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Feb 8 = 171 lbs

Here is what I looked like at my highest weight pre-TT at 265 pounds:
I then had my Tummy Tuck done at 180 pounds, but regained most of the weight before being sleeved. Here is what I looked like pre-sleeve at about 240 pounds: So, you can see that even with the regained weight, my stomach remained very flat. I put most of my weight back on in my butt, thighs, hips, and back. Here is what I looked like at goal of 165 after re-losing the weight with my sleeve:

I have been following your progress for awhile now Sophie and I am so sad to hear you are having more problems with your relationship. When I read the first rant about the bench sitting in the restaurant I saw then that you two were having problems. Then to read that you had lost 80 pounds and your husband says he doesn't see it because he sees you every day. Unbelievable. Sophie I think pinkgirl hit it on the nail.
I am glad you are going to a counselor and may have a job and the support of friends and family. You are stronger than you realize and with everyone's help you will get through this.
A divorce is never an easy thing to go through. I know I have been through it at my heaviest weight and worse situation. I too never thought I would survive alone but I sought counselor and I learned how to survive with her help and a lot of hard work on my part. I also sought out a meetup group for separated and divorced people and it helped me during the whole process. I didn't feel so alone and each person was able to offer advise about how to proceed and what the next step might be. I would suggest you seek out as much as you can to make this road a lot less stressful. I used a theme song to get me through and sang it almost every day.
I felt my song was very appropriate and perhaps it might help you to have a theme song.The song is "I will Survive" If your not familiar with the song here are the beginning lyrics, please look for the song on line for all the verses as many of them will apply and I think you will gain support from them. I am not saying you need this one but find one you can call your own. However feel free to use this one if it speaks to you as I am sure many have.
It was I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor
At first I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
Without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights
Thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along Sophie The ending was what I sung at the top of my lings until I came to believe it. Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Did you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive

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I am so sorry you are going through this. The way you describe your chest tightening, stomach turning and on the verge of tears is definately anxiety.
I know exactly what that feels like and you do not want it to get out of control.
A few years ago I went to a therapist because all of my friends and myself kept getting laid off from work. I had a high paying job and was the bread winner in my family. Had a huge house and property with a huge house payment to go with it. I have exceptional credit and was literally in a panic about my job and my friends. I had never had anxiety or depression but this was doing a huge number on me.
I went and saw a therapist who then sent me to occupational therapy. Let me tell you, this helped me so much. I learned how to meditate and control those feelings of anxiety. Deep breathing and getting yourself healthy is seriously very important.
If you can, I would suggest seeing a physiologist that can help you work through this. Things may work out with your husband but in the end a therapist can help you become much more focused on you.
Honestly the panic that you are feeling is not healthy and that could in itself cause hubby to not get the space he needs which might push him further away.
You first need to work on you. I am glad you are going to your parents for a few days. The space may be good for both of you.
I am sending hugs and prayers your way.

Hey hey family.
I had a really good day today. My 3 month check up with my surgeon and nutritionist was today. Eavann my nut asked me do i remember what i said during my first consultation on what weight I'd like to achieve with my surgery. At the time I was 156kg 345lb (ish) and said 100kg or about 220lbs. I then proceeded to completely and utterly forget about this. Fast forward to today and i had my weigh in and I was 101kg. She said that congrats were in order as i had essentially achieved my target weight.
I was floored.... For two reasons. Firstly the obvious one. I had attained a target! like whoah! Then I had a rush of sympathy for the old me. At one point I genuinely felt that getting to this weight was a stratospheric target.... high high in the sky and possibly unattainable. I thought that 220lb was a realistic expectation for me. Even when asked a lofty pie in the sky question I was unable to even imagine that I plus surgery could achieve normal healthy BMI.
My response was a genuine and true..... "but, but, I feel like I've only just started??"
She then said that they get that a lot. My revised (official) target is now 76kg or 167lbs and in line with what I've had here on bariatric pal since September/October. She said that I'm 2/3 of the way now, so still a little bit to go.
My response to that was a jovial yet deadly serious "Sure, no bother to me".
On a more serious note I am so delighted with the changes in my head. Much more so than the body changes. The body is great don't get me wrong, but it's upstairs where the real change lives. My identity crisis is throwing up the most lovely of artefacts. The old me would not in a month of sundays let alone in an instant like that be so sure of himself and while I had genuine sympathy for the Des who sat in that far off consultant's office and murmured that he wanted to be 100kg, I couldn't help but smile at how distant I felt from him than at that point. It was literally like Eavann was describing the actions of another person.
In other news Oliver my surgeon is delighted with my every progress. He's asked me to get a Vitamin B12 test done but the rest of my blood panel has caused him to wax lyrical about me! Bad cholesterol down, good cholesterol up etc. etc. the list goes on.... Blood pressure is good and still very much in control. All told things are pretty much in fine working order under my proverbial bonnet.
So that was my day. Walking on sunshine right now to be honest.
Chat to ye again soon.
Des x
Man on the veritable cusp of non obeseness.

