NeedaBreak4Me

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

Everyone has the right to post... everyone is at a different stage... and people need support and advice in those different stages.
I never agree to posts being rude, mean or plain judgemental.
But this "we need to keep everyone happy" attitude is what is causing the friction.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, as long as the delivery is done with respect and empathy.
Why should i suffer and not get support during my "stage" because of one or two individuals... why should we not be supported because of them?
I have seen newbies be rude, ive seen vets be rude, ive seen people in the middle be rude.
Why not chasitise those actual individuals instead of labelling the whole GROUP?
All the vets i came to rely on for advice are gone, some of the "newer vets" give conflicting or inconsistent advice, the newbies are giving advice to newbies who are also giving advice that is incorrect or inconsistent.
My point is that we need a balance...
We need newbies, we need vets, we need to be grown up adults who can be respectful and kind, but who can give us correct and helpful advice.
I try to be respectful in all my posts i monitor MY tone, MY delivery and try not to be offensive, but i still give my honest opinion.... why can't we all just do that?
I also try not to jump to conculsions, this is the written word, there is no tone... if i feel a post is rude, i will clarify first that this was the intention... most of the time the person was not being rude at all... i just took it that way...
Lets behave with respect, integrity and empathy just like we should as humans and adults and stop this blaming bullsh!t and focus on what is important.... building a healthy body, having a healthy mind and living a long happy healthy life.
Achieving this is made easier with all you guys... so why are we bloody fighting each other!

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

I saw this one on Facebook today and thought of all of us. LOL

Is this what you had in mind?

One more for the peeps who liked the kitty on the scale....

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

I'm not fighting anyone. I'm tired of being called rude, mean, etc. for giving my opinion in a straight forward manner. I don't like being told how I should or should not post. I don't call names, although I'm called names. I don't rally behind people to stir trouble, but there are others that do. I don't throw out the "holier than thou" card while "liking" the name calling posts as some do.
There is one particular "vet" who stalks my profile daily (I have screen shots to prove it if anyone wants proof). Blocking her doesn't stop her from stalking me and I can only imagine it's to look for things to report. It's ridiculous, don't you agree?
I've got better things to think about, and certain people have sucked the fun out of this board. It's a shame because at three years out, I do believe I have something to offer but I also need support.
Hopefully the tide here will change. Until then? Not my circus, not my monkeys.

Everyone has the right to post... everyone is at a different stage... and people need support and advice in those different stages.
I never agree to posts being rude, mean or plain judgemental.
But this "we need to keep everyone happy" attitude is what is causing the friction.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, as long as the delivery is done with respect and empathy.
Why should i suffer and not get support during my "stage" because of one or two individuals... why should we not be supported because of them?
I have seen newbies be rude, ive seen vets be rude, ive seen people in the middle be rude.
Why not chasitise those actual individuals instead of labelling the whole GROUP?
All the vets i came to rely on for advice are gone, some of the "newer vets" give conflicting or inconsistent advice, the newbies are giving advice to newbies who are also giving advice that is incorrect or inconsistent.
My point is that we need a balance...
We need newbies, we need vets, we need to be grown up adults who can be respectful and kind, but who can give us correct and helpful advice.
I try to be respectful in all my posts i monitor MY tone, MY delivery and try not to be offensive, but i still give my honest opinion.... why can't we all just do that?
I also try not to jump to conculsions, this is the written word, there is no tone... if i feel a post is rude, i will clarify first that this was the intention... most of the time the person was not being rude at all... i just took it that way...
Lets behave with respect, integrity and empathy just like we should as humans and adults and stop this blaming bullsh!t and focus on what is important.... building a healthy body, having a healthy mind and living a long happy healthy life.
Achieving this is made easier with all you guys... so why are we bloody fighting each other!

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

Has anyone noticed that there aren't as many vets around anymore? Or that most of the posts of late are all questions relating to pre op or early post op topics?
Unfortunately it looks like this "newbie versus vet" topics that have been occuring of late have completely changed the dynamics around here.... how unfortunate.
As a newbie AND a vet, there isn't much that interests me on here anymore. The variety of topics have diminished... i can not access the vet forum, yet i am having "groundhog day" topics on the main board....
Its a shame that things have changed so much...

