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My previous insurance was 6 months and then at my 6th month my insurance changed with my new job and they required a year [emoji24]. I'm there though. All approved and scheduled for August! It's been a loooooong year and now just waiting for FMLA eligibility at my new job.

Well I'm a NICU nurse which is 12.5+ hour shifts, (which tend to quickly turn into 14 hour shifts) and I go to all our deliveries and need to be at peak performance physically and mentally, especially if we have to resuscitate a baby. I often help in postpartum too, which is way more physically demanding. I barely have the energy to get through my shifts now. I'm taking three weeks off but having FMLA as a backup in case of complications eases my mind. I'm single and on my own, so have to be prepared to care for myself if something goes wrong. Plus I think I won't have to use as much vacation time.

Because I see so many others in a similar situation, I have to recommend some reading that helped me so much. I was not in a physically abusive relationship but the control, gaslighting, and psychological BS was off the charts wacko. It took not only friends, but neighbors and people who I barely knew coming up to me and expressing concern before I started to see it. A friend recommended a book, "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft, and reading it helped me SO much. I never felt my situation was bad "enough", but I felt so alone. It helped to be able to understand. I had the book on my password protected kindle (if he had seen me reading it I don't know what would have happened). This book helped me more than I can say. In case it can help any of you here or your loved ones, I felt I had to share:
http://lundybancroft.com/books/
The book I read was Why Does He Do That?

And Dknal2: (((Hug hug hug hug!))). Thank you for posting this. I am so with you in spirit, and I think your post has helped so many people already to be able to talk about this and to not feel alone!

Abusive men prey on women with low self esteem and insecurities. Overweight women can be a very easy target.

The more notifications I get with additions to this post the sadder I get. A lot of you are in relationships with straight up no question emotionally (at the very least) abusive men. I hope you are able to break free. You deserve better.

Hello everyone! Sorry for the undies but wanted to drop a progress pic to Celebrate my 6 month surgiversary!

(the plan was to wear the same clothes but the bra is too big to stay on anymore... I'm not complaining haha)
5'11"
HW: 300.0 (3/29/16)
SW: 278.4 (8/1/16)
CW: 204.5 (2/1/17)
GW: 170
Down 95.5 total, 73.9 since surgery

I was hoping I'd hit 100lbs lost/onederland by 6 months but I've been in what hopefully is just a stall for the past 3 weeks... the holidays were a struggle and I think that belatedly set me back a bit but I'm back on track so should see it moving again soon
As for actual measurements, I forgot to take them at my highest weight or surgery weight so my first set of measurements is from 8/25 (262lbs) but I've lost at least 6in from the smallest part of my waist, 5 from my navel, 7 from my hips, and then 2-4 inches everywhere else.
Still struggling to consistently get enough Protein and avoiding carbs but it's a work in progress!
Here's to losing the last 35lbs (or more!) before my 1 year surgiversary

Well I'm a NICU nurse which is 12.5+ hour shifts, (which tend to quickly turn into 14 hour shifts) and I go to all our deliveries and need to be at peak performance physically and mentally, especially if we have to resuscitate a baby. I often help in postpartum too, which is way more physically demanding. I barely have the energy to get through my shifts now. I'm taking three weeks off but having FMLA as a backup in case of complications eases my mind. I'm single and on my own, so have to be prepared to care for myself if something goes wrong. Plus I think I won't have to use as much vacation time.

Wow...what a journey! I remember the dreaded 6 months pre-op and now I am 6 months post-op!
Started at 260 and am now 175. Down 85lbs. About another 30 or so to go! So weird to be only 30lbs away from the end goal. Never in my life....

Another aspect I forgot to mention is that during the time I had my stricture- I relapsed into anorexia. I had an eating disorder very young and throughout my life. Wls surgery triggered it for me hugely and I had to go into treatment twice to get back into recovery. When I lost so much weight I found I could not stop and there was not bottom to my desire to lose weight. After wanting to be thin for so long it was very hard to see reason.

So part of this whole process for me has also been addressing my eating disorder through therapy and I'm happy to say I am now in recovery and have been for some time.

