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Right now, tasty food is not important. Rest, and getting those sips of Water, are. Put some unsweetened Protein Powder into water (I used raw milk because I love it) or something not sweet. Try sipping warm Bone Broth. Fluids, a bit of Protein, rest. I promise you one day you will enjoy food again but this is your MOMENT TO RESET YOUR EATING. Eating got us into trouble. Now you are starting anew with a new stomach and you get a reset. If you do this right, you won’t be craving sweets any more and you will spend the next year just losing weight and getting into shape.
sweet foods used to be our friends but we have new friends now. Rest and get ready. It’s going to be a good year for you, but you’re recovering from major surgery so go easy on yourself. I couldn’t get enough water or protein in at first. It gets better. Distract yourself with shows and books and walk your hallway and sip your water.
Im almost one year from surgery and I promise you won’t have any regrets. It gets easier and life gets a lot nicer. And you’re on your way.

Right now, tasty food is not important. Rest, and getting those sips of Water, are. Put some unsweetened Protein Powder into water (I used raw milk because I love it) or something not sweet. Try sipping warm Bone Broth. Fluids, a bit of Protein, rest. I promise you one day you will enjoy food again but this is your MOMENT TO RESET YOUR EATING. Eating got us into trouble. Now you are starting anew with a new stomach and you get a reset. If you do this right, you won’t be craving sweets any more and you will spend the next year just losing weight and getting into shape.
sweet foods used to be our friends but we have new friends now. Rest and get ready. It’s going to be a good year for you, but you’re recovering from major surgery so go easy on yourself. I couldn’t get enough water or protein in at first. It gets better. Distract yourself with shows and books and walk your hallway and sip your water.
Im almost one year from surgery and I promise you won’t have any regrets. It gets easier and life gets a lot nicer. And you’re on your way.

Wow! Congrats! Weight just flew off of you. I’m almost a year out and lost 60 lbs!

To all of you lovely ladies and Matt in this conversation, I just honestly think people do not know what to say a lot of the times or it comes out wrong or don’t want to embarrass you because they may not have complimented you in the past but you all have worked very very hard and done a great job!! So please please accept the compliments even if it comes out as superficial, shallow, crazy etc. Reality is when you lose a significant amount of weight sometimes you may look like a totally different person, and that’s not a bad thing, you may not see it but others do...and NO people did not think that any of you were disgusting before, we live in a society that have people so messed up that even as adults they kinda go with the crowd or bullies and do not know how to react well to change. Enjoy the compliments and trust me people that don’t say anything they are noticing you. I’m so proud of you all, I don’t know you all but I love the support that you give everyone here so I know that you are all beautiful people inside and out. Know your worth, sparkle and shine on...

I honestly thought when people said they loved exercise they were lying. Exercise used to feel so horrible. And it was hard and not fun and you just want it over with.
now almost 11 months out from surgery, I honestly wish I had more time to exercise (I have very little time, 4 kids and full time care of mom with dementia). I peer into gyms and wonder about learning new kinds of workouts. No ****. I really love my little workouts and want to do more. I am not lying to y’all. I can’t believe it myself. I can’t believe I can feel some muscle definition under my loose skin, still a little chubby arms and legs. I get into yoga and kettlebell conversations and I actually care. This is a huge change for me.

Reading so many clothes ones, I’ll add: I have bought a few nicer smaller pantiesover the last year as I lost. But my old cotton ones still sort of worked so I didn’t overhaul them. Now that I can wear actual dresses without longline “shorts” under them to protect the chafing thighs, I PUT ON ONE OF THE OLD PANTIES AND IT WAS FALLING DOWN under the dress! So I ordered as a surgiversary gift a whole set of new undies and the others are trashed as soon as the new ones arrive!

Another NSV from today: I found out that working out flattens the earth. I walked my daughter up to her first day of camp. Same place as last year. I had to hike up this hill to her group. Same area this year, but no hot sweaty hike up the hill.... I didn’t even realize it was slightly uphill. It was Everest last year; this year it’s as easy to walk as a flat sidewalk. Yeah!

