2goldengirl

I'm just a few shy weeks away from 50......my weight loss has been slower than some.......BUT could I have lost 35 pounds in 11 weeks on my own? no.........I struggled losing 3 pounds in a month pre surgery......so I am a happy camper

@@Inner Surfer Girl here's another one for you .......

Unfortunately, this is more common than you might think. It is no secret here that bariatric surgery reveals the raw dynamics of our relationships. Ultimately it is your body, your health, your longevity and quality of life that are at stake. Thank goodness that you are a woman fully grown who can make her own healthcare decisions without anyone's approval.
I had family support, but others that have not have suggested options such as inviting the doubters to attend appointments with them. Hopefully his change of mind is due to concerns about complications and not a control issue. My mean ol' rotten ex-husband gave me mixed messages all the time. He would constantly give me flak about my weight, but as soon as I would lose that first fifteen pounds, here came the fresh Krispy Kreme donuts through the front door.
Once we were at the supermarket and I reached over to put a bag of potatoes in the cart. He made a scene right there about how I was too fat and should not be eating potatoes. A couple of aisles over he put ice cream in the cart and then Cookies and cheesecake. He would also tell me he was sick and tired of looking at my fat ugly face and then yell at me for ruining every meal with vegetables! You can see why he is an ex.
I am one of those people who tried two or three diets every year. After I had a stroke, I decided I just couldn't lose weight without help. There is no disgrace in asking for help. Be prepared for a wild ride. Educate him as much as you can and then dig in your heels. Stand your ground.
There are more than just a few reasons why we get this marvelous tool to get healthy Here are 1, 347 reason very good reasons to get bariatric surgery. This forum is a gift of support. I wish you the best.
http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/219831-what-was-your-final-straw-that-broke-the-camels-back/?hl=%20final%20%20straw

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

This is SO sad. You are ruining HIS life?
He thought you wouldn't go through with it?
I'm sorry, this makes him sound pretty selfish. On the day you were married, didn't he make you some promises? For instance, to not act like a total jerk?

I am 42 and we are ttc. We conceived in Nov but miscarried at 8 weeks. Doctor not concerned at all. Just wants us to wait until after my next period to try again. It can happen. Get healthy, get to goal, and get it on. ????

When I had my first child, she came a month early so my pedicure was a hot mess, I hadn't shaved my legs or cootch for 6 months or so (couldn't reach or see) and I had eaten enchiladas the day before so every time I pushed, I was "productive". To make matters worse, my baby nurse was a girl I despised in college and they were short handed so I couldn't switch.

Seriously. It could be worse and they have SEEN worse.

I was told by my hospital not to shave before surgery, as tiny nicks could be future site of infection and let the hospital do the shaving. Maybe you could bleach the hairs, if they are dark and the idea of it makes you more comfortable. I wouldn't worry either way!

Without a past, you'd have no present. You'd have no husband, family, surgery or anything else. Poof! The good news is that was then and this is now. You knew the truth or you'd weigh 254 at this very moment. You weren't ready for anything else before exactly two years ago. Then something changed and here you are, slim, healthier and more beautiful. The whole thing is called real life and you, dear Jenn, like the rest of us, are not exempt. You've given birth to yourself -- the picture that matches your inner being. How bad can that be? (P.S. Your family's comments were unkind and uncalled for. Tell them so without a ruckus. "Darling, you are wonderful" would have been so much better from them. They don't have to have walked in your shoes. They merely need to be more respectful.)

Actually, you can hope for much better results than that. The mean is the average - all participants in the study with their results, even the ones with poor results for whatever reason.
I don't know about you, but I don't plan to be average

At only three weeks out, you haven't healed enough to deal with alcohol. Unless you're at something like a wedding and need to take a mere sip at the toast (and there are always plenty of nondrinkers at weddings), it simply isn't worth it. Your sleeve needs a solid 6-8 weeks healing time before you try anything off-plan.

I'd really encourage you to talk with your surgeon about this and have your surgeon check in with your transplant team, as well.

I'd really encourage you to talk with your surgeon about this and have your surgeon check in with your transplant team, as well.

I'd really encourage you to talk with your surgeon about this and have your surgeon check in with your transplant team, as well.

It just doesn't make any sense. OK, you bathe with Hibiclens. Then you get dressed to go to the hospital. Then you get dressed in a hospital gown once you get there. All the bacteria you may have washed off is now redeposited on your body.
You gargle with Listerine. And report to the hospital two hours or more before your procedure. During that time you breathe, talk, produce saliva - and replenish the bacteria that normally live in your mouth.

At only three weeks out, you haven't healed enough to deal with alcohol. Unless you're at something like a wedding and need to take a mere sip at the toast (and there are always plenty of nondrinkers at weddings), it simply isn't worth it. Your sleeve needs a solid 6-8 weeks healing time before you try anything off-plan.

I don't really think they have that right. You may be required to give 30 days notice but they can't force you to postpone surgery. They don't have the right to know what kind of surgery. Your boss has no say in the matter - contact HR directly!

1. don't believe everything you read on the internet
2. I have never even tried to eat what I ate before. I keep my portions small and I am satisfied. so, if you don't try you won't need to worry over it.

Aww. Well there goes my entertainment for the week...
Oh for the love of...
Don't challenge this man! Now he's going to get all weird!
I'll play with you if you teach me how to speak with a British accent! I think it would compliment my pearls nicely.

Interesting concept.
I like it.
I'll not post food porn for a while. I know I'll get a twitch......and itch....but I'll not do it.
Gonna be working everyday until Monday anyway. Know this.....on Monday....my grill will be hot and my pitcher of 'ritas will be on ice. Porn goals will be met.
On the serious side......I try....truly do try......to stay with the content. Now.....I may be more reserved on my replies based on who the poster is...my knowledge of their history and perspective come into play. Sometimes, though....a Darwin award winner emerges and I can't hold back....
FTR......I was a Darwin Award Recipient......almost......and then I found this place..............