Candygyrl

I know this is an old topic.. but for some of us it's somewhat flattering to get hit on. It's a sign that we've still got it right? So I was one of those people who said... "I don't notice much difference".
Anyways for me its starting. Like 2 weeks ago I had an attractive guy stop me and ask if I were married etc I happily said yes and kept walking. Guys are going out of their way to make eye contact with me to say hello. Or spark conversations or tell me I'm attractive. I do see the difference. It reminds me of the way it used to be but I guess its been so long-- and I was getting hit on in a different way so I guess to me it was the same except its not.
Its bittersweet. Yet I feel good about the rediscovered attention. How do or did you handle the attention? How did it make you feel when you started to receive it? Also I've been itching to go out. The other day I went to a local comedy night by myself. As I was being seated in the club, a girl invited me to join her and her friends in their booth. We had a good time and took selfies and I just felt--- I guess included.
Did any of you experience increased attention inclusion or acceptance from people in general?? Do you feel good about it? Or the opposite? p

Today's weight: 180
Goal: 170
Happy thanksgiving!!
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Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Girrrrrl.???? I'm so sorry you have to deal with that BS I would never dispespect your husband so I'll just say this... he's jealous and insecure. Everybody else can't be wrong! You are looking good and will only continue to look even better! He will become more insecure and try to tear you down. Dont allow it! You need to be very matter of fact with him not during arguments though. I love you but the way you speak to me is intolerable. You really hurt me when you say things like (fill in the blanks) it makes me feel like you don't value me, like your unattracted to me and most importantly unloved. Well I love me! I think I am beautiful and I have plenty to offer. I chose wls after years of trying- to lose weight so for me this was the hard way. So just think that and if you think you might prefer to be with the swimming instructor good luck to ya! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

I do understand why the vets "take a break" or leave altogether. This board tends to get redundant or repetitive and it's pretty annoying sometimes to see the same questions posed over and over and over and over and over and over and over and I've only been a member since June. I don't post a lot of questions because my career is based on educating cancer patients throughout their diagnosis, treatment and management of their condition. In other words I have to look up a lot of s h I t sometimes. Theres a lot of information out there and if you look even a little bit you'll find the answers you need.
I think we newbies come here wet behind the ears eager to soak up knowledge and find a happy medium between our old life and our new life. We are looking to connect with others with similar experiences and understand how others have managed. Over time we become more acclimated to the lifestyle, more understanding of what has to be done and why and hopefully less inclined to make the same mistakes that led us to need surgery in the first place. Then the newbies become the vets and the vets become more "normal" and so forth and so on.
I remember when I was in nursing school. I frequented a Forum for nurses. I was on that site almost everyday. When I finally became an RN I hung around for about a year and then--- I moved on. I had tapped out. Although I had not experienced everything-- I was better equipped to handle any situation that I encountered. I understood how to access my resources and I was doing well on my own. I offered advice and encouragement to other newbies but I had my co workers and nursing school buddies to share war stories with. I no longer needed the forum. I was no longer benefitting.
I find myself bypassing certain topics because there is not a lack of people willing to answer or comment. There is no need for me to answer grudgingly or hastily because I think someone lacks complete common sense. Let someone else have the floor.

So happy and excited for you and your amazing progress! Thank you for sharing your pics.

SLAY!!!!!
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Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

So I returned to work about 4 weeks... no one really noticed. I was fine with that because no one knew I had WLS. I was down about 25lbs I still looked fat in pics. About the time I hit 40lbs people I work closely with started asking are you losing weight? So I said yes-- I've been working hard to eat right and exercise and I guess it's finally paying off! at over 60 lbs lost most people are like wow!!! I don't admit to 66 lbs lost when they ask. I just say oh I've lost close to 50 lbs since about February when I started trying to get serious about my health.

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Winter is back and I must say I haven't felt this cold in years! This might be the only downside from weightloss but damn I am freezing all the time.

Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to say goodbye to Chic-Fil-A waffle fries...

LAST SUPPER MODE! Yep! that's been me! (and oh! Those Vegas buffets!!! ) But I am tired of it. The novelty has worn off. I'm ready to get into gear. Thanks for sharing/relating. Glad I'm not the only one. My last hurrah in FattyLand is over.

