CyndieRI

I get asked this more times than I thought I would. People even ask me this in front of other people! They will even preface it with “ It is none of my business but did you .....”. I feel like saying, if you know it’s none of your business why are you asking such a rude or personal question?
Other rude things people ask/say to me...wow, you must need a lot of plastic surgery now, it’s too bad you lost so much of your chest, etc
It was shocking to me how people that barely know me feel so at ease commenting on my body, and most of these things are things I would not say to a dear friend, let alone someone I barely know.
At any rate, it’s no ones damn business what you did, you have no obligation to discuss your medical treatment with anyone.

I’m expecting this question from my MIL. I’m going to ask her why she is asking and why she thinks discussing my weight (gain or loss) is any of her business. If she has the nerve to continue then I will tell her that even though it’s absolutely non of her business, yes I did. And I’m leaving it at that. I say it’s ok to be rude to anyone asking you just to be nosy.

Today a coworker just flat out asked if I had WLS. I haven't told anyone, and want to keep this private. I told her no, and I felt a little weird about denying it. I was really uncomfortable and I thought it was rude. She is very gossipy and I'm sure now she will be discussing this with others. I wish people would mind their own business.

After months of research and discussion I finally decided to tell some family about my plans.
I had to explain the surgery in detail to my mum, she is only mid 50s but very old school and doesn't even have a FB lol
But after I explained everything she was just so happy. She feels anything I can do to help myself get healthier and live longer is great she fully supports me, I've dealt with my weight about 20 years out of 34 so far!
My sister is on the fence she always been healthy fit 5ft10 150lbs, and is gluten free & organic never had any issue with her weight so took a little more discussion but think she's okay now
I'm fine anyway I live alone very independent. I'm close with most my family but still choose to do things myself.
I feel sad for those who have judgmental families!
So that's a happy moment for me just gotta keep waiting, here in Australia we have to wait until we've been a member 12 months before health insurance will pay most of the surgery, I'll still have to kick in about 4K which I'm saving up!
Anyway that made my day
Thank you for reading.
Mike

I know the number one reason for wanting WLS should be to be healthier but was there ever a pivotal moment for you that wasn’t health related?

We were on vacation in Mexico this past January and we went on an excursion that was to be a horse back ride up a mountain to a waterfall. When we got to the point of getting our horses assigned the handler looked me up and down and walked over and brought back a mule, as in pack mule. I looked around and watched and everyone was assigned beautiful horses except for myself and one other heavier man who also got a mule. It was obvious why we were assigned the mules.

As I’m typing this it’s sounds so shallow and vane, but it really was embarrassing for me. Not to mention when the company sent us the photos and here I am almost dwarfing the poor animal sitting on it. It’s a little bit funny for me now but at the moment it wasn’t.

Just wondering if anyone else felt like sharing. Maybe it was a moment, photo or a comment from someone that made you say “I’ve had it”.

Imnotpicky
Surgery date: 3/1/19 for GS
5’4” 210lbs

I had my surgery jan 22 2018, I am about to be 13 months out. (34year old, 5'7)
What a journey. Started at 402lbs, a weight I now can't believe I had. it's crazy and unreal. My skin DOES reminds me that "hey you had that weight" but I am trying to have less floppy skin I wish I worked on it before but it's fine. And maybe tmi but also working on my breasts so they are less in a sad shape.
I don't necessarily eat well and I probably eat less that I am supposed to but I am proud.
13 months ago i was at 323.4lbs, today I am at 187.8, sometimes i gained 1-4lbs, then i lose it back and lose some more. I only really had one plateau that lasted a month, i had some plateau that lasted a week or even two but after weight somewhat catched up, losing in general from 6lbs to 10-12lbs per month, I still got a few to lose to not be in "bmi overweight" but i am no longer in obesity. I am focusing more on my skin then my weight loss.
I wouldn't say surgery changed my life, but yes it improved it. I sometime see myself bigger then I actually am. I am still afraid to sit in booth thinking I won't fit... yet i fit with space to go. my shirt size went from like 3x to M or L.
picture of day of surgery at 323 and now
 

I’m asking for prayers for my dog - Bernie the Bernese Mountain Dog. We know he has cancer in his knee but today we will find out if it has spread. If it hasn’t, he will have his leg amputated (he’s not using it at all anyway) and chemotherapy. If it HAS spread, we will have to make a decision that I REALLY don’t want to have to make. He’s my best friend and I’m heartbroken!

That’s fantastic!!!! Congratulations on your loss! I haven’t lost nearly as much as you - but I’m flying in March and although I will bring my seatbelt extender (just in case) I’m hoping I don’t need it!! And I’ve definitely had non scale victories too. The seats in the movie theater seem to have magically gotten wider! Lol

I'm telling EVERYBODY about my weight loss surgery. I know everyone has to make their own decision but here's the reasons I came to mine. First off it seems like it will be so much easier to tell the whole truth. Second- I want to help other people in my everyday life understand how much this surgery can help someone instead of having it stigmatized. Third- EVERYONE already knows. Believe me. Any time I was at work, when someone had a weight loss procedure done and didn't tell anyone or claimed they were working out and eating, right, after they left the room people would say, " Why don't he/she just tell the truth?" "It's obvious he/she had surgery ". People are not stupid. Especially ones you've worked with for years. Is it anybody's business? NO! Not at all. That's why I absolutely agree and see why some choose not to tell. It's your own business so you have every right to keep it to yourself. This is just my decision.

Sometimes the scale keeps you on track!
Were staying at Unico 20 87 in the Maya Riveria. I can’t wait!

