White Sale

I have considered changes in my own behavior. I hold my head up higher and meet people's eyes now, but it has only been a few months of increased confidence versus decades of low self-esteem.
Perhaps it's just that I didn't realize how differently some healthy weight people choose to treat the obese. Now that I'm on the other side, and having arrived here so rapidly, I can really observe the contrast.
As far as my friend, I think, perhaps, that she sees my success and it amplifies her perceived failure. I care for her a great deal and I hope that our friendship endures.
The behavior of some men toward me is so bizarre I don't even know where to begin. I never learned the art of flirting and I am unable to recognize it should it happen to me. Whomp-whomp.
Anyone know of a decent flirting-for-social-misfits class? Haha
IDK, the whole experience has been interesting, to say the least.

I gather up all the loose skin on my belly into a sort of ball, squish it together with two hands, and say terrible things to it. Stupid loose skin.

I gather up all the loose skin on my belly into a sort of ball, squish it together with two hands, and say terrible things to it. Stupid loose skin.

I gather up all the loose skin on my belly into a sort of ball, squish it together with two hands, and say terrible things to it. Stupid loose skin.

I gather up all the loose skin on my belly into a sort of ball, squish it together with two hands, and say terrible things to it. Stupid loose skin.

Perhaps a bit strange, but I find myself using a soft measuring tape a couple of times a week. I take my measurements in addition to weighing myself.
I find that knowing the data keeps gives me a reality check.

Perhaps a bit strange, but I find myself using a soft measuring tape a couple of times a week. I take my measurements in addition to weighing myself.
I find that knowing the data keeps gives me a reality check.

I have considered changes in my own behavior. I hold my head up higher and meet people's eyes now, but it has only been a few months of increased confidence versus decades of low self-esteem.
Perhaps it's just that I didn't realize how differently some healthy weight people choose to treat the obese. Now that I'm on the other side, and having arrived here so rapidly, I can really observe the contrast.
As far as my friend, I think, perhaps, that she sees my success and it amplifies her perceived failure. I care for her a great deal and I hope that our friendship endures.
The behavior of some men toward me is so bizarre I don't even know where to begin. I never learned the art of flirting and I am unable to recognize it should it happen to me. Whomp-whomp.
Anyone know of a decent flirting-for-social-misfits class? Haha
IDK, the whole experience has been interesting, to say the least.

How has the way in which others interact with you changed from when you were obese?
My experience, in general, has been the following.. People, overall, are much nicer and I am no longer invisible. I've noticed that attractive (IMO) or confident women are more talkative and pleasant to me. Other women are more curt. Even some family members have changed. People, who in the past were cold to me, are suddenly laughing at my jokes and wanting to hang out.
I also seem to be losing a friend as a result of my losing weight.
This is something I wasn't fully prepared for, as far as being a result of VSG. Being an average-sized adult is something I haven't experienced until the past few months. It's just feels like bizarro-world or something. Can anyone relate?
I'm curious to hear of other people's experiences.

I have considered changes in my own behavior. I hold my head up higher and meet people's eyes now, but it has only been a few months of increased confidence versus decades of low self-esteem.
Perhaps it's just that I didn't realize how differently some healthy weight people choose to treat the obese. Now that I'm on the other side, and having arrived here so rapidly, I can really observe the contrast.
As far as my friend, I think, perhaps, that she sees my success and it amplifies her perceived failure. I care for her a great deal and I hope that our friendship endures.
The behavior of some men toward me is so bizarre I don't even know where to begin. I never learned the art of flirting and I am unable to recognize it should it happen to me. Whomp-whomp.
Anyone know of a decent flirting-for-social-misfits class? Haha
IDK, the whole experience has been interesting, to say the least.

I have considered changes in my own behavior. I hold my head up higher and meet people's eyes now, but it has only been a few months of increased confidence versus decades of low self-esteem.
Perhaps it's just that I didn't realize how differently some healthy weight people choose to treat the obese. Now that I'm on the other side, and having arrived here so rapidly, I can really observe the contrast.
As far as my friend, I think, perhaps, that she sees my success and it amplifies her perceived failure. I care for her a great deal and I hope that our friendship endures.
The behavior of some men toward me is so bizarre I don't even know where to begin. I never learned the art of flirting and I am unable to recognize it should it happen to me. Whomp-whomp.
Anyone know of a decent flirting-for-social-misfits class? Haha
IDK, the whole experience has been interesting, to say the least.

I've noticed the same exact thing! To the point where I'm not sure if it's them, me, or a combination of both. I mean, I feel better, wearing things that fit better, carrying myself better, so I know I'm putting off a different vibe. I have noticed that people that would typically ignore me in the halls, don't anymore. I've gotten some shy laugh/giggles with the brushing the hair away from the ear from a few ladies in passing which I was surprised to see happen. All of our friends are amazed, the feeling from them is different as well. And not being the fatest of the group has changed the dynamic as well. For the positive for the most part. I think someone at work hates me more now because I'm way thinner than I was...

