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Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

I completely agree with you, and i'm glad you kept yours a secret to avoid the negativity.

I'm only 5'1 and according to the BMI, anything over 130 is over weight for me so imagine what it takes to be considered morbidly obese, not much.

I think everyone should be supported for trying sooooo hard to take control of their life back.

Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

1) welcome!!!!
2) congrats on starting your process and your
journey (the starting line may seem overwhelming, but the finish line feels amazing and you all WILL make it to the finish line)
3) wishing each and every one of you continued and long term success!!! You got this, even when you think you don't, you really do.
4) if you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask

I always ate healthy carbs. most of my carbs come from fruit/veggies. seeds. some Beans. some steel cut oats, some popcorn. I lost using balanced macros. 35%carb 25% fat, 40% Protein. Been maintaining for 6 months and have upped the carbs am probably closer to 40% carb now.

Eating and drinking at the same time- to this day that still feels like death.

Tasting certain unhealthy foods (carbs and sugars) because you honestly dont want it anymore but once you take that bite it's all down hill from there. Then your mind starts to want more.

Biggest mistake of all though is comparing my journey to anyone else. I'm realizing this a year later, i may not have lost weight as fast as others but i still lost a ton. Comparing your journey to someone else only adds unnecessary stress.

My starting weight was 225 pounds. I'm 5'1", so that placed me at a 42 BMI.
After one week on the pre-op diet I weighed in at 218 on surgery day. I got to 118 pounds approximately 18 months post-op.

Let's share some of our best tips to help keep us all on track.
Thanks for sharing!!!

I'll go first...my biggest obstacle was cravings. It was mental. So i started planning my meals to accommodate them so i never felt deprived.

For example: there are days when i really really want sweets, so i'll make sure i include either fruit or a chocolate Protein Shake or fruit smoothie or something to fill that craving.

If i'm craving salty i'll do deli meat and cheese as one of my Snacks or smokehouse almonds.

I also googled what cravings really mean and made adjustments as needed. Whether that meant finding a way to relieve stress, or making sure i'm hydrated etc.

Stop obsessing. Stop extremist thinking. Too much "nutrition nazi" is just as harmful as going crazy and eating everything in sight. Moderation. Moderation. Moderation. Stop looking for the diet that gets you there the quickest and start looking for a Forever Diet that you can live a happy life with. Don't eat food you don't like. Don't do exercise you don't enjoy. DO make the effort to find healthy foods that work in a balanced diet that are delicious. DO make the effort to try and find exercise that you look forward to and enjoy. Do find healthier substitutes for old favorites. Exercise with your bestie, your kiddo, your hubby, your dog, your horse. Stop reaching for perfection. All or Nothing is a recipe for failure. Be happy with every victory. Wake up every day and make the choice to try hard even after a stumble. Love yourself.

Always keep track of your meals, even if it means you have to write it down.

Make certain times for meals, drinks and Vitamins and meds (if applicable).

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-134
GW-130
Size- 4 or 6, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 36C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

Remember that you are not alone. No matter what happens, you're not the only person to ever experience what you're experiencing. We're all in this together.

Sum of small efforts repeated day in day out. Be consistent with your food plan and exercise. Conquer behavior change and overcome the mental battles.

I'll go first...my biggest obstacle was cravings. It was mental. So i started planning my meals to accommodate them so i never felt deprived.

For example: there are days when i really really want sweets, so i'll make sure i include either fruit or a chocolate Protein Shake or fruit smoothie or something to fill that craving.

If i'm craving salty i'll do deli meat and cheese as one of my Snacks or smokehouse almonds.

I also googled what cravings really mean and made adjustments as needed. Whether that meant finding a way to relieve stress, or making sure i'm hydrated etc.

I'll go first...my biggest obstacle was cravings. It was mental. So i started planning my meals to accommodate them so i never felt deprived.

For example: there are days when i really really want sweets, so i'll make sure i include either fruit or a chocolate Protein Shake or fruit smoothie or something to fill that craving.

