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I was rethinking my quick answer. The answer is still no, but I also wanted to support you in rethinking your relationship with food. We all need to re-establish our relationship with food. For many of us food is our reward, our celebration, our "I earned it". Your desire to Celebrate with ice cream is what our norm is but we have to look at food with a different perception post surgery. Food is what we need to sustain our new healthy living. Our reward is our health and being able to do things better and the ability to do new things. I want to wish you a happy birthday. Please Celebrate your birthday with a wonderful activity with those you love. Now that's a celebration!

I was rethinking my quick answer. The answer is still no, but I also wanted to support you in rethinking your relationship with food. We all need to re-establish our relationship with food. For many of us food is our reward, our celebration, our "I earned it". Your desire to Celebrate with ice cream is what our norm is but we have to look at food with a different perception post surgery. Food is what we need to sustain our new healthy living. Our reward is our health and being able to do things better and the ability to do new things. I want to wish you a happy birthday. Please Celebrate your birthday with a wonderful activity with those you love. Now that's a celebration!

I was rethinking my quick answer. The answer is still no, but I also wanted to support you in rethinking your relationship with food. We all need to re-establish our relationship with food. For many of us food is our reward, our celebration, our "I earned it". Your desire to Celebrate with ice cream is what our norm is but we have to look at food with a different perception post surgery. Food is what we need to sustain our new healthy living. Our reward is our health and being able to do things better and the ability to do new things. I want to wish you a happy birthday. Please Celebrate your birthday with a wonderful activity with those you love. Now that's a celebration!

I was rethinking my quick answer. The answer is still no, but I also wanted to support you in rethinking your relationship with food. We all need to re-establish our relationship with food. For many of us food is our reward, our celebration, our "I earned it". Your desire to Celebrate with ice cream is what our norm is but we have to look at food with a different perception post surgery. Food is what we need to sustain our new healthy living. Our reward is our health and being able to do things better and the ability to do new things. I want to wish you a happy birthday. Please Celebrate your birthday with a wonderful activity with those you love. Now that's a celebration!

I am 3.5 weeks post surgery. When I decided to do this, I made the decision to continue with my typical life functions, I do the shopping, cooking for the family, have people over for dinner, make food every night for my son to take to work, go to restaurants, go to peoples houses for dinner... Through it all, I did what I had to do for myself, while continuing enjoying functions with friends and family. I ate for whatever phase I was on. Last night I went to my nephews for dinner. I told him ahead of time I'd be bringing my shake and not eating. He was fine with that. I sat at the table, drank my shake and enjoyed the company. At restaurants, I order Soup or a side of refried Beans and mash it. I went to Japanese restaurant and ordered Miso broth. This is a life decision and the purpose is for life to go on and get better. I also know that these are all phases that will eventually lead to a more typical way of eating socially of course with the needed and expected adaptations. The only phase that I didn't do the norm, was for the 5 days after surgery. I was sore and very tired. I took that time to rest and heal. Day 7, I cooked for my son's birthday celebration including birthday cake and people having drinks. I had broth. I did the cooking and serving and let them do the dishes????. I'm sharing this with you to support you in knowing you don't have to give up time and experiences with friends and family. They will be there for you especially when they see your commitment to yourself having a healthier, happy life with them. Best wishes to you. You can do it!

Thanks for the clarification. Agreed, it's not appropriate in an office environment. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using the BariatricPal App

I'd just like to set the record straight. I'm a man. Eight inches of cleavage doesn't upset me and in no way was I fat shaming. There is a huge difference between a person (male or female) doing the best that they can to look appropriate in a professional environment vs someone who overly flaunts their body. I couldn't care less if they were 100 pounds vs 300+ pounds. Once again I'm sorry if I offended anyone here.

Agree way too many carbs. A lot of us are carb resistant. Check the sodium on the old shakes too. Could also be retaining Water.

Congratulations!!!!⭐!

The Flat White with skin milk and cinnamon is delicious. Their decafe iced coffee is also great.add sugar free flavor shot of you want

I also want to add this:
Please don't focus on how your husband has to lose weight. I know you had said it's on him, but I've seen as people start to lose weight, they feel so great and at that point kind of cocky about it, they have a tendency to hyper focus on a loved ones weight problem. Please never forget what it took for us to decide to lose weight and the extreme measures we had to take to finally do it. It's the same with our loved ones. They know they need to lose weight, they know it's not healthy to be obese, and they will deal with it when they're ready to. Focus on yourself, lead by example, and hubby may follow suit. But don't harass him about it.
And yes, what you're feeling about being "left out" is VERY common. Even months after surgery, like I'd said before. But always remember in the grand scheme of things, it's such a short amount of time. You'll be so happy living life as a thinner person, you'll be out doing everything in no time!

I did it! I'm finally out of the 400's! I started this journey late October last year at 540. Had surgery 5/27/16 and I am now 392!! I can't wait to say good bye to the 300's too!
Me a year ago

Me today!
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Rough day for me guys...got into huge political fight with a member of my family which then proceeded into insults and name calling by said family member...i so wanted to eat something really bad, but i didn't...i feel guilty just cuz i even thought about it....ugh

Congratulations!!!!⭐!

