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You give me hope - I’m full-blown losing hair for 2 months now and it doesn’t feel like an end in sight.

You look fantastic! #Batwingsunite

I just hit (6) months and I'm starting to feel this way, too. Literally, I typed "i hate food" so I could find stories to relate to this. More than likely it's a good thing, feeling like it's a chore to eat, eating to stop the shakes, or prevent fainting; but it seems like a phase? Oh well. Hope it gets better, Suzi!

I like the tuna one because I still struggle with chicken/pork.

Hey Tim. This was a struggle for me after surgery, too. My first BM after surgery occurred after 10 days. Almost 6 months now, if I go once a week then it’s a win for me, but currently averaging 7-9 days between BMs.

I’m going to echo Deb. When I hit my first stall, I upped my Water intake. Immediately broke the stall. These days, water wins over Protein for me. If I hit my protein goal, it’s great, but if I don’t oh well. But I definitely got my water in. 174 lbs and I get at least 80oz of water a day.

How about feeling tired? I never felt tired or noticed any symptoms pre-surgery. But the last few periods seem to be taking a toll on me. I’m tired, more hungry, craving sugar?! When I’m not on my period, I feel ‘normal.’

It’s great to hear that you recognize and acknowledge the cause - now let’s get to work! I use small dishes, chopsticks or kid utensils. I weigh each meal. I cut the food up and maybe even mush it. I take a bite and read or look at phone while I chew, chew, chew. I’m more aware of what goes in my mouth. Do I like it? Will I eat it again later? Too salty? It’s become very very routine. I’m at 4 months only - but I find food does not control me anymore. I choose when to eat, what to eat, how much - not it. And it feels great.

They say males lose quicker than females. My surgery was 9-17-20 - it’ll be (4) months on 1-17-21. Just 55 lbs so far. Recording each meal helped, too.

Aside from your height, I had similar story: 37 years, female, 40+ BMI, no co-morbidities. My insurance covered surgery if I was at least >40 BMI. I wasn’t asked to lose weight prior to surgery due to nothing else to qualify me for coverage. I think it was one of the best decisions I made and spent (2) years thinking about it. Best of luck to you!

That’s awesome! Especially because you have each other to immediately support one another! Biggest challenge for me is getting the headspace right. I deal with this by doing a lot of prep. Planning out meals for me vs meals for family, Vitamins, Water.

I have anywhere from 4-5 (10oz-12oz cups) herbal teas a day and include it as water intake alongside normal water consumption.

Because it’s your mother, that is just super terrible. Has she supported you in anything else in your life? Is it her way of “joking” with you? For me, my MIL does this to me. I do not share my “victories” but she lives with me and sees the actual changes. Yes, she will say, “B****, I’m so jealous” or make other snide remarks. I choose to ignore and let it go because she doesn’t have enough tact or ability to express herself in a better way. I really don’t know how to respond to her comments, so I don’t. You don’t need this during your process! Love and support to you!

With this, I had to train my brain. The physical restriction is coming from your stomach, but brain training is all us. I've gotten used to weighing each portion before I eat. I have set meal times. As mentioned above, I use small plates, small spoons. No liquids with meals, etc. It's become routine so I know I'm training my brain to have a new normal. I've found my routine, but I still am experimenting with foods. Best of luck to you!

My surgery was 9/17. Currently I’m still only managing

Dr. Vuong says loose skin is a badge of honor. I’m going to keep that in my head when I get there. I’m looking forward, to be like you ❤️.

1 month - 300-500 a day.

I watched Dr. Vuong YouTube vids to help my headspace and how to move forward with this “second chance.” Treating my new stomach like it’s own entity definitely helps me want to do better. He has a video on common pitfalls that will lead you back to square 1 - I keep those in mind because I want to prevent that from happening to me.

What is your water intake? I’d say track this closely. If the body is constantly dehydrated, it will tend to hold on to water.

Maybe separate the points. He supports your WLS, but that is different from his insecurities concerning the future of your marriage. Is his concern valid? Only you know that answer.

Healthcare team had me move to soft foods on week 2. I was able to meet fluid requirements. I was able to tolerate puréed meat, mushed hard-boiled egg.

I echo that - drinking Water assuaged a lot of hunger. I’m heavy on hot pepper sauce when I want to keep hunger at bay, too. You may or may not be able to tolerate that. But the spice keeps my body preoccupied. Edit: Sorry! No band here. Feel free to disregard.

9/17 Surgery - it felt better by day 7-8. I still have an achy abdominal if too much activity.

You are being hard on yourself. My heart goes out to you for your loss. Give yourself that time to grieve. If you do not give yourself time to process, it will manifest in another way. When you are ready to focus back on yourself, I have no doubt self-care will come back to you. If you want to somehow place a little control in your current situation, you could seek out alternative solutions: SF-cookies, SF-whip cream, etc. Be kind to yourself!

I'm almost 2 weeks post-op and I'm feeling the same with energy levels. I think it's the lack of calories? So I'm forcing myself to eat the SF-jello and puddings for calories. My main meals are protein-based: pureed chicken, fish, hard-boiled eggs, soups, broths. I'm almost starting to think this is normal right now.