Rainbow_Warrior

Hear, hear to that.
I am an agnostic and have no truck with formal religion of any sort.
People may pray for me if they wish but no-one is listening ... but I am glad that it feeds their self-satisfaction.

Yes.
I went nearly four weeks in April losing only 300 grams (10 ounces) but then in May, things kicked off again with a 2.7 kilogram loss in under four weeks. (i.e. Almost six pounds!)

Yes.
I went nearly four weeks in April losing only 300 grams (10 ounces) but then in May, things kicked off again with a 2.7 kilogram loss in under four weeks. (i.e. Almost six pounds!)

Well Rainbow Warrior-- I am thankful to have you As a friend and mentor.

True story. My son was 13 and in Children's Hospital due to severe Migraines caused by fibromyalgia. A rabbi came to the room to see if he could be of any service. I've got what would be considered a "jewish" sounding last name and going by visual stereotypes, people assume I'm jewish as well, same applies to my son. Note that I checked him in and at no point did they ask about religion but somehow my son was listed as jewish in their system. I had that corrected.
Anyway, the rabbi comes in and asks my son how he's doing. My son was in pain so he just mumbled something unintelligible. The rabbi, just trying to make conversation said "You look like you're thirteen, have you had your bar mitzvah yet?"
My son says "No."
Rabbi said "So you're preparing for it?"
My son says "No, I'm not having one."
Rabbi, taken aback asks "Why not?"
And my son, of whom I could not be prouder, says "Because my father loves me."

Oh yeah, hope the recovery goes well and you have an excellent staff regardless of their condescension...

Wow, for a support group there sure are a lot of closed minds here all suggesting I just ignore it. Were it that simple why would I bring it up here in the first place? Everyone here is saying that the ones offering to pray mean well, and I don’t dispute that.
I’m sure everyone is familiar with “The Golden Rule” that basically says “Treat others as you would want to be treated.” Well, you know what? That’s garbage. I’m not you. Chances are that I don’t want to be treated the same as you. If you don’t know me why would you make that assumption?
The rule should really be “Treat others as THEY would like to be treated.” That’s a common maxim in management and it applies to real life too. If you don't know the other person, don't assume anything.
If I am in a crisis, offering to pray for me is not consoling me. I don’t want religion brought up because I’m not religious and I don’t believe in any of it, and for someone to simply presume that is something I would want or appreciate during trying times is not being considerate of my feelings at all. I would never bring up my personal opinions when trying to console someone else and I am merely asking for the same courtesy.
Someone above also called me a “militant atheist” and that could not be further from the truth. I married into a very religious family and they all knew my feelings from the start. On our first date I told my wife I was an atheist and she told me that she was Jewish and would only consider getting married by a rabbi. (It was an historic first date.) I loved her so I agreed to get married by a rabbi, though we did find one who did the entire ceremony in English, did not talk about Israel or anything else explicitly religious during the ceremony and did not require me to wear a yarmulke, so everyone was satisfied with our compromise.
I am extremely tolerant of everyone’s beliefs no matter how misguided or ingrained I may believe they are. If you think I sound dismissive, I’d be happy to enlighten you to what it means to be an atheist in the United States or worse, places like the Middle East where it can be a death sentence. I would never ask anyone else to change their behavior to accommodate me and again I’d expect the same in return. I do believe in trying to effect change by setting a good example.
So again, all I have asked is why people can’t be more considerate of others and not make assumptions. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

Hocus Pocus BS.
Fictitious figments of imagination looping around in the clouds ain't determining anything for me.

Hear, hear to that.
I am an agnostic and have no truck with formal religion of any sort.
People may pray for me if they wish but no-one is listening ... but I am glad that it feeds their self-satisfaction.

Hocus Pocus BS.
Fictitious figments of imagination looping around in the clouds ain't determining anything for me.

Hocus Pocus BS.
Fictitious figments of imagination looping around in the clouds ain't determining anything for me.

Yes, I looked forward to leaving 7XL and 6XL shirts, 66-inch waist work-slacks and 9X track-pants behind.
Today is 35 weeks since surgery. 47 kg (104 pounds) lighter.
I'm wearing 2XL and some XL shirts/polos. My slacks are 48-inch waist. I'm in 4X track-pants. My shoes are looser on my feet.
I used to be 15mm from belly to bottom of my car steering-wheel. (Half an inch for American readers.)
Now I am 155mm (6.5") from flatter belly to the steering-wheel (and because of my smaller arse, my seat is a few notches closer to the front of the car too).

