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im following you. your stuff is hilarious

Just block people. My block list is a mile long. I don't care. These people are just fonts on screen, you don't have to deal with them unless you want to. There are too many people who are genuinely trying to connect and seek support to bother with the crazies on here.

I would argue that in some instances, negativity is a good thing and that it can be crucial to have a balance. If all you want is people blowing sunshine up your butt, that can have negative consequences. Sometimes, we need to face hard truths which are the key to achieving success with our programmes. We have to face these hard truths to change the habits that caused us to need this surgery in the first place.
You want REAL positivity? Use the feedback, both positive and "negative" to take your surgery further and achieve your goals!

Yeah, how dare I care about other people. If only I could be a sociopath like you, not have any care about how my actions affect others.

you are so desperate to fight with everyone and anyone. i respect myself enough not indulge you in fighting. OP created this mess. disagree with her and i bet you wont be defending her and bashing everyone else. some people thrive on that and its apparent you do. i dont need to go toe to toe with you and have you criticize every little thing just so you can feed your need to TRY and make people feel like crap. I am working very hard on being as successful as i can with my surgery. NO REGRETS. sorry OP has regrets. That is her issue. if you want to help her give her sound advice not an online bodyguard. personally i dont care what education level you have when you start attacking people on theirs it just shows one thing school cant teach you and thats to be humble and when to keep your mouth shut. i think you need therapy behind all your MEN bashing and anger towards other people. i will pray that God gives you a softer heart but dont think you are going to draw out a fight from me by calling me weak because you just showed that you are the weak one. The loudest arent the strongest they just have a deep seeded need for attention.

No, you didn't say ONLY but you ACT like it and actions speak louder than words. Your actions make no sense unless one assumes that you want to piss and moan at people and bully them for not having an education in psychology, never actually addressing the arguments made. It's difficult to grasp because your actions contradict your words. Do you not understand that here on a forum open to the general public, there won't be experts in your field?
Okay, so maybe your program isn't to blame - it's a personal failing attributable to you and you alone. I apologize for besmirching your programme. At my university and even in my college, there were people like you who lacked humility and a willingness to understand and work with others. I think that's even a larger problem at the oldest and most prestigious universities. Though, I didn't see this at L'École polytechnique, but this is probably due to it being a grande école and you have to pass your bac with distinction to attend. So, it's unfair to blame your programme for your failings and I apologize.
... I know the feeling. Yesterday, when I got the good news I could progress to soft food, I've thought about getting a soft taco from Taco Bell. A single soft taco. And halve it for both my Snacks. There is nothing saying you can't have Taco Bell after surgery, you just have to be mindful about it. Like all things. There was an article in the WLS Magazine section of this site about fast food which should be an interesting read.
Don't feel discouraged, there are still those of us who feel that straight talk is the best course for those of us who consider that it is OUR responsibility to make this surgery work.
Funny, I've found @jaminator's comments to be insightful and interesting.
Okay, I'm going to say this as simply as I can:
THIS IS A PUBLIC FORUM.
Anyone can participate.

Then why did you quote and reply to me in the first place?

PS. it was only the first paragraph that was really about you. That must be a blow to your ego.

its ok. We can tell by your prior comments that you have the attention span of a 12 year old.

This thread is still a thing?? And now its been joined by Abeille, the most insufferable commenter yet. Thank you for your comments, I just spent 4 minutes giggling at all your responses. Between the tweener sarcasm and the grammar nazi, you bring it all. Your professional counterparts of which you speak must be in awe of your superpowers.

While its honorable of you to play protector to the OP, if you pull your head out of your @$$ for 10 seconds you will realize that any reasonable person can see that i did not personally attack, bully or belittle the OP. I simply used straight talk with no fluff that the OP claims to prefer. If you feel like your life is ruined only 3 weeks post op, then you need to review your materials and your plan to remind yourself why you did it in the first place.
This thread has turned into the message board equivalent of a YouTube video from Walmart, where the OP is arguing with several posters telling them "Im gonna get up in yo azz so you sit the f*** down" and somehow that behavior is encouraged here, whereas straight, REAL talk about the issue is perceived as bullying. Two weeks of lashing out and raging one moment and then telling us all how she wants it honest and real and raw. Total contradictions.

