Tssiemer1

I am very, very sorry that you are having to endure yet another blow like this.
I can imagine it just beats you down further.
Feeling like crap....over and over has a way of chipping away at our spirits. I get it.
You already know what you have to do......embrace the treatment and do everything within your power to heal up....follow all their instructions to the letter and make some progress.
You will come out of this and get your feet planted squarely on the ground and then be ready for the next step.
Use this as extra motivation to get healthy......recover from this.....follow the plan......reach your surgery date.......follow the plan......recover......and then PROFIT from feeling better and better every day.
You will progress much quicker by being upbeat and KNOW that you are going to heal up from this. Follow the medical advice your caregivers are providing and hold yourself accountable to getting better.
Don't be a victim but take charge of you condition. Will yourself to get better.
Get there one small step at a time even though it's going to take tremendous effort to get there.
Be in total control of the things you can be in control off......don't waste valuable energy on fretting over the stuff that is out of your control.

Starting weight: 284 (Blegh I fell off my diet right after Halloween and gained some weight).
Goal weight: 270
I'm hoping to be 280 before my surgery in a few weeks (God willing.)

You shouldn't be "talking yourself" into it or out of it. This is a very serious move that involves looking at yourself objectively, looking at the facts of your history, and judging for yourself the prospects from others that have gone before you. Once you have made a decision based on those factors, you should not be trying to make up arguments that steer it in any direction...not even as to what procedure you would like to have. If you have reservations based on something in your life, that is perfectly legitimate and needs to be thought over...it does not constitute a mind game and certainly doesn't amount to talking yourself into or out of anything. Best of luck whichever way you go!

Wanna know what the greatest feeling in the world is? Its being able to do anything you want and knowing your not to heavy to do it!! If I could have changed anything, I would have given that gift to myself much sooner. Best of luck on whatever you decide, but you will not regret being able to seize everything life has to offer!

I believe my aunt and uncle's has some ridiculous warranty for like 15 years or something.

I need that reminder like everyday. I may tattoo "let it go" on my forehead.
The first thing to go when I'm an emotional train wreck and a hot mess is my diet. I will either not eat for days and then binge on bad things or eat EVERYTHING in sight all day.
I had my awful week last week. Im pre op and dieting before my liquid diet and I was so well and then last week I gained weight.
This week in going to try to work out when I'm stressed out. Usually when I'm upset I come home from work and go straight to bed. I'm going to try to work out when I feel I need a nap. Even just taking a walk or something.
Trying to implement new coping skills aside from food.

I kind of want to go ahead and start my pre op liquid diet so when they call with my approval I can get scheduled sooner. I know this is what I want and need. But this is what I always do, my husband says I "hold onto stuff too long" and change my mind.
I'm just ready.
Now that I've jumped through the hoops I'm just ready.

Good for you!!! Keeping you in my thoughts!!

I feel my post op diet is a bit much sometimes. 2 week liquid pre op then 4 weeks liquid post op then 4 weeks pureed and 4 weeks soft food.
But I'm going to do it.
No one asked me what I thought lol.

I feel my post op diet is a bit much sometimes. 2 week liquid pre op then 4 weeks liquid post op then 4 weeks pureed and 4 weeks soft food.
But I'm going to do it.
No one asked me what I thought lol.

I feel my post op diet is a bit much sometimes. 2 week liquid pre op then 4 weeks liquid post op then 4 weeks pureed and 4 weeks soft food.
But I'm going to do it.
No one asked me what I thought lol.

I kind of want to go ahead and start my pre op liquid diet so when they call with my approval I can get scheduled sooner. I know this is what I want and need. But this is what I always do, my husband says I "hold onto stuff too long" and change my mind.
I'm just ready.
Now that I've jumped through the hoops I'm just ready.

Here's your chance to change that habit. You can see that you slipped up & identify that it was due to stress. So make that "what if" a " what could I do instead?" Try to come up with 2 - 3 options. Put them in your phone, write them on your mirror, stick them on the fridge. The next stressful event, look at them and choose one. That's how you change behaviors

Just going to leave this here....

About perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking and letting worry about failure paralyze us ...
... you may wish to read this worthwhile piece on Wikipedia about these very issues:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_(psychology)

I wish you all the best. I am one week after you. Please keep in touch. We will do great!!!
@@HopeandAgony
Will definitely keep in touch!!!

We were told our approval would be good for a year. There are several in my graduating class who have yet to have surgery. I would check with your program and see if they have the same option. That way it would give you a proper amount of time to think it over without losing the time and effort you've already invested. Best of luck whatever you decide!

I am scared of thought of possibly failing. But what scares me more is what happens if I don't try and stay obese. How long before I have a heart attack? How old will I live to be if I don't have this surgery?
Those thoughts are what made me make up my mind to preceed with the surgery

We're all human. We all slip up. Then you get back up and move on. We are often brainwashed with the "all or nothing" mentality from a lifetime of yo yo dieting. This new life is not like any other "diet" I've been on. It's a lifestyle. It's choices. And every day is a new opportunity to do it "right". The cheese Danish I had for Breakfast yesterday doesn't make me a failure. Just human. And today I had an egg with salsa for Breakfast. New day. New choices.
There will still be stresses to deal with, and learning new coping mechanisms is vital to your long term success. So take as much time as you need to prepare for the mental games that await. Don't feel pressured into surgery until you are ready.

@@Dub your post made me smile. I had similar thoughts as I drained my savings account and got the cashiers check to pay for my surgery. That money was supposed to be for a new truck. 2 years later I'm still driving my 16 year old rust bucket. But damn! I look good (and feel good) doing it

Well.........I can't speak for everyone else.....but I can say that there was a time during the process that I felt somewhat the same.
It was just before I wrote the check to pay for the surgery & pre-op/post-op care.
I kept thinking....you know how to lose weight. You've done it before and can do it again. You got this. Do it yourself.
I almost convinced myself to save the money and spend it on the sports car I wanted.
Then I thought about it. My fat arse trying to enjoy that new car.
I thought about what the most was I'd ever lost in one effort.....how much it relied on excercise (stuff that I'm unable to do at this time due to injuries)........how long it took...........how it was only 1/2 what I need to lose this time.
Yeah.....I kissed the sports car goodbye and gladly wrote the check for my sleeve surgery. Instead of driving a sports car I can....with some work.....FEEL like one soon.
I don't regret it for a moment.
That being said, if you aren't going to support yourself post-op and push yourself to adhere to the diet.......and it is a diet and new way of eating.......then the surgery is a needless waste of time, expense and opportunity.
Only you can gauge how much effort that you are willing to put forth. This is the deciding factor as I saw it for myself.

For me, when I was having doubts, I just had to ask myself.... "Where do I want to be a year from now?"
If I didn't do the surgery, I knew I'd be the same weight (or heavier), with the same health issues and miserable about the way I looked and felt. I'd still have trouble keeping up with my son.
If I did the surgery, I knew the possibilities were endless! I could be thinner (close to goal even!), healthier, and HAPPIER! I could be chasing my son around without being winded, and actually get in front of the camera for pictures with him!
I know I made the right choice for me and my family.
~*~ Find me on YouTube: Trisha's Sleeve Story ~*~

This is hard enough to do even when you are 100% committed and have no doubts it's what you want to do and you know you will succeed. (That's how I went into it). So if you aren't ready then don't do it. If your head isn't right then you will be miserable.
Take more time to research all of your options if you have to and do what you feel is best for you. Yes, there are cons to WLS and the changes you have to make to be successful, and you need to be aware of all of them. But then again there are all the pros and for me, they outweighed the cons (pun intended )

It's very, very common to have second thoughts - and that goes for any major life decision, doesn't it? Surgery means changing your life forever. It's a big step. Now that you've taken care of the little steps along the way, I think it's natural to be a bit overwhelmed by The Big Step.
Take some time to think about it. What are you feeling? Are you scared? What scares you? It might be anything from being scared of surgery itself (lots of people are) to being afraid people will treat you differently (some will) to having to change your relationship with food (you have lots of company here) to - and this is maybe the scariest of all - "I don't know how to be a thin person."
Only you can decide what is right for you. Spending some time thinking about why you're feeling what you're feeling will be time well spent, whatever you decide.
Good luck!