MTWilliams

Wow. You should be so proud of yourself. You're doing so good.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

It was almost a year before my stomach quieted down. It was comical.

You're going to be okay. I know what you're going through. People are going to be very hard on you...might even make u feel bad but do not listen to them. We're human and make mistakes. Pm me if u need support. I ate thanksgiving solids 6 days after surgery and I was fine buddy. Please pm me if u feel like you're up against the wall and have no one to turn to.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

@Malin....you're hilarious girl. Yeah, I like how he added that all up in the end like that's how stats work. Oh fathers, we'll intended but so funny. Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

It's cute and heart warming that your dad cares so much for you that he would go through all of this to convince you not to have it. I can see my dad doing this but surprisingly he was fine with my choice. My mom cried about it and begged me not to. It's hard for them too, probably because they in part feel like they're to blame since they're the ones who taught you how to eat and what to eat. Stay strong and make the best choice for your comfort and body.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

Guys.....I ate fish tonight which I have been cleared for and I think I might have ate it too fast because I ended up throwing it up. Have u experienced this before?
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

You're going to be okay. I know what you're going through. People are going to be very hard on you...might even make u feel bad but do not listen to them. We're human and make mistakes. Pm me if u need support. I ate thanksgiving solids 6 days after surgery and I was fine buddy. Please pm me if u feel like you're up against the wall and have no one to turn to.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

I am 3 months out and the 2 times that I threw up, looking at it after, I feel that I did eat too fast.
Take your time eating, chew well and enjoy the food that you are eating (I only eat a couple of bites), when I do that the food goes in just fine.
You know your body better than anyone, just listen to it. Good luck in your journey:)
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

The day you are allowed is not always the day you should.
Eat wetter food, especially meats and try eating with a tiny spoon and fork. And chew way more than you have ever chewed before.

I tried everything. Nothing helped. I Just dealt with it. It last a couple weeks and then it was gone.
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I will be 3 weeks out Friday and I'm experiencing the same thing. Does yours itch? Mine does on and off all day!
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

You're going to be okay. I know what you're going through. People are going to be very hard on you...might even make u feel bad but do not listen to them. We're human and make mistakes. Pm me if u need support. I ate thanksgiving solids 6 days after surgery and I was fine buddy. Please pm me if u feel like you're up against the wall and have no one to turn to.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

Thank you knpoole, I spoke with him already. He wasn't mad at all and said it was fine but that he wants me to stay away from all sweets for the rest of my life due to my addiction and something about how cells have memory when it comes to consuming sugar. I'm fine and doing well. He's please with my progression. Thank you for you're support friend. Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

@Malin....you're hilarious girl. Yeah, I like how he added that all up in the end like that's how stats work. Oh fathers, we'll intended but so funny. Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

It's cute and heart warming that your dad cares so much for you that he would go through all of this to convince you not to have it. I can see my dad doing this but surprisingly he was fine with my choice. My mom cried about it and begged me not to. It's hard for them too, probably because they in part feel like they're to blame since they're the ones who taught you how to eat and what to eat. Stay strong and make the best choice for your comfort and body.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

It's cute and heart warming that your dad cares so much for you that he would go through all of this to convince you not to have it. I can see my dad doing this but surprisingly he was fine with my choice. My mom cried about it and begged me not to. It's hard for them too, probably because they in part feel like they're to blame since they're the ones who taught you how to eat and what to eat. Stay strong and make the best choice for your comfort and body.
Sent from my SM-G530T using the BariatricPal App

I understand why our loved ones worry. They care deeply about us, and for the most part accept us as we are.
Yes, some people have complications as a result of surgery. But those of us that do not lose the weight have much greater risks of complications from metabolic disorders, and joint disorders, and pain from being heavy.
I'm only 4 months out, but I am so glad that I made this decision. Fortunately, I was one of the many that had zero problems with surgery, recovery, or building up to my new normal diet. My brain has been re-wired as to food by the surgery. Who knows, in 4 years, I may be 600 lbs and wonder what the hell happened, but i don't see it.
Here is a medical study I read after surgery. It's not really on risks, but it is very interesting, and zero spin.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3410227/

Wow you guys are mean. It's her dad. He's nervous for her. But I do agree you're an adult. And you know what's best for you listen to what he says but also know that those numbers aren't real. I worked on the drug study a few years back and they literally had to put in the morning that there was a chance of getting hit by a bus while taking the medication because 3 study participants we're sitting at a bus stop and a bus hit them. They had to go through lots of litigation to get that removed. So do what's best for you. But I don't see a whole lot of people on here saying how terrible it move it was for them.
Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

