nicolebklyn

5 days after gastric sleeve surgery on June 18
SW 200 CW 190 GW 140

I’m doing well - but I am at the moment angry with the people around me. My mom is staying with me ostensibly to help me but she decided to “test” me by eating skinny cow chocolate covered ice cream in front of me after eating Pasta for dinner- and then when I had a sugar free fudgcicle tell me how worried she is about me keeping to my diet after she leaves. Then she says how she’s sees all these young with it happy people and it breaks her heart that I’m not one of them and so she’s really glad I got this surgery done.

And then she complains all the time because she’s staying in the spare room and she doesn’t get to sleep in my comfortable bed. And she complains just about everything. I appreciate that she was there for me while I was in the hospital but I’m starting to want her to go.

Then my oldest friend who has always been there for me and vice versa won’t even return my calls or talk with me at all - although I got a few texts - that was it.

Then my closest friend who lives near me doesn’t approve of me having the surgery and shows it in subtle ways - or asks a stupid question when I saw her today if any of my long term medical problems are better yet when of course they’re not better I’m only five days out from my surgery and the problems like chronic foot pain and PCOS come from excess weight- it’s going to take time for them to get better. She was asking that to emphasize something I’m not sure what but it made me feel bad. She has no comprehension what it’s like to be obese she must weigh like 115 pounds or something. She thinks it was an extreme decision I did for reasons of vanity - but she doesn’t understand the nature and challenge of weight loss especially with all my strange health conditions. The first night I was in the hospital she was supposed to visit me but canceled so go out to dinner with her boyfriend’s aunt and uncle saying it was their last night in town, but she’d known about my hospital time for weeks and the aunt and uncle had been in town for days. She did come the next night but it was just happenstance that I was still in the hospital for a second night.

In the meantime I can’t even keep down Protein mashed potatoes in a little jar (I eat from jars for portion control). So I’m just needy - I need a support system and the people I would normally rely on are failing me and I’m angry at them. And I don’t like being needy in this way but I am at the moment. And I’m brought face to face with the nature and quality of my friendships. And how much can we actually ask of our friends? And how much can we ask of our families? I obviously need to see a therapist and work these things out.

But aside from everyone else - I’m doing very well physically. Don’t get me wrong it’s challenging but I’m very happy with my decision.

UPSHOT: So if any of you out there have experience with negative influences from friends and how to deal with people not being supportive or well intentioned people who end up sabotaging you - please! Let me know how you deal with it.
PS I tried posting this elsewhere but it didn’t seem to post - forgive me if this should be in rants and raves.

For the first time since about middle school (~20 years), I'm not obese! I'm officially overweight per BMI.
May 30, 2017; 406lbs
June, 22, 2018; 235.7lbs

Hey guys I’m five days out after my surgery. I feel pretty good- I’m very tired generally and have stuck to full liquids and yogurt and apple sauce. I have to consume very slowly and often pause to pace a bit - pacing and walking really really help! I can’t recommend them enough if anyone is having problems- definitely walk after each meal and even during.
- I bought a small sized yeti mug which keeps my smoothie cool for longer and a mug warmer which keeps my warm food warm for longer so I don’t need to rush. I also bought these little four ounce cups which I drink Water from. Those have all been useful.

I like Bariatric Protein Soups - the cream of chicken is really good and I’m excited to try the cream of corn- it’s 6oz with 15 grams of protein but it’s liquid so if I drink very slowly I have no problem with it - it’s nice to have something that’s not sweet- I’m 4 days out

I like Bariatric Protein Soups - the cream of chicken is really good and I’m excited to try the cream of corn- it’s 6oz with 15 grams of protein but it’s liquid so if I drink very slowly I have no problem with it - it’s nice to have something that’s not sweet- I’m 4 days out

Mines coming up June 18 - excited!

Mines coming up June 18 - excited!

Nice. I start my pre op diet Tuesday.
Anyone had their procedure at NYU?

Hey other June people, my sleeve surgery is June 18 - I’m 205 BMI 35. I’m pretty excited!

Hey other June people, my sleeve surgery is June 18 - I’m 205 BMI 35. I’m pretty excited!

I'm getting sleeved on June 4 as well! Lots of us summer sleevers! I, too, am eating all the foods. It's super ridiculous. I start my 2 week pre-op diet on Monday 5/21. This will be my second time. I was supposed to be sleeved on May 11 and my back went out 3 days before and I couldn't walk! So they rescheduled me. Blah! I feel like I am better prepared for the pre-op diet this time, though. I know my skin will dry out and my breath is gonna get stinky. The hunger headaches will be a real thing but, I am so ready for this surgery! It took me 15 years to make this decision and as odd as it sounds, I can't wait to have surgery! lol :-)

Hey all - just joined - and just got my date today - June 18!

Hey all - just joined - and just got my date today - June 18!

I really like Terra’s whey bourbon vanilla- it has a lovely fresh taste to it and it’s sweetened with stevia - goes well with fruit

My surgeon says taking zinc regularly after surgery is key to keeping your hair (the hair you want that is)