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Honestly this isn't an easy surgery to go through for anyone.....some heal faster than others and some don't. Some people can get majority of their liquids in and others can't even meet half of their daily intake. It's a mental thing all around. Take longer walks through out the day to get your mind of the pain or just do extra things around the house. If your just moping around then that makes u think more about the negatives. 3 weeks out is a pretty decent time where u should be able to be out and about with friends. And reading your never going to eat your favorite foods again is bs. I know people personally who've had a successful surgery and have dropped over their goal weight and still have cheat days. It's all about you controlling yourself and saying ok I'm full I'm not going to continue eating this. When your able to eat regular foods again, meal prep for the week and then Friday or Saturday have a cheat meal and then get back on your meal prep the next day. Because if you just give up and just binge eat on all the bad foods that got u where u were before the surgery then the surgery was just pointless you know? It's all in your control! Just think of your goal weight and where u want to see yourself! Or even buy an outfit that u want to fit in by next summer and that can be another motivation for u! Don't give up because I'm rooting for you and I know you can do this...be strong for yourself and push through! [emoji1377][emoji171]

Hi Ladybug!
I just joined, so not sure if you decided to continue with surgery as planned. Just wanted you to know you're not alone and that I struggled to lose the amount my team requested during my 6 mo. wait. A therapist is so, so important! (Before and after surgery.) You should be able to find someone that specializes in working with bariatric surgery patients as well as anxiety/depression. If you are taking psychotropic meds make sure you are also seeing a psychiatrist - they can help manage the potential medication transitions after surgery. (Primary care physicians don't always have enough experience with psych meds.) I'm still working to get my meds right - but everyday I feel a little better.
Thinking of you and hoping for confidence and success as you move through this process! You can do it!

You probably have traded one addiction for another. Seek a counselor.

I agree that it is possible that you have transferred addictions. A good counselor or therapist can help you sort through everything. I wish you all the best.

I don't know if this is necessarily the place to post this, but I just got married!!!! This woman has been by my side through the last 2 and a half years in this journey. She met me when I weighed over 600 pounds. I am now back down to my playing weight for football in college, but I am much healthier and and in better shape than I was then. I still have a lot of work to get under 3 bills, but I am extremely happy to head down this new path in life.

My surgeons kept saying - everyone is different - you'll just have to wait and see. But for me...
I work in education (administration) and went back PART-TIME after two weeks. It was tough. I wish I had done another full week home. The surgery is no joke - but the postop diet is the hard part. I was not in pain, but had no energy. I would suggest getting a sub - just in case.

This is a story about a young man who always had a smile on his face but knew he was different. Whether it be his heart or his waistline he always had the biggest in his class. He never let it hold him back because he saw the best in people when they couldn't see it in him.

He wasn’t always so confident about what life would hold for him. At the age of 12, he had gotten to 220 pounds. Due to a condition unrelated to his weight he suffered pain in his legs and ankles and required surgery to repair a curvature in his legs. Post-op, he gained even more weight. From age 12 to 16 he gained about 120 pounds.

It's hard to see the pain behind this cutie's smile, but when he was 16 he told a psychiatrist that he was ready to die. He felt like he maxed out on his potential in life and it would be okay if he wasn't around anymore. It was an extremely stressful time and he had no proper way to cope with anything, and he let himself get to 340 pounds. He had no values. He had no beliefs and he saw no purpose.


In 2010, his mom read a magazine article about the SickKids Team Obesity Management Program. Through STOMP, patients can access a team of health professionals, support groups and, for those who meet specific criteria, bariatric surgery. At the time, the program was focused on teens with other health issues, such as Type 2 diabetes, but he was still a solid fit. After three months, he had lost 20 pounds and the team was looking at surgical options. In August 2011 and weighing 300 pounds, he had a Roux-En-Y gastric bypass, a form of bariatric surgery

In less than a year he lost around 80 pounds, weighing 220 pounds. His life had changed significantly when it came to eating, but he was prepared for that and knew he would have to manage this for the rest of his life.

It wasn't perfect and for a few years post-op he struggled with multiple different complications, but he found a way to push through them and find some balance in his life.

He began to find purpose in his life. He went to nursing school, driven by the care and passion that many doctors, nurses and other healthcare professionals poured into him along his journey. He wanted to give back and make a difference in other people's lives. He wanted others to see that they were just as worth the love and care he received.
 
He found values. He became accountable for his actions and saw what was truly important in his life. He became a lover of travelling, eating delicious food and engaging in fitness and leading a healthy lifestyle.
    
He developed a new set of beliefs - that every day is another chance to get stronger, to eat better, to live healthier and be the best version of himself because he is human - perfectly imperfect and worth it.

Since you need business attire, it may be worthwhile to check out the clothing subscription websites. You pay so much a month, and can get a couple outfits, then mail them back in to exchange for others. (Old fashioned netflix type thing).
What I've been doing is getting two pairs of nice black slacks, and about 3 nice tops (I buy them where they'll just barely fit but still look ok, so they have room for me to shrink into).. and just do laundry constantly. If people wonder why I wear an outfit all the time, I just say it's my favorite. If they press, I'd say,"Hey, you want to take me shopping?" Ok, I admit that's never happened.. and probably because everything I wear is black, so they can't tell one outfit from the next, so they just assume I have a closet full of black clothes. Monochromatic, but it works! Lol. (And if I'm being ornery, I'd say I was in mourning for my parakeet).

Wow, that's some nerve asking a question of the sort. Even if he was trying to joke, but it doesn't sound like it. My encouragement for you is to find a way to let negative comments roll off your back and not take it to heart. It's VERY HARD to do, because words can slice and dice us up, but if this is how people are in your community (area), than that's maybe what you might need to try to do??? Fight the depression, it wants to leave you in despair and you're too priceless to be wallowing in the dark. Everyone is.