GBinHouston

Hello, “I feel” ya, and there is no shame or issue in that. Have the same situation going as you. In my case, I will say that even though I shared my opinion with my wife, I did/do respect her right to choose and do what she wants to herself. At the DRs. Intial visit, he tell her that she did not need it, and that her weight issue was not life threatening. He then proceeded to review the risks, and surgury options. Long story short, my wife is 6’3” tall and was 290lbs. Since her surgury, she plumetted to 175lbs... and thank God..... just stopped losing weight a week ago. I say thank God, because she is gaunt and has a very skeletal now... very lttle muscle, bones protruding... etc. The surgury not only resulted in fat loss, but also loss of most of her muscle mass as well. I love my wife, accept/respect her as that and as an indivdual. With that said, she has gone from one end of the spectrum to the other, and its not just extreme fat/muscle loss...., it has negatively impacted her mental health, energy levels, labido and personality. That is not criticism, just stating facts. I love my wife, Seems to me a very high cost, for what could have, in her situation, been otherwise achieved with exercise and diet self discipline.