sunflower71609

Most people on this site list their surgery under their picture when they post. I would look there first for their information. I too had the DS and have no regrets. I revised from a lap-band and didn't want the risk of regain.

I think most of the time those comments come from fear and lack of understanding that by the time we reach the point of going for surgery, the majority of us have yo-yo dieted and tried so many different things, only to regain. Hopefully they will come around once the surgery is done and they see how much better you are feeling and how happy you are.

They will come around after they see you're safely through surgery (much of that is fear) and of course seeing you loss and more importantly maintain the loss will make them believers. Try to use this as motivation to show them this was a good decision by sticking to the program, using your new tool to truly make a lifestyle change and maintain a healthy weight. You can do it!!!!

lol yes! Thank you! I'm just ready to have it over. I've been waiting for what feels like forever! (6 month mandated diet). All I've heard is negativity. Congratulations on your successful surgery. I hope to be you one day soon! I'm having the ds in around November. 1 more month of the counseling, nutritionist, and classes! [emoji173]️[emoji173]️

My husband is super supportive. He's been with me and has seen my struggles through the years. He would always lose his 20lbs, and I'd lose nothing. He's seen the fasting, dieting, and then the guilt. He wants this for me. My best friend, my brother, and my grandmother are the only other ones I have. They all have negative/ rude comments. Like thanks, never thought to eat healthy!
My mom died 2 years ago of a stroke at 53. She wasn't nearly as over weight as I am. I fear that I don't have a 60 year old self if I don't do this! I'm only 28, I need and want to be here as long as I can. Thanks for the support! [emoji173]️

Lol maybe! I am lucky to have my husbands support at least.

Tomorrow is the big day. I'm having the SIPS DS in the morning! I'm excited but getting quite nervous!

I meant out of jealousy, not joyously. oops.

@sunflower71609, that's why only my husband and my kids know. As close as I am to my siblings and cousins, I didn't tell them. Everybody will have an opinion. My husband was never really on board with the surgery. He thinks I can just magically all of a sudden lose the weight on my own...well I tried that and it didn't work. Sometimes I hate I had to tell him, but I couldn't get around that. I will tell you like I had to tell myself, this is for me, my health depends on it and I'm going to do this with a smile on my face. I'm ready to start living the rest of my life as a normal or at this point an under weight person, just not an over weight person ever again. You do you honey and don't let anyone stop you. Sometimes I wonder if peoples opinions are out of joyously of what you're gonna look like after the weight is loss.

My husband is my biggest supporter as well as my daughter. Other people that I have told don't seem to have a good reaction. I have gotten many rude and ignorant comments. It is a shame that some people do think this is the easy way out! They have no idea do they? LOL and some people make comments about my vanity, like the things we do for vanity! I try to stay calm and tell them the surgery is not for vanity it is for survival and health. It really gets me that I have to defend myself. I'm getting to the point where I don't anymore. I really don't care what they think. All I care about is being healthy and living a happy fulfilled life! I'm 3 months post-op gastric bypass. I've lost over 50 pounds and and feeling so much better and I'm so much happier. So hang in there and don't listen to the naysayers just listen to your heart!

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Not every surgeon does the DS because of its complexity. Bypass has been around for a long time so they consider it the "gold standard" but I wouldn't necessarily say that makes it better. As mentioned another commenter, DS doesn't have dumping which is a plus in my book [emoji4]

You can try responding to critics with facts--it's a very safe surgery, safer than gall-bladder removal. Long-term weight loss without surgery is only successful in a tiny minority of cases; most people put what they've lost back on, plus more. The fact that people feel guilty about this and we're treated as being somehow weak and self-indulgent is shameful. There are many reasons for people being overweight but few lasting solutions--except this one. And, ultimately, it's your body--you shouldn't have to defend your decision to do something smart for yourself.
Best of luck!

I'm also going back and forth between the two surgeries. I'm leaning towards the one and done. I'm reading that a lot of surgeons will lean you in the direction of their expertise which is Sleeve or Bypass my thought is to go with their recommendation since they are not confident in performing the DS. Being self pay I'll choose the DR that is confident in doing the DS and has performed enough with great reviews. I'm leaning towards Dr A Lopez but am going back and forth on Facility.

From what I've seen, about 5% - 10% of people regret their surgery long term.. which means 90-95% DON'T regret it.
Short term regret in the first weeks postop is extremely common.
The ones with long term regret don't hang out on message boards full of happy patients for long.
It seems the majority of regret is fueled by physical complications or unresolved emotional issues.
We've seen regret stemming from religious beliefs.
Sometimes people find that perfect diet/exercise program that they are sure would have worked without surgery.
And the biggie... "he/she wouldn't have left me if I hadn't had the surgery".

