MandoGetsSleeved

Crossing my legs!

I shop on thredUP! I love it. Their pictures are bad and the descriptions are worse but I’ve gotten some super deals. My advice
1. There’s a promo code going on all the time, so don’t buy without one.
2. There are great and terrible deals- ignore the retail prices listed. Set what you’re willing to pay per item.
3. Shop by brand. I buy a lot of Ann Taylor, loft, limited, ModCloth, stitchfix brands, etc there. I know how these brands fit me.
4. Overall it’s a lot of fun- not every item is a winner but enough are that I have made multiple hauls!

No worries...for what it is worth. I may come off cold at times but I am truly trying to help. I truly believe that people can be successful in their journey if they get out of their own way and commit. Some people need a good boot in the ass at times to open their eyes and get serious.

As an ESGer myself, it is crystal clear that the procedure should have NEVER been done in the first place. The OP does not have and most likely never had the mindset needed in order for the ESG procedure (or any other type of WLS) to be successful. Shame on the clinic who preformed the procedure. With that being said, OP you wanted a quick, easy fix. Sorry, it just doesn't work that way.

Sacrifices DO suck, but that's called being an adult. I don't want to do my expense reports but I have to if I want to keep my job. I don't want to do my laundry or take a shower, but I have to because that's what an adult does.
I HATE exercise, but I do it anyway, because it gets me to my goals. I miss eating big Desserts and big meals, definitely. If you're looking for sympathy, you've got mine.
But... if you want your outcomes to change, you have to change your inputs

All,
I was attacked by another member for telling a poster what I think is the truth to try to give them some tough love and open their eyes to what is happening. When people post on here, it is not a stretch to assume that they have a real problem and are looking at real solutions. What good does it do to reassure people that they are just fine and they are doing the right thing just to make them feel good. They are on here because they have a problem they need help with. If they want to solve the problem, sometimes they are going to have to hear something that may not make them smile. Sometimes the truth hurts and in order to come to a solution, you have to look at everything realistically to make the corrections needed.
I was accused of purposely being unhelpful and I take offense to that. I have posted many more encouraging posts to people than the opposite because most people here just need a little reassurance and they are doing the right things to be successful. Once in a while, people are not doing what their surgical team recommends or may be doing things counterproductive and I have said that point blank. Does that make me a "mean" person as this person accused me of? Maybe, but maybe, just maybe the original poster needed to hear the "mean" truth in order to understand what needs to be done.
Bottom line is, if people post on here, I again assume they want people to be truthful and helpful, not just be a cheerleader and try to make them feel better. They will feel better when they are successful in their journey.

Gonna make some assumptions here ... You lost weight (quickly), felt great, found out early on because there was SO MUCH restriction that you could pretty much eat whatever you wanted and not gain weight because of the super small portions, quit tracking, quit weighing daily because clothes fit? Then slowly... noticed those new clothes were getting tight? If yes to all (or any) of the above.... well... life happens.
Getting back on track is/was tough for me. It's easy to SAY "go back to the basics" - It's much harder to do (at least for me). My advice is to start tracking, change one thing at a time (leave one bad food that's become a habit at a time). Weigh yourself often. Don't let YOU lie to YOU. For me at least, tracking and weighing helps keep me in check. Even if it's just eating bad food one day or even multiple days (this weekend was steak quesadillas for example, but when I tracked them I was conscious of how many calories I was putting into my body and stopped at 2 pieces). Even if I get lazy and don't track, I weigh. Holds me accountable and keeps 2-3lbs from becoming 10-15lbs.
Know you aren't alone in the journey - Know you're probably going to screw up. It's OK - Just let yesterday be yesterday and try to do better the next day. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

What Catwoman says - I'm almost 3 years out and the restriction is definitely still there. What you will learn over time is that some foods will fill you up MUCH quicker than others. Some will sit heavier than others. These will vary from person to person (I know, it makes no sense). Example, my buddy who had the same surgery at about the same time and with the same surgeon can eat a whopping 2 chicken wings before he's done. I can easily eat 3-4 of the same wings. Meanwhile, lobster - That guy can tear through a lobster like it's nothing. Me; I can maybe eat half of it. The only thing I can think of is the speed of which we eat because AFTER he eats that lobster he's pacing the floor and walking it off for an hour!
I think what a lot of people figure out (I know I have) is you CAN out eat the sleeve if you try. This can be by grazing constantly, eating slider foods (anything that goes right through or you chew into nothing - think soft foods like ice cream or hard foods like potato chips), or contantly overeating. For me, I found that around 8 months or so that's where I found my new normal as far as how much I could eat at a normal meal and even today if I put more than 6-8ox of food total (protein and vegetables) on my plate I can't even consider eating all of it. Usually it's more in the 4-5 oz range total and I'm full and not uncomfortable at 3 years out.

