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Anyone here is allowed to think and say......that they are a disgusting animal all they want. But....I'm gonna feel sorry for you publicly, if you share that very sad piece of information publicly. Don't do that to yourself. It's abusive. You, and everyone here...deserves better. Dehumanization, historically...is a very ugly thing correlated with countless crimes against humanity. Value yourself. Value others. And don't hang this toxic crap on fat people.

In all honesty....saying you're a disgusting animal because of what you weigh...is going to be seen by others as being really really messed up. PARTICULARLY ON A BOARD FULL OF FAT PEOPLE:) And by the way...you could focus on yourself and not respond to her post if "focusing on yourself" was a virtue you honored. Practice what you preach.

I think anyone who thinks they're "disgusting" and compares themselves to an animal....at any weight....has bigger issues than obesity. That's incredibly messed up in my book. Is fat unhealthy? Yep. Yep, it is. Like any other metabolic disorder, obesity is dangerous and must be addressed. Does it make you a disgusting animal? No. it really doesn't. To say that about anyone...including yourself....is abusive and messed up.

Liquid diet until surgery. If you liver is enlarged, there's a chance your surgeon will close you up and opt out of the surgery until it's properly reduced (the whole point of the diet). It's rare that it happens....but my surgeon says he has done this a number of times. It might not depend on the weight of the patient as much as the technique/equipment your surgeon prefers and how your specific anatomy presents. Also, weight isn't necessarily correlated with the condition of the liver. You have very good chances of everything working out fine if you stay on liquid now until surgery. And if your surgeon closes you up....well, you can do the diet properly and try again. Best wishes! I hope your surgeon is able to complete your surgery:)

One ounce every 15 minutes at first, Matty. Try to do it in twelve little sips. Keep it slow. Wishing you a safe recovery.

I walked 5-7 miles every day for months before surgery. I had a super easy surgery and a super easy recovery. Is correlation causation in this case? I don't know. But regular exercise improves lung function and heart efficiency....which really should help with the healing process.

On that we can agree! Best wishes for the OP's quick recovery and future success:)

Decided to edit this one due to timing of post. I'm not a huge fan of public display of private faith/beliefs. I think they invite controversy. And alternate views. And goofy arguments. And a whole can a worms that this site...isn't about. That said...this post was made right after surgery...so....meh... OP has enough on her plate without my comments tonight.

Decided to edit this one due to timing of post.

That stinks! Will keep my fingers crossed for a cancellation you can slip into! Good luck:)

You're gonna do great, Melsa. Everyone has a bout of last minute "omg, what have I gotten myself into?" It's completely normal to stress out a little at the last minute. Trust your saner self...who has been working toward this goal for months. You are not gonna feel alone in the hospital. Everything is gonna happen so fast you'll be stunned:) And the nurses will come every few hours and take your blood and drive you crazy....you won't have a chance to feel lonely or afraid...too damned many people will be checking on you:) You've got this. You really do. It's gonna be ok:)

Matty, I tried to love your original post and for some reason it's not recording it. So glad you're on the other side! Well done! Walk, walk, walk, sip sip sip!

They said early 60's

It is pretty graphic.

Erica...a perspective moment. There are a hell of a lot of us who would love to look as good as you do now. I'd love to be a size 12. Hell, who am I kidding...I was gaga giddy over getting into a 16. I get that YOU have to be happy with your weight...etc. etc. etc. I also get that maintenance is tough. But yeah...wow...compared to the vast majority of the people on this board, you've got nothing to complain about. You've got a bump in the road....not a tragedy. All drama aside...you've got this.

And hell if I know! LOL. He might be. But you know me...I'm a sticker for documented fact. I can eyeball him and say...yep, dude is large. But I haven't seen him on a scale. I'm being nit picky. Apple..I'd watch it at work...but I work with weirdos, so... LOL:)

Autopsy gowns are not flattering. He's a big dude, no doubt. Really tall, too. But given there's no specific mention of him having morbid obesity, I guess I wouldn't be sure about it. I'm sure he's somewhere on the obese BMI side of things, though!

Karla isn't heavy. Mike is pretty overweight, but I'm not sure he's morbidly obese?

I'm confident naked, loose skin and all. We get older. Shite happens. No one, upon their death bed, ever says....I wish I'd spent more time hiding and being self conscious. Be bold. Love your battle scars, they're part of your truth. If you really want some plastics...meh...that's cool...go for it, if it flies your particular freak flag and makes you feel good. Why not? But at the end of the day....we all get old and saggy and our ears grow and our tits and balls hang to the ground...and you might as well embrace that. It's human, it's life, and foregoing a tragedy...none of us gets spared the experience:)

60% is average. This includes folks who go off the rails and can't get hold of their food addiction. This includes sick folks who can hardly move to exercise. Lots of people do a lot better than average:) And some folks...won't do as well as average...their bodies just have stubborn set points, or their psychological issues will impede them until they address them.

WARNING: Not for folks who have a weak stomach.... But for those who are biologically curious and don't find watching surgery upsetting, this is a fascinating look at the post mortem exam of a significantly obese woman who donated her body to science. You can find it on Netflix if you'd rather watch on your big TV, or here's a link to watch on your comp:

I'm 3 months out....I am happier with meal times than I've ever been. I can eat a reasonable amount of almost anything. From where you're standing...."a few bites" sounds like a torturous miserable meal. Been there. And yep...preconceived notions can be scary. From where I'm standing....feeling really satisfied and full after eating about a half a cup of my favorite foods...is a wonderful feeling. Starting to crave and enjoy things that are good for me....is wonderful. Building a forever diet that I love...is wonderful:) I do want to address something you said: " I don't want to do something so drastic that I never eat normally again." First off....drastic health risks sometimes require drastic measures. Never downplay how sick obesity leaves your body. You might not feel sick, but the effects are cumulative and they will catch you. Obesity is hell on your circulatory system, your joints, your liver, your endocrine system...it predisposes you to cancer. That's a DRASTIC problem. Also....you fear you will never eat "normally" again. But you're not eating normally now. Normal eating doesn't lead to morbid obesity:( Come to terms with the reality that what you're doing now....is drastic, abnormal, and has consequences. Everyone has a process. Everyone works through these questions and concerns at their own pace. Everyone who makes this decision needs to be fully committed and not coerced. I wish you the very best in figuring out what you want. Your questions and concerns are absolutely welcome:)

This whole adventure was never about aesthetics for me. I wanted good lab numbers and to be off medications. I wanted my arthritis to hurt less, and for sleep to be a better quality. I've gotten all the important wishes....so the fact that I look a little nicer is just the cherry on top. So far, my loose skin isn't too bad. If I wear a supportive stretch cami, it all looks pretty darned good. Hubby thinks I look terrific. Beyond that...I kinda don't care. Gravity and loose skin...meh...it happens. Just not that worried about it.

It gets easier. Hang tough.

Nice work!