My husband is super supportive. He's been with me and has seen my struggles through the years. He would always lose his 20lbs, and I'd lose nothing. He's seen the fasting, dieting, and then the guilt. He wants this for me. My best friend, my brother, and my grandmother are the only other ones I have. They all have negative/ rude comments. Like thanks, never thought to eat healthy!
My mom died 2 years ago of a stroke at 53. She wasn't nearly as over weight as I am. I fear that I don't have a 60 year old self if I don't do this! I'm only 28, I need and want to be here as long as I can. Thanks for the support! [emoji173]️

My husband is super supportive. He's been with me and has seen my struggles through the years. He would always lose his 20lbs, and I'd lose nothing. He's seen the fasting, dieting, and then the guilt. He wants this for me. My best friend, my brother, and my grandmother are the only other ones I have. They all have negative/ rude comments. Like thanks, never thought to eat healthy!
My mom died 2 years ago of a stroke at 53. She wasn't nearly as over weight as I am. I fear that I don't have a 60 year old self if I don't do this! I'm only 28, I need and want to be here as long as I can. Thanks for the support! [emoji173]️

I'm almost 6 months out from RNY and literally so happy I made this decision.

I'm 25 and my parents had said the same thing. They love me but elective surgery is a scary thing for a parent to support for their child. When I told the chances of me losing in my own and keeping it off after a lifting of obesity they were still skeptical. Now my parents are 100% supportive

The drinking part or not drinking part is hard socially. My friend had the surgery and drank about 8 months out, she just gets completely **** faced after one glass of wine and her drink choices changed. It's suppose to be one year with out alcohol, if you can't do that you might want to think about your life. It's weird socially eating out / drinking at first but you'll fall into a routine


Seminar 12/27/16: wt 304
Surgery 3/23: wt 287
3 months post op : 236

My surgery date is 09/25/17, and I do not have a lot of support. I am 29 and do not have any medical conditions except for asthma and the fact that my BMI is 44. My parents feel like I should not have to be "cut open" in order to lose weight, but they do not understand my every day struggle. My dietician (outside of the bariatric program) reminds me that if I get this surgery I can possibly develop esophageal cancer because you apparently get GERD after gastric sleeve. I only have one supportive friend, and she's sad because she feels like I'm going to become a different person because of hormones and that i won't be able to drink anymore. I just support from someone and some assurance that I am making the right decision. I don't want to die and I don't want to regret this surgery and develop more diseases as a result of this surgery. Is this worth it? Did anyone have regrets?

The big difference is dumping syndrome. With Bypass the pyloric valve is not usable. So whatever food you eat drains straight into the small intestine through a created connection to the stomach. The small intestine cannot handle sugars. And reacts badly to exposure.

With th the DS the pyloric valve is left intact and functions normally. This prevents dumping syndrome and produces a much more pleasant experience with sugar, for sugar addiction this can be bad but the Malabsorption caused by the DS mitigates. Keep in mind refined sugar causes the infamous gas and loose stool. I consider that motivation enough to stay away.

I have only seen like two people say they regret it and I believe both of them had some personal issues they didn't address before hand.

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The gas/diarrhea issue with the traditional DS is a myth. As long as I stick to the plan I have no issues at all. Too many carbs will cause issues for all WLS.

Yea, and ugh, this is why I am not sharing with my family (other than H and kids). Sometimes I wonder if their own regrets may be a factor. What would my 63 yo future self say to me if she had a time machine? I'm pretty sure she would kick my butt for staying obese and unable to live the life she/I deserves << maybe that is what my 75yo mom would think about my upcoming surgery, but about herself?

I survived... In a good amount of pain and just started pureed foods. Not a single throw up, haven't passed gas yet nor had a bowel movement but i did take Magnesium citrate on Sunday morning to clear my bowels out so it might be a while.
Just thought i would give everyone a heads up and show my gratitude for the support i have received.

For the most part, it stems from fear. Fear of complications, fear that YOU'll begin regretting it..
My own family did the same thing.. they just want what's best for us...

But the bypass also runs the risk of malnutrition. I'm not certain that the there is an increased percentage of complications of the DS vs the bypass. I think they're pretty comparable. DS has a better long term outcome when it comes to regain.

The SIPS is a modified DS having a single anastomoses vs the two anastomoses of the traditional. The SIPS also has a longer common channel that also helps reduce the risk of malnutrition and eases the whole gas/diarrhea issue. SIPS is also known as SADI or LOOP.

Again this being a personal decision, you have to go with your gut [emoji173]️ good luck with your decision [emoji4]