Hocus Pocus BS.
Fictitious figments of imagination looping around in the clouds ain't determining anything for me.

That will cause me to vomit on you or to have a moderately severe anaphylactic reaction.

Use your F5 key every few minutes or do CTRL+R (Windows) or COMMAND+R (Apple) ... that will stop you not seeing recent posts ... they will update for you ASAP.

Hocus Pocus BS.
Fictitious figments of imagination looping around in the clouds ain't determining anything for me.

For a long, while the scale hovered around 202 203 200.x Today, I'm proud to show this number, did it up in soft glow because that's the feeling I had! (has song right about now funk show brother playing in head)

So, I’m currently in recovery, and while I was in the waiting room to go into surgery, one of the nurses said to a relative of another patient, “ don’t worry she’s in good hands” the guy responds “well that’s not up to you, she’s in God’s hands now” and I literally was like wtf?!?? I wholeheartedly agree with this as an atheist. I mean I don’t mind if people say they’ll pray for me, cause that’s they’re business, but what that guy said really pissed me off. We’re in the hands of the surgeons, nurses, and amazing surgical team. ❤️

Sorry you’re feeling down. I’ve had times of feeling the same and more than one argument with family since getting the sleeve a week ago, so don’t feel alone. You’re feelings are all valid, of course you miss your cat and are sad. Crying is allowed. And you’re not acting like a third grader. You’re acting like someone who has gone through something pretty big, is adjusting to a new life, is missing home and a beloved pet. Big hugs to you.

Whatever your original post was has been deleted.
Moderators? Or you?

I am 62 had bypass on 5/8/18.My husband was not on board either. But it was life or death for me for my future. If he loves you he will come around if not then do it for yourself. Three weeks after surgery my husband is now on board.
But I would do this journey alone if I had to , so I could live longer. I owe it to myself to be healthy.I am already off of 7 out of 10 meds I used to take prior to surgery!

Years ago my sister found my nephews to have high cholesterol they were eight and 12 respectively today they are both in their twenties. She didn't want them on meds at such an early age. Both were on the heavy side. She was determined that her two boys were going to be healthy by eating well. With the help of a nutritionist she went to work. Out went all of the Snacks, sugary foods and soda. In came fruits, Water and things like lean meats and veggies. My sister worked and was a single mom but she was determined to keep her sons healthy. Today they are very healthy and have a lifetime of good eating habits. Prior to my weight loss I would take them out to eat and they always ordered healthy and stayed away from the Desserts. (Since they didn't have any desserts I took theirs.) It's very doable if you stick to the plan.

Someone else has already begun on meals and cooking pointers.
You will do a great job if you improve the quality of the food you are putting into your kids. Their long term (i.e. life health) picture will improve as you fix your needs and get past your obesity.
You, as (single) parent, are leader of this family unit.
Can I say my favourite advice is "COOK WITH YOUR KIDS". My daughter has four of her five kids (the ones aged from 12+ down to nearly 7yo) all involved in food preparation several times per week.
Kids, even ones who have been on convenience style foods and packaged/reheated foods will still eat (IN MOST CASES) what they help prepare.

Someone else has already begun on meals and cooking pointers.
You will do a great job if you improve the quality of the food you are putting into your kids. Their long term (i.e. life health) picture will improve as you fix your needs and get past your obesity.
You, as (single) parent, are leader of this family unit.
Can I say my favourite advice is "COOK WITH YOUR KIDS". My daughter has four of her five kids (the ones aged from 12+ down to nearly 7yo) all involved in food preparation several times per week.
Kids, even ones who have been on convenience style foods and packaged/reheated foods will still eat (IN MOST CASES) what they help prepare.

No.
I have Hair loss as a result of 4+ hours swimming per day.
The chlorinated Water at the swimming centre seems to 'eat' my arm hairs and most of my chest hairs.
Surgery itself has not been responsible for hair loss. My swimming hair loss happened in other years long before gastric sleeve surgery.

Normal for some.
Sounds like the time to telephone your bariatric clinic and/or surgeon for advice ... "to be sure to be sure" as my Irish pals say!