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Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

Aside from straight up compliments, I wouldn't know if someone was hitting on me if they were jumping up and down on my head. I went through the liquid phase, soft/mushy phase, flaky food phase, and now the oblivious phase! I got the strangest compliment yesterday at a doctor's appointment. The receptionist said I sound skinny. How does one sound skinny?!?

Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

The whole identity perspective I can totally relate too. What defined me was my weight, at least in my own mind. I can relate to the anxiety because I have it now. My doctor said that the surgery basically resets everything. I definitely look at photos, sometimes I cringe when I see a picture of me at my heaviest and think "how did I let myself get that way?" I definitely compare pictures, it is like a daily ritual for me. Thank you for your insight as well.

Yes, you are not alone in how you feel. Please please please take care of your mental health as well as physical during this journey.

I had my 3 month surgiversary the other day. I truly thought that having the surgery and losing weight would make me somewhat happier. I have lost weight, and their has been some major positive changes health wise. Physically I feel good. Emotionally, not so much. I am shying away from social situations and situations where I cannot control the way I eat. The way I eat is somewhat regimented. Going out with friends creates anxiety for me. I also still see myself as the big fat guy that I have been my entire life. I get compliments from people that have known me, but I look in the mirror and still see the guy that I was before the surgery. I had more confidence when I was heavier, now I second guess everything. I am just not happy with myself. I have 27 lbs to go before goal weight. Has anyone ever felt this way before?

The whole identity perspective I can totally relate too. What defined me was my weight, at least in my own mind. I can relate to the anxiety because I have it now. My doctor said that the surgery basically resets everything. I definitely look at photos, sometimes I cringe when I see a picture of me at my heaviest and think "how did I let myself get that way?" I definitely compare pictures, it is like a daily ritual for me. Thank you for your insight as well.

Aside from straight up compliments, I wouldn't know if someone was hitting on me if they were jumping up and down on my head. I went through the liquid phase, soft/mushy phase, flaky food phase, and now the oblivious phase! I got the strangest compliment yesterday at a doctor's appointment. The receptionist said I sound skinny. How does one sound skinny?!?

Thank you, I appreciate that! I have gotten a little more attention in the man department recently. There was a bar tender asked for my phone number, and I literally turned around to see who he was talking to. I probably looked like an idiot. Made me feel good. Now, if I could just get my husband to notice SMH, lol. I'm working on that too!

The whole identity perspective I can totally relate too. What defined me was my weight, at least in my own mind. I can relate to the anxiety because I have it now. My doctor said that the surgery basically resets everything. I definitely look at photos, sometimes I cringe when I see a picture of me at my heaviest and think "how did I let myself get that way?" I definitely compare pictures, it is like a daily ritual for me. Thank you for your insight as well.

Its not as uncommon as you might think to have these feelings after weight loss. You've almost lost your identity. I know for me, my weight was part of it, I would joke about my weight and make excuses because of my weight. It became who I was. Once you lose that part of you, it takes awhile to figure out what makes you, you again. I still have anxiety because sometimes I'll be super confident and rocking a cute top... and then I'll panic sets in, and I look around, and think... OH CRAP, Am I really wearing this shirt? What was I thinking?!? This comes and goes. I still see the same person from before surgery, until I look at photos, and that's when I can see a big difference. Have you tried looking back at old pictures when you feel down or unconfident?

I understand how you feel. Maybe it was the "fat girl confidence" the extra humor etc. I'm not even 3 months out, but at 25 pounds lost I felt dead sexy, now I'm approaching 50 and now I am seeing a fat girl (sometimes) in the mirror. This wasn't the case before! I like that people think I look great, but newly out of the gate social situations are really awkward. I still can get painfully full, I can't drink with all my friends (not that I'm a big drinker), I went gluten free so my food choices are limited. I'm happy I did this, but I'm unhappy that I all of the sudden see myself as fat and unattractive. Sorry for stealing your post, but I know what you're going through.

I had my 3 month surgiversary the other day. I truly thought that having the surgery and losing weight would make me somewhat happier. I have lost weight, and their has been some major positive changes health wise. Physically I feel good. Emotionally, not so much. I am shying away from social situations and situations where I cannot control the way I eat. The way I eat is somewhat regimented. Going out with friends creates anxiety for me. I also still see myself as the big fat guy that I have been my entire life. I get compliments from people that have known me, but I look in the mirror and still see the guy that I was before the surgery. I had more confidence when I was heavier, now I second guess everything. I am just not happy with myself. I have 27 lbs to go before goal weight. Has anyone ever felt this way before?

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Good luck and I hope you feel better! I had an endoscopy prior to my surgery and it didn't pick up the hiatal hernia. I was experiencing symptoms that I thought were just acid reflux. I only found out in the recovery room that I had a hiatal hernia repair as well.

Thank you for the information, it's a relief to hear a positive story that it got better. I am hoping a hiatal hernia is what I have since every other test I have done shows everything is normal. I will know what the barium swallow shows on tuesday of next week.

I had terrible acid reflux before I had surgery. I would wake up in the middle of the night with bile in my throat coughing and gagging. I can say that I have not had any acid reflux after surgery. I also had a hiatal hernia repair at the same time, I am not sure if that had a lot to do with it. Hope this helps.

Even as a clinic nurse, her job is patient care, not giving her two cents about your current situation regarding your surgery. If it bothers you enough, I would say something. I certainly would have.

I feel silly because this has been a concern of mine also. Glad to see that I am not the only one.

Just found this forum and wanted to introduce myself. I'm Sarah from CT, and just recently decided to explore my options for bariatric surgery. Currently can't decide between VSG and RNY. This site has been so helpful! I'm leaning towards RNY because I have diabetes and reflux and also need to lose over 100 lbs.
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I am about seven weeks post-op. I went out for Cinco De mayo yesterday and it was rough. My friends asked me why I wasn't drinking ( I had unsweetened Ice Tea). When it came down to sitting down and eating, I told my friends girlfriend I am watching what I eat. I had a shrimp appetizer which filled me up.
I came this far and I think I made good progress. I have to find the balance of socializing and sticking to my regiment. My biggest fear is sabotaging myself. I guess I will take each situation as it comes.

Good luck on your journey! I wish I was up and taking selfies six hours after surgery! I was still in la la land.