So, my girlfriends and I went out two weekends ago. It was spur of the moment and I didn't get all dolled up or put a lot of effort into looking good for the occasion. Needless to say, a little bit of liquid courage had me acting like the movie "I feel pretty". Literally, I talked to anyone who made eye contact with me or came within talking distance. I complimented people randomly and laughed with strangers. This is not something I would have done pre-weight loss. The next day, I couldn't help but chuckle to myself. My friends made comments that they've never seen me like that. That my energy was infectious. That the men were attracted to this confidence (even though I'm very happily married).
This is why I said earlier, that I have changed. Alcohol may have played a contributing factor into it, but I know that I wouldn't have acted this way prior to surgery.

Being able to do cartwheels.
Having my youngest nephew throw his arms around my entire waist and squeeze as hard as he can.

How has the way in which others interact with you changed from when you were obese?
My experience, in general, has been the following.. People, overall, are much nicer and I am no longer invisible. I've noticed that attractive (IMO) or confident women are more talkative and pleasant to me. Other women are more curt. Even some family members have changed. People, who in the past were cold to me, are suddenly laughing at my jokes and wanting to hang out.
I also seem to be losing a friend as a result of my losing weight.
This is something I wasn't fully prepared for, as far as being a result of VSG. Being an average-sized adult is something I haven't experienced until the past few months. It's just feels like bizarro-world or something. Can anyone relate?
I'm curious to hear of other people's experiences.

I gather up all the loose skin on my belly into a sort of ball, squish it together with two hands, and say terrible things to it. Stupid loose skin.

I couldn't stand how I looked EVER when I was fat. After losing +130lbs I can't stand how I look naked now, but in clothes, for the first time, I can be proud of my body.
I have the skin of a seventy-five year old mother of nine. This is not an exaggeration. For me, it is truly an impedance to intimacy.
Surgery for removal is an option for those who can afford it.

I chose loose skin over remaining fat and I am glad.

Fitting into the bikini in my profile picture was my best NSV!

Things are very saggy without clothes, but that's what Spanx and good bras are for. I would rather be draped in loose skin that be fat again. I hated how I looked and how I felt.

I couldn't stand how I looked EVER when I was fat. After losing +130lbs I can't stand how I look naked now, but in clothes, for the first time, I can be proud of my body.
I have the skin of a seventy-five year old mother of nine. This is not an exaggeration. For me, it is truly an impedance to intimacy.
Surgery for removal is an option for those who can afford it.

I chose loose skin over remaining fat and I am glad.

I'm a light user of medibles. Maybe 2-3 times per month. I'd rather have a few milligrams over a mixed drink any day.
My questions are, how is your funtion with marijuana after being sleeved/bypassed?
The same as before. I just chill at home, do housework, etc. after I take some. My goal is to relax, so "functioning" isn't really what I care about, lol.
Were you able to use it for pain relief/sleep aid directly after surgery?
Since I don't smoke it, I had to wait to use it. I used a tincture about 14 days post-op; I waited until my puree food stage just because.
Are you less tolerable? Do you get the "munchies" still?
Because I use edibles, it's very hard to find sugar-free stuff. I've scoured the Interwebs looking for where along the GI tract THC is absorbed; some say the stomach, some the intestines, others both.
In my opinion, with very limited research, the edibles don't have as intense or as long-lasting effect on me than before the sleeve gastrectomy. I never got the munchies from edibles.
Did you smoke it or take an alternative route?
I find the pleasure from orally ingesting it is superior to smoking it.

I waited for 6 months after hitting & maintaining goal weight before having a breast lift. It was a long wait, but I think it was worth it. I mean, I already had awful boobs for my whole life, what's a few more months? I wanted my body to be stable before dropping lots of money on altering it again.
In clothes, my before and after pics are the same.
In my opinion, you could use this time to really research plastic surgeons and interview them. I saw 7 cosmetic surgeons before I chose. Find before and after pics of others patients who have had the surgery; save the ones you think are ideal AND the pics you think look terrible. These will help your doctor.
How exciting for you! Congratulations on losing weight!

Woot! Today I reached 100 pounds lost. It is difficult to wrap my mind around. The other day I hauled a 40lb bag of dog food upstairs - and the thought that I have lost 2.5x that amount is both impressive and unsettling. I'm including a screenshot of my before and after SmartBMI calculations. If I'm feeling brave enough, I may post a before and after body shot in the stickied thread.
Thank you to all of you nice folks at BP for being supportive, especially in my more distressed times.

The anesthesia can sometimes have different effects on people's psyche. Also, your body has just been through something pretty traumatic.
Personally, I was uncharacteristically emotional for a few weeks post-op (and a little depressed).
Be easy with yourself, you've just had surgery.

The anesthesia can sometimes have different effects on people's psyche. Also, your body has just been through something pretty traumatic.
Personally, I was uncharacteristically emotional for a few weeks post-op (and a little depressed).
Be easy with yourself, you've just had surgery.