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I would think refried Beans would cause major gas issues. (Which could be where the pain is coming from) But they are also high in carbohydrates, which would slow your weight loss. The plan I'm on doesn't even allow beans (except cooked green beans) until way after 6 months, if at all, until very close to goal weight. Good luck!

I don't know about the amount bypassed, but I believe on the program I'm on, they recommend no more than 20 grams of carbs a day. And nothing more than 5 grams of sugars per serving unless it's milk which I believe can have 12 grams of sugar per serving.

I would say talk to your Dr. I would think that as long as you're not the one driving and frequent stops are invoked, then it shouldn't be too big of a problem. But@snapy17 is right, it probably won't be a fun trip. Talk to your Dr though and get his/ her opinion.

33 of them were on eHarmony where you just pick questions to send. Every email I sent I asked something specific about that person's profile. I just quit because it's exhausting writing these emails all differently and getting no responses.

I totally understand. I'm pretty much the same way now. I just am having a hard time. Wanting to find someone local, but not sure how to do that. Everyone I find online that I manage to hit it off with is in another state and then they disappear after they see a picture of more than just my face. I'm so tired of trying anymore. Of course maybe that's the problem. Maybe we are trying to hard? It will come when the time is right?

Thank you all.

Not everyone values thinness. I personally find overweight people very attractive. Post pictures of yourself having fun, dressed up cute, smiling. Show your personality. Don't assume it's about weight cause it isn't. I'm a wedding photographer and trust me I see people of all shapes and sizes getting married all the time!!

I've seen that too. But the people that marry are able to love each other for what's inside. I think that must just be a very rare quality to find.

Honestly dating and online dating and issues, is bigger than surgery.

I had an easier time dating as an 28/30 than I do as an 8/10. When I was larger I was more approachable, now men are intimidated.

With the internet, everyone has a lot of options and it is hard to pin someone down.

Losing weight isn't a magic ticket to getting a man, at least not a quality one.

It isn't that I'm looking for a magic ticket to getting a man. It's more that I'm afraid that I won't trust whoever I meet that seems to see me for me instead of what I look like. Sometimes I think that is why I have repeatedly failed at diets. Because of I can't find someone at the size I currently am that can accept me for what's on the inside, then how do I find someone that will accept me for what's on the inside when I don't have the weight on me?

I'm not losing weight in order to find a man. I'm losing weight so I can be with my children and grandchildren when they come. I'm losing weight so I can be healthy and live longer.

So, I'm a complicated widow of almost 4 years. I've tried the online dating thing a few times. Once quite recently. Because of my size I hate my full body picture taken. So I don't have many. I actually found one on my phone the other day and sent it to a man I'd been speaking to (texting with) and within hours of receiving the picture, he mysteriously loses his phone we've been texting on and he starts texting from a phone with a number from another state!

I had high hopes for this one,too. It took a lot of guts on my part to send him that picture to begin with. Now I'm questioning all the strength I built up to send it in the first place. It's like it's gone. If I can't trust someone to like or even love me for what's inside of me now, then how am I supposed to trust anyone to like or even love me when I'm a skinny Minnie?

Had anyone had these feelings or gone through this? Do you know anyone who's had the surgery and then met their one and them not question why now and not then?

I'm a single lady with four fur kitty babies of my own, three kitty siblings next door with my mom (we share a duplex), and we share custody of two abandoned fat cats that the neighbor left when she moved out. (She's supposedly picking them up, but she's been saying that for two months now). Add to that my three kids and we've got a duplex full of animals! Lol! Ding give up hope. There's a cat lady out there for you somewhere!

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I'm a single lady with four fur kitty babies of my own, three kitty siblings next door with my mom (we share a duplex), and we share custody of two abandoned fat cats that the neighbor left when she moved out. (She's supposedly picking them up, but she's been saying that for two months now). Add to that my three kids and we've got a duplex full of animals! Lol! Ding give up hope. There's a cat lady out there for you somewhere!

My NUT says I shouldn't be eating anything with more than 5-6 grams of sugar in it per serving with the exception of milk. I will be having the gastric bypass if I'm lucky. If not, then the sleeve, but he said 5-6 grams of sugar is a good rule of thumb.

I too have had this fear, but for other reasons. I think. I actually started back to therapy for the specific reason to find out why I have sabotaged every single diet I've ever been on. (First one at 9 years old) I've always been overweight. Even my mom knew it for years before I turned 9 but the Dr. just kept telling her it was baby fat and that I'd lose it as I got older. I never did. So I literally have NO CLUE what I'm going to look like when I get to my goal weight.

The last time I wore a size 12 I was in the 7th or 8th grade. So, I can totally relate with being afraid of being thin. But, I do agree with many of the comments stating to seek therapy. I've only been going, myself, for a few weeks. I'm not scheduled for surgery yet. (Hoping for the end of next month) It took me a while to realize that I kept blaming others for sabotaging my diets instead of placing the blame where it belonged (on me).

Just remember that this is a journey. And not just in the respect that you're losing weight. It's also a journey of self discovery. None of us got to the point of needing weight loss surgery because we were healthy (mentally or physically). I'd bet at least 90% of us got here because we were not mentally healthy either because we have addictive personalities or past traumas in our lives that made us turn to food to deal with things.

