Marissa37

I drink coffee with a vanilla muscle milk it’s delicious never thought I’d say those words

Surgery check so far so good no side effects keeping up with my H20 and Protein goals.
Mentally I feel the same good, happy, cheerful, aggressive but that's just me.
Physically since I had cancer last year I still have side effects from chemo and radiation but even that is getting better a lot faster. I have more energy walk 10,000 steps and the most unbelievable thing EVER i sleep 8-10 hours. Since I was 15 I've only slept 5 hours exactly like i had some internal alarm.
Relationship with spouse same awesome supportive, sex 3-5 times a week.
Socially ummmmm this is the sh*t that gets me I screamed my surgery from the rooftops because I didn't want my social groups family, friends etc there's too many to think I was dieing because I was all of a sudden getting thinner. Now every single time 9 out of 10 people see me its like so how many pounds you lost, how about now and NOW like a small child asking are we there yet annoying as f*ck. How can I tell them f* off without telling them to f* off I tried a reversal with my friend and ask her how much she weighs she shut up real quick lol I don't mind saying it not ashamed of it but its just annoying.
So how do YOU guys feel (surgery, mentally, physically, relationships, socially) and what do you do when someone ask you that question?

So far i'm losing a pound a day

Surgery check so far so good no side effects keeping up with my H20 and Protein goals.
Mentally I feel the same good, happy, cheerful, aggressive but that's just me.
Physically since I had cancer last year I still have side effects from chemo and radiation but even that is getting better a lot faster. I have more energy walk 10,000 steps and the most unbelievable thing EVER i sleep 8-10 hours. Since I was 15 I've only slept 5 hours exactly like i had some internal alarm.
Relationship with spouse same awesome supportive, sex 3-5 times a week.
Socially ummmmm this is the sh*t that gets me I screamed my surgery from the rooftops because I didn't want my social groups family, friends etc there's too many to think I was dieing because I was all of a sudden getting thinner. Now every single time 9 out of 10 people see me its like so how many pounds you lost, how about now and NOW like a small child asking are we there yet annoying as f*ck. How can I tell them f* off without telling them to f* off I tried a reversal with my friend and ask her how much she weighs she shut up real quick lol I don't mind saying it not ashamed of it but its just annoying.
So how do YOU guys feel (surgery, mentally, physically, relationships, socially) and what do you do when someone ask you that question?

Seems like your looking to blame a lot of people for allowing you the surgery from the psychologist who you saw for an hour or so to the surgeon whom never seems to be there when u are.
Fact is we are adults.
This was a major surgery for all of us and we all did our research and no one could have prepared any of us mentally for this type of surgery.
You WILL get thru it.
A reversal?
You wouldn't think undergoing a major surgery to reverse a major surgery will be an option. In fact I can imagine it being a massive risk to preform it.
I hope you seek some help psychologically and spiritually because there is nothing that can alter ones mind other than oneself.
Choose to be happy and you will be happy.
Choose to be angry and you will be angry.
Your fulfilling your own prophecy though - eventually your going to push even your fiancé away by choosing to be so angry.
Smile you WILL BE OKAY.

So far i'm losing a pound a day

Ok but some fattys are going through things and may be vulnerable to people coming at them like that- bullying. I’m not one of them. Just gotta be careful you never know what the other person going through and my defense when I hear people talking bs is they HAVE to get laid so I can’t apologize for that. I like to create a safe environment where everyone can ask idiotic questions without judgement because I know a lot of people who are depressed or just going through life f*ed up I always try to help out as much as possible. I don’t want someone to read this topic and be like dang I can’t ask these people sh*t. Some are thinking about surgery, married to someone who had surgery, are in the process of getting to that surgery goal, post surgery, or maintenance. And through it all WE all have something in common that’s supposed to bond us.

I think they should give out T shirts that say that. "OMG WHAT DID I JUST DO TO MYSELF?" At best it must be a mental, physical and emotional shock to the system.Yeah Mattymatt I really haven't gone through it yet but I am a great empathizer, I can feel it. And if you have already fought the blue fog of depression it has to hit you worse. I am thankful to have you and this forum. If you try to talk to an outsider their response will be "Well if you didn't want it, you shouldn't have had it" it is not that at all, it is hard to come to terms with it and depressive already have a built-in " limp", it makes it harder for us to run. But we will, things will smooth out, we will each find the terms to handle it, move with it. And, guess what? We are going to be alright, better persons and we confidently can face what's ahead. And Matty matt you may remind me of this later when the whimwahs hit, you have my full permission. 😝Your bud Frust8

I think you should be prepared for the chance that it may happen. I wasn't prepared and I wished I had been.

