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You know, @@MTWilliams I hope you don't regret posting this 'confession' on this forum. As food addicts, we often conduct our behavior in secret--stashes of candy & Cookies, eating (badly) when no one is around, I could go on. I know that's been my MO. I think (and I'm not an expert or a psychologist) you made a big step in tacking your eating addiction just by posting your indiscretion for everyone to read on this forum. Good for you.
And I think certain people that may come across as mean or judgmental to you right now are speaking out of concern. We can read a lot of tone into people's typed words. I have learned a lot and have been inspired by so many on this board. Hang in there. My surgery is one week from today.

You can make it you only got 3 days left and the puree food is not all that great.
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Accountability is something so many people lack.
We are a population where most of us (not all) have had poor relationships with food as well as other aspects of our lives.
Many might say out loud that they are ready for a change but deep down they are scared.
For some weekly therapy should be for at least 6 months both pre and post op because the food issues could run really really deep.
Sometimes it is the person who signed off on the surgery who never actually checked the mental health notes who could be at fault.
Sometimes it is the patient who lied to get the surgery, pretending to be ready when they know they are not.
Since my surgery a couple weeks ago I have had some monster cravings and I sipped my Water and ate my strained clam chowder (they gave me strained clam chowder at the hospital the day after surgery along with yogurt and pudding), I thought to myself as I craved a grilled cheese sandwich what goes with it and I happily ate my Tomato Soup with a sprinkle of cheese.
Not everyone has the same level of problem solving skills and some will sabotage themselves, and some might even make up a story or two for the sake of attention.
I look at it as if someone signs up and within an hour posts about eating a slice of pizza with in a week of surgery and they have never posted anything before, I will question the source then walk a way from it, it just sounds too fishy to me.

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I think that one of the reasons you get such strong responses to posts like this is because those that have had the surgery for a long time know the real struggles of this way of life. 'cheating', especially with rubbish like bread, triggers this response. They know how much of a struggle it is to change your way of thinking, eat correctly, get to goal, and stay there.
If you are eating bread, breaking the rules put forth to you long before you agreed to have your stomach cut out, and looking for a pat on the head... AT ONLY ONE WEEK OUT, then I'm afraid you don't understand what work you have in front of you on this lifelong journey.
This really isn't easy... and I'm only 6.5 months out... even I don't understand exactly how hard this is... not in comparison to the people that are years out from surgery. You MUST change your brain during this first year, the honeymoon phase, in order to be successful years down the road.
Eating 1/2 of a sandwich isn't the way to be successful.
Don't get defensive when you read tough love posts... the fact of the matter is, whether you like it or not, those people are telling you the truth.
Get counseling, and get in the game. You only have a certain period of time to lose the weight... then the real work begins... KEEPING it off.
Good luck to you. I'm sorry you are going through this because all I see is a person setting themselves up for failure (now go prove me wrong).

You know what I don't understand? Whatever happened to just good old fashioned moxie? You know, just WANTING it bad enough, and not making excuses for when you just....don't?
You either want to quit smoking, or you don't.
You either want to work out, or you don't.
You either want to excel at your career, or you don't.
You either want to work hard in school, or you don't.
You either want to lose weight and reach your goal, or you don't.
You know?

There is a difference between making mistakes and making bad choices. I'm leaving it at that. Bc I don't have nothing nice to say. A prescription diet is to be followed. If u take too more pills then prescribed what happens? U can die. This is not a choice it's a prescription. And hearing someone say we're all human yes we are. But it's not a mistake it's a really bad choice. I wish you nothing but the best from here on out and I'm not here to make you feel bad but to make sure you know that this could have seriously messed u up or killed u!!! Sometimes hearing the truth is what people need to not do it ever again and follow the prescribed diet so if my truthful thoughts succeed in this. That's what I want. I'm not putting her down. I'm simply speaking what she asked of when she posted on a public forum and that's. the truth about what she has done and how dangerous it was. But mistake no that's not a mistake being human no that's not being human that's making a poor choice. Is it human for someone to drink and drive and kill someone????? No that's a bad choice. Is it human to be a drug addict. No it's a bad choice. We need to learn the difference and that we have choices in this yes it's hard believe me I know I love food and I cook for my family every night I bake for them all the time. And would I love to have a bite ooooooohhh heck yeahhhhh. But I know I had this surgery for a reason and that was to start my life on a better track. There is nothing I would do to sabotage it!!! And in that I made a choice!!! Good luck and I hope your okay and I hope ur successful in the rest of ur journey. Nothing but the best!!
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eewl pick me pick me I know the answer "It's that we are are human and we all make mistakes" lmao it's called rediculous choices and people who have no care in the world of what they're choices do to others or themselves. Sorry had to!! Have a great day!!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App
eewl pick me pick me I know the answer "It's that we are are human and we all make mistakes" lmao it's called rediculous choices and people who have no care in the world of what they're choices do to others or themselves. Sorry had to!! Have a great day!!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I love ur posts!! I love that u tell it like it is and u don't surgar coat things. Some people need to hear the truth. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

