Foxy_lady

I'm 2 months post op and I can't have any since caffeine really upsets my stomach. I really do miss coffee though.

I was on the pill for about 5 years then post op I was noticing my period was off by a week, my OBGYN told me it was because my body had gone through a shock and now it's try to recooperate. She said i lost 20% of my body weight so my body is trying to catch up with making 20% more hormones, so she suggested IUD would be best for me.

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Post op he wanted to stop for food...I gave him the look and he just kept driving. He was upset but I explained we have to start now or else we are always going to be stuck and never lose weight. But I am noticing he is getting more upset since I keep going food shopping and I'm not buying junk food anymore.

@@LipstickLady We've always tried to lose weight together, it was just me that took it a step further and actually kept up with my weight loss. I've never criticized what he ate, just ask him to eat healthy with me. I would never take the yummy food away , I just bring in the healthy food and he is upset because the chips are no longer in the house.

@@Sajijoma I always tell him let's eat healthy together I promise you'll feel better! But he goes back to his old ways in no time soon, I did tell him last night though we can do this together, since I'm noticing his eating habits are getting worse and worse. He agreed and said he will actually try.

@@jess9395 I agree with you, he told me he would support me and now he has completely changed. He's upset I'm losing the weight so fast.

With respect and props to all the replies...

The only person you can control is you.

The only person who has to live your life is you.

Is his behavior a deal breaker for you? If it is, move along. If it isn't, deal with it and don't complain.

Dating is a time to assess whether he's the one. If your "one" supports you in a particular way, then he isn't it. If your "one" is wonderful in many ways but his eating style challenges you, then keep him.

But don't expect him to change. He is who he is.

For me, I'm personally in the why the heck should my husband and kids change? They are healthy and fit. We have eliminated a few bad eating habits from the house--mostly soda, but my son still has one or two a week when he's out--more fresh foods and less processed just because that's what I cook. But I prepare potatoes and rice and Pasta and other things I don't eat.

But if the support in the form of eating change is important to you, that's your right! You just need to factor that into your choice of partner. Chose one that wants to support you in that way.

@@Valentina Thank you so much, I really appreciate all posts especially this one. Prayers and blessings your way.

You need to have WLS for only one person---yourself. For yourself, a gift from yourself, Love--yourself.

That takes a great deal on inner strength, but to have WLS for any other reason is asking for turmoil along your entire journey.

Hopefully the BF will acknowledge your commitment and be not only supportive, but respectful to your decision to travel down the WLS path.

When he isn't, we are and always will be here to listen. Sometimes that is all any of us needs---some one to just listen.

We are here for you, Friend---and we're listening.

Prayers going up for you.

He was never supportive, he was against the surgery. He always said it was going to change everything for the worst, but I told him it is for my health and that is important.

If he hasn't struggled with weight, he's clueless to how's she is feeling....those who don't struggle with the weight often aren't forced to think through their food choice the way those who do are forced to...

@@foxylady what ways has he been supportive?

@@OutsideMatchInside Your situation is support sounds unique and ideal...


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I honestly feel this surgery has opened a new door in our 8 year relationship and he is insecure about his eating habits. I have asked he just replies well you got surgery I didn't!

Jeez, I have no idea what's going on. Your eating less could be triggering his own food / eating insecurities or binge-eating (if he suffers from that). Or he could be sabotaging you because he doesn't want you to lose weight. Or he could be one of those guys who just does what he does and has no idea why he's doing what he's doing. Or he could be an a*****e. Or you could be hormonal. Or you could even be imagining he's eating worse because you're under typical early-post-op WLS stress.

Why don't you just ask him what he thinks is going on and see what he says?

Honestly he was against me getting the WLS for the beginning, i suggested we do it together because hes also morbidly obese. He is upset that now I want to go out more and I also explained to him that it bothers me he's eating unhealthy. I guess in a way I did this surgery for both us, to set an example that we can be healthy together.

@OutsideMatchInside I do agree with you,sometimes he does make a comment saying I am losing weight too fast and that I should eat more.

