KatFight

Is 165 a reasonable goal with your height and muscle mass? I know how maddening the struggle is to lose weight, but you are very close to an ideal weight now. My husband (also 6'1") has a very lean frame and 190 sits well on him.

*at the overnight sleepy test?! I swear autocorrect messes with me. [emoji259]

Oops. Didn't mean to end twice

I am new to this forum, but have been read this forum for years. I've tried getting approved for wls twice and each time got denied. They say your third time is a charm because I received that call today and I AM APPROVED!!!!! I have been on this journey for over 15 years and it's here! I am so excited. I know the journey will be challenging, but I'm ready for the ride!

So excited for you! Welcome and please post a lot! I'm bored and need new entertaining threads to read.

Sherrita and itsonlythefirststep welcome to our forums. So girls what kind of surgery are you planning? I just started a March-April thread last night and there are already March and Spring s leever ones up and running. If you have questions or just want to talk, find me and I'll be sure to answer you. My prerequirements are all done and I'm waiting for My surgeon to give me a good date. Soon would be nice.

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Uh, three months is about 90 days....you should ask them to be more clear and present your visits again...that is, if you’ve got those three months of consecutive visits. I have Cigna as well, but it took just about 4 months from start to finish. When did you start your journey?

I agree, this feels like grieving for the comfort and favorite foods of the past. I can relate, I miss the coping skill that no longer serves me well.
The change is positive stuff. but, It forced me to figure out new ways to cope. Stress and emotions can get the best of me. I am not perfect. I've had days where I ate a whole box of my beloved spicy sweet wheat thins.
I go to a coffee shop alone. I just need time away to regroup.
I take most of my, stress and emotions to the gym. It's the one place I am not a mother, employee, and wife. It's my time that I have carved out for me. It may sound strange but, I processed my mother passing from cancer on an elliptical machine.
@FluffyChixBring on the sex addiction!

Loved what you wrote, I have a skoosh with my gastritis but I'm sure it will hit in spades post surgery. Think I'll go heat up a cup of broth, about the only,thing that sounds good now. And I'll hoist in honor of our goodbud,Ms Fluffy Chix.

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@Creekimp13 Thank you so much for this thread. Your description of this is so eloquent and thoughtfully written. I totally get it. It is about the grieving and reinventing and coming to terms that most of the old will need to change to survive in the new normal.
In a post BC world, they talk about "the new normal" and you hear it so often, that sometimes you just want to go cram it down the next person who mentions its throat. LOL. But I think (or have an inkling) this will be true in my post WLS world.
It is shocking how much time you have on your hands when not planning, shopping, prepping, cooking, eating, and cleaning up from a meal. You know? It's like, "What the f*ck am I supposed to do with the next 20hours of the day? And where on earth am I gonna get something to entertain and amuse me like food/cooking/being a foodie does?" *snic* LOL.
I have some thoughts for you. I think you should pursue acting out a 9 1/2 weeks and do sex transference addiction with the hubs, whom I agree is a massive keeper. Then you should regale us with your wicked feats of strength for our enjoyment. Just spit ballin' ideas for you here.

Have had a few things on my mind about the process I'm going through, don't quite know how to explain, but am going to attempt to, because I think others might relate.
food has changed. And I don't say that like some badge of victory. I say it with a little bit of anxiety and a little bit of grief.
Everything still *tastes* like it used to....but the effect of food has changed significantly in my life. (and even my physiology) And my preferences for foods have certainly changed.
I really LOVED food. Sort of akin to maybe how a homebrewist loves beer. It was my go-to to relax. It made a bad day more bearable. It took the edge off emotionally difficult situations. It was a source of joy and comfort.
Back when I was doing my 6 month diet...I still loved food. I still had my little food love affair celebrations. Every Friday, I'd budget my calories and splurge on a glazed donut. (yes, I know this is pure poison)...but it was a wonderful treat, and I really enjoyed that donut I'd earned by being good all week. With a big cup of premium coffee. And I was losing weight, so why not?
I told myself I'd still do this once in a while...obviously I can't eat a whole donut....but I thought....maybe one of these days I'll get a donut and cut off a little quarter of it...let hubby eat the rest...and still have my little donut reward for a job well done.
Now here's the weird part.
I've found myself standing in front of the same donut case...looking at those damned glazed donuts....several weeks in a row now...and I can't get myself to buy one. Not because I think I'm going to screw anything up hopelessly...I won't. Not because I feel I couldn't control the quantity...I know I could. I just feel sad looking at the donuts. Just this weird grief of knowing it wouldn't feel the same if I ate it.
And this is what I'm finding hard to describe...
It's like the beer homebrew guy...who would really like like a beer....opening up beer after beer...only to find they all taste like ice tea. I mean...sure, ice tea is great...it's wet, you can drink it and not be thirsty. But what you wanted doesn't exist anymore.
Food no longer affords me a coping mechanism. And I'm not sure how to feel about that. Part of me is delighted...because I know THAT is the root problem...food shouldn't be a coping mechanism. Food shouldn't be a love affair. That's a big part of why I got fat.
But the other part of me feels a little freaked out by this. Like...damn, what do I use now as a coping mechanism? I can totally understand how crossover addictions happen. And while I don't think I'm really at risk for one because I'm expressing all of this to my support people and trying to come up with some other good ideas for coping mechanisms......I understand the danger, now. I think being aware and talking about it helps a lot. I'm avoiding alcohol and other substances that could potentially be problematic, too....at least until I feel like i've got this all figured out and have settled in feeling more comfortable about it.
But yeah....this? This was unexpected.
My husband said last night.....OK, for a long time you were trying to make a lifestyle change and you equated all of these fantastic outcomes to that someday mythical lifestyle change.....but now that you have made the lifestyle changes you're noticing the reality isn't exactly what you thought it would be. And that's the thing about any major endeavor, there will be surprises, both positive and negative. I think you're doing great, and doing a great job of taking it all in stride. Keep talking to me.
I think I'll keep him.
No regrets about the surgery...I'm overall increadibly happy. Just trying to describe something that I really didn't see coming.

omg omg omg omg omg omg . I got the call today and I'm apprroveeeedd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! praise the LORD ! . PLease pray for me . IM starting my liquid diet tomorrow for 2 weeks .