With all due respect, your father doesn't understand how to interpret statistics associated with potential complications - you don't just simply add them up to arrive at a "total".
If he truly read the article you reference with an OPEN mind, he would have seen that for nausea and dehydration - the article itself even says this is when patients aren't getting in enough fluids. This is why the bariatric programs and the vets on this forum always always always stress how important it is to meet your Fluid intake goals. Seriously, getting in your fluids those first few weeks is YOUR JOB - even if it takes you 18hrs a day of constant sipping, DO IT. Drinking will get easier as the swelling goes down and you can drink more normally (rather than teeny tiny sips). But it is always important to track your Fluid intake and make sure you are getting enough.
As for GERD - it does happen but often is temporary - and most bariatric programs will have you on a PPI for a couple months. You may need to have your dosage adjusted, you may need to stay on it longer - but as long as you work with your bariatric team on this and don't ignore the symptoms, it is manageable.
Gallstones - yep this is a common one. And yes, a gallstone attack can be excruciatingly painful. But you know what? I'd still rather have a couple gallstone attacks and get my gallbladder removed if needed than deal with all the other LIFELONG and LIFE THREATENING side effects of obesity. Oh and guess what, there's a good chance you could end up with gallstones at some point even if you don't have WLS.
Strictures - there are people on this forum who have had a stricture. Perhaps one of them can weigh in here. I believe at least some of them have been able to have it corrected/managed and still don't regret the surgery one bit.
Deep vein thrombosis - a risk with any surgery honestly especially when your mobility may not be great immediately following. This is especially true with obese patients who already have mobility issues and/or aren't active. Many programs assess your risk for this based on your current condition and family history of blood clots. Based on this, it may be recommended to have an IVC filter put in your leg temporarily - the filter will catch any clots that form and migrate before they reach your lungs and lead to a pulmonary embolism. The more common approach is to administer blood thinner injections for a couple weeks after surgery. And to walk walk walk walk walk as much as you can post op - the more active you are, the less the change of a blot developing in the first place!
Nutritional deficiency - this is why you take Vitamins, calcium/vitamin D supplements and B12 supplements. Why you focus on Protein first, followed by veggies then fruit and lastly starches. And why you get your blood work checked regularly post op so that any deficiencies can be treated before they become a problem. For instance on my program, that means blood work at 3, 6, 9, 12 18 and 24 months post op and annually thereafter. Also, with the sleeve you don't have the malabsorption associated with the bypass. Your Vitamin supplementation is due to the reduced volume intake. And I know personally many sleeve patients who once they are a couple years out have been able to cut back to supplementing with just one Multivitamin a day.
I am guessing he thinks the forums are a joke because they don't support his pre-conceived negativity regarding this surgery? What exactly does he think your other options are and what are the "stats" associated with those options? His scare tactics are disgusting. Would he rather your life be shortened and your quality of life be miserable with the obesity? Have you really told him truthfully and completely the impact the obesity has on your life?
At the end of the day - you are a 46 year old woman. You don't need daddy to sign off on your surgery. I understand wanting family emotional support - but if you don't get it, you can still go ahead with surgery. This is a decision to be made between you and your medical team. Is dad willing to go to an appointment with your medical team and hear directly from them? Ask about the complications, how they can be mitigated and what their practice's actual complication rate is? Or is he so stuck in his negativity that he wouldn't listen to the medical professionals either?

He's adding up ALL that could possibly go wrong to get a big number--a big number to shock you. Which isn't proving his point. I'd throw back some numbers totaling 100% of the risks of staying obese. You can have complications coloring your hair (allergic reaction), eating too much cheese (constipation) and listening to too much Nickelback (headaches and regret).
Ok, so I made the last one up.

It's wonderful you have a Dad that is so caring and worried for you (I lost mine when I was 12). However, you are an adult now and need to make the right decision for you. Yes this is a life changing operation. But the first 4 on the list can be controlled and/or fixed if they occur. The DVT is a possible side effect of any surgery and good surgeons (I highly recommend Bariatric Center of Excellence programs) will test for leaks before they allow you to even take that first drink.
I too have arthritic knees that I had to take 15 mg Meloxicam to walk comfortably. Two months after my Gastric Bypass and 46 pounds lighter, I can control the knee pain with Tylenol. They are still not totally pain free but much better than before.

The fact there's a few people who said this was a bad idea because it wouldn't last. I told them flat out that if I get 4 - 5 years of normalcy then it will be well worth the time. That's four or five years I won't have if I do nothing or change nothing and if it was so easy I would have done it a long time ago. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

You probably haven't heard back because he's probably saying......"another one of these calls....ughhhhh" lol. People swear like surgeons are dumb and haven't thought to include human error on the list of risk factors for these types of surgeries. Lol.... Sent from my SM-G530T using BariatricPal mobile app

Well the bad news is that I still have not heard back from my surgeon (thank goodness for these boards right....????). The good news is that a) I'm still alive and I pooped! Whoo! Hoo! Thank you for the positive and understanding comments. Surgery was a very big decision for me and I have alot more work to do in the next year. Does having a problem with food make me human? ... yeah! I'd say so. Having weaknesses and imperfections MAKES ME HUMAN! I also have discovered that my caloric intake did not exceed 400 for that week so I was starving. To all of haters out there.... YOU ARE WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WORLD! Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays people!
Sent from my SM-G900R4 using the BariatricPal App

Yes, unfortunately people can be real jerks. I learned this the hard way when I posted my mistake, bad choice, whatever the F/#^ you wanna call it-like it matters. You should go on my page and see what was written. Everyone will come out of the woodwork pointing fingers. What some people seem to have forgotten is that we obviously all have issues with food (food addictions) or else we wouldn't be on this forum. Yes, I understand you're scared because yes, what u did was risky and dangerous but u know this already. It's not like you posted saying....."I ate solid food and I don't give a flying &^/#!" So it's obvious that u know what u did was dangerous and you don't need an extra critic in you're life ...you need a good support system. That's what we SHOULD be doing for you. Some of us do....I would say that the vast majority dont. Those people that dont, should really take a damn hike. When I did it I understood that it was a huge mistake, I understood the danger I put myself in (after the fact). I told my surgeon at my two week post op and he said I was fine. He said... If you aren't feeling pain, your BM is normal, you don't have a fever,not throwing up....you're fine. Don't let them send you through the ringer. You know your body best. If you feel fine....then you're probably fine. I was terrified to tell my surgeon but I'm glad I did because he said it was no big deal and I knew that I would 100% be okay.....but If I hadn't told him..... I'd still be okay. The choice is yours to make and yours alone. Go to my page and look at some of the things people wrote.....you'll be so suprised-or.maybe not since it looks like you've attracted some real rude ones here lol. Also, those who supported and encouraged me wrote some things that might help you get through this. Sent from my SM-G530T using BariatricPal mobile app