BigJay79

In order to lose consistent weight you have to shock your system every once in a while. Our bodies get use to the same foods and same routine and that is why u hit a snag. Switch it up a bit, take something away from your diet for two weeks and then see ur results. I was a huge pop/soda drinker. For two weeks I stopped drinking the pop/soda and I lost 15 pounds. I ate what I wanted but all I did was drink Water and nothing else. I lose that 15 pounds without doing anything drastic. Hope this helps.


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I would make suggest not drinking the smoothie before bed. I know for me when I get anything with sugar in it or any fruits higher in sugar I tend to get hungrier faster. U should try eating some nuts or many something like tuna before bed and follow it up with Water. I tend to sleep through the night without being hungry. Good luck!!


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Congratulations on getting your day!! [emoji323][emoji323][emoji323]

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You all are so lucky!! Please keep us newbies updated! Good luck everyone!

I had the gastric sleeve. I have been married to my husband for 17 years and I guess I wasn't really concerned about the scars. After 17 years of marriage and 4 children my body is a well used machine, I have many many scars and stretch marks and a story behind each one of them. I am hoping the weight loss will give us many many more years together and maybe I will look at plastics later on maybe I wont we will see what the future holds when it comes.
As far as the gas and the pooing, again, when you are with someone you really love, the human body makes little noise now and then and thats life. I could run to the bathroom everytime I need to toot, I can control it. I have never had to change my pants due to uncontrolled toots with chasers either.....I guess everyone in different. I find Constipation a problem more than the other and by golly if I have to poop and there is only one bathroom available and my hubby is in the shower or bath in the only one available you better bet your bottom dollar if I feel a movement coming on come hell or high Water I will be in that bathroom no matter who is in there, and I will be happy to be on the toilet!
Your stats isn't on your info so I do not know your age but I can tell you this, the older you get the less you care about the little things in life.
I wouldn't be ashamed of having WLS to get in control of your life. WLS is only a tool, the hard work will have to be done by you. I am happy to have my husbands help with this journey. He is also overweight and has decided to do the sleeve as well. So we will be doing a lot of lifestyle changes together.
Good Luck and Happy Holidays

Hey all, thanks so much for the advice and thoughts! It's definitely helpful to hear from those who have been through the same things.
He came with me to the initial consult and asked the doctor all kinds of questions that I hadn't even thought of, which was really nice, and he said he was satisfied with her answers. Since then, I've had a couple of appointments and he's interested in what I'm learning and how I think it's going. I'm also making some incremental changes in my diet/habits to start getting ready for this massive change, and he's been supportive so far. It seems like he mostly needed to get over the initial fear.
Thanks for also pointing out how spouses can start acting weird once it all starts sinking in; I'll try to be mentally prepared for that at least. My husband did make a comment about me getting skinny and leaving him, and I told him that if I wanted to leave I wouldn't be waiting to be skinny first lol! Still, it was a moment of vulnerability and I can work with that if I know what's bothering him.

I had to quit since I had my surgery on the 7 of March I'm about 3 to 4 weeks of post OP suppose to be on Cbd still smoking my pen

Congratulations

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I am 5'6 and weighed 252lbs at my highest(1 week before surgery) and 242lbs on day of surgery (7.27.20). You won't regret surgery. Since i have always carried my weight well and had thick thighs and a booty, I wondered if surgery was really the way to go for me too. I knew i was unhappy and overwhelmed by my weight gain but I was afraid of lose skin too. I have lost 60lbs in total and 50lbs since surgery a little over 3 months ago. I am 192 today and feel amazing. I am a bit concerned about lose skin on my arms but I'll take it with how confident I feel now. I feel more confident today at 192 then i did at 145 before i had kids! Lol. It makes no sense but I've had a complete mind shift with this surgery lol. Best of luck to u!

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Thanks for your reply I am 41 years old.

HI everyone,
I have been pondering weight loss surgery for a couple years now . I am currently enrolled in a program at my local Kaiser and am about to finish the nutrition classes which are required to qualify for surgery. I am 5'6 and weigh 242 lbs. I've always been the chunky girl not too big but definitely not skinny. I guess I am just scared that I won't be able to keep up with the requirements of the surgery such as living the healthy lifestyle or committing to exercise 5 times a week. Also I am scared of the excess skin.
I don't know if surgery is the way to go but at the same time I don't want to keep gaining weight. I am pre-diabetic and have a fatty liver I know this may be the beginning of more severe problems to come.
Any input is welcome :)

