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39 minutes ago, bossyj said:

I was using my fitness pal n my dietician says that my fitness pal is for general weight loss it does not take into consideration that bariatric patients caloric needs are different not as many calories needed. So she guided me to a site called baritastic. My issues is focusing enough to track and log and portion consistently.

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I'm sure your ADHD is making logging difficult. Glad you have an app to help. Writing a food log takes way too much time.

I'm old school they didn't have bartitastic in 2014 when I had surgery. It could not track my calories in the first stages due to my low calorie intake. My calories are in the 1100 range this far out from surgery. I'm curious of where your dietitian has your calorie range? Are you at 900 or below?

food before and after thread below. Kind of interesting to see how much people can eat as you progress out from surgery.

https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/417820-food-before-and-after-photos/?page=45

10 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

Thinking about this more frequently, partially because of the song and life in general. We can change and stay the same. It's a paradox. Bariatric or otherwise, what are your new rules?

New rules. Music can be therapy.

Some things can stay the same. Some things we need to let go of to move forward in life. Rules change and evolve with time.

Beginning of bariatrics weight loss mode. A bit obsessive logging and tracking the new bariatric rules in my life. It all created positive change.

Years out after goal, Reevaluating the rules around bariatrics. Learning to relax and finding balance. Not letting fear of regain take control.

On 12/9/2018 at 9:02 AM, bossyj said:

I had gastric sleeve in 2011. Lowest weight was 148. I now weigh 195 lbs. Where am I going wrong. I heard that I can reset my sleeve is this true. If so what do I do. And does the sleeve stretch itself out. My highest weight was 275. And for those who say this surgery is cheating I've worked harder at keeping my weight down with this than if I just pitched a tent in the gym and lived there. Lol

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On 12/9/2018 at 10:20 AM, bossyj said:

With my eating I never did a lot of worry about Portion Control because it used to be after a few forks I was full. Now I don't know like as far as portions how many ounces of meat how many ounces of vegetables how many meals per day should I eat it's getting to be so frustrating along with the weight gain. It seems all the support goes to the New gastric surgery patients and everyone else is left to figure out things on your own. Even the literature I read it's geared to those that are fresh outta surgery n a few months out. Hellllpppppp.

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On 12/9/2018 at 12:27 PM, FluffyChix said:

Yes, just a lot of talk about keeping food journals. I guess my day is so hectic it's just a hassle to right down every sip of Water n every morsal of food. It's frustrating me now as I speak. I'm ADHD n that focus and concentration to do that all day. My thoughts are all over the place all day everyday so it's hard to be consistent trying to document.

I agree with you, There is not a lot of information and support for people maintaining or have weight gain. Most vets disappear from the forums because it's mostly new people. It's hard to see people struggle with a major weight gain. I know this is not easy from my own experience.

You may not want to hear some of this. But, I'm saying it because I care.

The work does not end after goal. Don't let this gain become 100+ pounds back. Are you willing to change, work and do things that are not convenient or comfortable? Suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.

(1) As you progress out from sleeve surgery your restriction is less. You will be able to eat more food.

(2) Stretching is rare. Very few revisions are done. You can make an appointment with your surgeon to see if you stretched your sleeve. Ask your dietician/surgeons office for help getting your diet back on track.

(3) Many people confuse stretching for the the ability to eat more and grazing food throughout the day (combinations of health and unhealthy foods) Any of us can eat around our surgery. Eating more calories is causing the weight gain.

(4) pouch reset is a fancy way of saying getting back on track. Pouch reset is the old diet progression (liquid ,soft foods then real food stage) If you find this too restrictive try a different approach that is realistically sustainable for you long term. Contact your dietician or research diet options.

(5) . Portion control/surgery restriction will only take you so far. To set your body back into weight loss mode is to know how many calories you are eating. You can use a food app. It makes it easier. Click the link below.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.myfitnesspal.android&hl=en

1. Challenge Starting weight: 133
2. Todays weight 134
3. Maintaining weight
4. Fitness/exercise goal: Just found out my insurance pays for a gym membership. Checking out new gym's.
5. Total weight loss at the end of challenge: (Post January 1st 2019)

Check in: NSV Bought the cutest pair of roxy snow pants. Bring on the snow.

1 hour ago, AshMarie794 said:

Current Weight: 198!!

FINALLY HIT ONEDERLAND!!!

Still losing and gym 5x a week

Congrats on onderland! Best Christmas present ever.

I like Dr Vong. But.......

I wanted to take every advantage of this surgery. Especially the first golden year. My surgeons instructions (all instructions look different) Walk the day after surgery to heal and to continue to walk at least 5 days a week. Nothing high impact on low calories. Low impact exercise in the beginning never impacted my weight loss negatively. It was all positive. He released me to exercise with more intensity about three weeks out. No regrets.

