.
xx

Thank you for the encouragement 🥰

From 1 month lost op to 6 months post op. I am 130 lbs down from my start weight and 110lbs down from my day of surgery weight. AND 153 lbs down from my highest weight. I am still struggling with all this change, it is hard to believe the way I look. Then when I stalled I was so upset and afraid until my hubby pointed out that while I stalled on the scale I was winning in other places. My face was changing, he could wrap his arms around me and he had to hold higher up on his forarm to close completely around me. My arms are smaller, I have more stamina and strength. Thank God for his support, helping me to be strong and keep going.

I am 5 wks post op and have lost 30 lbs since surgery. Sometimes I feel like this is not enough weight loss and it is frustrating. Anyone else in the 30 lb since day of surgery?

At 3 weeks out I was able to remove the extension on my 44D bra for the first time in 10 years.

I am about 4 weeks post op fro Gastric Bypsss. I still can not hold down chicken, turkey, eggs, cauliflower rice, and some cheeses like a mozerrella in extra virgin olive oil. I am throwing up like every single day within 3-4 bites of my small meal. Thank God I am able to hold down the portein shakes and most cheeses otherwise I would be sunk.

Anyone else experience this? Was there Anything that made it easier to hold food down? Any tips or tricks? All advice would be greatly appreciated!

8 hours ago, ThanaK said:

Hi All

My last post I was a few days from Gastric Bypass.
Update: I’m happy to report that my Gastric Bypass on March 29, was a success. By that date I had already lost 20 lbs following my 4 week Optifast regimen. I was in hospital for 2 nights. I’ll be honest, this was the worst pain, nausea and gas pain I’ve ever experienced. And I’ve had quite a few procedures before, including a total abdominal hysterectomy. Thankfully the nursing staff were on top of it and they kept the pain & nausea meds coming. Gas pain persistent, inspite of how often I got up and walked to get rid of it. I was scheduled to be discharged by the 3rd day( March 31). By the way I felt on on the 30th I couldn’t possibly consider the thought of going of going home the next day. Nurses reassured me that, the 2nd day is always the worst day and that you’ll be surprised how much better you feel by the 3rd day. And they were right! Sometime during the night and early morning the pain lifted, and particularly gas pain moved out . Thank god! I’ve never felt so much relief in all my life! I was discharged as planned. I’m home now on full fluids and things are going well. I have been off pain meds since my discharge. I haven’t needed any. Trying to follow the sip every 15 min routine. Main focus is getting all my Protein & Water in everyday. Mostly doing Protein Shakes, cream of wheat & Soup broths.

Looking forward to purées which I’m supposed to start after week 2 post op.

You get to eat cream if wheat! You are so lucky! My surgeon has me on No Grains, no raw veggies, no fuits with seeds/skins, no red meat, no raw fish/shellfish and no starchy veggies. It is so difficult.

I have had to use my babys spoons to eat my pureed/fluid my 11 month old son yells at me when I use his spoons. 😅😍😍🤣😂😂😂

I just had my gastric bypass in March 25th. I can drink a protien shake in 30 minutes, I drink about 70-80 ounces waters in the day. My hard part is eating I am so tired of pureed food. I have 4 days left, then I can have soft foods. I am looking forwards to being further out. 😆

17 hours ago, alissajs said:

I would LOVE to be able to express my feelings and it just be a conversation. Unfortunately, based on experience he doesnt like any time I disagree with his actions and he will make it in to an argument.

This is coming from 21 years in a relationship. You have to speak your truth regardless of a fight or disagreement. You can not live your life scared to rock the boat that you are rowing. It is your marriage too and he doesnt get to say "dont disagree with me". Marriage is work, it is not going to be easy all the time. As long as you are safe speaking your truth speak it. If you are not safe speaking your truth, it maybe time to find a safe space for you to be and that maybe not woth your husband.

If it is on your mind, tell him and ask him to think of another response because he is going to get those kinds of comments. Good luck and know your feelings are worth being heard.

On 3/31/2021 at 12:08 PM, rkermis said:

Ugh I’m struggling with the same thing. Had RNY on March 25th. And I’m doing great on liquids I just want to put something in my mouth to chew on! It’s killing me. I still have 7 days left 😭😭

My Gastric Bypass surgery was march 25th too. I can not wait for the soft food diet!!

7 hours ago, HeatherE said:

Yes. I am soooo sick of the liquid diet. I have one week left, but I am really considering cheating, which is very unlike me.

I had two weeks pre-op liquid and tomorrow will make two weeks post-op liquid. Other programs allow purée and I’m dying for any type of real food!!! All I’ve had is Gatorade, Protein Drinks, and clear broth. I dont even like Gatorade.

