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Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
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I’m so sorry you’ve been disappointed by some of the responses here. I lurked on a couple of other forums but found this one by far the best. Overall it has been very supportive & there are some truly lovely people here. Yep, there have been the odd posts that have shamed or bullied but the supportive ones far out number them. I admit I once posted a response that upset the author. It certainly wasn’t my intention to do so & I made the comment as something she might consider as an option. I was so upset I had caused her distress. None of us are experts here & we can only post about our experiences, our own research or what we’ve been told by our medical support team & we just want to help. The sharing makes us feel less alone whether we’re the poster or responder.
I hope you give this forum another chance or you’re able to find another group you feel comfortable with (so important).
It’s so awful we are experiencing this pandemic at the same time you’ve made the decision to have weight loss surgery. Making the decision to proceed, all the steps you have to go through, the surgery & the the journey after are stressful enough without adding covid fears. I hope you have the support of your family &/or friends while you’re going through this.
Good luck with your surgery & your weight loss journey.

I like Siggis brand. High Protein and low carb. Not full of fake sweeteners. I like vanilla and cinnamon the best

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OMG! I finally made it to “one-derland”!!! After a one-month stall at 204.5, this feels great!! Great way to start the weekend!!! 🎉💃

Waiting for my surgery this coming Monday....thank you for the inspiration tonight. You look amazing, strong and happy.

I'll chime in and say get rid of them! I live in a hundred year old house with miniscule closets....so I have never really kept things piled up do to lack of room. I donated all my professional clothes and some formal wear to Dress for Success, and the rest to Goodwill. I have been aggressively shopping on line for a few key pieces at deep discounts to get through these stages...Thank goodness everything is on Zoom and I don't need to buy full suits. I have been pleasantly surprised by some great bargains on Evan Picone and Liz Clairborne at JC Penney on-line; I have gotten a couple of fully lined blazers for less than $30.00 each. I've bought some leggings and stretch jeans with some cute but inexpensive sweaters for casual. I'll invest in good clothes again when I stop losing weight, which I am hoping is a ways from now! Right now black leggings, black or white tank and a blazer or cardigan are my work uniform!

Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Today I "unsubscribed" from Lane Bryant emails! Although they served me very well through the years, no more plus sizes for me.
Sent from my SM-G965U using BariatricPal mobile app

Aw i understand. I went through all the emotions but possibly had diff concerns. It was an emotional rollercoaster preop. I thought I had insurance coverage for bariatric but was afraid the surgeon wouldn't agree that I needed it so I was scared and felt hopeless with my "new life" sitting in the hands of a stranger while he determined whether I could get this desperately needed new beginning. He quickly agreed and I was on top of the world until I called insurance 10mins later to see what kind of diet plan they required and was informed that bariatric was excluded from my plan. It crushed me because I didn't think my husband would agree to take out a loan to pay for it, as he's the sole provider for a family of 5 while I'm in college still. I pled my case, bawling my eyes out to my husband explaining how badly I wanted this, how I didn't want my children to have to shave my body hair and bathe me like I had to do for my mother because of her weight when I was a child, and I explained how ashamed I was for following in her footsteps and secretly judging her so critically when I was her caregiver. I felt the only way I could escape that shame and lose this excess weight would be to get a second chance through weightloss surgery because I had allowed it to go too far. Well he was very understanding and agreed we could take out the loan. I did all my preop classes, appts, and diet while still being on an emotional rollercoaster.. receiving good news about the process one day and a set back the next day... worrying the entire time whether I was choosing the correct surgery and obsessing over it literally all day everyday bc I didnt want to fail at my "one shot to get this right", having anxiety at every doc appt, not knowing how to finally make myself quit smoking after 16 years and being terrified they wouldnt give me the surgery if they found out I hadn't stopped, being afraid theyd fail me for the psych eval bc of all this anxiety, suffering through the liquid diet, and finally made it to the weekend of surgery! So excited again and just ready to get it over with until I got a call the day before surgery that I had tested positive for covid and the surgery would need to be rescheduled. I was asymptomatic and positive but everyone else in my house tested negative. I was so frustrated. I threw a fit inside myself and ate everything in sight while on quarantine, gaining all the weight back that i had lost preop. What i didnt know when i was being a brat is that they ended up scheduling me for just a month later, which still felt like an eternity to wait but i now i see wasnt very long at all...this reply is getting long bc im very long winded lol so ill quickly add the rest. I had surgery, way less pain than I expected, the hospital staff was amazing during covid, one night stay, went home and felt 100% better (except fatigue) after 2 weeks. Now 2 months out from sleeve ive lost 45lbs (35 post op) but also have no body aches and am feeling like myself again. I say all this to say, my frustrations and concerns may differ from urs but I understand the preop process is very difficult for everyone in different ways and we all just want to rush to our new beginning so we can do it right this time. Once u have surgery, it'll seem all the worrying and dreading wasnt even necessary because ur just so focused and grateful for the surgery that whatever may come is totally worth it and everything turned out fine in the end! Its such a blessing to watch ur body change, grow stronger and feel better.. to see urself become unhidden behind all that was once there..one exciting day at a time. Anyways, give urself permission to be hopeful, positive and expectant bc everything about ur life is about to change for the better! Again, sorry I can't help but blab! [emoji4][emoji1787]