Thanks so much ... that's all I want. I appreciate the support god knows I would not have been able to do this without the support of you all on BP. I mean that from the bottom of my heart

Yes Thank you so much!!!! Im May2nd so we can keep in touch. Do u have instagram? Im vsg_melissaadriana

Haha maybe not that!

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Well, thank you for keeping it 100, I guess. There are other issues in my marriage and have been for a while. I think I have put a bandaid on a lot of wounds and when I had this surgery , the wounds weren't completely healed this all the BS he is throwing my way now. I thought he turned a new leaf because he seemed happy for a little while and then same crap different day. And you are right when my son had to take me to Texas that shud have been a huge indicator that this was gonna be a problem but I tried to hang in there for so many reasons. Surgery isn't the problem but it is.... u see crap I would usually accept I don't now because I have become stronger mentally and that is a big problem. My hubby knows I want my family to stay together but I have been unhappy for a long time and suffered s lot of bull and now I don't want to. So , yes there are other issues and I know surgery is just the face of our problems. I am praying for strength to walk away so that I can live a peaceful life and an enjoyable one as well. I'm just waiting for my moment. God knows what I need as well as want so I'm praying for him to give me the strength to leave and mean it because I have left before and came back and I do not want that this time. But thanks for keeping it 100. I was scared to read it at first but I don't hide from the truth about any situation.

@Dknal2
I'm just going to keep it 100, there are other issues in your marriage. Your husband is being fake with this weight thing.
There is something deeper here and every time you post about it, I know that you know there is something deeply wrong with your marriage. You guys are just doing some dance about this surgery thing, but surgery isn't even the issue.
The fact he wouldn't even take you to surgery and your son had to take you (correct me if I am wrong), should have been the sign you needed.
Things are not getting better, they are the same or worse.
Life is too short for this BS.

Thank you so much... I'm trying to enjoy it believe me and I will probably sooner than later enjoy it a little more.

doooooooo uc he

Okay I have been doing an ab challenge for just a couple of weeks that my son sent me in an email... along with my routine exercise as well as cardio. I just wanted to post a progress pic to show that I am getting a lil cut up in the abdomen area. This is a total NSV for me. I don't know why Bariatric patients weight loss is different than when a person who has not had surgery loses weight. I am 174 lbs and I know some people that say they are 160 or high 150's and I look as small if not smaller. Can't wait to see what I look like when I hit goal weight of 150 lbs. I Just wanted to share my pics with my BP FAM. Please excuse all the mail on my dresser in the second pic. I keep my mail for centuries, lol.  

SW: 244
CW: 150
GW: 140
I still sometimes think someone's playing a joke on me - after 10 years of feeling awful, my body finally feels really healthy and I'm loving what I see in the mirror.
Best thing I've ever done!

Hey, not sure where you're located, but try to find a psychologist that specializes in eating disorders or go to a specific eating disorder treatment center that can set you up with a team (psych, dietician, support group). I went to Charis in Indianapolis, if you google it you can kind of get an idea of the services they offer. I've been through a lot of therapy for my BED and I still struggle but I have more tools to deal with it now. I also had a year of pre-op appointments and am stable enough that they've approved my surgery.

I have the same issue and the same fears. I want to change my life but sometimes the compulsion is so strong it's hard to trust myself.

I have the same issue and the same fears. I want to change my life but sometimes the compulsion is so strong it's hard to trust myself.

That's good to hear! Congrats! Keep us posted! How was/is your incisional/trocar holes pain?

My body is a champ already at knocking me over with excruciating gas pains so I'm worried about those LOL.

How's it going so far?

Good luck! Looking forward to hearing about your experience!

Hey, not sure where you're located, but try to find a psychologist that specializes in eating disorders or go to a specific eating disorder treatment center that can set you up with a team (psych, dietician, support group). I went to Charis in Indianapolis, if you google it you can kind of get an idea of the services they offer. I've been through a lot of therapy for my BED and I still struggle but I have more tools to deal with it now. I also had a year of pre-op appointments and am stable enough that they've approved my surgery.