Hi, I'm new to this. Today I just got the call that I've been accepted into molina's bariatric program. Lots to do within the 6 month period! I'm trying to decide which surgery would be the safest way to go and less invasive gastric sleeve or gastric bypass?? Also does anyone have any tips on losing the 15 lbs required for the surgery?
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Hi Cellbell!🤗
I haven’t had my surgery yet (scheduled for the 23rd of November), however this is bigger then just a surgery. This is your life. I think some of us want so much to comfort and give to others we forget ourselves. Possibly this has a lot to do with our weight in the first place. As everyone else has said, it is a very personal serious choice, one I have been weighing for years. Like all the other stories, in that time did I lose weight, even substantial weight, yep! But I gained it and more and am now at my heaviest ever in my life. All the while trying to lose weight I was thinking I know more, I’m the most committed ever, I even quit my job to focus just on me and weight loss. I failed big time. Why? Because I still put everyone else first. Doing WLS will force me to take care of me. I’ve been married 25 years, I hear the love and concern you have for each other. Take a walk, go sit in a garden or on a mountain and just think, what do you want? Then commit! It’s hard, but you can do hard things, you’ve lived overweight in an obese hating world for 25 years! Hope you are able to find peace. Also, doctors do think their method (surgery) is best, that doesn’t mean their wrong😁. Wishing you the best of luck as you work through this with your tender husband. You got this!!

at a BMI of 51, it's unlikely you'll be able to lose most of your excess weight and keep it off. Nothing against you at all, but fewer than 5% of people are able to do that on their own. I spent literally decades gaining and losing the same 50-ish pounds - and I had over 200 to lose. No way in h*ll was I ever going to lose that on my own, if I couldn't even keep 50 off, despite my best efforts. Maybe you'll be one of the people who can - but the statistics are against you. It's tough to lose that much weight - even WITH weight loss surgery it's tough, and some people do fail because of that, but it's a powerful tool that'll greatly increase your chance of success. (I know that YOU probably know this, but it sounds like your husband doesn't...)
at one time weight loss surgeries were very risky, but they're not anymore. They've come a long way. Mortality rate on gastric bypass is 0.3%, for sleeve it's even lower (I can't remember the stat on that one since I had the bypass). Major complications are also rare. I was scared of it for many years, too, but I finally came the conclusion that staying at over 300 lbs put me at greater risk than having the surgery. I am SO GLAD I did it and would do it again in a heartbeat! I just wish I hadn't waited so long to do it!
It may help if your husband started doing research on the surgeries - or reading books such as "Weight Loss Surgery for Dummies". Or maybe he could go with you to a consult. He's probably freaked because he doesn't know a lot about them. Hopefully armed with some good information, he'll start to come around!

I had the RNY bypass only last week but had been thinking about wls for some time. My husband was exactly the same as yours - very anxious about the risks of the operation and not understanding why I couldn't just lose through dieting as I had in the past. Anybody who has not been obese/morbidly obese almost certainly doesn't understand the issues around weight gain/loss for those who are. I had various co-morbidities and once I decided that I was going ahead with the surgery, just powered through his anxieties by saying I'd rather die of the surgery than spend 10 years having limb amputations due to diabetes.
The day before my surgery somebody recommended to me Dr Matthew Weiner's book - How Weight Loss Surgery Really Works - and I read this immediately before my surgery. It validated all of my decision making and I highly recommend reading it if you're undecided about the surgery. If you, like me, are a yo-yo dieter who can lose weight on a diet and then gradually regains it all - it will resonate with you and give insights.
Good luck with the decision making!

The decision whether to have the surgery or not is a very big decision because once you have the surgery you can't exactly go back and change your mind... I bounced around back and forth about whether or not to have WLS for about 10 YEARS. I did numerous diets and nothing worked. Eventually it was the realization that if I DIDN'T do something about my weight and my declining health because of that weight then I wouldn't be around to watch my three nieces grow up. I was a little over month away from my 32nd birthday and 389 pounds with a BMI of 61.8 (I'm 5'6.5, they don't give you that half inch on this site) when I took the first steps by seeing the bariatric surgeon I learned my brother was going to be having another daughter. And 2.5 months AFTER my surgery I learned my sister was pregnant again and just 2 weeks ago gave me my first nephew.
I'm not going to tell you that surgery is the option for you, because every person is different. Surgery is very much a tool to help you get to heathier eating habits that'll help lead you to a healthier you. It is in no way easy. People who tell you WLS is the easy way out are ridiculous and know absolutely nothing about everything involved. It's a life choice. I will be on Vitamins, expensive vitamins, for the rest of my life. But do I regret it? No, I don't. Would I do it all over again knowing everything I know now? Yes, I would. But again, this is very much my own choice and you are your own person. I was 321 pounds on my surgery date and the last I weighed was a little over a week ago and I weighed in at 218 which is 103 pounds since my surgery and 171 pounds overall.
I suggest you weigh the pros and cons. Think long and hard about everything WLS would mean to you and how it would change your life. It's understandable that your husband is worried because surgery of any kind has risks, but the risks nowadays for WLS are pretty low. Go over statistics with him if it'll help relieve his mind a bit. Take him to appointments with you if you feel it'll help. Maybe sit him down and explain just why this step is something you feel you NEED for yourself.