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Welcome and Good Luck! I had my surgery in February; I am 61. I have lost a little over 70 pounds so far, and it is an unequivocal joy to me. I have been walking with my husband through the woods and on many trails; I am feeling so much younger and have so much more energy; I am enjoying buying clothes for the first time in years. I was very lucky in so far as my overall health before the surgery, in spite of obesity and yo-yo dieting, but I honestly did not know how TIRED I was from lugging around so much extra weight. Here is a list of things I don't dread anymore: stairs, booths, airplane seats (if we can ever fly again), walking around the block, tying my shoes! My knees ache less, my back aches less, I am wearing high heel boots occasionally, my resting heart rate is at 52. My husband, who is my biggest supporter and fan, jokes that he does not have to do the laundry anymore, because carrying the baskets from the 2nd floor to the basement is easy for me now! Go for it, you won't regret it.

Good luck! At my program (brigham & women in Boston) there is a private Facebook group. Your program may have something similar. Ask your nutritionist if they offer an online support group. There are several hospitals around me that do bariatric surgery. If that is true for you, contact them about online support.
I have found this forum helpful, and there are several posters who have consistently offered a great, non judgemental perspective, such as@catwoman7 and @ somerset. I can mostly ignore the obnoxious ones, but I'm an older curmudgeonly woman... once in awhile the food shaming or conduct shaming gets to me but i try not to engage. I agree "tough love " is often used to justify being a jerk. Hang in there, the results for most of us are worth it!


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Good luck! At my program (brigham & women in Boston) there is a private Facebook group. Your program may have something similar. Ask your nutritionist if they offer an online support group. There are several hospitals around me that do bariatric surgery. If that is true for you, contact them about online support.
I have found this forum helpful, and there are several posters who have consistently offered a great, non judgemental perspective, such as@catwoman7 and @ somerset. I can mostly ignore the obnoxious ones, but I'm an older curmudgeonly woman... once in awhile the food shaming or conduct shaming gets to me but i try not to engage. I agree "tough love " is often used to justify being a jerk. Hang in there, the results for most of us are worth it!


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Good luck! At my program (brigham & women in Boston) there is a private Facebook group. Your program may have something similar. Ask your nutritionist if they offer an online support group. There are several hospitals around me that do bariatric surgery. If that is true for you, contact them about online support.
I have found this forum helpful, and there are several posters who have consistently offered a great, non judgemental perspective, such as@catwoman7 and @ somerset. I can mostly ignore the obnoxious ones, but I'm an older curmudgeonly woman... once in awhile the food shaming or conduct shaming gets to me but i try not to engage. I agree "tough love " is often used to justify being a jerk. Hang in there, the results for most of us are worth it!


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Good luck! At my program (brigham & women in Boston) there is a private Facebook group. Your program may have something similar. Ask your nutritionist if they offer an online support group. There are several hospitals around me that do bariatric surgery. If that is true for you, contact them about online support.
I have found this forum helpful, and there are several posters who have consistently offered a great, non judgemental perspective, such as@catwoman7 and @ somerset. I can mostly ignore the obnoxious ones, but I'm an older curmudgeonly woman... once in awhile the food shaming or conduct shaming gets to me but i try not to engage. I agree "tough love " is often used to justify being a jerk. Hang in there, the results for most of us are worth it!