I lost the majority of my weight on elliptical and a bit of weights. My goal was to do a 5K in memory of my mother. (race for the cure)

Exercise and activity level is a personal choice. No wrong or right way to get activity in..

I look at it this way. I was already eating well and exercising. I was stronger than I gave myself credit for.. What we do as bariatric patients is not that different from weight lifters and people involved in sports. My health issues gone. Seeing the results of nutrition and exercise was amazing.

After a year of living this way, I asked myself could I take this further? Yes, I lift, I distance run, snowshoe and hike.

I like physicist Ruben Meerman - Where does fat actually go when you lose it. The mathematics of weight loss. Move more eat less. (exercise/activity at your own fitness level)

13 minutes ago, AchieveGoals said:

Hi everyone! So I just visited my psychologist today, and she is the obligatory psych visit that some insurances require in order to get approved for surgery. She was telling me to realistically expect to lose only 60-65% of EXCESS weight after the gastric sleeve. THIS IS VERY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT MY SURGEON AND ASSISTING DOCTOR HAVE TOLD ME! I am currently a female, 280lbs right now, 5'7. And if someone would ask what my goal weight would be, I would say around 140-150lbs. Also I use to be a lap band patient, and my lowest that I had gotten down was at 218, and started at 297. The psych today was telling me to realistically expect me to be a shy under 200 pounds with the sleeve. I'm sorry but please tell me that this beyotch is WRONG. That really discouraged me. How much is the most weight that some of you have lost? Have you guys hit your goal weight, or are close to it? Any answers would help.

I'm not sure how anyone can say you will weigh X amount a year out from surgery. Your weight loss will be an unknown outcome.. Be encouraged to know people have hit goal and beyond. Be realistic and understand that in some cases people don't reach goal. (for many reasons) None of us here can tell you what your weight loss will be.

Would it matter if you only lose 60-65% and are out of the obesity category? The goal is healthy weight range, Right?

(1) How much is the most weight that some of you have lost? Your experience will be unique to you. Try not to get hung up on other people's weight loss rates and totals. It will drive you crazy.

(2) Have you guys hit your goal weight, or are close to it? I hit my goal and beyond. I am maintaining my weight four years out.

@BlueCrush @Diana_in_Philly @BigViffer Hope they can give better advice.

Love it! Would love to see competition photos.

If you are doing this competitively you may want to invest the money. Bariatrics makes things interesting for food to fuel fitness goals. i am not a powerlifter or at any level of competing. I know of a few power lifters on this site. I hope they respond.

11 minutes ago, qnz234 said:

Hey people!

I recently started powerlifting. I had my first completion a few weeks ago, and since then I’ve decided to do a weight cut using an RP strength template. Problem is, it’s SO much food. I’m over 5 years out and figured I’d be ok. But when I measure based on macros, my goodness!

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can be successful with this as a WLS patient...without having to pay more money to RP and speak with a registered dietician?!

Congrats on all your work. Are you powerlifting competitively?

On 12/9/2018 at 6:57 PM, mousecat88 said:

I'm down 1 lb in 11 days and I am heated. lol! I'm stuck on bland purees for another 5 weeks and have already been on them 4 weeks. I want to enjoy some food progression with other people, and also not just lose 1 single pound while eating flavorless mush. So bent out if shape right now.

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You are entitled to a freak out. Most of us have experienced the emotional bariatric rollercoaster. This is one of many weight loss mental battles to overcome. Hang on for the ride.

1 hour ago, mousecat88 said:

I honestly wish the side stats weren't a thing. It's basically asking people to compare to one another. Yes, I realize it's there to Celebrate accomplishments and to show progress... but for people like me (and I'm sure there are A LOT)... it just makes me jealous and angry and harsh on myself.

Yes, your not alone 🤭

I made myself crazy comparing stats and results. I was overly enthusiastic and wanted results right away. Seeing other people's successes made me jealous. It also made me question if I was doing things right.

Weight loss rates and totals are unknown outcomes for all of us. The way you look at weight loss and defining success will change and evolve.

51 minutes ago, Dr-Patient said:

You look great. Congratulations. I've been good since I posted, and have lost 5.5 pounds. It's a start. Thanks for your words.

Glad to hear back from you. 5.5 pounds is fantastic. You are proof you can work off weight gain years out from surgery.

Can I ask what you have changed to get back into weight loss mode?

3 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

I also think there "can" be a bit of feeling cute and body positive. Like, we're finally experiencing what it feels like to feel good in our body--like we look good--and it's gratifying to us and makes us feel more confident. So we give ourselves permission to be more bubbly and flirtatious/coquettish. Especially when it's in a "safe way". We know we're in a great relationship, we're in a safe space (the gym), and we feel confident and comfortable allowing people to notice us as women. But not like we're perving on guys! Just exercising our power as attractive or possibly attractive females.