I've found that the people here on these forums usually have really good advice. And it's been listening to that advice that has helped me cope with some of the same feelings you're having. Take heart that you aren't alone in this. You have all the wonderful, knowledgeable people here that have already gone through what you're going through that can help you through it if you let them.

Heaven bless you and protect and good luck in your journey.

11 hours ago, littleme032017 said:

Hi. I'm from the Fort Smith area. We have momthly meetimg here.

We have a monthly meeting up here in Fayetteville as well! Do you ever get up this way?

On 2/16/2017 at 6:53 AM, jessgnc said:

My psychiatrist warned me about that and said not to panic! Sometime they'll call back in after the test for clarification. If they had any questions or certain answers were high (like for signs of depression or anxiety), they would want to just clarify answers or handle the problem. T

Thank you. That makes me feel a little bit better.

14 hours ago, jessgnc said:

I had my psych eval yesterday! I was way more worried for it than I should have been. It was a 2 hour appointment. First they made me take a short 40 question test. Then I had a full appointment with the doctor. I had about 5 pages worth of detailed paperwork (that I had completed beforehand) that we went through. We discussed the funk post-op, support networks, what to expect, etc. She said she thought I was a great candidate. Then I took a 400 or so question psych exam which seemed to be testing for anxiety, depression, schizophrenia and other mental disorders.

I think I'll be an April person too. Go team April!!

I had mine last week and talked to the psychologist and took a 576 question test. I only talked to him for about 20 minutes, but I got a call from his office today saying that he wants to see me for a second interview before he approves me for surgery. I about cried. I don't know if a second interview is common or not.

21 hours ago, kimberb said:

April will be here before you know it

That both excites and terrifies me. Because right beyond April is May and graduation day for my oldest. Every time I think about it I get about 10 more grey hairs. LOL!

Drinking with a straw sucks air in with the fluids. That air, in turn, creates gas, which could cause pain. That's what I was told anyway.

@kimberb &@biginjapan... yay! So happy for you both! I can't wait till April for my turn!

@biginjapan and@kimberb ... hoping your surgeries went well and that you are both doing awesome!

15 hours ago, HurricaneU said:

Good luck to you. I just finished my 5th appt yesterday. Next appt is March 9th, so they say maybe end of April for surgery.

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Same to you! my sixth and final appointment is April 3 and I talked to my care coordinator this morning and she said that the end of April for me is a possibility, as well! I sure hope so because the thought of traversing Barnhill Arena for my son's graduation right after surgery is a daunting one. LOL

I'm sorry, but I noticed that the Emotional Health and wellness sub-forum in the General WLS Forum is missing from the drop down list up top and can only be accessed through already posted messages or the main page. Is this intentional or is it an oversight, as I didn't see it in the list before the site update as well?

I kind of figured as much. I haven't ridden in a while due to having a cheap bike that the gear broke on the last time I tried to ride it and so it went bye bye and I haven't had the money to get a new one. I'm hoping by the end of the month I can get one though. I'm really excited about April getting closer. I just hope it's not June before I can get my surgery.

Right now I'm walking a mile every other day and doing resistance bands the other days.

A new acquaintance shared with me a YouTube video by The Fitness Marshall that look like so much fun that I'm going to start doing those as well. I love to dance and that's what these videos are are dance workouts.

I'm planning on having my surgery around the middle of April (God willing) and there's going to be a bike ride event happening about a month later.

My question is this: has anyone whose had the RNY or Sleeve done managed to bicycle 30 miles a month out from surgery? Not mountain biking or anything like that, but paved bike trails.

The psych eval was three flipping hours long!!!! Three hours! I talked to the psychologist for about 20 minutes. He asked all the questions i figured he would like if I had a support system at home and all that. And was glad I was seeing a therapist on a regular basis to help with the major depression issues I have. The rest of the time was answering a MMPI2 test. I've taken one of those before, but not. I think the one I took before was just a MMPI. Or something along those lines. I actually don't remember. LOL! I will hopefully hear from them tomorrow.

I'm getting more excited now because this is past me now. Now it's one more cardiologist appointment and 2 more diet and exercise appointments and then we schedule! The new update to this site wouldn't let me change my weight unless I put in a surgery date, so I'm going to have to change my surgery date once I officially have it. I'm really hoping for April 22. I'm actually going to ask my care coordinator tomorrow when I talk to her to see if that's feasible.

Never mind about that date. I just looked at a calendar and found out that's a Saturday! Poo. Hopefully the 21st then!

Is it like totally weird that I'm actually looking forward to my psych eval tomorrow? After the MAJOR funk I've been in for the last few days (MAJOR depressive episode) I think it's especially weird. The thing that's really weird about this is that when I called to make the appointment the other day they told me that it's just a walk in thing. They don't schedule the bariatric psych evaluations. Just show up between 8 and noon. The lady I spoke with said it would take a couple of hours. I think it's some kind of computer test. I know there's a $100 one that you can do online for the clinic I'm going to, but I don't have that kind of money right now. At least my insurance covers this one I'm doing tomorrow. That's a good thing.

So, after I get this out of the way I have two more diet and exercise appointments and one more appointment with the cardiologist and then they will schedule my surgery! I'm praying that I can have it done April 22. If I can't have it done that day, it will be okay. But, if I can, it will be perfect!