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This site was created with rules and safeguards so that it can remain a safe place, so most of the time it is.
Please report anything/anyone that doesn't meet the standards, that's the one of the ways to remove the negativity.
The other way is to create threads, find your "tribe" and cultivate safe spaces.
Be the change that you want to see ♥️

Sending a big virtual hug your way, SAS11, and I’m glad you stayed and expressed your concern. As Alex posted yesterday, what we say online may not always come across as we intended, so we need to be cautious, tread lightly and re-read before posting.
I have found most on this board to be loving, giving, supportive and generous. Once in awhile someone will appear sharp tongued and I dismiss it, that perhaps they were in a bad mood that day or too rushed to refine their words. Unfortunately, we can all have days like that and again, unintended.
As for an outright nasty someone, as Alex stated so well, do not engage nor get snared in. I would suggest ignoring it once, maybe twice, if it appears to continue discuss it with the administrator, not here. You don’t deserve to take that on, and hopefully you will never encounter it.
Finally, DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER TO ANYONE to derail you. Not here, not anywhere. YOU OWN YOUR POWER, just smile and move on from anything not in support of your best interest, for it’s about them, not about you.💖

Welcome and Good Luck! I had my surgery in February; I am 61. I have lost a little over 70 pounds so far, and it is an unequivocal joy to me. I have been walking with my husband through the woods and on many trails; I am feeling so much younger and have so much more energy; I am enjoying buying clothes for the first time in years. I was very lucky in so far as my overall health before the surgery, in spite of obesity and yo-yo dieting, but I honestly did not know how TIRED I was from lugging around so much extra weight. Here is a list of things I don't dread anymore: stairs, booths, airplane seats (if we can ever fly again), walking around the block, tying my shoes! My knees ache less, my back aches less, I am wearing high heel boots occasionally, my resting heart rate is at 52. My husband, who is my biggest supporter and fan, jokes that he does not have to do the laundry anymore, because carrying the baskets from the 2nd floor to the basement is easy for me now! Go for it, you won't regret it.

Hang in there, the first few weeks are challenging! I have always hated the taste of artificial sweeteners, but find Stevia and Monk Fruit a little easier to take. For Protein drinks I used Iconic Protein; I like the chocolate truffle flavor. I also used the Iconic Protein Powder with Fairlife milk, 1%, which gives you quite a protein punch. I also loved chicken bone broth; Swanson's makes a grab and go cup which I brought to work. Various teas helped me, including ginger with a little stevia, and Egyptian Licorice, which has a strong taste, and I liked that iced. sugar free popsicles were also a staple for me during that first stage.
Once you move into Phases 2 and 3 it gets a bit easier; Plus once the exhaustion of the surgery passes it is easier to get up and do something (even just a bit of a walk) which takes your mind off when you can eat next!
I also like the sugar free Jello pudding, especially Pistachio, and don't find the artificial flavoring as strong in that as in some other things. Again, if you make it with the Fairlife Milk you get extra protein.
Yogurt is also your friend! I eat Siggi's Icelandic Yogurt; low carbs and high protein.
Good luck!

Enough! Stop acting so childish. You're going to be permanently banned if this behavior continues.

I hear you, I was sick of the Protein Shakes during liquid/puree phase too. Home made chicken stock was a lifesaver if you have the time to make it. If not, you could take a store-bought chicken stock and heat it with some knox Gelatin to give it some body while you eat. You can also try out savory versions of soft food prep, I enjoyed ricotta with plain ol salt and pepper many times over my puree phase.

So sorry that you're struggling. The first 2-3 weeks were the hardest for me too.
You'll find that many bariatric patients report significant changes to their taste buds in the weeks and months (and sometimes years) after surgery. One of the most common occurrences reported is developing an intolerance for sweetness in foods. So the fact that you're experiencing difficulty with artificial sweeteners is a common thing many patients have encountered. If possible, you may find luck focusing on flavors more savory than sweet for the time being to help you get fluids (broths!) or foods in.

Hang in there, the first few weeks are challenging! I have always hated the taste of artificial sweeteners, but find Stevia and Monk Fruit a little easier to take. For Protein drinks I used Iconic Protein; I like the chocolate truffle flavor. I also used the Iconic Protein Powder with Fairlife milk, 1%, which gives you quite a protein punch. I also loved chicken bone broth; Swanson's makes a grab and go cup which I brought to work. Various teas helped me, including ginger with a little stevia, and Egyptian Licorice, which has a strong taste, and I liked that iced. sugar free popsicles were also a staple for me during that first stage.
Once you move into Phases 2 and 3 it gets a bit easier; Plus once the exhaustion of the surgery passes it is easier to get up and do something (even just a bit of a walk) which takes your mind off when you can eat next!
I also like the sugar free Jello pudding, especially Pistachio, and don't find the artificial flavoring as strong in that as in some other things. Again, if you make it with the Fairlife Milk you get extra protein.
Yogurt is also your friend! I eat Siggi's Icelandic Yogurt; low carbs and high protein.
Good luck!