WiseBeauty

I can feel the self love emanating from this post! THAT arrival is one of life's goals for many on earth I believe. I'm exceedingly happy for you dear!!! And thank you for sharing your story!

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"I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around."

That prayer right there works everytime I swear... No matter the issue. I'm glad you got your freedom honey! Good on you!

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Thank you. I am the same way, men are looking at me n I look down because I still feel a lil insecure about myself. But I am learning to walk head high. I have been told I am beautiful more in this last couple of months than I have in my life. It feels good. I'm embracing my new self, physically and mentally. My soon to be ex really is toxic n I see now how toxic he was in my life. But thank god for this revelation.

Mine didn't go so well at first either and it was scary. For the 1st 2 days, I was vomiting blood clots and couldn't even keep Water down. The upper GI showed that I was suffering from edema because the contrast wasn't moving out of my stomach. With nothing else to do besides feel horrible and puke my guts out, I began meditating. My meditations helped a LOT in this situation because I began having buyer's remorse and a lot of negative self talk, but God kept sending me positive thoughts and feelings about my situation! So, during my meditations, I envisioned the edema settling down, healing, and the passing of liquids as they should and on the 4th day, I was finally allowed to have ice chips. And the gas is no joke especially when it rests in the shoulder! What was really awesome was that, while I was meditating to solfeggio tones on YouTube, I randomly looked up to find one of my nurses sitting in the recliner meditating with me! Love, in all its forms, is amazing! So, I have at least two good memories from that ordeal. ☺️ But I look forward to this new life. I've been home since Sunday and it's gotten a lil easier, but the healing is coming along nicely. This has been one helluva ride and I just started 😁.

At the very beginning I was weighing every few days. I currently weigh weekly but my weight loss has slowed down so I am moving to once a fortnight. Also I think it is important to consider other factors other than weight only, for instance my scale also measure fat and muscle % and I have purchase a special pair of leggings to measure waist and hips

I suspect that would yield some interesting results, but it would have to be a huge number of people, and you would have to allow for other data sets like medications, co-morbid diseases, family history and a bunch of other HIPAA information.

First, I'm not sure this early out your PA should be saying things like that - it seems like she's trying to discourage you, although she may mean well and not want you to be disappointed if you don't get to that weight. I don't think her method is great. That said . . .
When was the last time you were successfully at that weight and what is your frame and muscle composition like? (Also, what is your age - if you are at an age where menopause is approaching or ongoing, that creates its own set of issues.) So there may be some reason she made her statement - maybe seek a clarification. I'm shorter than you are, but was an athlete before I gained all my weight. When I was competing in my sport at an Olympic level, I had to fight to stay at 125 on 2000 calories a day plus training 4 hours a day. I know I'll never see 125 again, and frankly, I don't want to because I didn't really like the way I looked at that weight.
I've lost 75% of my excess weight but I'm still about 30 pounds from my personal goal. However, I blew through clothes I hadn't worn since before my kids were born (oldest is graduating high school in 3 weeks) because my body is leaner now than it was then because I'm back to being more athletic. My wedding gown is even too big.
I know that I'll never see anything below 140 mostly because I'm putting on a tremendous amount of muscle right now.
But, numbers aren't everything. You may realize when you get closer to what you think is your goal that you are happy with how you look at a different number.
To be honest, this time last year I was squeezing into size 22 pants and right now I'm at my desk in my office in size 10 pants. Would I like to be less jiggly - sure, but I'm felling a whole lot better now.
Best of luck on your journey.

I'm so sorry. I'm remarried 17 years now. It may seem hard at first (he was a long time cheater and abusive) but I soon realized how freeing it was. You can do this and you deserve to be loved and treated like you are the only one on this planet that matters.

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Wishing you the best luck and prayers your way. My surgery is at 7:00am. At first I couldn't wait for this day to get here now I am regretting it. I am so scared! Mainly because I have sinusitis and my nostrils keeps getting clogged and im so afraid to stop breathing during aurgery. [emoji30] [emoji22][emoji21]

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What did David say" He was young and is now old and in all his years he has never seen the righteous forsaken not his seed begging for bread" God is awesome and I'm so happy now. I feel a huge sense of relief and there is no way I will let him back in my life ever. Thank you for your support.

I know how you are feeling. Been through almost same situation, then he wanted to call me crying and blah blah but I'm like you were not crying when you made a fb behind my back & was creeping. Life is so much sweeter without the lies and cheating

OMG... my thoughts exactly. I told him n her , I thank you both for giving me the strength to do what I have been battling with for years. I'm done and free and cute and my waist is snatched.... Boy bye✌🏽.

I swear, when you're stopped in a road, indecisive as to which path to take, it can be such a relief to get a push in the right direction.
It may seem strange, but I recommend sending that other woman flowers. She has done you a very good deed.

So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.
👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.
Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.
Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.
This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.
Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.😊

Yup! Tomorrow is the big day and I'm packing my bags now. I can't believe the day has finally arrived... I've been dreaming of this new beginning for years and now it's here! This is so surreal! I hope yours goes well, too, dear.

Yup! Tomorrow is the big day and I'm packing my bags now. I can't believe the day has finally arrived... I've been dreaming of this new beginning for years and now it's here! This is so surreal! I hope yours goes well, too, dear.

Hey! My surgery date is May 8! Congratulations!