Hi all, I'm just starting the journey so I've been reading and researching a lot! I attended a seminar and I have my first individual consultation later this week. My concern right now is with my husband. He's technically overweight on the charts, but has never been obese and hasn't gone through that experience--he can shop in regular stores, sits in middle seats at concerts, and actually prefers booths at restaurants. My experience is pretty opposite, as I've been big since I was 15 (25 years ago lol!), and have ballooned up to a BMI of 51, the highest ever.
When I first brought up the idea of WLS, I positioned it as a tool to give me a head start on the weight loss and to give me some time to develop healthy eating habits without starting so far behind. I think he's really nervous about surgery in general because he started tearing up and said that he's really scared, so we talked about the risks of surgery vs the risks of staying this obese, and so on. I thought he was coming around to the idea since he said he supports it, and when I talk about going to the "fat people clinic," he corrects me and says that it's just a tool. It's super sweet actually!
Now he's started offering new diet suggestions instead. He's seen me go through a number of diets in the last eight years, though I'll admit I've given up a little in the past couple of years, but he hasn't seen the whole history. He thinks that because I do really well with losing weight when I stick to a diet, I just need to do a better job of sticking to one, but I keep telling him that if it were that easy for me, I would have done it already! Just today, he suggested "what if you do the Keto diet but this time cut out all artificial sweeteners? I really think that's why you had trouble before."
I understand that he's scared, but it's making me question myself a little. Do I really need to try every different variation of all the diets out there? I've also never really tried any of the prescription weight loss drugs (outside of some bronkaid/coffee stacking experimentation that was super unhealthy in a number of ways). Is there more due diligence before I give surgery such heavy thought? The other part of this is that he thinks that the doctors are only interested in their profit and won't give me accurate information, and while I believe that they deserve to earn a living, I have some trust in the hippocratic oath. I do understand that when you have a hammer (or scalpel?), every problem becomes a nail (or surgery lol).
Anyway, I know this isn't a relationship advice site but I thought others may have encountered a similar situation! I'm venting a little but would appreciate your thoughts!

Hi, I'm getting my gastric band surgery in 3 days! I cannot wait to stop drinking all this milk lool. Is there anyone getting surgery on Monday too?
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You have to shock up your system. If you have a normal eating routine switch it up, and walk more if you can. Water in take is super important. You lost a lot of weight and when u hit that stall shocking the system and changing things up will help. Don't let your body get use to to same routine of foods. If u have been eating chicken stop that for two weeks and eat fish. Or visa versa. We need variety.

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Sacramento, California in the USA! Sleeved on 12/2/19.

Great Post. You are definitely paying attention to your new body which is going to help you overall during your journey. What really stuck for me on this post is the part where you speak about the bag and how you can feel the sleeve on your collarbone which is now probably more pronounced. Keep up the good work. People say it takes about a good year after you have completed the peaj off your weight lost before you start to feel better in your new body.

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I think it's a GREAT thing that you're having your surgery at a younger age than many of us. You'll be able to minimize the damage done to your body by being overweight and hopefully you'll have fewer issues with after-effects like loose skin than those of us who had surgery when we were older. You have your whole lifetime to enjoy the benefits of being healthier and slimmer. It may be more of a challenge to fit your new way of eating into your social life, etc. but I think the benefits will so far outweigh the challenges that you'll be super glad you did it. 😄

Hi I’m just looking for anyone who can help ease all the thoughts in my head. Lol I’m up for surgery in January and I’m only 23 I’ve always been pretty big my whole life so this whole losing weight thing is a very scary and happy journey. Anybody have any advise. Thank you ❤️

Hey I'm from southwest Ohio. I had the sleeve in Jan of 2018. Down about 165lbs. At a stall right now. Been single for a while. Anyone in my area?!
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Yes!!!! I 100% know that feeling. I have also never had anyone say anything. I could have an amazing night clothed then when things get intimate I get so anxious and self conscious. Then nothing is said, everything is fine...... but the thought is still in my head! I think if I wont hear from him again because he was grossed out or wonder if he would tell others.
Like I said it's never happened and I'm aware it's all in my head but that awareness doesnt just make it go away. I'm still a work in progress!

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