RyansGirl89

You are absolutely right! They do all this work to eat better and don't bother to pass that gift to their children-RIDICULOUS! As for your not having a valid opinion on parenting because you don't have kids, well, I think that is just not true! Right is right and what you said is RIGHT!

Wow BigViffer you look great!! You have lost an amazing amount!

I'm so glad you gave him a break, I know my man was scared to death about my surgery and I only found that out once I woke up. My mom told me he was really upset and worried while they were in the waiting room

yes he is!!! I would like your post but for some reasons my phone app won't allow me to yes he is!!! I would like your post but for some reasons my phone app won't allow me to

Smart man! Lol yes he is!! He heard my dr give me direct orders not to weigh anywhere but his office and all it took was one great big fit and out the scale went!! Things have quieted down since then and for all of sakes I'm glad it did. My only problem is that I cannot give anyone any kind of time frame for how long my stall lasted because I have no idea!!

Oh wow well I really think you already know what you need to do and I understand about being stuck so make a plan and start trying to put a little away until you get enough to go and it might take a while but as long as he isn't abusing you, you will be ok! Didn't you say y'all were married for 20 + years? If so, another few months or a year won't hurt! You deserve to be loved and have affection- you really do!

I am in a stall too!! I lost 22 lbs since my surgery on October 19, and I have been in a stall for a couple of weeks! I may have broken the stall because I don't weigh now so there is no way of knowing! It made me get crazy mad like you did and my fiancé took my scale and put it in the back of his truck lol so I will find out how much or how little I have lost next week at my dr appt !! You are not alone

Wow I can't believe they approved that for such a low weight, the sleeve will help you stay at a low weight I guess but it is a major surgery!

Yea I don't know, now I am changing my mind but if I were you I would make it super clear that you are willing to bend over backwards to make this work but it doesn't seem like he is doing the same. Maybe do something to show him just how serious this really is for you by maybe not depositing your check into that joint account! That might get his attention that you are mean business! Sometimes we need a shock to get our attention and he may be one of those people! If you don't have the same feeling you used to have counseling may be a little late.

Thanks, dlappjr, I just think people give up too easily anymore and leave unanswered questions behind so do all you can and leave it all on the field before throwing in the towel that way you don't have to look back as you are leaving either together or apart!

It is clear that you really love your husband so if I were you I would get that job and pay half for the counseling if he is worth the effort! Some people may argue with me on that but if I were you I would want to know I did everything I could to save my marriage before I threw in the towel! You may decide to still leave in the end but at least you can say you tried just in case there is an issue that you couldn't see that a counselor may see!

Wow I think they have hit the nail on the head!! I think your guy is insecure. Counseling could be helpful if he is willing to really try to be open, honest and willing but if not, you may just be spinning your wheels! You might try building him up and trying to make him feel more safe about you and where you are headed but if he has really deep insecurities, there may be little you can do.

Oh I am so glad this thread is up because my mom really wants to have this surgery and she is in her early 70s and is very active but her weight has always been an issue. I can't wait to tell her that they do the procedure for her age group.

Yea I am trying to view it in desktop and that changed some things so maybe I'll figure this out. Thanks for your help though I really do appreciate it

Wannabethinsoon, thank you for responding but it isn't working on my phone for some reason

You sound like a great dad and your kids are lucky to have you and even luckier that you have started to care about your own health. This place is a wonderful place for all of us to share our experiences and learn.

Now after reading her response I am not so sure that she cared about insulting that man or not..

I meant the original poster was not trying to insult the person. Ugh I can't figure how to edit with my android app either. Sorry

Oh I will gladly share my story with anyone especially if I think that it might help them but I would never imply that I was sharing it for any other reason than just telling them something about myself because I would never want to hurt someone like people have hurt me and others with weight issues. I believe it is my obligation to let people know how wls has helped me and how it isn't a miracle cure but the best dang tool I could ever have to get to a healthy weight. It is important that we start talking about this with pride and not shame because it will save lives, however, we have to be careful how we approach the subject and make it about out own experience and hope and not as an insult. (although I don't believe the op was meaning to insult the personally it came across that way) Ps. I have an android and I can't figure out how to "like" people's posts, can someone tell me how to do that

I really don't think it is right to bring it up to someone. I don't blame the guy for being offended. If someone asks me first then of course I would encourage it but never presume to try to tell that person what I think they should do with their own body.

You are Amazing! Thank you for having the guts to share your story and your tummy with the world. You are inspirational!

I ditto the hugs sent your way. You deserve to be treated like the masterpiece you are and not any less. There will come a time when you will get tired of that treatment and I would hate to be either one of those two when you do.

Try to get some rest tonight and bring some biotin for dry mouth if you can. The Dr wouldn't let me drink anything until I was able to go have a leak test and that took a long long time because I was so nautious.

Absolutely reagan.caldwell89@gmail.com

Yes I am taking my b12. The weird thing is that about 2 weeks post on, I got a sore on the side of my lip and my lips were burning badly for about a week and a half and I did a search on Google and read that it could be from a b12 deficiency and I realized that I had been forgetting to take my b12 because it had to be refrigerated so now I take it religiously. I agree with you that food is not fun right now. The worst thing for me is that I get full very fast and hungry just as quickly. It seems like everything I do is centered on food and it wasn't that way before. Don't get me wrong, I do not regret this surgery especially if it really helps me lose all the weight I want but it is definitely a huge huge thing to get adjusted to. It is nice to know that I am not the only one who feels this way because sometimes I read these posts and it seems like everyone is loving their new tummy and having tons of energy etc.. Etc.. Lol but I know that just an aspect of my self doubt feeling like I am different than everyone and that this is not going to work for me like it does for others. I don't know if that made any sense at all but sometimes I have self defeating thoughts lol and it is nice to find out that I am right about where everyone else who had their surgery near my date is. Yea as far as the protein shakes only like the isopure low carb 100% whey Dutch chocolate with 2% milk. I should probably try some others because I get so icky by the end of the shake and it is not getting better. I thought maybe it would get better if I tried drinking slower or not as much but it just isn't. I haven't really eaten anything else that has bothered me but I stick to mainly chicken, meatloaf, cheese, lots of eggs, and soups so far