Thx for this info!
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I also have told no one but my immediate family...
But at 3 months out, you can't really tell... just looks like i eat small portions.. I've been to work and social events, dinners, funeral, engagement... i survived by saying i was doing low carb high Protein... its believable and no one questions.
Excuses for 3 weeks out is difficult.. especially if you are on liquid..
Some excuses..
- you are not hungry
-you are on a diet
-you are observing a religious fasting ritual
-stomach bug
-doing a fast for charity
-on a liquid juice fast to loose weight
Thats all i can think of right now... maybe others have a more imaginative excuse.

I know this is posted in the "mens room".. but ill put my 2c worth anyway.
If you have not been exercising you should build up to it, otherwise you will be sore and could possiby injure yourself if you do too much too quick...
Start by doing cardio, walking and a pace that is vigorous enough that you have to slightly catch your breath to have a conversation...
Then once this gets easier increase the incline and speed.. when you get to the point that it is no longer a struggle, alternate between cardio and weights...
Aim to exercise 4-5 times a week, allow yourself 2 rest days, preferably after your weight training days.
If you can afford it, perhaps meet with a personal trainer to create a plan for you... and to teach you to lift properly and give you the right amount of repetitions for each target area.
If hiring a trainer is not possible... invest in a range of hand weights, dumbells, kettlebells and resistance bands....( there are literally hundreds of videos on youtube that have info on what to do and reps required.. just search for the target areas... bodybuilding.com has some good advice too.

Don't be too hard on yourself... this will not be the first or last stall.. we do not lose at a constant rate...
For me... i stay the same for a week or so, then have a drop, rinse and repeat...
Stop stressing yourself out it is counterproductive... you will only stress yourself out and drive yourself nuts!... you are a lower bmi so weight loss will be slow and steady... every pound adds up in the end..

I know this is posted in the "mens room".. but ill put my 2c worth anyway.
If you have not been exercising you should build up to it, otherwise you will be sore and could possiby injure yourself if you do too much too quick...
Start by doing cardio, walking and a pace that is vigorous enough that you have to slightly catch your breath to have a conversation...
Then once this gets easier increase the incline and speed.. when you get to the point that it is no longer a struggle, alternate between cardio and weights...
Aim to exercise 4-5 times a week, allow yourself 2 rest days, preferably after your weight training days.
If you can afford it, perhaps meet with a personal trainer to create a plan for you... and to teach you to lift properly and give you the right amount of repetitions for each target area.
If hiring a trainer is not possible... invest in a range of hand weights, dumbells, kettlebells and resistance bands....( there are literally hundreds of videos on youtube that have info on what to do and reps required.. just search for the target areas... bodybuilding.com has some good advice too.

@@SuzieQ56
You might want to consider researching mthfr gene mutations... people with folic acid issues usually have this mutation

My fave lamb shank recipe.
4 lamb shanks
1 red onion & 1 white onion
Garlic
1 litre chicken stock
Dried oregano
Dried thyme
Bay leaves
3 large tomatos
1 eggplant
3 potatoes
Add a little oil in the pressure cooker, sear lamb shanks.
Add onions, garlic, oregano, thyme, bay leaves, 1 litre stock, salt/pepper.
Pressure cook for 10 mins, release pressure and open lid.
Then add the eggplant, tomatoes and potatoes and return to pressure for 30 mins.
This is super fragrant and totally yum!

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

Is this what you had in mind?

One more for the peeps who liked the kitty on the scale....

I have an argument with my scale literally every time i jump on... i have named her "b*tch.. cause she really is.. she is stubborn, lies, manipulates and disagrees with me.. i don't like her very much

Is this what you had in mind?

One more for the peeps who liked the kitty on the scale....

Is this what you had in mind?

One more for the peeps who liked the kitty on the scale....