ThickFitChick

Great progress and congrats to a healthier you!

Yay! Congrats. Glad you are feeling better.

Great progress!

Congrats! I know that is a wonderful feeling. I can't wait to leave my blood pressure meds behind. My bottom number likes to stay very high and it has been very hard to control. I know from experience it's best controlled with weight loss so I'm excited for surgery.

Maybe you can find a buddy on here or at a meetup. There's also Instagram. My mom and niece will be supporting me but sometimes we need someone going through the same thing.

I'm also working on my masters. I took this semester off to get my health in order. However, most have said they are back to work within a short amount of time so you may be fine.

I would also suggest clothing, large boots or weighing after you've eaten lunch.

I felt this same way. I felt if I couldn't lose it without surgery I was a failure. Then I realized I could either use the surgery as a tool and finally succeed or I could keep going around in circles. Success wasn't in how I loss, it was if I loss the weight. I also had to get over wondering what people would say. This is my body. No one else has to live in it so the choice is mine.

Congrats and happy healing!

You look so happy and healthy! That's a real inspiration.

I'm all late and behind but congrats on your weight loss!

Congrats on your progress! You're eyes look so much brighter now. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.

Thank you for the inspiration.

I know it's disappointing. You may want to ask for a different medicine. I took Amlodipine and it did nothing for me. It's just not strong enough to bring down really high blood pressure. If it hadn't come down to a lower level in a week, you should have been switched.

Congrats! I hope you have a wonderful recovery and journey. I know you said something about going to A Slimmer Me. Did you end up going there or somewhere else?

From your posts on here it seems like you have nice guy syndrome. If you are taking that into your dating life, I can see why women aren't interested. There is a sense of entitlement. My suggestion would be for you to work on your social issues first without the focus on dating. Women who are not social awkward want someone who is able to hold a conversation in person, not just online. Are you really able to date those women? If you don't work on being social you're going to end up with the same results, which will make you even more bitter.

I want to answer the OP question first. I'm pre-op and even I don't like a lot of food based dates. I always suggest walking. I've gone to parks and trails on dates and have had some really nice conversations. If I didn't like them at least I added a few steps for the day. Outdoor events can also work. I know here there are usually food trucks, so if he is hungry he can get something there. If you are into geeky things there are trivia nights, adult nights at the science museum, conventions, etc. On to the other conversation: I wish people would realize that no one is obligated to like them, speak to them or return their message. Yes, it is courteous but it is not a requirement of life. I been cursed out, called vile racist names and called fat (the least insult of them all) just because I said I don't think we would be a good fit. Men just can not handle rejection, especially if they think because you're fat you should have no standards. Now, I only reply to the ones I'm interested in. I expect the same. If they don't answer my message I move on. They weren't for me.

Reading through this thread has been interesting. I have done most of the online sites and many are hit or miss. You can meet some great people but I've also met some stalkers and creeps. Also, my phone will sometimes keep the app refreshed if I keep it in the background, making it look like I'm online all the time. I would recommended meetup as the other have, but I would say try one where the group is attending an event like a movie or concert. That way don't have to be "on" but you can still go out with a group. Once it's over you can leave. Hopefully, once you do it enough you will get more comfortable in a group and will be able speak to some people. Another option is to take a class. I took a drawing class and met some nice people. None of us spoke to each other the first few weeks but by the end we were chummy.