You look great!!!
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Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Again thanks @@JHDR thanks hun I'm glad that I can offer some encouragement for those considering WLS or just getting started.
@@SharBear617 thanks girrrrl yes i definitely feel younger and in these pics I DO look younger!
@@My4Brownies hang in there take your time. Stick with what works i think even when i could have purees I still stuck to my shakes, yogurt, cheese, and Soups. Keeping up with the Protein count is hard enough. Lol
@@gustavio yes i have to agree. I never thought I'd say that either! Initially I wanted to be like a 2!. It's about feeling good in your own skin not numbers on the scale. I think about what weight could I get to, gain 10 lbs (although it's not happening) and still look great.
@@HARTMOM
Thanks babe I am ready to slay! Lol
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Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Thanks I was going to post updates by the grace of God she is doing well. She is very stable! She is talking, laughing, eating, She just transferred to rehab on Friday afternoon. So she's getting lots of physical therapy to rebuild her strength after being on a ventilator and drug induced coma for almost 2 weeks. Thanks again for all those concerned! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

@@Heather I expect that sex drive to come back in turbo mode in month 3 or 4.

@@bayougirlmrsc, well, I hope I don't end up with my husband being like your husband, but I'm upset how things are going. I'm 2 months out and -40 lbs. People are starting to comment with very appropriate compliments, and I get nothing but negative comments now.
I didn't think we'd have a problem with this. My husband didn't say boo about me wanting WLS, although he did say he wished I could have done it "on my own," which as we all know isn't happening if we are at the point of needing surgery. I blew it off.
I was naked last week, and he commented on my surgery scars and said I'd have to get a tattoo to cover up the scars. I said I didn't care; they were fading fast and a light tan would cover them.
The same conversation, I said I'm closing in on 40 lbs, I feel like I'll hit it this week and it's finally starting to show I'm losing weight. He said, yes, you have lost your boobs and they are saggy. You'll need surgery to fix that.
Some friends came over this weekend who hadn't seen me since surgery and were very complimentary (gay guys, but still guys,) and my husband felt compelled to show a video of our kids' swim instructor and point out how good she looked in her bathing suit after having 3 kids.
I called him out on it last night and we fought about it all night and this morning (thereby blowing his plans to fool around. To say I wasn't in the mood is an understatement.)
I said I need to be thrown an occasional bone and compliment versus insults, and he said I expect perfection in a husband and have unrealistic standards of romance and marriage.
To be fair, I got pissed and said I wasn't in LOVE with seeing his 50 year-old saggy old man ass and droopy balls that are now bigger than his penis (yeah, I went there. I was really hurt,) and I asked him, do those comments make you feel "in the mood" and desired as a partner? He got quiet and said, "Oh, so that's how you view me." I said not all of him, but there's things I overlook in HIM and would never make mention of. To which he said why don't I divorce him and get a new stud to fit the bill.

After bickering back and forth via text this morning, he apologized and said he'd try to do better, but this really sticks in my craw. I have always had a higher sex drive than him before surgery, and he's particular anyway about when/where/how we do it, whereas I'm a throw-down kind of gal. Post surgery, I have ZERO sex drive, and IDK if it's a hormone dump gone wrong (since everyone else seems all revved up,) or if the lack of enthusiasm and compliments or appreciation for what I'm doing is killing it for me.

I'm hurt and pissed.
I do know he loves me as a person, despite what I wrote up there. He always compliments me as a good person, wonderful wife and mother, great friend, and all-around do-gooder. He thanks me when I cook and do laundry, and he can be very chivalrous when he wants to. I also out-earn him, and while I could care less and don't mention it, it bothers him greatly. So, IDK if this is insecurity or latent rage at me or what. All I know is he said I'm crazy and need a therapist. I think he's gas lighting me and keeps turning it back on himself like, poor him, I'm this crazy, unreasonable, demanding wife who would like a periodic compliment and to be treated better than the potted plant in the corner.

@@Candygyrl Sending your mother in law prayers and i hope she continues to get better.... Sometimes it takes almost losing someone for us to really appreciate them... maybe your FIL sees that, i hope so anyway.
Your a lucky woman... lots of us can only pray for the support you have from your husband.... Im envious of that.
I still have hope... one day i have someone like that, maybe even my husband...He now sees how much i did and now appreciates it... I know he loves me, but im just not ready to go back. I'm afraid if i do that he will go back to the same person he was. We shall see...