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I am really glad you have the courage to post this. I can tell you that you're not alone! I was the same way for almost 6 weeks post-op. Golly, I can practically identify with the anger and saddness. I even had some suicidal ideation because I could not see a path forward to a better life. A song from Paula Abdul, Forever Your Girl came on the radio and I just broke down sobbing in my car. This was the song that my ex-girlfriend (and the woman I thought I would marry) sang to me on karaoke night on a cruise. She was drunk, in love, and she looked directly at me as she sang the song. I remember tearing up at the love I felt. Well, it turned out she's not forever my girl.
In some ways I was/am mourning the old me and I don't have food to make me feel better. Is it possible that you are mourning the person that you were pre-surgery? The difficulty of the mental game cannot be underestimated. If you need a shoulder to cry on, I am here; having walked in your shoes.

It's totally normal to be an emotional mess right after surgery, between the anesthesia and pain meds and just the rapid initial weight loss, which flushes hormones through your system. The first month or so, I would just randomly start crying at absolutely NOTHING, like just mid-sentence when talking about something mundane. It was super awkward and annoying, but it passed.
Edit: I should note that this was the case even WITH being on an anti-depressant.

Thank you I appreciate your insight. At first I thought I was just being silly and was tired. But now, I don’t know it keeps getting worse. Thankfully I have not gone back to work yet as I’m under pressure all the time there. I don’t know. if I expected more so far, expected less, or if I am truly just tired from the surgery (this is the first major surgery I’ve had), mourning food or thinking I’ve made a big mistake, but I’m making myself sick I get so worked up. So yea, think I’m going to call the dr tomorrow. Thanks again.

Girl ,
have your coffee add some Protein to it
Life is short

You'r welcomed. While the BP coffee, and the Keto movement in general may be debatable, the liquid calories are one of the Cardinal no-no's of WLS, (or at least a big red flag,) no matter how healthy and nutritious that liquid may be. Some surgeons are even really down on the Protein Shakes because of them being liquid calories, though most are accepting of them for their necessity during the immediate to intermediate post op times to ensure adequate Protein intake.

Too many cals right? Ditch the liquid cals while you can
On another note about trying new things outside, i had espresso around two weeks out from surgery to mix with my Protein Shake. It was a poor decision. I left me shakey etc. My program allowed for Decaf but i forgot to order it.
Any reason not to have just plain coffee?
Ask your NUT and if you do have it, best in a controlled environment just incase it does not agree with you.
Speedy recovery!

Sip sip sip takes me 2 hours to get a water bottle down Today I drank 2 1/2 Water bottles and one Protein Shake I have 1 1/2 water to go and at least one more Protein shake. Tomorrow I’ll aim for 3 Protein Shakes and 64 oz water. Also I’m walking 10,000 steps at home.

I finally went number 2 so it took 6 days from surgery today I feel weird not sure how to describe it almost like I could feel my stomach before it was more like numb don’t know why I did sleep in more today it’s a beautiful rainy day in nyc

Sip sip sip takes me 2 hours to get a water bottle down Today I drank 2 1/2 Water bottles and one Protein Shake I have 1 1/2 water to go and at least one more Protein shake. Tomorrow I’ll aim for 3 Protein Shakes and 64 oz water. Also I’m walking 10,000 steps at home.

I finally went number 2 so it took 6 days from surgery today I feel weird not sure how to describe it almost like I could feel my stomach before it was more like numb don’t know why I did sleep in more today it’s a beautiful rainy day in nyc

I made it myself taste really good thank goodness. My doc said not to buy it made because it discusting lol (Took me 6 hours to make boiling the bones with a splash of vingar.) Then I seasoned with salt, pepper, garlic, oregano I added celery, carrots and onions thats my base to all Soups. then i just separated it into mason jars (strained) and drink that much for dinner. I made 6 Mason jars and ate that night so good enough for the week.

I’m good takes long to sip so first I sip 2 Protein Shakes takes me about 4-5 hours and take my medication then I drink 2 Water bottles then a 20 oz diet Snapple then a Protein then a water

Sip sip sip takes me 2 hours to get a water bottle down Today I drank 2 1/2 Water bottles and one Protein Shake I have 1 1/2 water to go and at least one more Protein shake. Tomorrow I’ll aim for 3 Protein Shakes and 64 oz water. Also I’m walking 10,000 steps at home.

April 10th here I was nervous now Im excited cause I'll be able to tolerate the summer better (heat wise) I hope when I lose weight. And look sexier added bonus

Had surgery yesterday when I woke up from surgery I was super nauseous, my throat was so dry they gave me anti nauseous medicine still didn’t work they put something behind my ear gave me more medicine then I smelled some alcohol from hospital. Finally felt better for pain in taking Tylenol I request lowest form of pain meds I’m not hurting at all. My stomach doesn’t hurt where the operation was done only the top but it’s gas I could actually feel it bubbling I’ve burpped a few times feel much better. Today I’m supposed to drink haven’t been allowed to drink anything yet since surgery it was yesterday morning right now it’s 7 am in New York. I did brush my teeth last night and this morning made my mouth better since it was dry.

Our operations (many of us) are next week my prayers for all !!! And those who done it have a speedy recovery.