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I don't plan on telling anyone besides my husband and two close friends. My larger circle includes some mean spirited gossips. Both are overweight and judgmental. No thanks.

At the moment, probably reading about weight loss surgery experiences and successes. I have a tendency when I get into something to get kind of obsessive about it for a while. Eventually I'll exhaust myself of reading and researching it, and then move onto something else. I only do it with one thing at a time, usually. Right now, this is it. The next thing I WANT to become an obsession (that will last long-term) is lifting weights and fitness.

OK..... So the Wonder Woman thing didn't work our for me.... So at the last min i through on a black corset and gold lame' mini.... over the knee boot and attempted to do the steam puck thing.... but through the night more and more accessories were removed.

Anyone who LOVES Halloween.... MUST MUST MUST do it in the quarter..... OMG!!!! it was a blast.

Please note that it was very humid and my hair went to sh*t.... and i was a bit intoxicated....
The guy with the cross said.... we were all going to hell... i said...OH MY
Killary said.... she wants to make t*ts great again...
Now that's a "six pack of boobies".... she supplied the shots for the night... hehe
and .... nothing beat a large sparkly pen*s.......

I had my surgery June 16th 2016 and I am down 72 pounds . I am extremely happy with my decision even though after surgery I experienced vomiting throughout the summer and ended up having my gall bladder taken out in August . I really feel like having the sleeve was the best decision I ever made .

I guess what I'm trying to understand is why there's so much anger and vitriol instead of compassion and more understanding. None of us get to a place where we need surgery because we've made good choices or had 100% transparency or honesty with ourselves or with others. Sometimes there are issues that run a lot deeper with some folks than others. You just never know a person's background or story.
I also know from my own past (I'm almost nine years out) and many of my friends in the WLS community we all had experiences where when we first had surgery and were doing remarkably well, we felt invincible and full of conviction and top of the world with our choices and actions. It's easy to get to a place of high-ground when you feel that way, which is why I think it's important to remember that it doesn't always stay that way. There are always going to be times when you question others actions, and that's normal and fine. But remember, there are probably others doing the same to you. Extend the same kindness you'd want for yourself.

Being judgemental with each other NEVER helps. Support is not judgemental. Support is support. You're there through the good times and the bad listening, lending an ear, giving the best advice you can through a supportive and encouraging lens that won't further damage someone(s) already struggling.

It's sort of fascinating how different each programs' pre-surgery diets are.

My friend in CT didn't have to do much of anything except for Clear Liquids 48 hours before surgery.

For me, at DHMC in NH, I have 2 weeks of 1000 cal/day, very low carb, but real food is fine.

Reading every other possible combo on these forums. I wonder why that hasn't become more standardized across the industry yet.

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Definately not.....if you are doing any heavy lifting it will need to be a while. So sorry that this puts the added stress on you but it will be worth it in the end.
I wish you the best of luck with your upcoming surgery!

I lift over 100lbs on a daily basis, multiple times a day... I lift elderly people frequently throughout the day... I work for myself... For my health i know i can not return to work within a week. Sent from my LGLS775 using the BariatricPal App

Thank you everyone for the positive replies... If I hadnt posted on here I doubt i wouldve have had the courage to be honest with him.
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I'm about 4.5 months out. Lost 75lbs. Started at 276; I was 201 this morning. Today was the last day for the MD Renn Faire so I just had to go. I took a picture last year but didn't share it with anyone because I thought it looked terrible. I had another picture taken today and I just can't believe how much of a change there was. Last year I was wearing a 46" corset. The one from this year was a 36".
Oh and my hair is a hot mess in this, but that should be expected after being outside all day. Can't wait to see where I am next year!

Today, a few hours after posting this I finally told him how I really feel.. How i just hate relinquishing control. (It was through text message) he replied with "you arent alone and you never will be". Sent from my LGLS775 using the BariatricPal App

I keep telling myself that it is for the best its just more of me learning to trust. Sent from my LGLS775 using the BariatricPal App

As a single mother, I understand why it is SO hard to accept help... but life & health = the best kind of wealth one could have!! & you will be able to return the favor 10 fold... & be a better mother & companion all for making this choice. Trust the process - for you. Good luck!!

You may not be bringing money into your relationship for six weeks but you will be bringing in something that may be even more valuable. You will be working towards a longer healthier life to spend with him and your children. You are blessed if he is willing and able to do this for you.

Go to the Burger King website and read the nutritional information. You won't want any of that stuff.
I read the nutritional information and get so grossed out I am not interested.
If other people want to poison themselves with peasant food that is their business, I'll keep eating like royalty.

I am surrounded by food that my boyfriend eats too. I'm happy to cook for him but if he brought food to my hospital room - I would have kicked his ass! That's just completely insensitive.

Hi Shaunie, you are doing great!! I remember when I was on my 2 week Preop Protein drinks, When I went in for my last weigh in before my surgery I didn't think I had done so well. But I had lost 17#'s. When I thought about it I was ok. That was a little more than a # a day!! I am 3 years out and the way you feel about being afraid to let your guard down is exactly how I felt. I kept thinking about every diet I had been on some even many times more than up to 4 times. Weight watchers 3 times and Nutrisystem 3 times!! TOPS at least 4 times. All I could think of was how many times I had lost and then regained my weight. At one point I lost 135#'s. But it was because I was so sick from my FIBROMYALGIA and ARTHRITIS. I regained back up to 285#'s which was my highest weight except when I was Prego. I did manage to lose 36#'s and keep it off for a couple of years!! But I am here to say if you follow all of your Dr.'s guidelines especially in the 1st year to a year and a 1/2. You really don't have much to worry about. You have been given a tool that will help you to become successful!!! Just keep your eyes on the prize and remember why you decided to take your journey. Every day that goes by it becomes easier and better than the day before!! Good luck!! Just don't let down your guard and become compliant while your journey proceeds!! You CAN do this!!

I have severe ptsd from an abusive exhusband. I was in shock to find out that i had to pass a drug screen... So i have just been suffering until this but have slipped up once and that was after my sons latest diagnosis.
I was 17 when my father died... The pills ate up his liver and then his kidneys. I was in the office when my daddy asked for help to ween off but instead the doctor wrote another script for oxycotin...about 2mths later my dad was given 6mths he then lived for 3mths... There isnt in room in my life for narcotics and i joke that 1-800mg of ibuprofen can knock me out (its true). Even when i have had surgeries i only tolerate the narcotics for a brief time and then i cope with the pain. Thank you Vamping for your understanding.
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You have to pass a drug test to be approved for bariatric surgery? Odd. That's the first I've heard of that.