If i'm craving salty i'll do deli meat and cheese as one of my Snacks or smokehouse almonds.

I also googled what cravings really mean and made adjustments as needed. Whether that meant finding a way to relieve stress, or making sure i'm hydrated etc.

I'll go first...my biggest obstacle was cravings. It was mental. So i started planning my meals to accommodate them so i never felt deprived.

For example: there are days when i really really want sweets, so i'll make sure i include either fruit or a chocolate Protein Shake or fruit smoothie or something to fill that craving.

If i'm craving salty i'll do deli meat and cheese as one of my Snacks or smokehouse almonds.

I also googled what cravings really mean and made adjustments as needed. Whether that meant finding a way to relieve stress, or making sure i'm hydrated etc.

I'll go first...my biggest obstacle was cravings. It was mental. So i started planning my meals to accommodate them so i never felt deprived.

For example: there are days when i really really want sweets, so i'll make sure i include either fruit or a chocolate Protein Shake or fruit smoothie or something to fill that craving.

If i'm craving salty i'll do deli meat and cheese as one of my Snacks or smokehouse almonds.

I also googled what cravings really mean and made adjustments as needed. Whether that meant finding a way to relieve stress, or making sure i'm hydrated etc.

See i'm the opposite. Nyc is 4 hours away from me and i'm dying to visit australia's gold coast! Great goal!

Hey!!! I live in md. I can name several good ones. There's dr. Brebbia and dr. Juliette Lee. If you send me a private message i'll gladly share more info if needed. And yes you can change your team after surgery, just like you can change your pcp at any time.

Yes i get told this daily. I ignore them and keep going to the gym. I secretly just give them the finger in my head and keep moving. I don't see how someone who isn't a medical professional or dietician can think they're a weight expert so their opinion doesn't mean anything to me. I'm not even at my goal yet. I think they just see you looking so different or your dress size is so dramatically different that they need to adjust their perception of you in their mind.

In other words they used to view me as fat, now that i'm a normal sized person they seem to think i'm to thin or have an eating disorder when i don't.

First off congrats on all of you for getting closer and closer to your goal weight. I truly hope all of you are able to get to a point where you get to start rewarding yourself with your bucket list items! I'm so proud of all of you. Everyone had a really good idea.

It's your life so enjoy it and do what's meaningful to you.

My bucket list is most definitely crazy and a bit obnoxious but i don't care. I deserve it lol. I plan on treating myself to lots of things because for once in my life i really want to put myself first and enjoy that feeling.

I want to get a brazilian butt lift so i can look like an adult film star lol. I also really really want to become an egg donor. It's something i've always wanted to do but i was always to big to do it. So when i hit that magic number of 125 pounds i most definitely will reap the benefits of being a skinny chick and get paid lol. [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]
I also want a really cute car to match the body.

Long story short even though i recently got sleeved. My dietician was impressed with my recovery and all of the changes i've made thus far. So she asked me to come speak at two of her pre-op diet classes and answer questions for other newbies, give them tips and so on. Needless to say the class actually went REALLY WELL. I felt like i helped a lot of people through there fears and put them at ease.
I posted a recap on another support group blog for those who missed the class and it was like crucified by overly sensitive literal IQ under 12 assholes. And i can't take it. I was only trying to help, which i did. WTF.
It was like they were all judging me for sharing MY own experiences. I don't know what to do. We all have ups and downs but damn don't get mad at me for having a few ups, aren't we supposed to help each other out???
I was most frustrated because the comments were all from people who didn't attend the class so they have no clue about what i was actually sharing or what questions got asked.
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Anytime- if you do have specific questions, feel free to send me a private message and i'll try my best to help get you through.

There's nothing to be nervous about, time will fly and you'll be amazed and your progress this time next year.

Need a vanilla bestie? I'm the same size basically. Still pre surg.but my goal is 175 lbs size 14-16 and neither my Dr Miller nor anyone on Bariatric Pal has said that's unfeasible. Big commitment,but I'm up for it

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