The thing about online communication is people tend to focus on certain words that they perceive as negative or personally focused and then the whole comment is taken in the wrong context.
One thing I have learned from my short time on this website is that people here are generally in one of two camps. Some want straight up, real talk and support. Others dont. Its because of the latter that i quit commenting here, until your silly callouts.
Continue on, feel free to critique my grammar and psychoanalyze my comments. Its all just words on a screen.

Wow, you have only been on the forum since April and have shown yourself to be a real charmer. Has there been a thread that you have participated where you did not call someone a bully, cruel, or mention your profession? I do question the quality of someones education that is allegedly approaching a doctorate in psychology yet had to resort to surgery to correct a psychological problem.
Why didn't you interact with your colleagues in regards to your food addiction? I don't usually defend forum members, but Véronique is nothing but supportive in the threads I have read. However; you attacking her, or trying to make an example of her, so that no one dare question you is a jerk move.

I would say that you don't as you entered this thread of your own free will. If you "prefer to deal with my equals who are fellow professionals in the field", then your actions seem to contradict that. Furthermore, your desire to talk down to those who you perceive as having less knowledge than you makes me wonder about the academic rigour involved in your degree programmes.
I may not be an expert on psychology, this is true. But I am an expert at working with professionals across disciplines to achieve common research goals. I have worked with biologists, chemists, anthropologists, historians, endocrinologists, and zoologists and one thing I've noticed is that the ones who tend to have the most bluster and ego are the ones who have the poorest quality of research. The ones who keep an open mind, who are willing to look at an issue from all sides, the ones with empathy towards their subject and their fellow man... THOSE are the people who do the quality research. My hypothesis is because they have an open mind, they are more able to see the results clearly and not try to justify away failures or get angry when they are disproven.

If you prefer to deal with actual professionals in your field, then why not join a forum where they require you to be a professional in your field instead of slumming it here with the laity, oh miss high and mighty?

I'd say that to a certain extent, addicts are pathetic based on the definition of the word. There's a reason why terminology such as "rock bottom" and "lowest point" are used in so many stories about and by addicts. Maybe addiction is a disease, but we don't catch it without our own behaviour being a catalyst. We all came here via different paths, but I'll say my eating habits had hit a point where they became unsustainable and I made a choice to change that. To varying degrees, we all have or are about to.
The way you are behaving here and now, I think you're projecting. As someone with a doctorate, one thing I've learned in the process of getting it is humility. The specialization of research and the breadth and depth of what we already know is fundamentally astounding and as someone with her doctorate, I stand in awe at how much I don't know. However, I know that just because someone has come to a different conclusion than me doesn't make them "rude, lonely, bitter, uneducated, uninformed, judgmental[, or idiots]".

Honestly, I don't see the regret in myself yet. Maybe it's because I know rationally that I've exhausted so many other avenues that this became reasonable. If this doesn't work, then I am at a loss to understand what would and I would need to have a conversation with my surgeon and GP to figure out next steps.

Smooth Move Tea always works. I was the same way.

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Followed all of you! Instagram is amazing inspiration! Mine is angiesgame - I won't be posting much WLS related stuff though because of keeping my WLS mostly private for now

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The whole back and forth accusatory banter is a counter productive deflection to thwart discussion about the "Real" issue at hand, which is your original post about regretting the surgery. Check into resuming your therapy to figure this new way of living out and don't post in the forum areas until you are emotionally ready to review what others are saying and various perspectives, without all of the sour comeback statements and argumentative posting tone in your replies. #GoodLuckAdapting

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@ Tiffany
Got up your @$$.. ??? Not even really sure what that is. Change your sour attitude and stop making everything that happens to you in your negitive existence somebody else's fault. You elected to make your life better apparently .. Good for you. It's a giant step to a positive future. Now buck-up and live the dream.. The surgery is the BEST elected decision I've made in my life-time.