@@KristenLe and @@Inner Surfer Girl you're right he didn't do the surgery, but like everything we do together I expect him to be there on my side with me not in front of me eating delicious nachos lol and he promised he would do it with me eat better and exercise with me

I can control myself, it's just difficult when I feel like I'm progressing and my partner is happy sitting on sidelines

he said it was because me losing weight and changing, but I did it to be healthier. and I am noticing how he keeps bringing food into

It has been 2 months since my surgery and all of my eating habits have changed for the better. Sometimes I do slip up but my body quickly reminds me EAT HEALTHIER! My boyfriend however is eating worse and worse everyday, It is already a struggle to say no temptation and so it's even more difficult when he's eating all the foods I cannot everyday. Am I just being a brat because I can't have it and he can?

How are you feeling now? I did have alot of pain near my big incision but in time it did go away. Maybe you should see your primary, if you're not comfortable with your surgeon. Let your primary know your concerns and they might send you for an ultrasound just to make sure everything is ok! And yea he does sound like he's blowing you off. Feel better

I felt the same way, honestly I did feel regret right after because I was in so much pain and I felt like I betrayed my body by going through surgery; but in time it got better. Good luck

I am excited because this has been such a long process lol. I'm ready to be on the other side of surgery. I think not drinking will be hard. I've had only Clear Liquids for over 24 hours and nothing allowed beyond midnight last night. I'm nervous, too. It's a big deal having that much of any organ removed, but I think I'll be okay. Thank you!


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I'm one month post op and lost 50 pounds already...and honestly I kind of feel the same way. I feel like I'm just criticizing myself more and more everyday.

Aren't you excited?! lol I was nervous but for me they just did the blood work, prepped me for surgery and that was it. But then told me that I would not be able to drink for about 12 hours after the procedure Good luck I hope everything goes well.

I'm scheduled for my gastric sleeve procedure at 3:15pm, but I'm to be there by 1:15. Can anyone give me a general idea of what to expect from when I get there?


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@@staceyatw3 my head hungers are driving me crazy too!! I wish i could lose the weight quicker too lol but it takes time, and I notice I have to force my self to drink Water because I notice I'm not as thirsty as I was before.

I had my surgery April 6th at Princeton/Plainsboro hospital. My head hungers are driving me crazy.
I have only lost 7lbs and am frustrated because I thought I would drop weight quickly.
"Waaah, waaah, waaah"


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@@Kristin7676 I've been trying to the same but I feel like I'm forcing myself, I'm going to have to go out and buy just one big bottle and make it my daily goal to drink it by bedtime.

I have the same problem. Was not a big drinker before surgery. Would drink 20oz pepsi during the day and glass of ice tea at night. That was about it. I get in 48oz of Water a day, but that is struggle sometimes. I have been getting in the habit of setting deadlines to drink everyday. 1 bottle on my way to work. 1 bottle before lunch. 1 bottle before I leave. 1 bottle at night. Doesn't always work out that way thought. Usually I am driving home with that 3rd bottle and I am forcing myself to drink the rest of it before bed.

That's weird since I'm one month post op and I feel like my sex drive is alot higher than my partners.

@@reree6898 that's what I'm gonna have to do just remind myself to drink Water.

Yep, me too. Before surgery I drank around a gallon a day of just plain Water. I had given up sodas and sugary drinks a few years ago. I am just over six months out from being sleeved and now I'm lucky to get in 40-50 ounces a day and that's when I have to keep reminding myself to drink my water cause I'm just not thirsty.

@@jane13 that's a good tip, I'm 1 month post op and I'm hungry throughout the day, so I'm eating about 5 small meals a day but my thirst isin't like before. Gonna have to buy a big Water bottle and just drink all day.

sometimes I don't seem to be as thirsty as other times but you have to drink Water to maintain hydration and it definitely helps with the WLS. drink first if you feel hungry, just in case you are eating first. thirst mimics hunger so keep that in mind.

I'm finding it difficult to drink more Water throughout the day, not because I dislike it but simply because I'm not thirsty. Does anyone else have this problem?

I know what you're feeling, I'm one month post op and I still feel hungry. My nutrionist advised me to eat small meals about 5x day now, which helps out alot.

i was sleeved on 3/7 by Dr. Sowemimo at CentraState.

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The pain after surgery...totally was regretting it.

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Omg @ Foxy_lady, I kno exactly how you are feeling. I had mine done on 3/7 and the regret feelings I had every day until yesterday, I think when we start feeling better from the pain most of the regrets go away. Hang in there you will feel better,

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I just had my surgery on 3/1. And Dr. Sadek was my doctor as well. It gets better as the days go by.

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