Chicken Lady

I'm 13 weeks out and still can't eat chicken. I miss it- but steak is my new "go-to" meat
HW - 283
SW- 238
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Just to clarify my earlier post:
My adult son (30 y/o) is a registered nurse, and weighs close to 300lbs, and has
known about my WLS surgery and we have discussed in detail over the past 2 years about my journey (the pre-WLS and post-WLS stories). I think, if he openly asks me about my journey then I can inquire about his plans for getting healthier. He says he is eating healthier - I didn't see it. He has been telling us for over a year that he has been eating better, but he is steadily gaining.
I have 5 kids - 2 have never had a weight problem and 3 have fought their weight (like their mom). Two have managed to do pretty good with their weight. This son seems to struggle and I don't think talking openly about my WLS is preaching. When he asks me questions and I answer, I think it opens the door for me to ask him somequestions as well as long as it is a private conversation. He doesn't date and lives alone and rarely socializes.
I have never put my kids on a diet, fat shamed them, etc. I had family who DISCUSSED my weight, and one still does, at every get together when I was growing up. I told my beloved Aunt and Uncle that I weigh 175lbs, so either accept me as is...or don't. He has stopped as of the last visit.
I just want my son to really look at himself. I know at 282lbs I didn't think I was that heavy until I looked at pictures later and thought OMG, I was really bigger than I thought. Maybe I am the ONLY person who didn't SEE myself as heavy as I was pre-WLS or I would have done something a lot earlier (maybe at 225lbs, instead of 280). I just want him healthy.

I was given the OK for nuts & seeds at 6 weeks out. (Fruit with seeds @ 2 weeks)
I eat popcorn during football games- but eat it slow cause it's easy to eat too much of it.
HW - 283
SW- 238
CW- ?

They found my h pylori during my EGD. Has 2 weeks of treatment, but my surgeon required me to wait 12 weeks after treatment to do the breath test to see if h pylori was gone. He said if you test too early, they might not get accurate result if it is truly gone or just temporarily diminished.
It would be devastating to us to get an ulcer or stomach cancer ( which can be caused by h pylori)
My test showed it was gone after treatment and my surgery was just approved.
Hang in there- this is for your health & safety!
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*Update! My surgical assessment got moved to tomorrow, 10/19 and I couldn't be more excited! Road trip in the morning, the hospital is 3 hours away!
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I used coconut oil after my shower. I'm allergic to steristrips so I had to get them off asap. (My surgeon was ok with this) . I rubbed the coconut oil in as I was slowly pulling them off. First saturated the strips, then rubbed in between underside of strips and skin. It didn't hurt & the coconut oil is soothing to irritated skin
HW - 283
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Don't be an asshole about it ur issue isn't my issue!!!! Fried chicken and ur over consumption of if may have forced u towards this journey but in my case it was me eating one meal a day and being inactive that brought me to my choice to have this surgery no high blood pressure no high cholesterol no diabetes it wasn't ever a suggestion to have surgery just something I thought was best for me.... and I have lost 25 of the 55 lbs and I wanted a piece of fried chicken!!!! I stay away from rice bread Pasta so I don't think it will sabotage my weight loss!!!! And I think those that come on here and judge are trolls!!!!!

I don't think I'm wrong for expecting adults to interact with people in a kind and supportive manner, being sensitive shouldn't mean I can't participate. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

What other app have you found? I'm getting intimidated by the aggressive tenor here. I'm all about love and support and am sensitive. If you've found something else I'd love to check it out.
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I agree, I was kind of surprised at the responses. I feel like the more I see of this stuff the more I feel I might need to find a new group.
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Not everyone on this app is rude. I also wish everyone could just be supportive of one another. We are all in this together, and sometimes, this is the only place for some people to get support because they don't have support at home.
If someone asks a question, give an honest answer without the sarcasm. Being rude doesn't help anybody.
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wow, this is totally not at all why I installed and activated this app this mrng, I thought it was a place for support, guidance, direction, experience, maybe some occasional redirection if we've lost our way, but certainly not this kind of tit-for-tat vitriol among members. May have to reconsider this app and look for another.
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There seem to be a lot of angry people here. I guess I assumed that since I have the kind of relationships with my friends and family that we can talk about things like this, like adults, that everybody can without getting their panties in a bunch. Even if it would have hurt my feelings when I was younger, maybe it would have gotten me thinking about my weight and health when I was younger. Maybe they have the kind of relationship that they can't talk about it. But getting up in arms about how angry you would be doesn't help her situation. We get it. You are clearly unhappy with your weight and very defensive about it. Maybe he was reaching out because he's afraid to ask or is ashamed that since he is a nurse and should know better,...
And just because you have a conversation, doesn't mean she's going to critique him or tell him he's doing a crappy job. Maybe you can have a discussion where it is "how do you feel about your weight?" Actual adults can have conversations about these things without getting offended.
HW - 283
SW- 238
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Personally, I think if he's asking you about your surgery that is a great opening to talk to him about his weight. I'm sure he knows he's gained weight. Maybe he's asking because he's interested in the surgery too?
HW - 283
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@@Babbs
You don't seem to understand why this mother is allowing me to make medical decisions for her child?
I'm not. At her mothers request- I am using the resources available to me to try to get more info for her daughter.
Is she not capable?
She asked me to ask on a forum that I have access to. You want her to join this forum just to ask 1 question? (When her friend already has access)...
The father isn't in the picture.
What I don't understand is why YOU are so offended that a person could try to help a child. If YOU don't deem my question worthy of your answer, move on. You have continued to question my motives all along... how about because I am a decent human being looking out for a child that needs help. I'm sorry that my reason isn't good enough for you.
HW - 283
SW- 238
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Thank you everyone for your helpful advice. I know how fragile young girls can be. I wish someone had been looking out for me when I was young and just starting to gain weight.
We are going to try to get her in to see a specialist.
HW - 283
SW- 238
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@@Babbs
You don't seem to understand why this mother is allowing me to make medical decisions for her child?
I'm not. At her mothers request- I am using the resources available to me to try to get more info for her daughter.
Is she not capable?
She asked me to ask on a forum that I have access to. You want her to join this forum just to ask 1 question? (When her friend already has access)...
The father isn't in the picture.
What I don't understand is why YOU are so offended that a person could try to help a child. If YOU don't deem my question worthy of your answer, move on. You have continued to question my motives all along... how about because I am a decent human being looking out for a child that needs help. I'm sorry that my reason isn't good enough for you.
HW - 283
SW- 238
CW- ?