We stayed at Secrets Capri Riviera Cancun (long name - lol). It was fantastic!! And the room even had a scale which I loved having! I weigh myself every day (I KNOW you aren’t supposed to but I do) so being able to do that while I was away was great for me! Enjoy your trip! Where are I staying??

We stayed at Secrets Capri Riviera Cancun (long name - lol). It was fantastic!! And the room even had a scale which I loved having! I weigh myself every day (I KNOW you aren’t supposed to but I do) so being able to do that while I was away was great for me! Enjoy your trip! Where are I staying??

I just got back from a 5 night stay at an all-inclusive resort in Riviera Maya. I weighed myself before I left and when I got home and I lost 1 1/2 lbs! I didn’t think I could ever do that on vacation! I’m so glad I had this surgery!! ❤️

I haven’t posted in a while. Life gets in the way! I had my surgery October 16th. I had my three month follow up with my doctor last week. He was very pleased with my progress. I’m down 56 pounds since October 2 when I started the liver shrinking diet and 43 pounds since the surgery.
Here are some of the amazing things that have happened to me (besides my weight loss):
I’ve lost 26 inches all over my body
My old clothes fit me now. In fact some of my size 16 are big!
I can fit into some XL’s!
But probably the most amazing change is that life has been very stressful lately, dealing with two sick parents who live far away. I’ve traveled several times to visit them in the past month and the old me would’ve turned to food to help me cope but I haven’t! I feel so much more capable of dealing with my stress because of all of the work I did beforehand. I’ve realized that food is not that important and that I’m not going to let it derail all of the work I’ve done!
I hope you’re all doing well and feeling great!

I just got back from a 5 night stay at an all-inclusive resort in Riviera Maya. I weighed myself before I left and when I got home and I lost 1 1/2 lbs! I didn’t think I could ever do that on vacation! I’m so glad I had this surgery!! ❤️

I just got back from a 5 night stay at an all-inclusive resort in Riviera Maya. I weighed myself before I left and when I got home and I lost 1 1/2 lbs! I didn’t think I could ever do that on vacation! I’m so glad I had this surgery!! ❤️

I’m an open person so I have told everyone. Plus I don’t have a good enough memory to remember who I’ve told and who I haven’t! Lol! Sometimes I even tell the servers at restaurants when I’m only ordering a Soup - or sharing a meal with my husband. I’ve had nothing but positive feedback. But definitely it’s a personal choice who you want to tell and when you want to tell them.

I’m an open person so I have told everyone. Plus I don’t have a good enough memory to remember who I’ve told and who I haven’t! Lol! Sometimes I even tell the servers at restaurants when I’m only ordering a Soup - or sharing a meal with my husband. I’ve had nothing but positive feedback. But definitely it’s a personal choice who you want to tell and when you want to tell them.

Thanks for your post. I’m only 3 months out but I’m already feeling similar. I know I should have lost more weight than I have - but as you know “knowing what to do” and “doing it” are very different. I did join a gym right after surgery and I was going 3 days a week (up from NEVER exercising). Then my NUT told me I should be going more often. So what did I do? Start going more often? No - I stopped going! I don’t even know why. Part of me was like - I’m not doing good enough? Well screw it - I’m just not going to do it anymore. So I too am disappointed in myself. 😰

Hi there, you may not lose too much hair that it is noticeable to others, you look pretty young. I've read on this site that a lot of people keep their surgery private and choose not to tell people which is perfectly fine and I respect them for that.
In the beginning I was going to keep it quiet but I am not a good liar and I'm older and would forget what I told who...funny thing is that I am not an open book at work but I work with a LOT of people (hundreds) and see a lot of regular customers so I just said what the heck let me tell any and all who are interested that way they can hear it from the horses mouth and not spread rumors, interestingly most people that work in my section have been motivated by my weight loss and have started working on their weight, after I came back from surgery I started walking 1 mile twice a day on my breaks and now so many people are doing the same, with that said if you want to just tell them then do but you DO NOT owe anyone any explanations. That's your personal choice if you want to share.
Congratulations on your weight loss and keep up the good job!

Just talked to nutritionist. She agrees I will not die! But she hemmed and hawed and made sure to remind me to always eat Protein first. I will, I promise. But just a few yummy bites!!!

I always get all my Protein, and I would only eat this delicacy if that were the case! I've already hit 60 for the day and will have 75 at day's end! I need a yummy vegetable/fruit delight!

Thanks for your post. I’m only 3 months out but I’m already feeling similar. I know I should have lost more weight than I have - but as you know “knowing what to do” and “doing it” are very different. I did join a gym right after surgery and I was going 3 days a week (up from NEVER exercising). Then my NUT told me I should be going more often. So what did I do? Start going more often? No - I stopped going! I don’t even know why. Part of me was like - I’m not doing good enough? Well screw it - I’m just not going to do it anymore. So I too am disappointed in myself. 😰

Yikes. I didn't even pay attention to the title of this forum. Talk about a dunce. (Picture me in a corner wearing my pointy cap.) Respect gratefully noted, Julie, and apology offered. I should keep my opinions to myself, especially when I don't know where I'm giving them! 😃
In my defense, when one sees a topic on the right-sided column on the main splash page, the forum is not immediately obvious. It's easy to start blabbing away without realizing where one is blabbing.

Just finished my 6 month preop today and was approved by insurance for gastric bypass surgery! I’ll be called by the scheduler tomorrow but they said likely first or second week of February for my date. I’m beyond excited and this has felt like the longest 6 months of waiting...
I know post op will be rough the first few weeks and would love suggestions for purée/soft foods so I’m not too bored of the same foods every day :)