I just spoke with my Doctors office. They said your stomach naturally stretches over time, not back to original. They told me to do the liver reduction diet for a week to 2 weeks and this should get my sleeve back into shape.

I just found an older thread here at BP about the same topic that may be interesting to some readers, with an experienced surgeon's predictions about sleeve size changes.
http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/202400-sleeve-size-after-surgery-and-4-years-later/
The thread also contains an image of a VSG patient's brand-new sleeve and the same patient's sleeve four years later (see below):

@@Desmond Longbottom only 2 more pounds for me not to be obese anymore! Welcoming that new milestone!

@@Desmond Longbottom only 2 more pounds for me not to be obese anymore! Welcoming that new milestone!

Ok so today I went shopping because my size 12 jeans were getting fairly loose. I went to my favorite place to buy jeans since having WLS. Lucky Brand Jeans.
I grab a pair of sweet and straight jeans in a size 10 and I am grinning from ear to ear because I am confident they are going to fit and I love that feeling. I have not fit into jeans this small since I was a teenager.
I put them on and I am right! They fit fantastic! I come out of the dressing room and model for hubby who promptly says, those look a little big. Maybe you should think about a smaller size.
I the immediately say "no way!" An 8 is not going to fit me. I am honestly not sure if I have ever worn a size that small. I decide to encourage him and prove there is no way I will get them up.
I grab an 8 and head back into the dressing room. I look at this tiny pair of jeans and go, here goes nothing. They fit perfectly! I could hardly believe my eyes.
Then the sales clerk tells me that they are buy one get one half off but she says the darker dyes seem to be more forgiving so she gives me an 8 and a 6 to try on. I laughed but thought well just see how far off you are.
Well, I put the 6 on, buttoned them up and stood there in shock. Now, I didn't buy the 6 because although I could wear them, I do like my jeans to be comfortable and have a little room.
So when I started this journey I wore 24 jeans and 26/28 tops. I am now in a size 8 and a medium or large top. Sometimes I have to get the large because I have a lot of loose skin.
I cannot believe where I am today! For me, clothes shopping is when I can really see the thinner me.

171 on Feb 1

@@Desmond Longbottom only 2 more pounds for me not to be obese anymore! Welcoming that new milestone!

Hey guys thanks a million for all your support. There have been low points along the way but having this group in place has been a really cool part of the whole thing. So glad that I've been through this with you folk.

well here goes nothing. Feast thine eyes.....
May i present my pics. The sonic the hedgehog t-shirt was long a favourite.... clearly too long. The ID pics are dated August, October and January. The other pics were taken just a few moments ago in me bathroom. I'm 110lbs down now. My BMI is super close to not being Obese any more however i still have about 65 lbs to go to target.

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Comfortably sitting in airplane seat for international flight!

Jan 25, 2016 = 173

I didn't expect to take so long to get my energy back. I am two and half weeks post op and it is hard for me to be up and going more than 3-4 hours at a time if I am doing more than sitting in the recliner it wears me out.

Jan 18 weigh in = 176 lbs