Reading so many clothes ones, I’ll add: I have bought a few nicer smaller pantiesover the last year as I lost. But my old cotton ones still sort of worked so I didn’t overhaul them. Now that I can wear actual dresses without longline “shorts” under them to protect the chafing thighs, I PUT ON ONE OF THE OLD PANTIES AND IT WAS FALLING DOWN under the dress! So I ordered as a surgiversary gift a whole set of new undies and the others are trashed as soon as the new ones arrive!

Another NSV from today: I found out that working out flattens the earth. I walked my daughter up to her first day of camp. Same place as last year. I had to hike up this hill to her group. Same area this year, but no hot sweaty hike up the hill.... I didn’t even realize it was slightly uphill. It was Everest last year; this year it’s as easy to walk as a flat sidewalk. Yeah!

Reading so many clothes ones, I’ll add: I have bought a few nicer smaller pantiesover the last year as I lost. But my old cotton ones still sort of worked so I didn’t overhaul them. Now that I can wear actual dresses without longline “shorts” under them to protect the chafing thighs, I PUT ON ONE OF THE OLD PANTIES AND IT WAS FALLING DOWN under the dress! So I ordered as a surgiversary gift a whole set of new undies and the others are trashed as soon as the new ones arrive!

Another NSV from today: I found out that working out flattens the earth. I walked my daughter up to her first day of camp. Same place as last year. I had to hike up this hill to her group. Same area this year, but no hot sweaty hike up the hill.... I didn’t even realize it was slightly uphill. It was Everest last year; this year it’s as easy to walk as a flat sidewalk. Yeah!

A friend at work asked me what I was doing with my old clothes. She knew a woman at her church whose husband had just left her and their 3 kids. Showed up at their apartment one day when she wasn't there and cleaned it out. Only thing he left was the sofa; probably couldn't fit it in the moving truck. What an sh!t.
Anyway, she was a stay-at-home mom, had to find a job pronto, and had not much more than the clothes on their backs. Yes, he took it all. Anyway, my co-worker's church has donated furniture and lots of clothing for the kids because that's all the mom asked for. But my friend realized that the mom had nothing, especially to wear to work. And she was about my "old" size 2X-3X.
Point of the story-I had this pile of clothes in the corner of my closet that I was procrastinating taking to Goodwill that have now found a new home. While I was packing them up, I went through and pulled maybe another 15 tops off the hangers and added them to the pile. I ended up sending her about 30-35 tops, 4 pairs of slacks, misc yoga pants for sleeping in, and a gorgeous winter coat. I was really feeling bad about donating the coat to Goodwill. I bought it about a year ago on clearance for around $80 - London Fog, royal blue wool coat with a hood. I didn't often buy "treat" clothes for myself. However, last winter was so mild I never wore it. I felt so happy to send this beautiful coat to someone who really needs it. Still has the $220 price tag on it!
It brings joy to my heart that this woman's church was so overwhelmingly loving to her at her time of need, and that I could be a little part of it.

Only puny NSV I have to claim is some,of my bras are getting looser, not leaving the gouges in my,underboob area. Looking forward to the day I'll have big ones to report!🌺😝🌸

10 months since surgery. The other day I realized that I can squat all the way down with butt near the floor, and get right back up, no using arms or anything!! I ran right to my 15 year old son’s room and asked him if he remembered 10-11 years ago when he fell down in a little wave at the beach, and I got down and caught him, but I couldn’t get back up so I just held him and couldn’t lift him out. I vowed then to try and get to where I could squat down and get back up. When I was fat I never could do that. Now I can! He remembered and was proud of me.