Gonna make some assumptions here ... You lost weight (quickly), felt great, found out early on because there was SO MUCH restriction that you could pretty much eat whatever you wanted and not gain weight because of the super small portions, quit tracking, quit weighing daily because clothes fit? Then slowly... noticed those new clothes were getting tight? If yes to all (or any) of the above.... well... life happens.
Getting back on track is/was tough for me. It's easy to SAY "go back to the basics" - It's much harder to do (at least for me). My advice is to start tracking, change one thing at a time (leave one bad food that's become a habit at a time). Weigh yourself often. Don't let YOU lie to YOU. For me at least, tracking and weighing helps keep me in check. Even if it's just eating bad food one day or even multiple days (this weekend was steak quesadillas for example, but when I tracked them I was conscious of how many calories I was putting into my body and stopped at 2 pieces). Even if I get lazy and don't track, I weigh. Holds me accountable and keeps 2-3lbs from becoming 10-15lbs.
Know you aren't alone in the journey - Know you're probably going to screw up. It's OK - Just let yesterday be yesterday and try to do better the next day. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

Gonna make some assumptions here ... You lost weight (quickly), felt great, found out early on because there was SO MUCH restriction that you could pretty much eat whatever you wanted and not gain weight because of the super small portions, quit tracking, quit weighing daily because clothes fit? Then slowly... noticed those new clothes were getting tight? If yes to all (or any) of the above.... well... life happens.
Getting back on track is/was tough for me. It's easy to SAY "go back to the basics" - It's much harder to do (at least for me). My advice is to start tracking, change one thing at a time (leave one bad food that's become a habit at a time). Weigh yourself often. Don't let YOU lie to YOU. For me at least, tracking and weighing helps keep me in check. Even if it's just eating bad food one day or even multiple days (this weekend was steak quesadillas for example, but when I tracked them I was conscious of how many calories I was putting into my body and stopped at 2 pieces). Even if I get lazy and don't track, I weigh. Holds me accountable and keeps 2-3lbs from becoming 10-15lbs.
Know you aren't alone in the journey - Know you're probably going to screw up. It's OK - Just let yesterday be yesterday and try to do better the next day. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

I'm gonna go old school - Take your shakes/protein Water and don't worry about it. If you're comfortable telling folks about the surgery, my experience at work events was that everyone was really cool with it and often went out of their way to accomodate me (not pushing food or making it awkward when I wasn't eating).

I'm gonna go old school - Take your shakes/protein Water and don't worry about it. If you're comfortable telling folks about the surgery, my experience at work events was that everyone was really cool with it and often went out of their way to accomodate me (not pushing food or making it awkward when I wasn't eating).

Interesting take on this. Self reflecting….my “fat” days I think are either grazing days or when I get hungry (or think I’m hungry)

Super easy - A bit of mayo, some mustard and stir it up. Once you're on solids add some chopped up pickle (wait for this for now) and/or jalepeno if you like spicy.

Super easy - A bit of mayo, some mustard and stir it up. Once you're on solids add some chopped up pickle (wait for this for now) and/or jalepeno if you like spicy.

Arabesque is POINT ON with the body dysmorphia. I went from a size 24 to a size 10. I'm currently obesssed with losing another 20lbs because there are days that I *feel* 300lbs. It's definitely a mind @*$& sometimes. Something stupid... I've been in 10's for a good year now - Yesterday I went to banana Republic and bought a pair of pants - I didn't try them on and just KNEW I was a size 12. Got them home and my husband just laughed at them falling off me. We'll probably always have some sort of mind screw if you were overweight for a long time- whether you feel like you're a size 2 or a size 20, it's just part of the journey I think.

Super easy - A bit of mayo, some mustard and stir it up. Once you're on solids add some chopped up pickle (wait for this for now) and/or jalepeno if you like spicy.

For me, never stop tracking and logging. I am terrible at mindful eating... Etc. so I have to log every morsel I eat and drink I sip. This alone brings me complete awareness to stay on track and/or alerts me if I need help.

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1) Continue the plan that has proven successful;
2) Get off the scale;
3) Don't try to fix it when it's not broken;
Good luck,
Tek

What Catwoman says - I'm almost 3 years out and the restriction is definitely still there. What you will learn over time is that some foods will fill you up MUCH quicker than others. Some will sit heavier than others. These will vary from person to person (I know, it makes no sense). Example, my buddy who had the same surgery at about the same time and with the same surgeon can eat a whopping 2 chicken wings before he's done. I can easily eat 3-4 of the same wings. Meanwhile, lobster - That guy can tear through a lobster like it's nothing. Me; I can maybe eat half of it. The only thing I can think of is the speed of which we eat because AFTER he eats that lobster he's pacing the floor and walking it off for an hour!
I think what a lot of people figure out (I know I have) is you CAN out eat the sleeve if you try. This can be by grazing constantly, eating slider foods (anything that goes right through or you chew into nothing - think soft foods like ice cream or hard foods like potato chips), or contantly overeating. For me, I found that around 8 months or so that's where I found my new normal as far as how much I could eat at a normal meal and even today if I put more than 6-8ox of food total (protein and vegetables) on my plate I can't even consider eating all of it. Usually it's more in the 4-5 oz range total and I'm full and not uncomfortable at 3 years out.