I asked the doctor if I could start soft foods a week early and was told no. Trying to convince my husband to make me 1 scrambled egg or ricotta bake, but he won’t. I’m cranky,

Keeping counting dowm them days, I told my husband in 4 days right after my appointment we are going straight to get a scrambled egg 🤣🤣🤣 I dont even like eggs 😂😂😂😂😂

3 hours ago, Stina22xo said:

Hang in there I’m now 6 weeks and 5 days out and things are way better. You are stronger than you think, keep pushing

I am trying so hard to stay positive. I just keep telling myself so many more days. #4moredays🥴

1 hour ago, AntB86 said:

3 days post op now. Gas pain was the worst, but better today. Was able to drink Water the 2nd day, but in very small doses. Also able to eat broth, still a little sore on my left side, I’m assuming from where they took the stomach out of. But I’m so rdy to take on this new journey. 🙏🤗

The biddgest port definitely hurts the most. Wanna know some interesting information. If u have gastric bypass they leave the stomach inside 🤯 I dont know about the sleeve, since I have gastric bypass. But I thought that was very interesting when my surgeon told me that.

Glad you are progressing well. I m 8 days out and no more gas pain but still have muscle pain.

On 3/18/2021 at 6:09 PM, Studio54 said:

I have lost 24 lbs in 3 weeks since surgery. I think it’s too fast, but I am doing what I’m told to the letter. I get in 60 to 80 of Protein every day, all of my Water, and I’m staying around 600 cal. Not even a full month post op yet!! 😬

Are you doing any exercise or walking? I am trying to decide if I should start doing my aerobic walking youtube videos yet. I am exactly 7 days post op today. My class notebook says to add moderate walking in. For 15 minutes per day in the 2nd week. I want to start but I am also still having pain in my abdomen so I am unsure what to do.

On 2/24/2021 at 3:59 PM, Stina22xo said:

I’m one week and a day Post-op and told I had a mental breakdown because I physically sick of this liquid diet. It’s like food is everywhere ,Facebook, Instagram, TV. And my body just craves it all at this point. Did anyone else feel the same way?

I am totally feeling this today! I am exactly 1 week post op and I just want to eat some veggies or chew on some chicken. I am planning on eating miso Soup tomorrow for one of my meals and God how I wish I could just chew up the tofu myself! 😭

21 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

it usually takes up to a week for the first BM after surgery (after all, there's not much in there - plus it can take a few days for your system to "wake up" after anesthesia), so that's very common. And just a forewarning - that first one can be a doozy - so the milk of magnesia (or similar treatment - some of us took stool softeners) is probably a good idea.

most people do gain weight from the IV fluids they give you in the hospital (some people gain 10 or more lbs from it), and that can also take up to a week to work it's way out of your system. Just stay off the scale if you have to. It's all just Water - not true weight.

I think the above poster may be right that the fogginess and irritability may just be lingering effects from the anesthesia. Also, some women experience mood swings and a screwed up menstrual cycle the first few weeks after surgery, due to rapid changes in hormone levels, so there might be some of that going on, too. Just hang on - this is all temporary.

Buyer's remorse is common the first couple of weeks - I had it as well - but just hold tight. I think you'll be feeling a lot better about things in another week or two...

Thank you for your support. I really appreciate it, I am staying off the scale from now until next monday. How much walking did you do? Was it moderate or slow walking in the first few weeks?

21 hours ago, Creekimp13 said:

You're not failing. They pump you full of Fluid because you might struggle with dehydration. Swelling is an issue. Your body is reacting to surgery. Whole bunch of weird reasons why the scale is being....the scale. LOL.

Stay off the scale and work really hard at all of your little goals. Getting your fluids in. Drinking enough protien shake. Taking walks. You can do something about those thing....concentrate on what is within your power.

If you had a presurg liquid diet....chances are pretty good there's not that much to poop out. Walking helps constipation. Drinking Water helps.

If your sugar and hormones are all whackadoo...which they likely are after surgery....you might feel kinda unhinged and weird. I feel like a loon when I'm in ketosis...can't think well...brain fog so bad I'm scared to drive...so I feel ya. It'll get better.

I will stay off the scale, promise. Thank you for your post. I do kinda feel looney tunes right now 🙃

21 hours ago, ruthpets said:

1) I think the answer to your (TEMPORARY!!!!) struggles is anesthesia. It takes AT LEAST one week to recover from its after-effects, and longer for most!

2) It is also really, really common to have these "why did I do this????" thoughts!! I was prepared for this when I had an elective surgery several years ago. The surgeon gave us a packet that went into this issue at length and it is all temporary, I 100% promise you!!!! You are EXHAUSTED right now!! Your body is recuperating!!