You're welcome. Sainthood - you're too kind.
You've written poems for other members.
Here's one for you:

Bari-sisters on the scene
Have you met Little Green?
She's cool,
She's alright,
But mess with kakatlady,
She'll call you really shady
Creekimp has your back
When under attack
From f'ed up professional error
Or Bariatric member terror
Then there's FluffyChix
Let's get her in the mix
She gives a humor fix
Along with gentle (hugs)
But she can be your thug
KatFight has been there too
When doctors' associates have no clue
So, yes, puddycat do what you gotta do
Even if you leave some kitty poo
In the end (hee hee) you'll be great
And eat from a little plate
You'll be really lean
Bari-sisters on the scene

You're welcome. Sainthood - you're too kind.
You've written poems for other members.
Here's one for you:

Bari-sisters on the scene
Have you met Little Green?
She's cool,
She's alright,
But mess with kakatlady,
She'll call you really shady
Creekimp has your back
When under attack
From f'ed up professional error
Or Bariatric member terror
Then there's FluffyChix
Let's get her in the mix
She gives a humor fix
Along with gentle (hugs)
But she can be your thug
KatFight has been there too
When doctors' associates have no clue
So, yes, puddycat do what you gotta do
Even if you leave some kitty poo
In the end (hee hee) you'll be great
And eat from a little plate
You'll be really lean
Bari-sisters on the scene

You're welcome. Sainthood - you're too kind.
You've written poems for other members.
Here's one for you:

Bari-sisters on the scene
Have you met Little Green?
She's cool,
She's alright,
But mess with kakatlady,
She'll call you really shady
Creekimp has your back
When under attack
From f'ed up professional error
Or Bariatric member terror
Then there's FluffyChix
Let's get her in the mix
She gives a humor fix
Along with gentle (hugs)
But she can be your thug
KatFight has been there too
When doctors' associates have no clue
So, yes, puddycat do what you gotta do
Even if you leave some kitty poo
In the end (hee hee) you'll be great
And eat from a little plate
You'll be really lean
Bari-sisters on the scene

It's also nice to have a pillow in your car. I held mine against my stomach as my husband drive to keep it more stable. It was a good thing to have.

In my mind it's natural to have questions, some of which may involve things down the road. All because things you ask about may be down the road doesn't mean you're rushing ahead. You're just curious. Seems that some people think they are so experienced that they can stop others from asking questions by saying "slow down" or "don't panic" or "pump the brakes" as if those asking questions are jumping ahead rather than living in the bariatric moment. We can live in the bariatric moment and still have random questions.

Felt discouraged? I'm sorry to hear that. At least you learned who you may not want as a bariatric friend. Obviously, you wouldn't treat someone like that (nor would I).

Felt some kind of way? Yeah, I can definitely understand why. You reached out to a new friend and were shut down when you asked a question following the friend inviting you to message with any questions. It's a mind****.

There are some nice people on here. I hope you'll stay despite the cold reception.

It's only natural to have trepidations before surgery. The majority here had them. Just get walking as soon as you can it will help you recover faster.

That's amazing! Congratulations.

Oops. Didn't mean to post same message twice.

I feel the same way as you do. My surgery was 12/28. I've lost 19 lbs. since surgery and I've followed all dietary protocol. I do walk around my block each week - some weeks more than others because of fibromyalgia and arthritis pain. I spoke to my doctor about this and she was understanding, encouraged me to rest in the worse days and do more in the better days. She also thought my weight loss was good. I had lost 18 lbs. during the first 4 weeks and lost 1 lb. in the last week. Like you, I have wondered why more hasn't come off because I'm not eating much and I see other people losing more weight. Since my consultation, I've lost 41 pounds. The dietician, therapist, and surgeon are pleased. I'm just hoping things don't keep going this slowly. While I feel this way, all of the posts make perfect sense and are very logical. And, I actually think your weight loss is very good. You're really doing great and need to keep doing what you're doing.

I feel the same way as you do. My surgery was 12/28. I've lost 19 lbs. since surgery and I've followed all dietary protocol. I do walk around my block each week - some weeks more than others because of fibromyalgia and arthritis pain. I spoke to my doctor about this and she was understanding, encouraged me to rest in the worse days and do more in the better days. She also thought my weight loss was good. I had lost 18 lbs. during the first 4 weeks and lost 1 lb. in the last week. Like you, I have wondered why more hasn't come off because I'm not eating much and I see other people losing more weight. Since my consultation, I've lost 41 pounds. The dietician, therapist, and surgeon are pleased. I'm just hoping things don't keep going this slowly. While I feel this way, all of the posts make perfect sense and are very logical. And, I actually think your weight loss is very good. You're really doing great and need to keep doing what you're doing.

That's amazing! Congratulations.

Damn dude. Doctor up!

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're human. You're hungry. You went from eating 2000+ calories a day to eating barely anything. It's not in your head. And this phase passes. You'll be back to eating normal foods in a month or two. KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE!!! YOU GOT THIS!!