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I haven't had any THC since last summer - however I have neighbors that smoke weed on their porch and in their bathroom and the smell gets into my apartment pretty strongly... I am wondering if this is going to show up in my drug screening before surgery and make me look like a liar 😞

I mean, it is every.single.day that I walk through my hallway and it's like someone is smoking in the next room with the door open. When they are smoking on their porch and I'm on mine, I have to go inside it's so strong.

You look so amazing! Except your pants are just hanging on you. Get thyself to a thrift store or department store and get some pants that fit 🙂 Congratulations on your transformation!

Would Unjury chicken Stock qualify? https://unjury.com/products/unjury-protein/chicken-soup-flavor.html

3 hours ago, ruxaradu said:

While I feel very good at the current weight yesterday someone told me "oh your surgery must not have been successful since you've plateau for so long" and hearing this just hurts.

I don't know the answer to your question, but you have my permission to tell this person who said that to you to f*ck right off. They don't live in your body, you do, and if you feel good at that weight, then you don't need their opinion. Opinions are like a$$holes... everyone has one and some are stinkier than others.

@over65 what app is that? Is it Fit Bit?

20 minutes ago, Stella S said:

The BMI calculator is not really a scale that measures health. Seems to me if doctors measure their success by getting others out of the morbidly obese area their success is higher. I encourage you to chart your own course and be your own judge!

I do agree with you here for sure - everyone's picture of health comes at a different weight. She might be trying to decide between surgeries though and I know I pored over different statistics seeing which surgery would bring me closer to the weight I wanted to be at without too many risks and the best chance of long term success.

12 minutes ago, BriarRose said:

OK so my math is really lousy..... IF someone weighed 300 pounds and their desired weight was 145, then the excess weight would be 175 pounds. 60% of 175 is 105 pounds putting weight at 194 to be considered a success.

You're close - 300 - 145 = 155 . 60% of 155 is 93, putting the end weight at 207.

The desired weight is not what is used in this equation though. It is bone and muscle mass. That is determined usually by a special scale at the dr's office. If 145 was the weight of the bone and muscle mass then this equation would be correct.

For example, I weighed 260 at the doctor's at my initial visit - the scale found 130 of that to be bone and muscle and the other 130 to be excess weight. So using the same formula, I'd lose 60% of 130, so 78 lbs, putting my "success" weight at 182.

Does this help?

How is your weight loss now @vanessa.0419 ? Are you feeling better about your results?

I like to measure my results by how I feel and how my clothes fit more than numbers on a scale... but at my weight the scale needs to move too lol

P.S. I'm still pre-op I'm not sure how to get this darn thing on the left to change, I decided on RnY but haven't gotten it yet.

Same height- I was in my 20’s, jogged, worked out - and at 135 you could see my ribs. Was not a good look. 140 is the lowest I want to go. I’m also 2 more kids later and 50 years old now so 150 seems reasonable.

Many ppl who are low on testosterone can take testosterone, but it’s usually in shot or skin cream form. Pill is prob viagra or similar. (The original poster was from 2014 prob not still here)

My dr had me make my own goal weight, based on how I feel in my skin at that weight.

On 7/16/2020 at 9:15 AM, over65 said:

I did NOT appreciate dietitian's snide remark that I "needed to get with program before my restriction doesn't work anymore." I showed her my diet diary and photos of contents of fridge and cupboards (only Fairlife shakes). I live alone and staying at home for 3 months due to covid. I honestly think she thought I must be pigging out on junk food. Really made me mad but I did not respond anymore. Why do dietitians say things like that when I am clearly "with the program."

THIS!!!!!! I am so tired of medical professionals not believing me when I say "I ate 1200 cal/day for 3 months and lost only 3 lbs". I did not cheat. Yes that really happened. I logged every morsel I put in my mouth. Just because you can't figure out why my body is not losing doesn't mean I am cheating.

Thanks @CephalopodLove ! My next nutritionist appt is Aug 25, and if she is happy with my progress, my surgical team will send my packet to insurance for final approval, and as soon as insurance gives a thumbs up (they get 30days to respond) I'll get a date. It seems like forever but I am trying to be patient. Some months in my life go so fast and others creep by!

There is also a "Weight Loss Surgeons and Hospitals" forum that you might try asking this question on. I found info on the hospital I was using there even when a search of all boards didn't come up with good results.

And also, don't forget the psychologist that is on your weight loss care team is always available to help with bumps in the road regarding your weight. At least I just had my first appointment with mine, and that's what she told me. Use the tools you have, and keep prioritizing your health, however you can. You went through a lot to get here!

I'm so glad you were able to get this done when you did. I have seen more than one post from someone from FL that had their surgery postponed because of the 'rona. Phew!

Congratulations all of you! That's awesome! I can't wait for my date!

On 7/14/2020 at 7:53 AM, BigSue said:

I am also an advocate for fat acceptance and plan to continue to be even after I lose weight. I think it is important for people of all sizes to advocate for fat acceptance. You are probably right that you'll take some flack from the fat acceptance community for getting WLS, but there's no reason you can't lose weight for your own health while still advocating for fat people to be treated right.

YES!!!!! I was and still am an advocate for fat acceptance. I learned to love myself just the way I was... Until my bloodwork started coming back with struggling organs... I wasn't able to tie my shoes... I couldn't walk without pain...

Each of us has the right to choose what to do with our bodies. When we are fine and when we need help. It's not hypocritical at all. Self love is important at all shapes and sizes.

I am eager to see what everyone is getting, I have thought about doing this and haven't finalized on a design yet. But I have 110 lbs before that happens so I have some time

+1 on Geneen Roth books, she has definitely BTDT and has great advice.

This might be a silly question but why do you think you're doing something wrong? 1-3 lbs of variation between days is totally normal, based on how much Water you drank/got rid of, whether you pooped the day before, etc. Don't sweat it.

This is why I never weigh myself more often than weekly.

So longer is more malabsorption (bypassed more area)? or shorter (i have a shorter small intestine)?

Yes please send that to your dr, I had something that looked like that once, and it was an extremely antibiotic resistant infection 😞

Hi all and thanks for all the support so far!

After reading all over this board, looking at med journal articles online, and talking to different people on my care team I am 90% sure I'm going to do the Roux en Y (with any luck in Sept/Oct). I have seen a few articles and references to different mm lengths for the roux limb... what does this do? Does shorter mean less absorption = more weight loss? Of course I'm going to ask my surgeon before I make a final decision but I want to have some knowledge under my belt first. Bonus for links to articles online. and THANK YOUUUUUUU

Even if you had to do 2 different surgeons, it sure would be great to use the same time off work for both. Do you have help at home if it's hard to prepare your meals/etc after surgery?