if you notice at the very right up top that is where the person who posted posted in the correct part of the forum. It's states rants and raves.
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there is actually a section in this forum that states rants and raves!! So yes you can vent on here. Some people need to hear the hard truth. And everyone is entitle to an opinion. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

AMEN!!!! You are so right. And then u hear they're human they made a mistake. There is such a difference between being human and making a mistake, and MAKING A BAD CHOICE!!!! We obviously all had some sort of food issue or wldnt be here but some of us made good choices and some of us made bad choices. And some people need to hear the hard truth from someone.
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eewl pick me pick me I know the answer "It's that we are are human and we all make mistakes" lmao it's called rediculous choices and people who have no care in the world of what they're choices do to others or themselves. Sorry had to!! Have a great day!!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App
eewl pick me pick me I know the answer "It's that we are are human and we all make mistakes" lmao it's called rediculous choices and people who have no care in the world of what they're choices do to others or themselves. Sorry had to!! Have a great day!!! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I love how the ones who respond to the "I ate a burrito 2 days post surgery" posts with "we're all human, we all 'cheated,' it'll be ok" are almost always new post ops. For the most part you never get that from the vets, because the vets know what it takes to be successful. Yet, the vets are seen as bullies, and haters and whatever the buzzword of the day is for someone who won't validate your choices. You ate a burrito 2 days post surgery? Good for you! It wasn't a "mistake," it was a choice. For the record, I didn't "cheat" on my pre OR post op diet. I didn't choose to eat things off plan. I was given a food plan that I followed because I wanted to be successful at this. And I have been. 2.5 years post surgery, 133 lbs lost, at goal, but still losing slowly. So, stop with the "everyone did it and survived" responses and mentality. You chose to eat off plan and you didn't get sick or injure yourself? Good for you. But stop with the generalizations that everyone does it. And to all of you who are seeking validation for bad CHOICES (not mistakes), stop complaining that you're being bullied when the successful vets on this site tell you how foolish you're being.

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if you notice at the very right up top that is where the person who posted posted in the correct part of the forum. It's states rants and raves.
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there is actually a section in this forum that states rants and raves!! So yes you can vent on here. Some people need to hear the hard truth. And everyone is entitle to an opinion. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

AMEN!!!! You are so right. And then u hear they're human they made a mistake. There is such a difference between being human and making a mistake, and MAKING A BAD CHOICE!!!! We obviously all had some sort of food issue or wldnt be here but some of us made good choices and some of us made bad choices. And some people need to hear the hard truth from someone.
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I love ur posts!! I love that u tell it like it is and u don't surgar coat things. Some people need to hear the truth. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I love ur posts!! I love that u tell it like it is and u don't surgar coat things. Some people need to hear the truth. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

there is actually a section in this forum that states rants and raves!! So yes you can vent on here. Some people need to hear the hard truth. And everyone is entitle to an opinion. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

AMEN!!!! You are so right. And then u hear they're human they made a mistake. There is such a difference between being human and making a mistake, and MAKING A BAD CHOICE!!!! We obviously all had some sort of food issue or wldnt be here but some of us made good choices and some of us made bad choices. And some people need to hear the hard truth from someone.
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Glad I am not a newbie taking your advice. This is just my opinion and I am positive you could care less, but just because it turned out ok for you doesn't mean it will for the next newbie who does it.
This is a forum, and there are people who have been through this, some for many years. They are going to share experiences and concern when they see posts like this. Most folks responding her are concerned and asked her to contact her surgeon.
No where did I see anyone be mean about it. Every post was trying to help her see that she might consider getting some help to deal with WHY, she did this because at this point, her tummy is likely fine but will it be the next time? or the time after that?
It is clear that you don't care what others think when it doesn't agree with your point of view based on your vulgar responses.
I am older with 2 grown boys and 2 teenage granddaughters. I certainly hope they are not as vulgar when trying to get their point across. I would wash their mouth out with soap.

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