PayItForward
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In my past experience, when I lost a lot of weight I became more confident and quit putting up with bs.
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Get the sleeve.
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Try Benefiber. A few teaspons a day will keep you regular.
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It seems strange that the hospital didn't make the OP pay in advance or at least make payment arrangements with them. I thought that all hospitals did for elective procedures.
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My hair started falling out around 3 or 4 months out. I thought for sure that I was going bald. I stopped coloring my hair to try to lessen the stress on it. And for some reason, when a handful of gray hair came out it didn't bother me as much as loosing colored hair. It didn't make sense but it seemed to help me.
I'm a little over 6 months out and the loss has really slowed down. I went ahead and colored my hair last weekend. It's amazing how much fuller my hair looks now that the roots aren't gray anymore.
Anyway, good luck to you. Try to not let it get to you. I know it's hard.
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do it...you will not regret it.
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Go to your doctor. You should get thru this period soon. If not, you have a complication that needs to be taken care of. Most people do no feel sick three weeks out.
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Did everyone tell friends/ co workers. I am not planning to tell anyone other than immediate family and I don't know how to handle like dinner invites or work party's/ food days? Just say i am eating healthy? I am worried if someone confronts me and the amount I eat what to say.
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It's a personal decision to tell or not tell. But I know from personal experience that people will think you had it whether or not you did. So, once I had it, I decided to be honest about it.
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This has been a very philosophically oriented day on Bariatric Pal. A lot of people are posting about the meaning of lying and I will be painfully obvious and say, "you haven't lied unless you've said something that's not true." LOL. If you say you have done this through diet and exercise, you cannot call it lying, because that is absolutely necessary. This is why telling "the whole truth and nothing but the truth" is a hard thing to swear to on the stand because an infinite number of things are true, just like an infinite number of things are false, and therefore there are an infinite number of things that are true that you don't end up saying, even about a very particular matter. Back to you: there's nothing in your story that strikes me as a lie, so don't apply that label, especially seeing as it seems to bother you.
So, why didn't exercise and diet work for you in the past?
This has been a very philosophically oriented day on Bariatric Pal. A lot of people are posting about the meaning of lying and I will be painfully obvious and say, "you haven't lied unless you've said something that's not true." LOL. If you say you have done this through diet and exercise, you cannot call it lying, because that is absolutely necessary. This is why telling "the whole truth and nothing but the truth" is a hard thing to swear to on the stand because an infinite number of things are true, just like an infinite number of things are false, and therefore there are an infinite number of things that are true that you don't end up saying, even about a very particular matter. Back to you: there's nothing in your story that strikes me as a lie, so don't apply that label, especially seeing as it seems to bother you.
Okay, but when people ask HOW did you do it? And I answer doesn't include WLS, you I am not telling the truth.
So philosophically speaking, is a failure to answer with a truthful answer a lie?
Yes.
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So what you're saying is that in all the scenarios I listed in my original post, you would give full details? Really?What a good post! Your examples are hilarious, of course, but they ring so true. What percent of the whole truth do we typically tell? Probably as much as we can without getting into trouble, which isn’t much.
It’s amazing to me that people think not sharing about weight loss surgery is a lie. Those must be people who are either concerned about their own weight, jealous of your success, uninformed about what WLS is and how it works (and how YOU work to make it work!), or some combination of the above.
@@Christinamo7 is right that it’s probably not worth the effort to try to explain your position to people who think you’re a liar because you didn’t feel like sharing about your WLS. Unfortunately, knowing that these people aren’t worth your time doesn’t make it much easier when they look down on you.
@@Proud2BMe, I agree that there’s a difference between not telling and actively lying, but I’m not sure the difference is that important in some cases. For example, are we obligated to tell the truth to avoid actively lying when someone asks us directly if we had WLS, even if we didn’t bring it up and don’t care to talk about it? That seems like they’re asking for a lie because it’s a personal question that they don’t really have the right to have an answer to. But I do have a very hard time actively lying...and also I love telling about my surgery if someone's interested! So maybe my answer would be different if I wanted not to talk about it.
If you don't want to talk about it, you can just say that you don't want to talk about it. Once you go into details and leave out the surgery, you are no longer being completely truthful. It's your right to not be truthful, but you have need to own it.
No, I just would not discuss it period.
Several years ago, a woman that I only knew thru other friends had some kind of wls. I guess she didn't realize that I knew it. She had to the nerve to tell me that I should start walking because that is how she lost weight. She brought up the weight issue, not me. To this day, I wish I had asked her if she would also recommend the surgery that she had to lose weight along with the walking.