I used to shy away from cameras and never took a selfie in my life. My confidence sucked and I refused to look in a mirror.I hated getting dressed up cause everything was uncomfortable. Now I embrace getting dressed up, in fact I tend to overdress at times to events just cause everything fits and looks good on me. My confidence is high and I feel great. One year out last week!!!
My wife went from having the fattest husband out of all the parents to having the damn hottest husband..LOL... (yeah, Im in the vain phase...lol) But shes not complaining much

I eat low carb and no “non-healthy” carbs. I mainly eat carbs for the gut bugs because they keep us healthy and they need starchy veg carbs. Go for clean, healthy versions. Potatoes and other root vegetables. Seeds (and nuts which I am allergic to). Beans. I do put some oats into my homemade granola. And of course all veggies, cooked and raw. That is all the carbs you need.
first you eat your Protein, then you add to each meal something from that list. Cooked and cooled starchy root veggies are very good food for your gut bacteria and will keep you healthy with good moods. We can’t forget to feed those critters. I don’t really count carbs per se but I don’t eat more than 60g roughly in a day, around there.
i eat a lot of healthy fat. For 9 months I lost my weight so steadily no matter that every day over 50% of my calories was fat. And of course 60-70g protein.
i don’t eat breads or pastas or baked goods or even tortillas. I didn’t eat fruit for the first 6 mos after surgery. I didn’t eat any sweets or things that tasted sweet. It was a great reset for someone who used to have a terrible sweet tooth. Now sweet things make me sick so I don’t even want them. I eat 90% dark chocolate. That is my treat now.
clearly, for me, fat never made me fat. Sugary carbs made me fat.

So today I made goal! Here I am, one week shy of six months post surgery, and my official BMI is ‘normal’. Not overweight and not obese, any more.
So I know that having blooming gallstones has helped with this last few pounds - eating low fat (gallstones), low Protein (liver damage) and low carb (dumping syndrome) is pretty restrictive, but I will have my gallbladder out in a week or two (that will drop me another 1/4 pound 🤣) and then I am into my maintenance diet.
And here, the difference:

Maybe I shouldn’t even say this. But my diet was an unsweetened Protein Drink for two meals, and a dinner of a good Protein serving and veggies. I felt like I was literally starving every day though the second week was easier than the first (2 total). I did it to shrink the liver, I forced myself because I had only one small window of time last year to have the surgery.
Then when I flew up to meet the surgeon the day before surgery I told him how hard it was and how hungry I was all day and he said, “oh, then you could have added another protein drink!”
File under the Now You Tell Me page.

I honestly thought when people said they loved exercise they were lying. Exercise used to feel so horrible. And it was hard and not fun and you just want it over with.
now almost 11 months out from surgery, I honestly wish I had more time to exercise (I have very little time, 4 kids and full time care of mom with dementia). I peer into gyms and wonder about learning new kinds of workouts. No ****. I really love my little workouts and want to do more. I am not lying to y’all. I can’t believe it myself. I can’t believe I can feel some muscle definition under my loose skin, still a little chubby arms and legs. I get into yoga and kettlebell conversations and I actually care. This is a huge change for me.

I honestly thought when people said they loved exercise they were lying. Exercise used to feel so horrible. And it was hard and not fun and you just want it over with.
now almost 11 months out from surgery, I honestly wish I had more time to exercise (I have very little time, 4 kids and full time care of mom with dementia). I peer into gyms and wonder about learning new kinds of workouts. No ****. I really love my little workouts and want to do more. I am not lying to y’all. I can’t believe it myself. I can’t believe I can feel some muscle definition under my loose skin, still a little chubby arms and legs. I get into yoga and kettlebell conversations and I actually care. This is a huge change for me.

I honestly thought when people said they loved exercise they were lying. Exercise used to feel so horrible. And it was hard and not fun and you just want it over with.
now almost 11 months out from surgery, I honestly wish I had more time to exercise (I have very little time, 4 kids and full time care of mom with dementia). I peer into gyms and wonder about learning new kinds of workouts. No ****. I really love my little workouts and want to do more. I am not lying to y’all. I can’t believe it myself. I can’t believe I can feel some muscle definition under my loose skin, still a little chubby arms and legs. I get into yoga and kettlebell conversations and I actually care. This is a huge change for me.

My husband and I went for a 3.5 hour car ride in the beautiful country area we live in. It was a great day, long talks and lots of positive thoughts and feelings. We talked about a ton of stuff and he told me he was still scared about my surgery but he now understand a whole lot more and realized I have to do it or I am going to not be around when we are old and gray in our double rocker watching the world go by. ( YES HE GETS IT).

