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I sometimes get the impression BMI of 24.9 or less is a WLS related fetish.

Insurance companies don't pay for it "to help you". They pay for it to lower their expenses in the long run when it comes to obesity related issues. People don't have to be a normal weight to cause less costs so some clerk at some insurance company couldn't care less if someone reaches a BMI of 30.2612 or 23.1524 when an EWL of maybe 50% only improves health quite a lot, therefore reducing expenses on medication or e. g. diabetes related complications, including not healing wounds and/or dialysis. Maybe the people outside of the WLS community have a more realistic view on what can be expected and what not than the patients themselves anyway. Don't you think insurance company clerks aren't aware of the possible outcomes (including the less favorable ones) numerous studies suggest?!

Not really a health food but not particularly evil as well, lol. If you like them, eat them. I like them to eat once in a while with peanut butter as well (have to try the raisin thing) or with other sweet spreads. I came to prefer the corn variation though. ETA: my husband likes them with ham and cheese. ??

It's mostly the calorie restriction. The inner furnace doesn't like calorie restriction. You can even notice it while doing IF.

With glycogen goes water. It's normal. It's also normal when someone who usually restricts carbohydrates gains weight quickly when introducing them back.

"Real life eating". Liking this. The video is also a good one. Dr. Weiner's videos are usually always worth a few minutes of your time. "Your body is far more smarter than your doctor" - liking that as well.

Or maybe the thinner spouse is not being able to accept that the fat spouse didn't (want to) change along with him/her. Is the person who had WLS willing to accept that the spouse doesn't want to go to more parties, doesn't want to go to the gym/a bike ride/a jog with them, doesn't want to eat the same food, doesn't want to "dress up for events", doesn't want to accommodate to all of the moods of a person losing weight all of a sudden? Yes, I'm sure there are controlling assholes and b*****s around but I somehow doubt that every marriage that broke because of WLS was that fucked up from the beginning. Maybe a lot of the time these two people simply aren't a good match anymore because they stopped sharing the same interests.

People don't like major changes forced on them (at least not if it means inconvenience for them and/or threatens them) - seriously, I sometimes think husbands and wives expect too much from their spouses.

Define "result", "long term" and "balance".

Do you think of this as a problem? Just curious. Sorry, if I'm too nosy.

He might have become a kind of shady guy (or so I've heard) but he still has some damn good videos out there worth watching.

Major changes always put relationships to test, be it a romantic one or not. "Major changes" not only meaning weight loss. It can mean e. g. having kids, entering the work force or leaving the work force, a chronic illness etc. - I'll bet the people being in long term relationships know what I'm talking about.

Keep us updated, pease. WLS and eating disorders are a very touchy subject. I'm not sure why that is. Maybe it's just the definition of the term "eating disorder". A lot of people still seem to view only anorexia and bulimia as eating disorders (still including so called "professionals"), maybe binge eating disorder at a stretch but not chronic/compulsive overeating so suggesting that disordered eating runs rampant on WLS boards seems to be seen as outrageous somehow. I might be the lonesome loner with this opinion but I believe that nobody gets heavy enough to require WLS without disordered eating. People might not calling it "disordered eating" but rather refer to their "relationship with food" or to "bad habits" instead. Again, I might be offending quite a few people with this one: I see a lot of disordered eating and disordered thinking about food/weight/exercise on this and other WLS boards (I'm not excluding myself here) and probably the worst about this is that it's often seen as a both completely normal and desirable mindset to have. Sometimes this feels a little bit... creepy. Society's view on obesity might fuel this: if you were never above a normal weight and suffer from a restrictive eating disorder you're a sick human being in need of help. If you were obese once and got down to a normal weight by engaging in the same behaviors you're a success story.

If you told this your psychiatrist it could very well be the red flag that caused her to worry.

If in need of glucose, this is possible, yes. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glucogenic_amino_acid

Who wants to have one? Unfortunately there isn't a procedure that guarantees that there won't be no revisions. (That said, what about patients with a DS who develop serious acid reflux similar to the sleeve?) There also isn't a procedure that guarantees reaching and maintaining a svelte physique of BMI 20 for life either. I know BPD/DS often seems to be marketed as the procedure to go for permanent weight loss but the desired 100% EWL seems to be more or less of an exception as well, at least in prospective studies? Yes, I know... it's statistics. However, I wonder if these study patients are that different from the general surgery population. I highly doubt it.

No idea why these foods seem to slide for some. Rice makes me feel full really fast.

You have lost only 80 lbs in 10 months? The perception of what is losing weight fast and losing weight slow is really screwed on this board. Or you would have already joined the I've-fallen-of-the-wagon-HEEEEEEEEELP!!!!! crowd already. Your BMI is already as low as 27. So you haven't reached your "goal" (I guess that's reaching this magical BMI of 24.9 and lower) after 10 months. So what? It will take you some weeks more? Big deal.

People change behaviors/taste/sometimes showing other personality traits with major weight changes and basically with any other major change in life (e. g. entering/leaving the working crowd). You changing is something your partner has to cope with. Chances are high that you're indeed behaving differently and changes can be hard to come to terms with for family and friends. There is always more than one person involved. The one who changes and the one who has to cope with this change. Without making compromises things won't work out. Don't want to make compromises and expect 100% compliance with your decisions and changes from your spouses and friends without even thinking about their needs? Well, good luck...

I started at 46 and I'm at a normal weight.

First of all: you will be able to turn to food for comfort and that can be a huge problem. Many users on here will describe this as "going back to old habits". It seems to be a common assumption that one won't be able to turn to food for comfort. Sure, you won't be able to binge on three pizzas in a whole sitting (if you ever did) but you can still use food to regulate emotions. To an extend, that's something all people do, regardless of their weight, but not all of them use so much food that they gain weight or get overweight/obese. I personally made the experience during the years that "distraction" usually didn't do a real thing for me. It can help, yes, but it usually only postponed emotional eating in the past. The simplest way to deal with wanting to eat food to regulate emotions is... not eating. First it feels like you absolutely must eat something now and it has to be food xyz! and to sit through this can be hard to bear during the beginning. However, once certain parts of your brain have learnt that you don't have to eat this or that right now! to cope with whatever emotion it's the method that causes the least hassle since it doesn't depend on where you are and what kind of distraction is available right now. I also made the experience that this "simply not eating" got easier with time. I attribute this both to a learning process and to having reached a desired weight. There is no foolproof method. You have to try what works best for you. Best of all seems to be to have more than one card to play just in case.

Like the 10% regain many talk about or like quite a lot? Anyway, you will for sure find both groups on the boards.

Many users on here do see an issue with 22 g of carbohydrates or an even less amount and I personally think of this as kind of disturbing.

You won't find a protein bar that's comparable to the almost-protein-only drinks. Not even the most shitty-tasting bars have comparable nutritional values. It depends on how much fat and carbohydrates you're willing to accept as an addition to the bars and of course on personal taste if you're going to find a good or at least decent tasting bar. The bars I eat occasionally would be ripped apart by the bariatric food police anyway so I'm not even trying to recommend them, lol.

What kind of recipe are you looking for? As low cal as possible? High protein? A more decadent treat? Substitutes included or not?