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i have my share of issues since surgery but regret isnt one of them. Im happy with my progress so far even though its on the slow side. This has been such an eye opener for me to realize what the heck i have been doing to my body for years and not even caring. I take the time to read the labels and learn more about this process. Would I like to eat some of the things i used to? sure...do i want to go back to feeling miserable because one of those foods sent my blood sugar soaring through the roof....absolutely not. We all have to make some sacrifices now and again. bad food easy choice to bounce out of my life. One lady on this thread made a good point....its the age and maturity. Experiences play a key role if you cant learn from the bad ones then you havent grown and matured yet. It does take time...lol it took me to age 44 to finally grow up. some take longer than others but i hope those who are struggling learn quicker than me. my only regret i didnt grow up sooner

i have my share of issues since surgery but regret isnt one of them. Im happy with my progress so far even though its on the slow side. This has been such an eye opener for me to realize what the heck i have been doing to my body for years and not even caring. I take the time to read the labels and learn more about this process. Would I like to eat some of the things i used to? sure...do i want to go back to feeling miserable because one of those foods sent my blood sugar soaring through the roof....absolutely not. We all have to make some sacrifices now and again. bad food easy choice to bounce out of my life. One lady on this thread made a good point....its the age and maturity. Experiences play a key role if you cant learn from the bad ones then you havent grown and matured yet. It does take time...lol it took me to age 44 to finally grow up. some take longer than others but i hope those who are struggling learn quicker than me. my only regret i didnt grow up sooner

Good morning everyone,

I hope this finds you in great spirits, considering it's Friday, I must say I am. With saying that, after seeing what Harvey did to my state, I am very concerned for our pals in Florida. For those of you who are having to go through this horrible storm and you have BCBS, please know, we are allowing emergency overrides for your RX's. They can be processed at your network retail pharmacies. If you have active RX's w/ your retail or mail order pharmacies, if you have to leave and go to another location, those Rx's can be transferred over to another pharmacy and the override will be permitted.

I send you all love and prayers, Texas stands w/ you!

I am 5 months post -op and don't regret it at all I'm down now 77 lbs .I am not going to lie I to struggle with what to eat but if my stomach says no I wait and try again or I stoop eating it and introduce it slowly back in to see if my stomach will allow it ..I always have Water in my hand so It will remind me to drink and if I cant eat that day I drink my Protein Drink as a substitute also I go to the health food store and get pharmaceutical grade Protein and take it on the go so if I am out and about I can add it to a drink if I cant eat at the restraunt my hubby eats at there are lots of ways to get your stomach to heal and mine hurt sometimes when I eat that's why I had posted on the forum what to eat a while back and lots of helpful information was given and I took it and messed around with it and my own knowledge of how my body reacts to certain things.Trust me there are a lot of things I miss but I know one day I should be able to enjoy them again.And think of the long run of your health never give up sweetie .

i have my share of issues since surgery but regret isnt one of them. Im happy with my progress so far even though its on the slow side. This has been such an eye opener for me to realize what the heck i have been doing to my body for years and not even caring. I take the time to read the labels and learn more about this process. Would I like to eat some of the things i used to? sure...do i want to go back to feeling miserable because one of those foods sent my blood sugar soaring through the roof....absolutely not. We all have to make some sacrifices now and again. bad food easy choice to bounce out of my life. One lady on this thread made a good point....its the age and maturity. Experiences play a key role if you cant learn from the bad ones then you havent grown and matured yet. It does take time...lol it took me to age 44 to finally grow up. some take longer than others but i hope those who are struggling learn quicker than me. my only regret i didnt grow up sooner

Wow. You get Snacks? ! One more way doctors differ. Mine says no snacks. I saw him on Tuesday for my first post op appointment and it went fine. I had lost down to 246 so he was very pleased. That is a total of 52 pounds overall. I also got into a pair of capris that day that I haven't been able to get into for years. Other than a couple of mishaps with food, I have been feeling very well. With some things I'm getting out of the way this week, I expect to be able to exercise a lot more starting next week.