We stopped at a small cafe for a late lunch. He ordered his normal cheeseburger, fries and soda , I ordered a grilled chicken breast with no oils , added spices and asked for a vegetable melody instead of mashed potato’s and gravy. I was told that I could not have any substitutions. Ok so I asked them to just put the veggies and meat on one plate and the mashed potato’s and gravy on a second plate. OMG you would have thought I was holding a gun to a babies head. I was told sorry but that is a substitution can’t do it. OK let’s try this a different way ( I am now getting a little prickly) I ask can you just put it all on one plate and bring me a to go container? I could but your still substituting veggies , WHAT i added them as a side I said . Now she has turned to my husband and said I think you need to help your wife understand we don’t do substitutions here. Chris is so dumb struck by this comment as am I I just looked at her and said cancel the whole order we’re leaving . I went to the rest room to just wash my hands and throw some cold Water on my over heated head , my hubby was still sitting at the table. I walked up to him and he handed me a paper folded in half . It was a order pad slip with a note when you want to be with a real woman give me a call she had signed it and left her number. My husband had written across it 3 times SORRY NO SUBSTATION’S. My wife is 10x times the woman you will ever be . And he signed it Very Happily Married . It made me cry very happy tears of joy.

I love that man so much.

I knew he was behind me every step of the way but that made me realize he isn’t behind me he is right beside me walking at the same speed as I am, and he will always be there with me.

I've become much more comfortable in my own body these last few months. Even my therapist has been amazed at how much more positive and outgoing I have been, and in turn it's also helped my marriage a bit. There was a point where we were struggling a little, and I realized that my own personal unhappiness was weighing me down in many ways and effecting our relationship.
The loss of inches has also helped me a lot with some other issues, I've been very open on here about being transgender, I have noticed recently that my dysphoria has subsided a lot, although much of that is also from being on hormone replacement therapy as well.
My journey to surgery actually began because of my issues shopping for women's clothes. Back in October, I went out shopping with a good friend, and I couldn't find a single thing that fit and looked good on me. We went to Torrid, Lane Bryant, Avenue, all places that are made often for plus sized girls, but at 6'2" and 325lbs, there wasn't a single thing for me. I absolutely lost it, and cried out that I need a store called "Fat Fucks R Us." While I haven't been shopping for new women's clothes as of yet, I feel much more comfortable and positive about the idea of shopping.

I lot a ton, and by 6 months out my hair was this and sparse and just horrible. I did take all the Vitamins, I took Vitamin IV cocktails, but I hated how I looked so much I got extensions. I love them. I might need them for many more months, though now (10.5 mos out) my hairdressers says I’ve got tons of new baby hairs growing in, but it will take months to get them long enough to be “hair.” So I am loving my fake hair.

Maybe I shouldn’t even say this. But my diet was an unsweetened Protein Drink for two meals, and a dinner of a good Protein serving and veggies. I felt like I was literally starving every day though the second week was easier than the first (2 total). I did it to shrink the liver, I forced myself because I had only one small window of time last year to have the surgery.
Then when I flew up to meet the surgeon the day before surgery I told him how hard it was and how hungry I was all day and he said, “oh, then you could have added another protein drink!”
File under the Now You Tell Me page.

Maybe I shouldn’t even say this. But my diet was an unsweetened Protein Drink for two meals, and a dinner of a good Protein serving and veggies. I felt like I was literally starving every day though the second week was easier than the first (2 total). I did it to shrink the liver, I forced myself because I had only one small window of time last year to have the surgery.
Then when I flew up to meet the surgeon the day before surgery I told him how hard it was and how hungry I was all day and he said, “oh, then you could have added another protein drink!”
File under the Now You Tell Me page.

Pre op diet was the only time this last year that was hard. It was like starving. But I did it just to make sure my liver would shrink enough for the surgery. You got this. Finish strong. Good luck!

I lot a ton, and by 6 months out my hair was this and sparse and just horrible. I did take all the Vitamins, I took Vitamin IV cocktails, but I hated how I looked so much I got extensions. I love them. I might need them for many more months, though now (10.5 mos out) my hairdressers says I’ve got tons of new baby hairs growing in, but it will take months to get them long enough to be “hair.” So I am loving my fake hair.