Arabesque is POINT ON with the body dysmorphia. I went from a size 24 to a size 10. I'm currently obesssed with losing another 20lbs because there are days that I *feel* 300lbs. It's definitely a mind @*$& sometimes. Something stupid... I've been in 10's for a good year now - Yesterday I went to banana Republic and bought a pair of pants - I didn't try them on and just KNEW I was a size 12. Got them home and my husband just laughed at them falling off me. We'll probably always have some sort of mind screw if you were overweight for a long time- whether you feel like you're a size 2 or a size 20, it's just part of the journey I think.

You’re experiencing body dysmorphia. It’s weird because you can logically tell yourself your weight is okay & there is the evidence on the scale, the size of your clothes, etc. But then there is a emotional side which is very powerful that tells you that’s not you. You’re still fat, etc. That is the struggle.
It takes time to see how you are now. I’d walk past widows & mirrors & wonder who the slim person was. I’d even look about because the woman was wearing the same clothes as me. I remember staring at a pair of skinny jeans I’d bought because I couldn’t believe I could fit into something so small. You may think I’m crazy but I started to check the weight of actors who were a similar height to me so I would get a better understanding of my physical size. I found it helped.
A friend is having surgery soon to remove her excess skin (she has a lot) & has been causing a lot of body dysmorphia issues. She has been seeing a therapist to help how she sees herself but she feels while she can physically grab hold of her loose skin she won’t see the slim person underneath.
I didn’t do plastics. Many do. I don’t have a lot of loose skin. It doesn’t restrict me in my movements, cause me discomfort or limit how I dress. It’s a reminder if where I was & where I am now. It’s a personal decision whether you do have surgery or don’t.

What Catwoman says - I'm almost 3 years out and the restriction is definitely still there. What you will learn over time is that some foods will fill you up MUCH quicker than others. Some will sit heavier than others. These will vary from person to person (I know, it makes no sense). Example, my buddy who had the same surgery at about the same time and with the same surgeon can eat a whopping 2 chicken wings before he's done. I can easily eat 3-4 of the same wings. Meanwhile, lobster - That guy can tear through a lobster like it's nothing. Me; I can maybe eat half of it. The only thing I can think of is the speed of which we eat because AFTER he eats that lobster he's pacing the floor and walking it off for an hour!
I think what a lot of people figure out (I know I have) is you CAN out eat the sleeve if you try. This can be by grazing constantly, eating slider foods (anything that goes right through or you chew into nothing - think soft foods like ice cream or hard foods like potato chips), or contantly overeating. For me, I found that around 8 months or so that's where I found my new normal as far as how much I could eat at a normal meal and even today if I put more than 6-8ox of food total (protein and vegetables) on my plate I can't even consider eating all of it. Usually it's more in the 4-5 oz range total and I'm full and not uncomfortable at 3 years out.

Gonna make some assumptions here ... You lost weight (quickly), felt great, found out early on because there was SO MUCH restriction that you could pretty much eat whatever you wanted and not gain weight because of the super small portions, quit tracking, quit weighing daily because clothes fit? Then slowly... noticed those new clothes were getting tight? If yes to all (or any) of the above.... well... life happens.
Getting back on track is/was tough for me. It's easy to SAY "go back to the basics" - It's much harder to do (at least for me). My advice is to start tracking, change one thing at a time (leave one bad food that's become a habit at a time). Weigh yourself often. Don't let YOU lie to YOU. For me at least, tracking and weighing helps keep me in check. Even if it's just eating bad food one day or even multiple days (this weekend was steak quesadillas for example, but when I tracked them I was conscious of how many calories I was putting into my body and stopped at 2 pieces). Even if I get lazy and don't track, I weigh. Holds me accountable and keeps 2-3lbs from becoming 10-15lbs.
Know you aren't alone in the journey - Know you're probably going to screw up. It's OK - Just let yesterday be yesterday and try to do better the next day. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

CONGRATS! Words of advice... seriously eat SLOWLY and start with 1 egg. I thought people were smoking some serious drugs when they told me a single egg would make me full. I barely finished it in 20 mins or so and good grief, I swear it was the most glorious thing I'd ever eaten!