The point is, she didn't lose weight by just walking. She lost weight by having surgery. It was none of my business and I never would have brought it. She was lying when she tried to "help" me by telling me to walk more like she did.
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You *need* to *own it*?
Good grief.
Good grief is right. If you want to not tell the truth, then admit you are not telling the truth. Pretty simple. You don't owe anyone the truth. Just admit that you aren't telling the truth.
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What a good post! Your examples are hilarious, of course, but they ring so true. What percent of the whole truth do we typically tell? Probably as much as we can without getting into trouble, which isn’t much.
It’s amazing to me that people think not sharing about weight loss surgery is a lie. Those must be people who are either concerned about their own weight, jealous of your success, uninformed about what WLS is and how it works (and how YOU work to make it work!), or some combination of the above.
@@Christinamo7 is right that it’s probably not worth the effort to try to explain your position to people who think you’re a liar because you didn’t feel like sharing about your WLS. Unfortunately, knowing that these people aren’t worth your time doesn’t make it much easier when they look down on you.
@@Proud2BMe, I agree that there’s a difference between not telling and actively lying, but I’m not sure the difference is that important in some cases. For example, are we obligated to tell the truth to avoid actively lying when someone asks us directly if we had WLS, even if we didn’t bring it up and don’t care to talk about it? That seems like they’re asking for a lie because it’s a personal question that they don’t really have the right to have an answer to. But I do have a very hard time actively lying...and also I love telling about my surgery if someone's interested! So maybe my answer would be different if I wanted not to talk about it.
If you don't want to talk about it, you can just say that you don't want to talk about it. Once you go into details and leave out the surgery, you are no longer being completely truthful. It's your right to not be truthful, but you have need to own it.
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Your doctors office should give you detailed requirements. It differs from doctor to doctor and also from patient to patient.
Good luck on your journey.
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I live in Texas. We usually have at least 4 to 8 weeks of close to and over 100 degree days. For the past 4 or 5 years, I have felt like each summer would be my last. I just couldn't stand it. It's April and I am not dreading the summer!
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I live in Texas. We usually have at least 4 to 8 weeks of close to and over 100 degree days. For the past 4 or 5 years, I have felt like each summer would be my last. I just couldn't stand it. It's April and I am not dreading the summer!
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Ok, so I'm 6 weeks out of gastric bypass surgery and can have Protein bars for a meal (snack????). So I just ate a Premier Protein Bar that has a weight of 5.63 oz and I'm not suppose to eat over 4 oz. ... of course now i'm really paranoid that i'll stretch my pouch or gain weight. Uggh.
should probably cut them in half going forward or no big deal really?? Your thought?Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App
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It's not a big deal. Don't sweat it. As long as you stop eating before you feel uncomfortable, you are fine.
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On Dec. 16, 2016 I was sleeved after fighting for it for more than two years. When time came my insurance covered all the cost. I had support and so on.
Presently I am close to being 70lbs down. I feel much stronger. Through exercise I am having more energy to tackle my day.
I am saying all this because I realize one truth-- God alone enabled me to even begin this journey. There are many in our country and elsewhere whom could even dare to dream to have such an opportunity. I am very thankful for His mercy and grace in this situation. He could have seen my situation and left me in it, but He deemed otherwise was best for me.
There is this old Winan song "Millions". The chorus goes, "millions didn't make it, but I am one of the ones who did." Now this song is not talking about salvation and not WLS, but think the truth still applies. God doing a work that only He can do. If you are interested the link to the video is below.
Umm..it's only March of 2016. Are you posting from the future?
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The only problem with telling is you'll always be known as that person who HAD to have surgery to lose weight. When new people are hired at work or move in the neighborhood, others will say oh year that's Ready2bloom she had wls surgery. It's bad enough the weight loss alone walks in the room before you now tag on you HAD to have surgery.
Might not bother some but I keep my medical issues private. Once you tell it's an invitation to bring it up at anytime. And some hater will constantly remind you that you had surgery. Since you have to start your new life way before surgery, they'll all see you dieting and excising. You can just leave it at that and not discuss.
This is the place to discuss (and support groups)
IMHO, you may be over thinking this. I don't think people are that interested in what I have done. What about people that have breast implants and other surgeries? People use surgery to change they way they look ever day.
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I tell everyone. I've only had positive results so far.
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Just eat it.
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No need to stay busy. Just rest and start getting better.
How long did you sleep on your back?
in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
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It's much easier for me to sleep in other positions too since I lost weight. However, I use a cpap machine and sleeping on my side seems to work out best.