Hey guys! Just wanted to share an update. I'm a few days past my 3 month mark and I'm down 63 pounds! This journey has been a struggle but so worth it. Good luck to everyone! (First pic was leaving the hospital after surgery)

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@@Babbs
You don't seem to understand why this mother is allowing me to make medical decisions for her child?
I'm not. At her mothers request- I am using the resources available to me to try to get more info for her daughter.
Is she not capable?
She asked me to ask on a forum that I have access to. You want her to join this forum just to ask 1 question? (When her friend already has access)...
The father isn't in the picture.
What I don't understand is why YOU are so offended that a person could try to help a child. If YOU don't deem my question worthy of your answer, move on. You have continued to question my motives all along... how about because I am a decent human being looking out for a child that needs help. I'm sorry that my reason isn't good enough for you.
HW - 283
SW- 238
CW- ?

@@Babbs
You don't seem to understand why this mother is allowing me to make medical decisions for her child?
I'm not. At her mothers request- I am using the resources available to me to try to get more info for her daughter.
Is she not capable?
She asked me to ask on a forum that I have access to. You want her to join this forum just to ask 1 question? (When her friend already has access)...
The father isn't in the picture.
What I don't understand is why YOU are so offended that a person could try to help a child. If YOU don't deem my question worthy of your answer, move on. You have continued to question my motives all along... how about because I am a decent human being looking out for a child that needs help. I'm sorry that my reason isn't good enough for you.
HW - 283
SW- 238
CW- ?

Just let it get soft & soggy before swallowing and you will be fine.
If you choke to death on Jesus- it's your time to go.
HW - 283
SW- 238
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Feel free to message me if you'd like more info
HW - 283
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Just let it get soft & soggy before swallowing and you will be fine.
If you choke to death on Jesus- it's your time to go.
HW - 283
SW- 238
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All due respect? Uh, because I care about her and WE are trying to get some ideas about what could be the problem. I happen to have access to this resource and was looking for insight from others that might help.
What business of yours is it why I asked. If you don't have anything helpful to add, why comment?
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Alex- and this is one of the reasons I've been mostly dormant for the last couple of weeks- and I know others have, as well.
This forum, from my understanding was for people legitimately considering weight-loss surgery or had had weight-loss surgery due to obesity. How any of us got to that state makes no mind. This young lady, and I'm assuming it is a woman, is not obese--whether or not she has an actual eating disorder or is just trying to fill time in her day still doesn't belong here. I think the prudent thing you could've done is reached out to her privately, perhaps suggesting another forum
for people with eating disorders that don't require weight-loss surgery. Alex you know as well as the rest of us who have gone through or going through this how difficult it is. Having a person come on like this quite frankly is not only ridiculous but a slap in the face to those of us who have truly struggled at our highest weights where our life was in jeopardy due to comorbidities and such. This person does need help just in a different way and in a different venue.
Calling out the members on this forum for even having to question her or who want to try and understand her as her story grows more odd by each and every post she makes seems below the standards you set forth not only for behavior but for the reason of this forum. Alex you're the face of this community, and so many of us appreciate the fact that you established it, but allowing people to come in here and basically taunt us with their nonsensical post and comments is below the belt.
The fact that you reinstated her under her original identity here is quite a sad fact.
Now to the original poster, I happen to live in Chicago. I happened to have graduated from one of the top universities in the Midwestern states right here in Evanston Illinois. I'd be happy to meet with you and take you to see some of my colleagues and prior professors who might be able to give you the help you need. And if you'd prefer to do it in Michigan, I have a summer home there, plenty of friends and colleagues in that state as well.
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