As you probably have in read many, many posts in here on BP, the chorus line is "WHYYYYYYY didn't I do this earlier???" You have given yourself a tremendous gift - a second chance at health and...vibrancy!! This regret, remorse, what have I done feeling is going to pass!!

3) The 8.5# weight gain is also TEMPORARY. FAKE. WILL BE GONE VERY SOON. Remember that needle stuck on the back of your hand attached to the hat stand-looking thing with bags on it that you had to drag everywhere during your hospital stay (which I am going to gently remind you was only a MERE few days ago, my friend!! Be kind to yourself!!)? Those bags pumped your body with a lot - A LOT - of Fluid. That 'weight' is going to be gone, plus more, VERY VERY SOON!!!

So...I am hoping you find that place of optimism again very soon and please know that you have all of our support, encouragement & sincere wishes for your success and a brand new beginning!! Even if you don't feel it every second of the day during this journey - You've GOT this!!! You really do. xoxo

21 hours ago, ruthpets said:

1) I think the answer to your (TEMPORARY!!!!) struggles is anesthesia. It takes AT LEAST one week to recover from its after-effects, and longer for most!

2) It is also really, really common to have these "why did I do this????" thoughts!! I was prepared for this when I had an elective surgery several years ago. The surgeon gave us a packet that went into this issue at length and it is all temporary, I 100% promise you!!!! You are EXHAUSTED right now!! Your body is recuperating!!

As you probably have in read many, many posts in here on BP, the chorus line is "WHYYYYYYY didn't I do this earlier???" You have given yourself a tremendous gift - a second chance at health and...vibrancy!! This regret, remorse, what have I done feeling is going to pass!!

3) The 8.5# weight gain is also TEMPORARY. FAKE. WILL BE GONE VERY SOON. Remember that needle stuck on the back of your hand attached to the hat stand-looking thing with bags on it that you had to drag everywhere during your hospital stay (which I am going to gently remind you was only a MERE few days ago, my friend!! Be kind to yourself!!)? Those bags pumped your body with a lot - A LOT - of Fluid. That 'weight' is going to be gone, plus more, VERY VERY SOON!!!

So...I am hoping you find that place of optimism again very soon and please know that you have all of our support, encouragement & sincere wishes for your success and a brand new beginning!! Even if you don't feel it every second of the day during this journey - You've GOT this!!! You really do. xoxo

Thank you so much! I am trying so hard to find the optimism. Your words truly helped me thank you very much!

On 3/27/2021 at 10:07 PM, Jaelzion said:

I was given only two "never agains": popcorn and carbonated drinks. It varies from surgeon to surgeon. I've seen people on here say they were told no coffee ever again, and I was served coffee in the hospital with my Breakfast, LOL.

Why no popcorn?

I am on the pureed/liquid diet too I had Gastric Bypass 6 days ago. I have been relying on the 2-4 tablespoons measurements. I only had one time wherr I felt some pressure in my chest I think that was a full feeling.

I had Gastric Bypass March 25th, so about 6 days ago. I am very frustrated, I have been having some weird post op experiences I never expected to deal with. 1. Bad Constipation 2. Feeling incoherent at times, even being slightly combative 3. Feeling frustrated if not down right disappointed with myself.

So first I have had extremly bad constipation. I still havent had a full bowl movement, today, tuesday 3/30 I sent my husband to buy milk of magnesia to help. It has helped a little so hopefully things will get better the rest of this week. Secondly is anyone else incoherent and even combative at times? It only happens when I am waking up from a nap. After exercise or activity I get really tired and almost feel like i am in a fog so I take a nap. My husband wakes me up every hour to 2 hours to get me to drink some Water. When he does I am really out of it like I dont know whats going on but even worse I will argue with him. It scares him. Worse I dont really remeber it and I am not even medicated. I have been avoiding the pain medication to try to help relieve the constipation, so I know it is not drugs altering my perception. Its freaky!

Lastly I feel like I am failing or the surgery was a failure. I know its the iv and stuff and I shouldn't let it get to me but the scale is showing a weight gain of almost 8.5 lbs. Add that to the swelling from the surgery and I feel so disappointed. I cant shake it. I havent gotten back on the scale since everyone let me know it takes time to get rid of the IV fluids they pump into u in the hospital. I have to keep reminding myself "I AM NOT GOING TO CHECK IT AGAIN UNTIL THE 2 WEEK Post Op" which is 9 days away. But that doesnt make the bad thoughts go away.

I never thought I would deal with negative thoughts and feelings this close to the surgery! Anyone else struggling?

I feel like its just me failing and it sucks so much!