In most cases maybe we aren't even aware we're being more vivacious or giving off vibes. And also most of us would feel mortified if anyone accused us of flirting or perving.

*Not saying this is what is happening here. Only saying that I experienced something like this this weekend. And Mr. F. got mad that I was chatting too much to another person. But I swear on a stack of bibles, I had no thoughts in my head about sex or about being thought of as sexy. But I was just being vivacious cuz I felt good about myself and life, and Mr. F. (who is all I care about) sees me as being sexy now that I've lost so much weight and can wear skinny jeans. KWIM?

You talking too much? *laughing*

The gym is my happy place. I've managed to keep it drama free for years. The regulars casually chat at the beginning and end of our workouts. The comments that got back to me caught me off guard. but, I'm letting it go.

12 hours ago, MeanSleevedMachine said:

Well, to be fair, a lot women are the same way. It probably has more to do with the narcissistic society we live in that is all too full of themselves.

I agree It's both men and women.

5 minutes ago, sideeye said:

I think it's a combo, and none of it your fault. I agree that the guys are likely engaging some weirdo coping mechanism by broadcasting that you like them, likely to both seek attention (attractive woman is interested in me!) and to create a social barrier (...but I'm MARRIED and wouldn't DARE!). It's an alien approach to most women, because it is self-aggrandizing and dumb and easily disproven. But then there's the stupid gendered thing where a woman who refutes such a rumor is seen as protesting too much, and a man who says he's not interested is just telling the truth. Down with the patriarchy, etc.

HOWEVER. The other thing is possibly that you're so used to having your physical form negated by others that you poured most of your attention into your personality. So when people met you, they mostly liked you for your awesome communication and engagement traits, because you'd spent a long time honing them and were awesome. But NOW, you're SLIM. And that means your knockout personality now ALSO has a level-up of them liking you hormonally, so now they like you even MORE and some of that liking is sexual, and now their brains are fried. Because you're an attractive woman with a great personality and you're talking to them and that's unusual (which is likely also a quirk of having lost weight, because lots of women who fit in that category but were never fat have learned from past weirdness to tone things down).

Don't change who you are because of two dumb himbos. If it eventually gets to the point where it's too damn annoying to talk to men because they keep doing this, then you can think of changing things up. But for now it's just a couple of guys short-wiring because their brain and their pants simultaneously find you attractive.

I'm glad I can take this silly stuff in here and get perspective. This was a first time experience at my gym. caught me off guard. I'm over it. *laughing at myself*

30 minutes ago, KCgirl061 said:

So I've reached my first goal. I didn't really have a number on the scale in mind, but a jeans size in mind. I want to be at a size 8 and can finally now fit in them. I'm only 4 months out and hope to still lose some weight because of the statistics of people who regain a little. I want to lose more so I when my weight settles, it settles at the weight I'm at now and not 10lbs and a jean size higher. I love my new body and vow to take better care of it from now on so I don't go back!

 

Very exciting to be out of the plus size clothing. Love your outfit. You are rocking your boots.

1 minute ago, Frustr8 said:

A FYI I'm telling on myself. Last time a guy hit on me I was so naive it took me 45 minutes to realize it. Maybe as I lose weight and my Inner Cute starts emerging I should get a little more with it? Hate missing friendly overtures, just might happen?

I'm still used to being invisible. Working on being comfortable. The gym is not a place to hit on someone. To hear back that these two individuals thought I was hitting on them was weird. four years there and this has never come up before.

2 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Don't discount the fact that they may simply be more attracted to you now and are using transference to stay ahead of guilt.

I'm feeling awkward and clueless. *laughing* not the first time in life. Interesting that you said Transference to stay ahead of guilt.

3 minutes ago, Matt Z said:

Doesn't sound like the "issue" was on your side of the interaction at all. Just keep on being you!

Thanks Matt. Needed to hear that.

5 minutes ago, BigViffer said:

IT is also possible he is using your interaction as a bragging point to whomever is listening. Doesn't matter the age, the male ego is a silly thing and he may be using these obviously mundane conversations as examples of the attention he brags about to the men in his group.

Or it could just be that he isn't very good at dealing with the opposite sex.

Ok, that makes sense. BTW I have the book you suggested. (Starting strength).Thanks again.

3 minutes ago, Matt Z said:

Thanks... it's ok. Overall it's just that, "not everyone is the same" sorta thing is all. Sorry you had a bad interaction, but as they say "don't let 1 spoiled apple ruin the bunch".

I also said above its not all Just some. I'm clueless and needed some mansplaining. *laughing* Feeling awkward about the interaction. The last thing I want is to be the creepy woman at my gym.