For me and my situation is semi-unique in that I was dieting and exercising for 2+ years before I had VSG. In the time before VSG I lost 254 pounds on my own. What I can tell you is the first 4-8 weeks were the hardest as my body adjusted to a high Protein, low carb lifestyle, no juices or soda. The cravings were HORRIBLE!! I swear the devil was living in my head telling me to eat junk, but I fought it off. If I got hungry, I would make a vegetable or drown the hunger with large sums of Water, or even have a small pieces of fruit, or other healthy snack.< /p>
For me now 13 weeks post-op, the cravings haven't really been that bad. Sure there have been some, I wish I could have that moments, but for the most part the cravings have been very tame for me since my weight loss odyssey start some 32 months ago. I'm now down a total of 311 pounds.
The holidays may be a struggle, but just take it day by day. It should get easier. #YouGotThis!!

Not worrying about fitting into chairs
Not worrying if the toilets are too low or if there's a rail
Not being stared at
Walking long distances
Going to the beach freely
Walking up a flight of stairs or 2 quickly
Being free of pain
Flying and traveling
Doing different things with my children

Measurements??

Not worrying about fitting into chairs
Not worrying if the toilets are too low or if there's a rail
Not being stared at
Walking long distances
Going to the beach freely
Walking up a flight of stairs or 2 quickly
Being free of pain
Flying and traveling
Doing different things with my children

My quote of your post broke :

...Hubby and mom went out. I was OK with it at first. By the time they got back I was a mess. I felt so left out.
...Hubby said you could of gone out and just ate some eggs. He swears that once I have my surgery he will be on board to change his diet and start losing weight.
...Between us, I'm really resentful that they went out for breakfast. Hubby could of stayed home with me and had breakfast.
...This feels so petty. But it is how I feel

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Why in the world were you "a mess"? You chose not to go. Surely missing one outing is not the end of your world? Hubby was right, you could have gone. I often go out with my friends and family to places where nothing on the menu sounds appealing, or I am really NOT hungry (if the menu is not friendly -- like pizza' and pasta' or chains where everything is fried and carby -- I usually eat first), I just order a drink. I don't NEED to eat just because everyone else is. You WILL learn to go any where you want and make great choices but you do need to practice.

Why should he be "on board"? What does your weight loss have to do with his? You're resentful? That's a bit over the top, don't you think? He could have stayed home, you are right, but why should he? He enjoyed some time out with mom, good for him! And yes, you are totally entitled to your feelings. You can't help HOW you feel, but you can help how you act on them. Right now, you are acting out of emotion, not out of logic and that's understandable.

I know all the above sounds a bit harsh, but that is not my intent. It this is the real world and it is about to be your reality. You can choose to go out with others, or you can choose not to. Again, you are soon going to learn that you can choose to go any where you want. You are having this surgery, your husband is not. You say he is really good at losing weight when he tries? You are not only going to be really good at losing it but you are going to be good at keeping it off. It's seriously a win.

Your emotions right now are yours. You can chalk up some of it to anxiety due to a very big change that is coming in your life. You don't know what to expect, you don't know the realities of WLS except for what you've read, and you are emotional. It's ALL OK.

It's going to be fine. YOU are going to be fine. You aren't going to miss out on life because of this surgery. You are, in fact, going to gain SO MUCH MORE. I promise.

In my opinion, I can't resent anyone or anything when I'm the one that is abnormal and needs to be corrected. The world is not designed for the obese. I can't rage against the size of the seats in an airplane or in an arena, because they aren't made for me. They're made for the "normal" person. Obviously with obesity becoming an epidemic in the US, the definition of "normal" is kind of changing...but I don't think that's really a healthy or good thing.
I cannot expect other people to modify their behavior to suit me, when it's ME that needs to modify his behavior. So I will do what I need to do in order to achieve my weight loss goals, and I won't expect anyone else to cater to me. I can control myself...especially now that I'm post-surgery and I have no real choice in the matter, and I'm not dominated by hunger.
The diet you're on now pales in comparison to the two week, all-liquid pre-op diet most of us went through (some went even three weeks on it). Nothing but liquid or semi-liquid (sugar-free)...it's brutal, because you still have the hunger. Just soldier through it, because once you've had the surgery, none of it will matter anymore. You won't have hunger (only head hunger, which you can deal with) and you'll have to start focusing on re-training your brain to accommodate the new stomach. Nobody can really do any of that for you, it's all going to be on you. You're responsible for yourself, don't expect anyone else to change.

I just made chicken and salsa. Sliced breast very thin. Put in plastic bag , shake a lot of garlic, Adobe, pepper and shake bag. Put small amount of oil in fry pan and brown each side. Cut up and put in magic bullet add jarred salsa and fresh cilantro and puree. For moisture I added a little almond milk.

Many restaurants have seasonal Soup now like butternut or pumpkin soup. Call a few places locally and see

My first day was so much worst than I prepared for. I was able to start walking that night. The nurse told me to turn on my side. It was painful to do but it helped. I also had pillows wedged up under the worst side of my back and that helped too.
By day 3 I was off pain meds and getting around. It really does get better every day. Hang in there !

I just made chicken and salsa. Sliced breast very thin. Put in plastic bag , shake a lot of garlic, Adobe, pepper and shake bag. Put small amount of oil in fry pan and brown each side. Cut up and put in magic bullet add jarred salsa and fresh cilantro and puree. For moisture I added a little almond milk.

@@Alex Brecher Whoa! Hold on a minute. You can't just spit out ingredients to us for an amazing recipe and not tell us exactly how much of each and whether to bake or not--lol! Please share exactly what to do with this because it sounds amazing!:
"beat pumpkin puree with egg and non-fat cream cheese and cinnamon for mini cheesecakes"
That goes for all of you--I'm not a great cook. I can follow a recipe but I can't just guess what to do with random food. So please be explicit in how to fix!